My friend was over the other night and he ended up cuddling me. But I didn’t stop him. He used to be in love with me, but in May he started seeing this other girl. Is this cheating, or am I reading too much into it?
My friend was over the other night and he ended up cuddling me. But I didn’t stop him. He used to be in love with me, but in May he started seeing this other girl. Is this cheating, or am I reading too much into it?
Ok. So this guy and I have been friends since October of 2025. Somewhere between I’d say March-May he fell in love with me. I kept turning him down. Now he’s with this other girl he met on a dating app. They’ve been “together” for 1-2 months? She lives like 2-3hrs away from him. So… yesterday him and I decided to hang out w/ each other and ended up speaking about our personals life.
Later that night I let him and we ended up watching TV together. We ended up playing slap hands? But then he ended up holding my hand, and I didn’t really move. He then ended up rubbing my hand, arm and hair. I ended up falling asleep on his shoulder and he rested his head on mine and put me to his chest. This may have lasted 2hrs. After when he left, I felt bad for multiple reasons.
Prior to him coming in we spoke about how I have a guard up all the time. We also had shitty days. When I texted him I asked him what it meant to him and if it meant more, and he ended up saying “I think I just felt extremely comfortable around you and I felt like I was protecting you and that made me happy. You seemed so happy and I really liked it and you seemed like you felt the same.” & “I was nervous of how much you always had your guard up and thought that you'd never allow me to do something like that so I never tried before” and “But you melted last night soooo, not so afraid of that anymore :)”
Fast forward to recent, I confessed to him and told him I loved him. As well as that I didn’t feel comfortable cuddling because of this. I finally understood what I was feeling and that night he made me feel things I haven’t in months. He appreciates that I told him, but isn’t going to leave her (I don’t want him to), & that he didn’t mean anything romantic w/ the cuddling.
I know what I did wasn’t right. But shit happens and we’re young and I’m not trying to play pity me or shift the blame.
Do you think this has deeper meaning? To me it did.
Is he saying it’s not romantic b/c he’s a player?
Am I over reacting, wrong for feeling like I was in a safe place?
Was none of this “romantic” or seems “romantic” and I’m wrong for thinking so? The fact that he was in love with me is what’s telling. And I don’t think love just fades like that. Dare I selfishly say I feel “used.” Maybe he’s not a bad guy and I have too many feelings.
I’m still in love with him.
Ok. So this guy and I have been friends since October of 2025. Somewhere between I’d say March-May he fell in love with me. I kept turning him down. Now he’s with this other girl he met on a dating app. They’ve been “together” for 1-2 months? She lives like 2-3hrs away from him. So… yesterday him and I decided to hang out w/ each other and ended up speaking about our personals life.
Later that night I let him and we ended up watching TV together. We ended up playing slap hands? But then he ended up holding my hand, and I didn’t really move. He then ended up rubbing my hand, arm and hair. I ended up falling asleep on his shoulder and he rested his head on mine and put me to his chest. This may have lasted 2hrs. After when he left, I felt bad for multiple reasons.
I felt like a scum for what ended up being cuddling when he’s in a relationship.
I was a scared that he’d say it meant nothing (something in me said he ended it w/ that girl)
Prior to him coming in we spoke about how I have a guard up all the time. We also had shitty days. When I texted him I asked him what it meant to him and if it meant more, and he ended up saying “I think I just felt extremely comfortable around you and I felt like I was protecting you and that made me happy. You seemed so happy and I really liked it and you seemed like you felt the same.” & “I was nervous of how much you always had your guard up and thought that you'd never allow me to do something like that so I never tried before” and “But you melted last night soooo, not so afraid of that anymore :)”
Fast forward to recent, I confessed to him and told him I loved him. As well as that I didn’t feel comfortable cuddling because of this. I finally understood what I was feeling and that night he made me feel things I haven’t in months. He appreciates that I told him, but isn’t going to leave her (I don’t want him to), & that he didn’t mean anything romantic w/ the cuddling.
I know what I did wasn’t right. But shit happens and we’re young and I’m not trying to play pity me or shift the blame.
Do you think this has deeper meaning? To me it did.
Is he saying it’s not romantic b/c he’s a player?
Am I over reacting, wrong for feeling like I was in a safe place?
Was none of this “romantic” or seems “romantic” and I’m wrong for thinking so? The fact that he was in love with me is what’s telling. And I don’t think love just fades like that.
What do you think his intentions were?
Ok. So this guy and I have been friends since October of 2025. Somewhere between I’d say March-May he fell in love with me. I kept turning him down. Now he’s with this other girl he met on a dating app. They’ve been “together” for 1-2 months? She lives like 2-3hrs away from him. So… yesterday him and I decided to hang out w/ each other and ended up speaking about our personals life.
Later that night I let him and we ended up watching TV together. We ended up playing slap hands? But then he ended up holding my hand, and I didn’t really move. He then ended up rubbing my hand, arm and hair. I ended up falling asleep on his shoulder and he rested his head on mine and put me to his chest. This may have lasted 2hrs. After when he left, I felt bad for multiple reasons.
I felt like a scum for what ended up being cuddling when he’s in a relationship.
