u/PeaceTree99

My back has been hurting so badly with this pregnancy it’s become unbearable.

My upper back right below my neck to my bra line constantly hurts so badly in my sleep it’s waking me up.

Then my lower back in the hip area the pain is so bad it locks my entire back at times or when I get up I’m in such severe pain I have to have assistance until I can walk normal again.

I’ve spoken with my Dr and she swears this is normal and fine but I’m in such immense pain every single day I don’t know what to do or how I’m just supposed to “ignore it”.
I also don’t want to take otc pain pills daily I just feel that’s not healthy or normal for my baby and I.

My fiance come every holiday or every big event has to blurt out negatives and how he feels constantly and the entire day!

It can be something for Mother’s Day he took me to see a movie I wanted to watch “Mortal Kombat” I know it’s not his forte but I love it and whole time leading up to it or during he just had to say something negative about it. Then after said, “oh I thought it was going to suck I mean it did but not bad enough to not watch”..

Father’s Day surprise surprise but he didn’t have anything to say that day as he got gifts and surprises.

4th of July were just trying to pop small fire works for my daughter and here he goes telling us how lame they are and how much they suck. Telling a 6yr old. My sister passed a year ago yesterday and he still felt like even though as I was trying to make the best of today he hadddddd to voice his opinions.

I don’t understand because literally every other day he’s not like this and preaches about family time and this and that then come family time holidays and events he has to just has to make sure nobody has a good time it’s exhausting. I’ve tried talking to him about it and it just goes the same way like I’m right he’s a a**hole and will be better next time, he takes responsibility, he is just going to remove himself from family time.

Recently I found out my mom’s friend’s son who is a year older than me was just charged as a sex offender. I told my mom that’s disgusting and she shouldn’t go to her friend’s house anymore, she told me that the little girls were lying! That her friend said that the little girls are known for lying about that stuff. Then my mom said she’s not a little kid she can go just not little kids, and that if little kids do go they just have to be supervised!????? Ummmm what?

Then as far as my father as long as I’ve known him has been such a huge pervert. I told her because he’s been sick and saying he can’t lift his head but he wanted to go out and eat. Well when she left he was lifting his head to look at women’s bottoms and their chest etc. I told my mom that he was faking it or over exaggerating his symptoms because he kept looking at women’s privates and stuff. My mom told me that no all men do that it’s fine. That every man has wondering eyes that’s like saying every man is a pervert.

I told her that not all men have wondering eyes and that a while back when we went to dinner my fiance and I and we met my dad, it made us very uncomfortable because my dad was making it so obvious he was looking at our waiters breast she had to cover up and my mom said good maybe she needed to. That that’s why they preach at church women need to cover themselves up.

I’m just so disgusted and mind you my mom is a married woman her and my dad aren’t together. My mom thinks im over reacting by telling her to not blame the woman and that not all men are like that and trying to police her life.

I met my fiance two years ago and before getting serious I kept telling him I didn’t want to because I did not want to be with a single father.

I did not need or want a relationship either. I was self sufficient, hard working oil field, going back to school, saving for a house, two cars to my name. A relationship for me wasn’t in the picture until I met my fiance. We met and we instantly connected but when things got too serious I told him I couldn’t do it because I know myself and know I couldn’t be with a single father. I told him also I didn’t like drama or dealing with anyone’s baby momma, he assured me it would be fine and if not he would work towards it.

I got with him eventually because he trusted me that if I try it out and I don’t like it I can break it off. Then his baby momma started with the stalking, parking outside his home while I was there, threatening to keep his son, dropping off their son and her other child that isn’t his at his family members or friends of family that were very old and unable to even care for themselves, he’d get calls from unknown numbers in the middle of the night till the morning, she’d call saying there was a emergency with his son and then drop him off and his son would be fine but just to stir up chaos? Leaving him vomiting on himself at times, rashes from not changing him all day, burns on his feet from making him walk on hot pavement with no shoes.

