u/Own_Average_5940

I wanna start by saying that I'm glad that so many of my friends have been successful in their careers and their personal lives. I just have not. I'm struggling with seeing my friend start getting homes, have better paying jobs, have serious, loving relationships, getting to start families, and I'm over here in college at 26, getting ready to move into a student apartment with a bunch of younger people, and I just feel so behind. I don't make very much money and as much as I try to tell myself that my value isn't determined by what I make, I can tell in dating when people hear that I'm a janitor that I'm being looked at as lesser. I live in an area that's politics are significantly mismatched with mine and often feel like I don't have a place that I can freely be myself. I'm staying here because it gives me the best shot of getting into a really really good college, and my Dean thinks that I have the shot at transferring there. I'm just struggling with feeling like those student loans are going to be worth it, like not getting to have romantic or social life in my 20s is going to be worth it. And I'm betting everything on eventually graduating and making enough money in engineering, and electrical engineering, to pay back around 50 grand worth of student loans, and be able to date and go back to a city. And I don't know if that's realistic. But anyways, if anyone has any advice for how to handle the emotions. I feel like a failure every time that I hear about one of these things that's going well for my friends. It also makes me feel like a bad friend because why am I stuck feeling so self pitiful. Does anyone have any advice for reframing those kind of thoughts, or redirecting the energy, because I'm really struggling.

Hey all! I used to love traditional barbell and dumbbell workouts. However around a year ago I was forced to stop as my hips just couldn't handle it. Docs found nothing abnormal, all my labs were good, my form was good. I've found that higher rep/lower weight exercises (like circuits of sumo squat with a pulse, burpee variations, push-up to plank variations, squat to lunge variations) seem to give me a similar burn in the muscles as what I got with weights, but with none of the pain (yay!). I've been following a structured calisthenics program for the past month and promisingly, no upset hips! I definitely feel stronger and like certain muscles, especially my lower abs and the rear shoulders, are activating better than they used to. However I admit I got into exercised largely out of vanity and well, my thighs/glutes are smaller than they used to be! Does anyone have experience using HIIT and calisthenics to build up muscles?

While I can find results, it's almost always men in the calisthenics subs! So I am finding inspiration and knowledge hard to come by. Maybe I am running on psuedoscience but I am convinced that men and women have to function somewhat differently metabolically.

I know the 'burn' isn't technically associated with muscle growth, but when I was lifting it meant I got a pump which thusly meant I got swole.

Edit: I know what a decent PT could do. I have no health insurance (I make about 26k a year)

The gym I signed up for is WAY overfull and I do not want to continue paying 40 a month for the absolute displeasure of driving 30 minutes and having zero access to a treadmill or bench lol. I'm familiar with the option of switching in app location to CA to cancel in app. Well, my gym doesn't have that and says you can only come in person with a lease showing you are moving. How can I beat the system here lol

Hey ya'll! I've come to realize the sheer cost saving that buying more directly could get my over the grocery store. I also like the idea of buying local... keeps my money here and is overall better for the climate. I've found myself craving more meat lately (predicatably, with low iron) and have increased my consumption. Of course, grocery store beef is quite expensive, just the ground even (I only eat lean). The thing is, I am moving in about 3 months. I am trying to work through my pantry stores of food. I know I wouldn't eat enough cow in 3 months to justify a whole cow. Of course, a whole cow has to get slaughtered for me to eat it! Is there a way to order smaller amounts? Would veal -I'm pretty sure that's a calf - be an option instead, since they are smaller? Does anything exist to maybe split a cow with someone? I live in a rural area and am soooo out of touch, not being from here, and pretty embarrassed haha.

Hey ya'll. I know this is going to seem like a reach, but I was always taught to reach for the stars. I'm an electrical engineering student. I'm also a German major; our course actually requires some kind of internship experience overseas to graduate from it. I know I've always wanted to move to Germany (long story, but over half my life). I'm still pretty basic, and working on breaking into b1 level. I did want to ask though, once I get past this... what exists for learning the language for engineering, or will I need to create my own repository for practicing?

I want to keep those childhood promises to myself and try my damndest or die trying. I will be taking an extended trip to the EU next year, for about a month, between Germany and Austria. I figure as well I've always had a genuine passion for language learning, and the combination of skills would be useful.

Re- my father: a young lady in her teens bringing in a full grown caemon to school for her classmates to pet.

I am assuming that the primary benefit of getting a German major would be in simply forcing me to practice more, building it into my life on a near-daily basis. I have wanted to go since I was twelve and am planning to go for about a month next year. I'm highly motivated to as I find the EU work culture desirable. I am used to smaller spaces/less money than most Americans and have been careful to not let lifestyle creep and value walkability. I am studying electrical engineering and very hopeful that I could eventually go over there, and am curious if having the German major would effect my job prospects or immigration process in a meaningful way.

