Feeling worse after talking to an online suicide support person

Feeling worse after talking to an online suicide support person

What a waste of 30 fucking minutes. They were so condescending the whole time. I told them about my brothers suicide and how it feels like no one cares about how I feel about it. I brought up how I'm suicidal and simultaneously afraid of death because everything feels pointless if we're going to die. They genuinely made fun of me for feeling this way because I'm only 20. Then when I was still obviously in crisis they just said "bye" and left.

This was my last resort, I had no one else to reach out to and now I just feel fucking worse for it.

I know there's not much else they can do but ffs, don't make people in crisis feel like absolute shit for reaching out.

Old photo, I have no food at home. Crumpets with Vegemite and cheese and Biscoff chocolate

u/Painted-BIack-Roses — 2 days ago
▲ 10 r/Fishdom

every australian guy i had a crush on turns into a grifter

First it was Pete Evans, now it's Karl Stefanovic. Grant Denyer, Osher Günsberg and David Campbell are next...who do I tell about this

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u/Painted-BIack-Roses — 11 days ago

I'm going to donate the money that I paid for the concert tickets. Does anyone have any recommendations?

I can't bring myself to spend the money on myself, so I want to put it towards a good cause in memory of Oliver. I'm Australian and I know he loved animals, so I was going to donate it to a local wildlife rescue/org, but I thought maybe some people here would have some ideas as well.

Thanks ❤️

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u/Painted-BIack-Roses — 12 days ago

I wish my mum pretended to have sympathy over the passing of my brother and Oliver Tree TW: Self harm and suicide

I want to clarify beforehand that he was my half brother on my dads side, my mum didn't raise him and had little to do with him. My brother stopped living with my dad when I was around 5. I had seen him once when I was 8. When I was 12, I contacted him to reconnect, and we did until he didn't believe me about my dad's abuse. We fell out, said some mean things. Tried to reconnect on and off but it always ended the same way.

I've had mental health issues since I was 12. A lot of self harming and suicidal thoughts, of which my mum knows. In March, my brother took his life. I didn't eat for weeks and just cried in bed. None of my family (mums side) seemed to care. When I found out and told my mum and grandma, my grandmas first thing to say was "you never got to see him again" yeah, I know that. My mum never really seemed to care, never asked if I was okay or anything.

About 2 weeks after his funeral she stole $600 from me and started staying out late at night, sometimes not coming home until the next night. Even before my brother passed, I often had breakdowns at night that led to me being suicidal. She's the only person I have in my life and is who I rely on stopping me from hurting myself. Well, now she hasn't been here and has hurt me. I told her I needed her and how it felt hurtful that she was pushing me to the side when I really needed her, but she continues to do it.

I started cutting again, after maybe 7 years. I lost it and showed her my scars because I didn't know how else to make her listen, she still didnt. I tell her I want to kill myself, she doesn't care. During a breakdown she wasn't here and I had to reach out to an estranged aunt because I didn't know what else to do, still doesn't care.

Anyway. after my brother died, I found it hard to do anything. I didnt start listening to music again until last month, and Oliver was mainly who I had been listening to. I had been a fan of Oliver's for 10 years. She knew this. I missed his 2023 concert and was waiting for another, and he finally announced a new tour. I was so exited, I got tickets as soon as they dropped.

Last week, I saw the announcement 2 hours after it was reported on and I lost it. I couldn't believe he was gone, I still can't. I lost my brother and now I can't stomach listening to the one artist that made things feel a little better.

And my mum still shows no sympathy. I didn't eat, again, for about 4 days. I couldn't finish what I had in the pic today either. No "are you okay?" just nothing. Like nothing happened to either person.

It makes me feel so alone. I just want to be hugged and asked if I'm okay, but that's too much to ask for...

I wasn't "over" my brothers passing and now I'm grieving someone else. I've been told I should just get over being upset about Oliver because "hes a celebrity and wouldn't care about you" maybe so, but that's not the point. It just feels like one thing after another, I'm back to square one with coping with my brothers death.

