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For example if I use my holiday time off to get my first tattoo- nothing explicit, just some flowers or something else simple on my arm, would I get in trouble over it?

I don't see anyone else in my store with visible tattoos so I'm not sure, I'd ask my store but my manager is off for the next two weeks and I don't think the shift managers would know the protocol since no one else has tattoos (that are visible anyway)

I know you can get them on Amazon but they're all quite short so I'd be bending my neck to look down at my switch/ds or books etc

I have scoliosis and my posture sucks, I'm doing stretching and exercise from physio but I need something to keep my posture in check while I play

It'd be really great if it had high arms and also a wedge shaped area over the legs so my arms and handheld would be fully supported and at eye level when sitting

Does anything like this exist?

So I'd just started my shift and I was working in the front of the shop. A guy comes in with a toddler and the poor thing was hacking up a lung, it sounded awful. Like it genuinely sounded like they needed antibiotics or something and the dad's just there yapping away to my coworker completely ignoring the kid, she asks him if he's been up to much and he's like "nah, this guy's been unwell but he's doing better now so I'm taking him to nursery"

EXCUSE ME? If this is him better I don't want to know how bad he was before.

🫪 I sanitised the hell out of everything because toddler and they don't cover their mouths. Either people are amazingly stupid or amazingly inconsiderate but honestly I'm still flabbergasted

It started out with headaches, then the neck pain started

Started out on the right side of my neck, quite stiff to look right, felt like a trapped nerve or slipped disk. After a couple of days it switched over to the left side of my neck (wasn't an instant shift just gradually moved over) now my neck feels a bit better, it's less stiff but my left shoulder is in agony. Much more painful after movement like it's irritating something in there.

I was having frequent headaches with the neck pain which is unlike me and now I still have neck pain and some headaches but it is less.

I can't tell if this is general instability or if I've subluxed or injured it somehow

I take heavy trays out of the oven at my job and I'm left handed so I'm worried I've totally messed it up

The only painkiller I can take is paracetamol due to allergies and sensitivities 🫩 I see my GP in two days but I don't even know how to explain it all to them, especially since the appointment was to adjust my antidepressants and put me on a waiting list to be checked for osteoarthritis, and be checked for pelvic floor dysfunction 🫠 they're gonna be so mad that I'm taking up so much time

So I figure that because I have EDS and I've noticed some SUI that it's probably a comorbid condition, I'm F 28 with no kids and at first I only noticed it a couple of years ago when I've had a particularly bad cough for a week or so, now it does it when I cough or sneeze anytime and today I was doing jumping jacks and it felt like I'd peed my pants (hadn't but I certainly felt that way)

Liner pads are helpful but feel so unsexy and don't stop the fear that any leaks might go through. Kegels don't really seem to help

What do you guys do to help?

I started working at Greggs last month and showed interest in moving up the ladder once my probation period is up. Since then my manager has really taken a liking to me and is super complementary of how hard I work. She's brought up the shift manager position a few times, asking if I was still interested, she brought up that it's 42 or 46 hours contract, something around there.

I'm physically disabled, I mean I know I might not seem it, but the harder I work the more pain I'm in esp with it being such a physical job. I did 18 hours last week since I needed to cover a couple of shifts from illness and man I was totally buggered after that esp with one of them being eight and a half hours 😖 I'm glad I have holiday booked this week so I can rest my joints. It would have long term health effects if I pushed myself any harder than that but I would still really like to move up. Does Greggs ever offer a shift manager position with less hours? Or would I just be moved onto a responsible person role

Appreciate any help ty!

This really, I had one sort of where my fingers meet palm where many tiny blisters had combined to one pretty big blister and it was in the way. After I squeezed it to release the pressure it was literally running down my hand 🥲 so gross and yet so satisfying now that I can make a fist again

F28, you can find the og post on aitah, filter by searching "fart" and then lookup this week and you'll easily be able to find it

It's so dumb what I ended up snapping over, my dad farted while cooking and didn't wash his hands while making food for tea and smiled about it, for the record I didn't yell or act out in any way, I was just angry and probably too curt but removed myself from the situation, and said I didn't want any food. I simply lost my appetite. I was in the height of my emotions, I'm going through other stressful things right now so I overreacted and posted in the aitah subreddit. That was a huge mistake since most of the people there were calling me ungrateful and a child or stupid. Now I feel like I way overeacted and spent most of the night crying

I didn't add it to the main post but spoke in the comments how my dad has been borderline abusive. He doesn't hit me or my mum, well he used to physically fight with my brother but I was pretty young then and used to hide so I don't know the extent of that. People are saying they'd hate to live with me too, as though I deserve it.