I automatically wanted out and then she kept his son from him for 3-4 months and he put himself on child support and informed the doctors, and cops of her negligence and proof. He got screwed over had to pay more than he could afford paying his house, truck, us building our lives all while only being able to see him and get him 9 days out of the month.

It was all too chaotic for me especially coming from a peaceful life I built for myself. Then the mom one day dropped off their son with his skin peeling in his pamper, throwing up and didn’t come back for him in over half a month. No response to calls or texts nothing. I started building a bond with him and he started calling me mom, crying for me, looking for me. I ended up getting attached. Then the mom showed up demanded she get him back or else we would be in contempt of court and she would get us for kidnapping.

Well fast forward to now. We moved 2 hours away because the drama was far too much to handle and as much as I wanted to leave I became attached to my partner and his son. Now though his ex is hiding his son from him won’t answer on the parenting app and refuses to download it. We’ve made police reports, informed child support, saving for a lawyer after getting screwed over last time and now it’s been almost 7-8 months.

I feel like a part of me misses my peaceful life. Though attached and engaged, my fiance always knew I never wanted any of this. I have love for his son but at the end of the day I will never fully be able to be comfortable calling him my son, without the impending thought he’ll be ripped away. I fantasize at times like my life before, and my friends and I miss it sometimes a lot. Don’t get me wrong life is good now I’m stay at home, going to college, closer to my family. When I bring up his son now it feels like a sensitive subject but I know we’re fighting for him and all but I just I don’t like feeling like a part of my life will be walking on eggshells, or that I can never have the peace I once did for myself until his son is 18.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? Can this be overcome?

When my husband was with his ex they were together 3-4 years she lied about protection and she was pregnant. He was in college at the time, and when he found out his mom who raised him shortly passed a month after. His ex came with a child from a previous relationship already. He was only 19 and she was 20-21.

He quit college got a job to provide and then his ex became abusive. As my husband grieved for his mom his ex recorded him to use as mental illness if he ever left her. She also recorded herself beating him until he cried, cutting his chest as he cried for his mom, etc. he stayed because he didn’t want his son to grow up without a dad like him.

Baby came and the abuse got worse until she started cheating and he put his foot down and kicked her out. He gave it time and then met me.

Once we started dating she kept his son from him for 3-4 months. He eventually put himself on child support, then came the harassment on the parenting app, stalking and parking outside the house, rumors spread through the town, her getting involved with his family to keep her other daughter in the picture that was not his to disrespect our relationship. We moved away and then she teamed up with his sister and they started hiding his son from us come pick up. She stopped meeting at the meet spot and we’ve made reports but cops said they can’t do anything, contacted child support and were told we need a lawyer for anything to change.

He’s already paying high amount in child support plus we’re preparing for a baby of our own. He gave up and I don’t blame him. His family which is just dad and sister blame him and hate me for it knowing what all happened but blame him for not being a stronger man to endure that. His ex is also pregnant by another man again after we got pregnant it’s just a lot.

I know he misses his son and it’s been 6-7 months since he’s seen him but we still have Christmas presents and birthday gifts along with a new bed and room for him waiting hoping one day she’ll change her mind. Waiting till after our baby is born to save for a lawyer.

I hate that people call or blame him an unfit father when he’s a trying father doing everything he can behind doors.

It’s been about a year since I lost my dog of 14 years, then before that I moved away left my other dog of 2 years at my moms while I got situated and it ran away, then my other dog before that that I had for 3 years passed from a snake bite protecting my daughter.

I loved them all so much, I did everything with them. Buying them clothes, photo shoots, trips, bought a car specifically for them, home cooked meals, best of the best dog food. I loved them so so much I went through a depression losing each.

I got with my fiance and he had 3 dogs at the time and I was so happy I thought I’d love them. Then I realized I just I’ve grown to hate the species after I lost mine. I hate that no other dog was trained like mine, that no other dog can listen like mine, none of them can ever be them.

