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Anyone else love their mattress before sleeping and now realize it’s not good for cosleeping after having kids?

We have a softer mattress for a queen and it’s so soft baby moves or will roll into my spot if I get up to pee in the night. Plus trying to fit all three of us in a queen has been a bit daunting. Especially because of this. We live in an apt complex so our room isn’t very big, otherwise we would upgrade to a king.

Anyone else love their mattress before and hate it now?

Okay I’m 4 weeks postpartum and everyone told me I would spray??? And was honestly during pregnancy I was looking forward to the fact that I was gonna be able to possibly shoot milk at my husband for laughs. But I don’t/can’t spray?? I just drip. Does it come eventually or does not everyone spray?? This is such a weird question I’m sorry but I’m so confused

FTM here. Felt so tired all day and then after dinner starting getting body aches and muscle fatigue. Then the post nasal drip and swollen lymph nodes. I know I caught something. How long before my little guy gets it too? How will I be able to tell? Do I need to check his temp throughout the night on top of my own?

On a side note this sucks so much. Sleep deprivation and sickness while pumping every 2-3 hours is pretty miserable and I’m just getting worse as the night goes on.

I am around three 1/2 weeks postpartum and dealing with engorgement again. I haven’t had this since day fou-six postpartum when my milk first came in. It’s so uncomfortable. They’re hard to the touch and itchy and hot. I take sunflower lecithin, I don’t see any milk blebs, and I don’t think there’s any blockages??? I’m still pumping milk out. This is so uncomfortable though. What do I do!!

I love my husband dearly. That being said it drives me absolutely freaking nuts that he just takes his sweet time when it comes to stuff with the baby. I asked him earlier to grab the bottle, the pump, and some water. The baby is screaming because he hungry and the first thing he brings is the water. 🫪 Or sometimes while the baby is crying and he obviously just needs to eat he will talk to him and joke around while I’m just sitting here like 😳 if you don’t give me that baby right now and let me soothe him I am going to lose my absolute marbles. I know it’s my hormones and biology that is hardwired to comfort baby. But holy moly!!!

My LO is three weeks old yesterday and today when he started crying, his eyes actually had tears!! Before this his cries have been tearless. It makes me so sad! He only cries when he’s hungry, but it’s still so distressing to see ❤️‍🩹 I know it means he’s developing really well, and his body is functioning the way it’s supposed, ahh pulls on my heart strings.

Three weeks postpartum in my upper back and neck are killing me!! is there stretches I should be doing? I’m so new to this

That moment when you wake up in the middle of the night to pump, and you’re so tired, you don’t put your pump on the right way and after 30 minutes of pumping, you realize that you don’t have the pump on your nipple actually and you haven’t gotten milk this whole time but just on the one boob so you have to keep pumping for another 30 minutes while trying to stay awake lol

I had a homebirth and my doula took a ton of pictures for me. I really want to get them printed, but I don’t know where to print them, I don’t really want some teenager getting ahold of them. lol. But I really want to be able to print them to have for memories. What did you guys do?

I’m cosleeping with my newborn. We only have a queen size bed so with my LO’s sleeping pad in between my husband and I have to sleep on my back. And if my LO sleeps on my chest I also sleep on my back but elevated. This is causing my lower back and tailbone to become very tight and sore. What should I do to help??

My 19 day old baby has started throwing up after every breastfeeding session today. Now that his latch is better I’ve switched to breastfeeding 70% of the time instead of bottle feeding him my breastmilk. We use a slow flow natural nipple for the bottles. He doesn’t have any fever or anything like that. I’m so confused why today all of the sudden he’s throwing up? Anyone else encounter this? Anything I can do?

I don’t know if it’s postpartum hormones or what but I literally cannot stand them. In fact I would honestly be okay if I never saw or interacted with them again.

I just had a baby a few weeks ago, and the whole thing was a little traumatic to say the least. I ended up having to get emergency surgery and baby had some issues and we had to stay the hospital for quite some time. I should mention this is also our rainbow baby. We’ve had 4 miscarriages.

I’m now really struggling with postpartum anxiety and it’s resulted in me not being to eat unless I’m at home with the baby. If we are out of the house I cannot eat a full meal. A few snacks is pushing it. I am constantly on edge and because my in-laws are so overbearing and hard to be around I literally feel sick when I am around them.