My dad is disabled, I am disabled and my mum is also disabled, but my dad takes it out of everyone else in ways you don't see in other people.

If we don't wait hand and foot on him (he literally used to have a bell for my mum to come serve him) he throws a tantrum, my mum has gotten so meek and just does everything he asks without a complaint, even if it physically hurts her to. She has a lot of pain and mobility issues yet every morning she makes two trips to bring him a coffee and then breakfast, and that's only the beginning of it. I've spoken to her about it, and my therapist about it and since she doesn't want change all I can do is live with it. I've been meek my whole life too on eggshells around him but I'm just sick of it.

If I try to talk to him about anything, he takes it as an attack no matter how gentle I am. He either says he won't be around much longer because of his disabilities (he's been saying this for the last 20 years), threatens su!c!de, or gives everyone in the house silent treatment, slammed doors and taking it out in the pets for days. Sometimes if he yells or I retreat into my room to cry he comes in against my wishes, tries to hug me (I'm autistic, do not like hugs at the best of times but he guilts me into it) sometimes he gets teary eyed, apologises and then promises not to do whatever it is that made me upset, this is frequent.

I have most of the conditions my parents do but are either more severe or have started earlier in life, I can only work part time and I only started my job a little over a month ago, it's great but won't afford me to move out on my own so I'm stuck here. My brother estranged himself from the whole family due to everything in his childhood, including me since he thought I sided with my parents, that's a whole other mess and my brother isn't... The best kind of guy either so reaching out to him for help isn't possible, he'd probably just laugh in my face and tell me it's what I deserve.

I'm just so tired of being here man, I'm sorry for the huge vent but especially with a new diagnosis this week my mental health has plummeted along with all my options for the future

Diagnosed EDS I think four or five years ago

Went in today to have a cyst removed on my finger, after they did an x-ray they basically said, whoops this is more complex, we need to book you for an ultrasound in a few weeks then we can remove the cyst. Also you have osteoarthritis 🫪

Listen, I get a lot of joint pain, I figured it was just a part of eds and dealt with it. Now I'm a 28 year old woman with arthritis? I've been having pains just like this for yeeaarrss across many of my joints and docs always put it down to growing pain or eds, scoliosis or hypermobility. If it weren't for the cyst I probably wouldn't have known for a good few years I'd bet

My mum has osteoarthritis and rheumatoid arthritis and she's totally disabled by it, she wasn't diagnosed until her thirties though. I guess I'm gonna need checking for that now too 😖 Still pretty raw about this with my future so sorry if I sound a bit doom and gloom

How many other people here got their EDS diagnosis followed by early onset osteoarthritis or vice versa? Is rheumatoid arthritis also common with EDS?

I'm F 28, had an appointment to remove a cyst in my middle finger today, upon doing x-rays I was told they can't do it until they take an ultrasound because I have osteoarthritis 🫩

I've had a lot of pain in my joints the last few years, the same kind I've been having in my finger with the cyst. I thought the pain in the finger was because of the cyst but apparently it's the osteo. I also have EDS and put a lot of my joint pain down to that.

Now I don't know if the joint pain across my body is eds or osteoarthritis. My mum has osteo and rheumatoid arthritis, she was diagnosed in her thirties and since then it's slowed her down a lot, she went from doing fairly active physical jobs to being almost completely disabled. I have to do a lot of things requiring dexterity for her since her hands are often really swollen and she can't bend her fingers.

I just feel like crying, I'm 28 but already been having this pain for years. Do I need to get tested for rheumatoid arthritis too now? What are the chances I'll inherit all these conditions from my disabled parents. (Mum rheumo, osteo, asthma, IBS. Dad Parkinson's, Crohn's, asthma among many others). I already have really severe asthma and allergies, IBS, eczema, scoliosis, autism, eczema and now osteoarthritis.