I feel so selfish being upset over Oliver's passing for my own sake, it's not really what I feel, but I don't know how to type it so it makes sense 😅 I feel terrible for his friends, family and girlfriend. I feel terrible for the 5 other victims as well. The world is so cruel.

u/Painted-BIack-Roses — 14 days ago
▲ 142 r/familyguy

Does anyone else basically only like Seth's shows?

I grew up with both Family Guy and American Dad, with FG being my favourite, and later watching The Cleveland Show. Over the years, I've tried to watch other animated sitcoms, and I just can't get into *any* of them. So many of them seem to rely on sex and vulgar jokes (ironic, I know) or being too serious for my liking, and the comedy just doesn't hit like FG or AD. I don't even like Rick and Morty lol.

It might just be nostalgia, but there really is something different about how Seth's shows handle themselves compared to other shows, I can't really put my finger on what, though. I mean, obviously his shows were/are successful for a reason, but I feel like people generally watch more than just his.

Anyone else the same?

u/Painted-BIack-Roses — 14 days ago

Hot take: Clawdeen has the best dolls of G3

I didn't even realise this was a hot take until I saw some comments about her in another post. I was never a huge fan of Clawdeen during G1, but she's seriously become my favourite G3 character, even though I hate the colour purple lol.

Obviously I understand we all have our own tastes, but I'm really shocked to see just how many people don't like her, just for her to be my favourite haha, her dolls *very* rarely miss for me, if ever.

(I know the last one doesn't reallyyy count as G3, but she released during sooo)

I'd honestly really like to know what people don't like about her G3 design! I know in the beginning people complained about her being a bit more geeky/tomboyish (which I actually loved, rip), but I feel like she's become pretty glam over time. I just feel like I'm missing something! Then again, I seem to like everything others hate (G3 Ghoulia as an example lol).

u/Painted-BIack-Roses — 15 days ago

I can't do this anymore. I just want someone to care about me and hear my cries for help

Everything is awful. So many people I love are dead. I'm only 20, how much worse are things going to get? I'm so loud about being suicidal and no one cares or listens. I just want the pain to go away

u/Painted-BIack-Roses — 18 days ago

My heart is so broken

I don't know where else to post this. I'm hoping people here will be more understanding.

I was a fan of Oliver's for 10 years, I missed his 2023 concert in Australia and was devastated. In March of this year, my brother took his own life, and my mental health tanked. I didn't do anything for months. Last month I started listening to music again, and Oliver was my comfort artist.

He announced his tour, and I was stoked, I got tickets as soon as they dropped. I saw the news broke out 2 hours after it happened, and I was and still am, a mess.

Oliver's music was the one thing helping me cope, and I just can't stomach listening to it anymore. I can't believe he's gone too.

I don't mean to sound parasocial, this isn't how I mean it to come across. I'm just so fucking destroyed that this all happened at once. I've cried so much over these past few days, I've been trying to avoid this sub and just anywhere that mentions him because I break down every time.

I feel so sorry for his family and friends, as well as the family and friends of the other victims. None of them deserved this.

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u/Painted-BIack-Roses — 18 days ago

Want to start therapy again but past experiences are worrying me

Basically, lots of grief and other shit. Life is becoming unmanageable and therapy is going to be the only way I survive this.

Originally started therapy at around 10 or 11, I spent a couple years with my psychologist and got nowhere, most of it was just reading a book rather than talking about issues. A psychiatrist put me on the highest possible dose of zoloft which led to intracranial hypertension, which I needed a lumbar puncture for and had to be on medication for 3 years afterwards.

Second time I tried at 18. In our second session I brought up being tested for PTSD and my psychologist brushed it off and said he didn't think I had it, without me actually telling him anything first. I told him I was molested and witnessed a lot of physical abuse, received a lot of mental. Went home and got a phone call that he had reported my abuser to the police. I know he's legally obligated to, but I thought since I was 18 it didn't matter anymore. For 3 weeks afterwards I was worried sick my abuser was going to find out about it. I hated that feeling and felt like my trust was shattered and gave up.

