Don't Be a Victim
John 5:5-6
Now a man was there who had been [afflicted] ill for thirty-eight years. Jesus, upon seeing this man lying there and knowing that he had already been in that condition for a long time, said to him, "Do you want to get well?"
The man at the Pool of Bethesda had been in his condition for 38 years.
When Jesus asks him the piercing question...
"Do you want to get well?" (John 5:6)
...the man doesn’t say "Yes!"
Instead, he immediately launches into a victim narrative.
"I have no one to help me into the pool when the water is stirred. While I am trying to get in, someone else goes down ahead of me" (v. 7).
Nothing he said was untrue. He's right. He's unable to help himself into the pool, or at least not quickly. And the mob of others, just like himself, are all clamoring for positions. He really couldn’t help himself into the pool quickly. And the crowd really was pushing and shoving. He wasn't wrong feeling the way he did.
Imagine 38 years for living like this. Wrapped up in this victimhood mentality. And he's so focused on what he lacked; helpers, timing, opportunities, that he almost missed the Healer standing right in front of him.
That’s classic self-deception wrapped in a victimhood mindset. Jesus didn’t argue with his circumstances or minimize the real hardship. He simply commanded, "Get up! Pick up your mat and walk."
Where does this victimhood mindset come from?
It begins with self-focus and self-deception. It begins with rationalized excuses. Legitimate obstacles, but 38 years? Now it's become self sabotage. He probably started a few decades ago with a positive outlook. Probably had genuine hope for "his time", his moment was surly right around the corner. But year after year, hope deferred turns into rationalized excuses. The mind stays fixed on the pool, the crowd, and what others aren’t doing, instead of on the One who can make us whole.
The enemy loves this trap. He whispers the same lies generation after generation.
"You’ll never change"
"It’s not fair"
"No one cares"
James 1:22 warns us clearly about this problem we have with perspective, "if we only hear the Word but don’t do it, we deceive ourselves."
"Do you want to get well?"
Do you?
Really?
Then He gives the command of grace, "Get up."
Don’t stay in the victim story. Get up. Take hold of the new life Christ offers; forgiveness, freedom, purpose and hope.
The pool may never be fair, ever!
But Jesus is greater than every limitation, every crowd, and every system that's trying to drag you down.
Only one obstacle is holding you back.
YOU.
This theme today is bringing to my mind "Fooling Yourself (The Angry Young Man)" by Styx (from the 1977 album The Grand Illusion). The song calls out the "angry young man" who’s stuck in negativity, excuses, and a cynical outlook. Seeing the world as against him while missing the good right in front of him. It’s an exhortation to stop the self-deception, drop the anger/bitterness, and step into what’s possible.
This song had a powerful impact on me. It was first released when I was 16 and both an angry young man and hopeful pilgrim.
The chorus drives it home; "You’re fooling yourself if you don’t believe it…"
I didn’t fully understand then how much I needed the truth it carried. Years later, I see how the Lord used even that song to stir my heart toward the real Healer. I just remember hearing those lyrics, especially "GET UP!"
"You’re fooling yourself if you don’t believe it
You’re killing yourself if you don’t believe it
Get up, (Get up!) get back on your feet
You’re the one they can’t beat and you know it…"
The "Get up!" call in the song echoes Jesus’ command in John 5 almost perfectly. I wish I knew then what I know now. But another song, Bob Seger’s "Against the Wind" (1980) always touched me spoke to that theme.
"Wish I didn’t know now what I didn’t know then…"
For me, it captures both the regret, and the wisdom that comes with time.
When Against The Wind was released I was 18, and really struggling to find my rhythm in life. I knew that line was meaningful but I hadn't yet lived its full meaning.
I see now how God was working everything out even then. And the regret I have now isn't about all that I did or didn't know and do, but instead I regret the grace delayed. The time I wasted in fooling myself. Time I could have spent in the Lord.
I think for me, this reflects a gradual, pragmatic faith rather than a sudden "born-again" moment. Don't get me wrong, I absolutely had my sudden conversion, a moment of pure surrender. But I now see that it's was only the boiling point. God had been applying His heat on me for decades. He was preveniently washing over me.
Here's the final thought.
I believe every born-again believer has a Kairos moment. It's a God ordained time. Specifically set aside for us. It's "our Kairos".
You see, Kairos is a special God ordained time. Not like Chronos time (clock time; sequential, measurable, linear time) which is neutral but relentless. Chronos is the kind of time we live in every day; minutes, hours, days, years, 38 years by the pool. It marches on whether we’re ready or not. And it can feel like a prison when we’re stuck in cycles of pain, excuses, or self-deception.
In the story of John 5, the man had been paralyzed for 38 years of Chronos; a long, grinding stretch of waiting, disappointment, and victimhood. Kairos however is an opportune time, the right or appointed moment, God’s due season. It’s not about how much time has passed, but asks the question, "is this the moment for action?"
In the New Testament, kairos often refers to the decisive, God-ordained time for salvation, repentance, healing, or fulfilling God’s purpose.
Mark 1:15
"The time [kairos] is fulfilled…"
Ephesians 5:16
"making the most of every opportunity [kairos]"
Jesus’ question to the paralyzed man...
"Do you want to get well?"
...was a kairos moment.
Chronos had ground on for 38 years, but suddenly the eternal broke into the temporal.
The Healer was present.
The invitation was given.
A door opened that could not have been manufactured by human effort or perfect timing at the pool. Not in a church program. Not in a religious ceremony. Not because a priest blessed you.
Kairos is God at work in the way he chooses in your particular day. The only work Jesus told the man at the pool that he needed to do was, "Get Up!"
Jesus showed up, and the only "work" required was simple obedience to His word, "Get Up!" Not "get upright". Get up! leave the mat, walk in the new life Jesus gives.
And as the line finishes in the song Fooling Yourself:
"Don't blow it!"
Don’t stay in the victim story. Get up. Take hold of the new life Christ offers; forgiveness, freedom, purpose, and hope.
Amen 🙏🏼