They aren’t respecting the rules we set around the baby, really simple ones like “no kissing and please don’t touch the baby after you’ve had alcohol”. I’m not making anyone get vaccinated or anything. And then they’re overly critical of everything we do with the baby. They’re loud, alcoholics, selfish, crude, and just plain inconsiderate. Everything kind they do is for something not out of the kindness of their own hearts.

I really struggle with people pleasing but I’m hitting my limit. I feel like exploding. I have been so nice for so long. I’ve constantly been the bigger person and put myself last. I’m so sick of it.

I wish they lived farther away at least. I feel awful because I sometimes wish something would happen so they wouldn’t be around us anymore.

I just needed to vent. Would love to know if anyone else struggled/struggles with any of this and how they’re managing?

I am about 6 days postpartum. We were in the hospital for 5 days and I wasn’t able to go outside the whole time. And wasn’t sleeping AT ALL so I wasn’t active. All I want to do now that I don’t feel like the Michelin man is walking! Especially outside. It really helps with keeping the depression at bay too when we can be in the sun.

My husband and I went on a walk yesterday for 5 or six blocks and I felt fine. However, today we did a bit of a longer walk, about a mile. My pelvic floor is really sore now and I’m bleeding a bit more. Did I overdo it?? I am craving movement so bad but I don’t want to ruin my pelvic floor!!

I am about 6 days postpartum, and just got diagnosed with DMER. I really wanted to love breastfeeding, but honestly I hate it. My breasts get really engorged and it’s nearly impossible to get him to latch. Plus he takes too long to nurse and isn’t consistent with his suckling so my boobs HURT. Not to mention if I am nursing I get like this sudden dread and cry and want to cease to exist from this planet.

However pumping has been such a different and better experience. I don’t get the dread, it’s much more effective with the engorgement, and bottles are so just much easier.

But I feel really guilty. Is it too early to make this decision? Is it okay?

Would love some reassurance 🙏💗

I had a baby about 5 days ago and the hormones are realllll. In between tears and exhaustion I am also so so horny for my husband??!! Obviously I won’t until I get the go ahead from my doctor in a month and a half but no one told me how intense this would be!! Seeing him being a dad has been like the strongest aphrodisiac. Does anyone else feel the same way???

I’m 35 weeks pregnant and feeling so so ready to meet this little guy however I’m feeling kind of anxious about delivery and everything because this past month I haven’t been able to be very active. I was able to be a lot more active in the second trimester and the beginning of the third but now with the crippling fatigue, hip pain, and not to mention carpal tunnel. I’m having a really hard time staying active. I’m not sleeping very well because of the hip pain waking me up, (yes I use pillows and everything). And my pelvic floor gets so swollen and heavy feeling if I’m on my feet too long. I’ve been stretching and everything but I’m worried that if I’m not active enough I won’t be able to push this baby out.

Anyone else have this issue and have a great delivery? Would love to hear your stories 🙏💗

I’m 35 weeks pregnant and feeling so so ready to meet this little guy however I’m feeling kind of anxious about delivery and everything because this past month I haven’t been able to be very active. I was able to be a lot more active in the second trimester and the beginning of the third but now with the crippling fatigue, hip pain, and not to mention carpal tunnel. I’m having a really hard time staying active. I’m not sleeping very well because of the hip pain waking me up, (yes I use pillows and everything). And my pelvic floor gets so swollen and heavy feeling if I’m on my feet too long. I’ve been stretching and everything but I’m worried that if I’m not active enough I won’t be able to push this baby out.

Anyone else have this issue and have a great delivery? Would love to hear your stories 🙏💗

I am 34 weeks and just absolutely in love with this little guy. It’s like I have a whole new capacity for love and emotion. Every time I think about meeting him my heart swells and I feel emotional. The thought of his little hands and little feet, I’m tearing up as I’m typing this. The oxytocin rushes are crazy!! Anyone else feeling/ have felt this way?

Guys how are you guys watching the show??? I don’t hate it by any means, but there’s so much information missing!! And things they changed. I think I’d enjoy the show better if I didn’t know everything from the books they missed. The first season is fine but I’m in the second season and it is so bizarre 🫠😵‍💫 does anyone feel the same way??