Hey guys! I have to order online as I don't have the possibility of a retail store to talk to someone. I think that is common outside of major cities these days. I'm not exactly online-shopping savvy. On amazon I can see generalist underwires, but I cannot find ones that would be large enough for me as a 34I USA. This feels like a niche issue!

I did post this on r/SewBustyCommunity but I did that knowing it is much less known of a subreddit and am hoping the wider net here can let me capture what I am looking for. I'm hoping I can make some cup sized mini dresses: I love those for spring, but the cups in the store are always too small and I need support! Time to finally start making my own, as I have a short break from college.

Do you guys know about the kibble system? It says that based off a rather complicated set of perceived and real physical characteristics of a person a certain range of styles is flattering. There is also the color theory, about spring/summer/autumn/winter and warm/cold. I'm really curious to see what other ways there are to have a system of flattering clothes in place.

Hey guys. I started out at 265 at 5'8", and am sitting at 168 as of yesterday morning. I'm a classic case of not consistently working out throughout my weight loss, and unfortunately the last 20 pounds or so were in a pretty unhealthy way and I lost a lot of muscle. I find that now I have the skin texture my Nana did in her 50's, and it affects my confidence more than I care to admit. I'm aiming to stick to a basic recoup plan for 6 months, keeping the deficit between 250-500, and continuing with my calisthenics.

I used to weightlift but had to stop as for reasons I have yet to identify it was triggering severe hip pain. I had had my form evaluated several times, that was fine. X-rays and MRI's. Nothing showed. I quit when it got so bad I was walking around with a limp. I noticed a major loss of muscle around a year after having to quit, when bums me out honestly.

I doubt my weight is the primary contributor. Shameful as it feels, the primary reason I have done all this is for aesthetics; how long would it take for any real kind of changes to be visible? I've had labs done and am super healthy, and I am used to eating my ideal macros every day, so diet isn't an issue.

Hey everyone. I had a very slow and rocky journey where over the last 6 years I have lost 100 pounds. I'm 5'7 and 165, so I believe just barely overweight. I've lost a bit over a foot off my b/w/h. I'm the definition of doing slow dietary and lifestyle changes. I would take a single small thing (e.g adding a serving fruit/veg a day, eating 10 more g's fiber, switching to all whole grains) one at a time until the habit was fully integrated in my life. However lately I find myself unhappy with the amount of time I spend dealing with the subject of food. I think it would be good for me to quit logging and tracking my food, and am trying to get to a more naturalistic way of eating. You know, the way babies stop eating when they are full and want food when hungry. I feel like I have an unhealthy relationship with my calorie counting app. At the same time, I'm trying to get stronger (and I do pay attention to that in terms of what I can do physically), and get concerned about not intaking the proper amount of food or nutrients consistently. I also find myself having a bit of anxiety around certain foods, notably things like pasta or bread or butter, where though I know its illogical I feel like I cannot eat it because the calories will make me gain weight, even though I know at this point it is not true. I would like to gain back the ability I had to eat things like that or chocolate or cheese without worrying about portion sizes incessantly that I had while obese, though I do not want to be obese again.

None of this comes from a place of self-dislike either, as I am actually quite proud of how far I come. It does seem that the skills I need to stay happy and healthy are going to be different from the ones I needed to lose weight in the first place.

Hey guys. It feels a little bit embarrassing to admit to this as I am 26 and I feel like I am way too old to have these kind of self-confidence issues but here we are and I'm finally acknowledging it. I find myself very much self limited by the fact that I am afraid of being judged mocked by other people. I do not like that. I am so afraid to express myself or to try new things for fear of judgment. I tried to tell myself the old clichés like those who mind don't matter in those who matter don't mind. Just be yourself and the people that are like you will come. And I do believe that. But I still find it very difficult for fear of being ostracized. That is a side effect from how I was treated growing up neurodivergent any small evangelistic town. Well, I don't feel that my current surroundings are that way however I find myself silver relying on a lot of thoughts and behaviors that I don't think serve myself the best.

I would like to be able to be more concerned with what I think of me in creating an identity that I feel like is congruent with Myself. I'm not quite sure how to shake concern with the opinions of others, I know that I am very awkward, but awkward isn't necessarily bad however, hard it is for me to look at it that way sometimes.

Hey all. I'm kind of wanting to go out and blow off some steam sometime soon and go party. I don't have anyone who can accompany me though. It's been a long time and I made my friends and lovers through clubs and live music, and I want to feel like myself again. Get dressed up with some glitter lol.

I'm just curious. Looking for something new, I guess, and a bit burnt out from the hunt. I have hobbies but those are solo dolo.

Hey guys. I'm 26, so a bit older than the typical college student. I still want to go out and have a. good time with some drinks that aren't overpriced, preferably with a good dance floor and a friendly chatty crowd. Does this place fit the bill? I'm looking at coming in for 2-3 days on a little solo trip. Need to feel the sand beneath my toes again, and I don't wanna return to FL when it feels like Satan's balls in the summer lol. I'm wanting a change from visiting home, Tampa.