I also just really struggle with the idea of someone actually caring about what I say. Like at the end of the day it's their job, they don't really gaf what I'm saying, they just want to get paid. I have no idea if that makes sense 😅 I feel the same way about anyone I talk to about my issues. Idk if that means there's something wrong with me.

Anyway, need therapy but scared 👍

Water because I still can't eat without feeling sick

u/Painted-BIack-Roses — 20 days ago

I wish we had gotten Jareth for Labyrinth's 40th anniversary and 10th anniversary of David Bowie

It's possible this could still happen, but no leaks have pointed to it yet. This would've been such a perfect time to make a doll of him </3

u/Painted-BIack-Roses — 21 days ago

Oliver Tree's death has fucked me up so bad. He was helping me cope with my brothers death and now I can't bring myself to listen to his music. Blaming myself for Oliver's death

It's so fucking upsetting and unreal still. 10 years of listening to him, was finally going to see him in October for my first concert. Was so, so excited for it.

My brother took his life in March. I couldn't do anything for a long time but started to listen to music again last month and mostly stuck to Oliver. And now he's fucking dead too. I almost feel like I'm the reason for it.

So many things have been going on. My mum and I don't talk anymore, she stole $600 for me, I'm failing uni and now all this. It fucking sucks.

I feel crazy but I genuinely do wonder if I'm the reason Oliver died 😞 I bring bad luck to everyone around me.

I wanted to avoid the news stories, I didn't want to see the wreck. Went to Facebook, didn't even scroll and the first post was an image posted by a news corps of the fucking helicopter wreck. I already felt sick over his death but seeing the actual wreck destroyed me.

Microwave pasta. Haven't really ate anything for 2 days and what you see here is basically what I didn't eat of it. I feel so sick

u/Painted-BIack-Roses — 21 days ago

Changes that Mattel have done to G3 so far that you appreciate?

(Credit to Courtly Jester for the pic)

What are some changes Mattel has made so far during the run of G3 that you appreciate? For me, it would be changing Cleo's pet to a snake. We all know the dog and cat issue G3 pets have so it was a nice change and fits Cleo a lot better :)

Things like changes from G1 to G3 are fine too!

u/Painted-BIack-Roses — 22 days ago

Realised that my stepmum was weird to me too

My dad molested me when I was 6, just once, at least that's all I remember. I was thinking about him and remembered when he was grossed out when my stepmum told him I got my first bra (I was around 10 or 11 at the time but fat so my chest was a bit larger for my age), which is when a different memory popped up.

When I was out with my stepmum trying on bras, she put her hand in the bra to feel it was fitting me properly (like in the cups, not the band). I know that's "normal" but I don't remember her asking me if it was okay or me consenting in any way. Idk. Idk why I forgot about this, but I don't think what she did was 100% right, right? There are other ways to make sure a bra fits, especially when I wasn't her child and hadn't really known her for that long at the time.

Thinking about it now makes me feel uncomfortable, I'm not sure if I'm overreacting though :/

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u/Painted-BIack-Roses — 22 days ago

Just found out Oliver Tree died. He was my favourite artist and his music has been helping me cope with my brothers death. I was meant to see him in concert in October

I'm so fucking heartbroken. This year could not get worse. I feel sick

u/Painted-BIack-Roses — 22 days ago

Anyone else done with RH?

Been collecting them for a little while now, but nothing really excites me too much anymore. I honestly have found all of the most recent (post-reboot) dolls to be quite ugly, and RH just isn't what it used to be.

I know it's pretty likely that RH has run its course, MGA are releasing a new doll line, and it seems like they already "couldn't afford" to keep RH, LOL and Bratz high quality, so it'll either be phased out or get worse along with Bratz if they do keep all lines running. But either way, I think my time with the brand has come to an end =(

It's really upsetting, because I really do love RH, but I don't understand why MGA is doing this to one of their most popular brands. There's 0 way RH was doing worse pre-reboot than they are now. Happy for anyone who does like the current dolls, but I really find all of their outfits to be ugly af 😭

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u/Painted-BIack-Roses — 22 days ago