It's super stressful too because I've been working at a chain bakery for about a month now, it's physical and I'm enjoying it but I have a lot of pain after my shifts, I'd already booked time off because I thought I'd have stitches but now I'm gonna have to book it off in a few more weeks when they do the scan and can actually remove the cyst.

It honestly isn't fair, I've been really trying to turn my life around and make a big difference to my life and this feels like a life sentence

Been working there for about a month now, and this week especially I keep getting like, an almost whiff specifically of the coffee and the bacon that's kept under heat lamps for breakfast rolls- if you know you know. It's like how if you walk past someone having a cigarette then hours later it feels like the smells stuck in your nose

The coffee doesn't bother me, a little surprising since I keep craving it and I'm not a coffee drinker (addictive?) But the bacon one is really frustrating since I hate the smell and I'm a vegetarian 😭

I have IBS, mostly with constipation, and have suffered with hemerrhoids and fissures for a long time, now they've healed I know I have at least one skin tag but my perineum, the part between my anus and vagina I can't really tell. It's more like I wanna say a speed bump of extra skin rather than a true flap of skin like the one above my anus. It kind of stretches from my anus to my perineum, and it's soft like the skin tag 🙈 I don't really get hemerrhoids anymore (hallelujah) since I switched to a vegetarian diet and eat more fiber

It's more difficult to keep clean since they both partly cover my anus until I bear down, and I get really swollen around my bum whenever I'm on my period, particularly the perineum. It gets really irritated and even using cups rather than pads doesn't seem to help but I guess that's another issue. I think it's a mix of moisture/friction/general hormonal swelling- baby powder doesn't seem to help either. It feels like I've genuinely been rubbed raw even if I'm careful about friction, it just happens anyway and can make it hard to sit down cause it's really painful

I'm in the UK so what can I do about it, do I have to go private to get them removed? Any advice on the swelling during my period? Could it all be related?

It's my third week working at Greggs, did eight hours last week and I'm supposed to be also getting another two hours worth of pay because they forgot to pay me for my induction. I haven't had a payslip generated yet. My manager is off due to personal reasons until Monday and I really really don't want to bother her while she's dealing with very personal things, she's lovely btw and really helpful but I'm not sure who to contact in her absence.

Paid weekly on Thursdays. Does it sometimes come through quite late in the day?

Honestly it's really depressing.

I'm F28 and have disabilities that affect how much I can work. I'm finally in a really good spot mentally and physically right now, started a new job that I'm really enjoying, Greggs! It's only 8hours pw @12.91. I'm hoping to bump up my hours or possibly go for a shift manager position once I get more experience there, and I currently also get universal credit which around 558 pm

But even at 25 hours pw @13.80 as a shift manager would only be around £17940 plus I've worked out my universal credit would then drop to £1901.4 per year for a grand total of £19847.4 per year before tax.

I've currently just started saving in the last month (I'm autistic and didn't fully grasp the gravity of having savings, I've pretty much just been floating through life up until now which is both embarrassing and infuriating now that I'm getting my act together) so I've only got about £350 between a help to save account, a high interest savings pot @7.1% and a moneybox LISA. Now that I've started my new job I'm planning on saving the bulk of my wages, prioritising the help to save account so I can get the max bonus which I'll then chuck into my LISA for the added 25% gov bonus.

Is there literally any way from here I'll be able to afford to independently buy my own home within say, the next ten years? I want to avoid renting, but I'm also desperate to move out and have my own place, is it all a pipe dream?

Got an email today that let me know my credit score changed, it was 937 now down to 884.

I paid the stupid subscription fee to get a better look at what's happened, but there's zero information about who did this hard search or when. It goes from "one hard search" then I click on it and it says no hard searches. Odd. And annoying considering I just paid 15.99 to be able to access it.

I don't have any credit cards and haven't applied for anything, in the last couple of months I've opened a couple of different savings accounts, one with zopa, one with Halifax, I also opened a money box LISA and last night opened a government funded help to save account, from what I can tell none of these should have done a hard search. No debts, no missed payments so nothing should have changed

Where do I take this from here?