Now after my fiance and I have been together 2 years we just have his oldest dog, and he pushed me into getting another puppy. To help me move on so I got a German Shepherd. Now I just I’ve had her about 4 months the feeling remains. I feel nothing towards this dog. Nothing I’ve grown to hate his dog so badly. I hate all dogs maybe it’s my pregnancy I’m 6 months and told it could be an aversion? I just don’t believe it to be true. I just I don’t think I can ever own or love another dog like I did them. They were my best friends and now I see the species as annoying, dirty, loud, and a part of me wants to love them but I can’t bring myself to.

Yesterday my fiancé came to me and let me know that one of his friends who he grew up with since childhood, younger sister who is 4-5 years younger than him randomly added him on Facebook at night.

He didn’t think nothing of it but that it was weird because the request was sent 3 years ago. I didn’t mind until he started talking more about who she was. The little sister who added him just turned 18, just graduated, doesn’t talk to his friend or her family and added him right when she turned 18, also never would really talk with him when he would visit his friend anyways.

I told him delete it, he said I was overreacting and overthinking but I told him is it not weird for her to wait till she’s of age to add him? Didn’t add him when he was a senior her a freshman but adds him once graduated and of age no message catching up nothing just a random add 3 years later.

We just moved into my parents house after leaving our apartment due to me being pregnant unable to work due to high risk and him being the sole bread winner.

We moved in on one condition the animals are to be kept outside, which he agreed upon and I’ve been asking him to do even at the apartments.

We’re now here at my parents they told him we could move in if the animals are kept outside. They have a fenced in yard, a tie for the dog, and sheds for them to go in. They have an outdoor cat and said we’d have time to let the cat adjust before letting it out.I come home yesterday his dog has completely covered my parents expensive furniture with dog hair, stated trying to pull trash all onto the furniture and the cat has started clawing into the couches.

I’m waking up burning from hives covering my skin because he still has not bathed his dog and allows her in our room. The cat too I’m allergic to and he’s refusing to put it outside even though I have it in and out already to have gotten it used to it. I’ve been the one feeding the animals, taking them to the rr, buying cat litter when I do not want these animals at all but I understand they need someone to care for them. I’m so tired of this and I’m exhausted I already have my 6 year old I’m caring for, a sick father, college, pregnancy I didn’t want to take up the responsibility of these animals but I have to and though he’ll agree nothing absolutely changes!!

I’m finally 26 about to be 27 and I have a 6 year old from my past relationship.

My daughter’s father got into a sexual/romantic relationship with me when I was 15/16 and he is 6 years older…. When I graduated he moved me into his home and verbally, physically, financially, and emotionally abused me.

My daughter was conceived out of rape when I was 18. I drank with some friends at his house and woke up to him finishing in me.
During my pregnancy he would slam me for trying to escape his house through windows I took some pictures, or he’d pick me up by my neck and dangle me to choke me until I peed myself then throw me down.
I left him at 7 months and it was horrible but my family at the time was still stuck in their old school ways and kept trying to tell me to make it work.
Come time for child support court I was alone at my moms and he just walked in the door to make sure I didn’t speak against him and to make sure I agreed to what he said.

My daughter is to go with him every other weekend, and he is to pay bare minimum child support.
He went years without seeing her, has gone 4-5 years without paying child support. Now that a law was passed in Texas he said I can’t deny him visitation or else I’ll go to jail and had a cop come try and arrest me for that. He goes months without seeing her and pops up and I’m having to be forced to let her go with him it was to be for the weekend but he decides if he wants her for the weekend or for a couple of hours.
The last time my daughter went over I got a call she was rushed to the hospital due to a severe UTI. My daughter was left in his break room for over a hour alone at work and was found unconscious and nauseous. Upon waking up my daughter informed me he was doing drugs around her too (marijuana) and I called cps made a case and spoke with a case worker at the hospital. They told me there was insufficient evidence and closed the case even after speaking with my daughter.

Now that I am older and have my fiance to back me up. I want to take him to court again, I want to inform them of the inappropriate relationship that started when I was underage. I want to terminate his rights completely. My family worries and is against it because they’re scared his dad who’s a millionaire will fund for a lawyer and somehow he’ll win more rights. We don’t have a lot of money for a lawyer but I wanted to see if I can get a low cost or free one from purple door or if they could help me. Am I right to go through with this?

Edit: The reason why I didn’t go through with this before is just because I’ve tried but the courts ran me in a circle, cps closed cases against him, I’ve called child support, nothing and now that I’m older I want to try again this time not being scared to admit the relationship started when I was underage all of which I’ve had proof for.

I’m finally 26 about to be 27 and I have a 6 year old from my past relationship.

My daughter’s father got into a sexual/romantic relationship with me when I was 15/16 and he is 6 years older…. When I graduated he moved me into his home and verbally, physically, financially, and emotionally abused me.

My daughter was conceived out of rape when I was 18. I drank with some friends at his house and woke up to him finishing in me.
During my pregnancy he would slam me for trying to escape his house through windows I took some pictures, or he’d pick me up by my neck and dangle me to choke me until I peed myself then throw me down.
I left him at 7 months and it was horrible but my family at the time was still stuck in their old school ways and kept trying to tell me to make it work.
Come time for child support court I was alone at my moms and he just walked in the door to make sure I didn’t speak against him and to make sure I agreed to what he said.

My daughter is to go with him every other weekend, and he is to pay bare minimum child support.
He went years without seeing her, has gone 4-5 years without paying child support. Now that a law was passed in Texas he said I can’t deny him visitation or else I’ll go to jail and had a cop come try and arrest me for that. He goes months without seeing her and pops up and I’m having to be forced to let her go with him it was to be for the weekend but he decides if he wants her for the weekend or for a couple of hours.
The last time my daughter went over I got a call she was rushed to the hospital due to a severe UTI. My daughter was left in his break room for over a hour alone at work and was found unconscious and nauseous. Upon waking up my daughter informed me he was doing drugs around her too (marijuana) and I called cps made a case and spoke with a case worker at the hospital. They told me there was insufficient evidence and closed the case even after speaking with my daughter.

Now that I am older and have my fiance to back me up. I want to take him to court again, I want to inform them of the inappropriate relationship that started when I was underage. I want to terminate his rights completely. My family worries and is against it because they’re scared his dad who’s a millionaire will fund for a lawyer and somehow he’ll win more rights. We don’t have a lot of money for a lawyer but I wanted to see if I can get a low cost or free one from purple door or if they could help me. Am I right to go through with this?

Edit: The reason why I didn’t go through with this before is just because I’ve tried but the courts ran me in a circle, cps closed cases against him, I’ve called child support, nothing and now that I’m older I want to try again this time not being scared to admit the relationship started when I was underage all of which I’ve had proof for.

I’m(26F) currently pregnant with my 3rd child. First is 6, second I had a miscarriage late last year, then I ended up after 3 months pregnant with my child now.

I thought because I had a spontaneous miscarriage before this pregnancy I would be considered high risk but I was not. The entire first trimester I bled multiple times having me end up in the ER, receiving a diagnosis of a subchorionic hematoma that now healed, and passing blood clots or having gushes of blood come out. I was still kept non high risk, my OBGYN told me to continue working and my daily activities. I checked my chart now that I’m 20 weeks and she put me at my last appointment as a threatened miscarriage normal pregnancy?

All tests have came back fine, I haven’t bled since the beginning of my second trimester, but now I’m having intense headaches and anxiety.

Should I switch DRs or stay with the one I have currently?

Before getting with my now fiancé I continuously told him how I don’t want to be with a single dad. I was told it was hypocritical of me because I have a daughter. The thing is my daughter’s father is out of the picture and I’ve raised her completely alone and took care of all finances by myself.

He pleaded for me to give it a try, that it would be different. I knew myself, I knew my boundaries, but after months of pleading I gave in. Whose fault is that mine I know.

In the beginning there was no court order, his ex would constantly try to call or come at all hours of the day to just drop off his son, and then kept him from seeing his son for three months. I told him I wasn’t comfortable with the situation and the communication so he filed for child support.

When we finally got his son before the court date his son was so badly neglected. When changing his diaper his skin was peeling off in the pamper, his teeth were all rotten, and my fiance had absolutely no control of him. I excused my fiance because his role is dad in which he did well but as far as the nurturing and caring for this child he was clueless and I had to take that role up. The mom refused to take him to ER visits or doctors appointments so since his dad was working I felt bad and took that on because I couldn’t stand leaving a child like that.

Come court date my fiance showed the court the evidence but they still gave custody to the mom and have my partner pay $600 a month in child support as we are barely getting by as is.

Fast forward I did want some separation from my partner to live in different homes for three months and continue the relationship. His sister turned moderator would communicate for him and his ex for their son. His sister then started telling her private information on our lives which resulted in him cutting off communication.

I returned after finding out I was pregnant by him. It’s now been 5 months and after insisting he communicate with his sister for the sake of his son he refused I had to take it upon myself to reach out to the mother. She refused because of how long it’s been, and because she wants visitation to be at her house after informing me that she had intimate videos and photos of her and my partner during the time of them dating only mentioning it to hurt me and stop communication. His sister also cussed me out for wanting to try and see his son because he should be the one messaging. I had to be the one to have him file a report for contempt of court.

Doing all of this while I didn’t want to be a step mother at all. I openly communicate with him about how much I didn’t ask for all of this role and I don’t want to be put in that position.
I’m debating on just leaving because I regret going against my boundaries but because this has caused so much stress on me during my high risk pregnancy.
Our relationship is really good don’t get me wrong he is by far the best partner I’ve ever had I love him so much, this is just something I regret signing up for.

Okay so let me elaborate I (26F) loved animals or at least I thought I did before coming into this relationship. I’ve owned multiple dogs before and loved and cared for every single one.
My most recent dog that passed away due to snake bite protecting my daughter I loved with my entire heart. I raised her to be an inside outside dog because of her breed keeping her just inside would be neglectful of me. I would buy her clothes, I’d brush her teeth, keep her up to date on shots, would take her places or open fields to run, bathe her at least once a week, fed her or cooked for her to maintain her weight and health, play with her, potty trained her everything because I loved her that much.
I met my fiance (24M) a year after her passing and he told me he was a dog person too. I didn’t see it as a red flag then. Upon moving into his home I found out he had three dogs. A blue heeler, husky, and Pyrenees mix. All dogs who deserve outside time but these were inside dogs. The dogs were kept in rooms 12hrs a day during his work shift. The dogs were self fed with an open dog food bag on the floor helping themselves to however amount they want to eat. He would also have to constantly separate his husky and Pyrenees mix because they’d fight so badly the animals would receive injuries every time. He’d leave them in a room that was his sons and they’d use the restroom over all the floors in which they had to be removed and his son bed. He swore the animals were trained but they had absolutely no recall. They’d escape and terrorize his neighborhood until cops were called so many times due to the Pyrenees being aggressive towards people they were going to put her down. These animals were just kept inside and around because he was raised to believe a dog is just meant to be a companion.

Fast forward to now. We rehomed the husky and heeler to my parents who have a yard, and my mom who is stay at home as we downsized to move closer in an apartment. His heeler ran away third day but the husky they still own and have. His Pyrenees now if left without supervision will use the restroom on our carpeted floors in the apartment and has destroyed them with urine. Has destroyed our new couches. I’m currently pregnant and high risk so I ask him to please take her out more when he can. He takes her out once a day me feeling bad I force myself and body to take her out more. I’ve took it upon myself to feed her and give her water because her drinking out of the toilet was sufficient enough for him. I told him to clean her as when we went on a walk she rubbed herself on a carcass before I could stop her, still has yet to have a bath. I tell him we should rehome her that’s not love but he tells me I know nothing about loving an animal that she’s supposed to be a companion not something to get rid of. All while I’m having to take up responsibility for this animal.