I was a scared that he’d say it meant nothing (something in me said he ended it w/ that girl)
Prior to him coming in we spoke about how I have a guard up all the time. We also had shitty days. When I texted him I asked him what it meant to him and if it meant more, and he ended up saying “I think I just felt extremely comfortable around you and I felt like I was protecting you and that made me happy. You seemed so happy and I really liked it and you seemed like you felt the same.” & “I was nervous of how much you always had your guard up and thought that you'd never allow me to do something like that so I never tried before” and “But you melted last night soooo, not so afraid of that anymore :)”
Fast forward to recent, I confessed to him and told him I loved him. As well as that I didn’t feel comfortable cuddling because of this. I finally understood what I was feeling and that night he made me feel things I haven’t in months. He appreciates that I told him, but isn’t going to leave her (I don’t want him to), & that he didn’t mean anything romantic w/ the cuddling.
I know what I did wasn’t right. But shit happens and we’re young and I’m not trying to play pity me or shift the blame.
Do you think this has deeper meaning? To me it did.
Is he saying it’s not romantic b/c he’s a player?
Am I over reacting, wrong for feeling like I was in a safe place?
Was none of this “romantic” or seems “romantic” and I’m wrong for thinking so? The fact that he was in love with me is what’s telling. And I don’t think love just fades like that.
Ok. So this guy and I have been friends since October of 2025. Somewhere between I’d say March-May he fell in love with me. I kept turning him down. Now he’s with this other girl he met on a dating app. They’ve been “together” for 1-2 months? She lives like 2-3hrs away from him. So… yesterday him and I decided to hang out w/ each other and ended up speaking about our personals life.
Later that night I let him and we ended up watching TV together. We ended up playing slap hands? But then he ended up holding my hand, and I didn’t really move. He then ended up rubbing my hand, arm and hair. I ended up falling asleep on his shoulder and he rested his head on mine and put me to his chest. This may have lasted 2hrs. After when he left, I felt bad for multiple reasons.
I felt like a scum for what ended up being cuddling when he’s in a relationship.
I was a scared that he’d say it meant nothing (something in me said he ended it w/ that girl)
Prior to him coming in we spoke about how I have a guard up all the time. We also had shitty days. When I texted him I asked him what it meant to him and if it meant more, and he ended up saying “I think I just felt extremely comfortable around you and I felt like I was protecting you and that made me happy. You seemed so happy and I really liked it and you seemed like you felt the same.” & “I was nervous of how much you always had your guard up and thought that you'd never allow me to do something like that so I never tried before” and “But you melted last night soooo, not so afraid of that anymore :)”
Fast forward to recent, I confessed to him and told him I loved him. As well as that I didn’t feel comfortable cuddling because of this. I finally understood what I was feeling and that night he made me feel things I haven’t in months. He appreciates that I told him, but isn’t going to leave her (I don’t want him to), & that he didn’t mean anything romantic w/ the cuddling.
I know what I did wasn’t right. But shit happens and we’re young and I’m not trying to play pity me or shift the blame.
Do you think this has deeper meaning? To me it did.
Is he saying it’s not romantic b/c he’s a player?
Am I over reacting, wrong for feeling like I was in a safe place?
Was none of this “romantic” or seems “romantic” and I’m wrong for thinking so? The fact that he was in love with me is what’s telling. And I don’t think love just fades like that.
TLDR: Realized I’m in love w/ a friend at the “wrong” time.
Ok. So this guy and I have been friends since October of 2025. Somewhere between I’d say March-May he fell in love with me. I kept turning him down. Now he’s with this other girl he met on a dating app. They’ve been “together” for 1-2 months? She lives like 2-3hrs away from him. So… yesterday him and I decided to hang out w/ each other and ended up speaking about our personals life.
Later that night I let him and we ended up watching TV together. We ended up playing slap hands? But then he ended up holding my hand, and I didn’t really move. He then ended up rubbing my hand, arm and hair. I ended up falling asleep on his shoulder and he rested his head on mine and put me to his chest. This may have lasted 2hrs. After when he left, I felt bad for multiple reasons.
Prior to him coming in we spoke about how I have a guard up all the time. We also had shitty days. When I texted him I asked him what it meant to him and if it meant more, and he ended up saying “I think I just felt extremely comfortable around you and I felt like I was protecting you and that made me happy. You seemed so happy and I really liked it and you seemed like you felt the same.” & “I was nervous of how much you always had your guard up and thought that you'd never allow me to do something like that so I never tried before” and “But you melted last night soooo, not so afraid of that anymore :)”
Fast forward to recent, I confessed to him and told him I loved him. As well as that I didn’t feel comfortable cuddling because of this. I finally understood what I was feeling and that night he made me feel things I haven’t in months. He appreciates that I told him, but isn’t going to leave her (I don’t want him to), & that he didn’t mean anything romantic w/ the cuddling.
I know what I did wasn’t right. But shit happens and we’re young and I’m not trying to play pity me or shift the blame.
Do you think this has deeper meaning? To me it did.
Is he saying it’s not romantic b/c he’s a player?
Am I over reacting, wrong for feeling like I was in a safe place?
Was none of this “romantic” or seems “romantic” and I’m wrong for thinking so? The fact that he was in love with me is what’s telling. And I don’t think love just fades like that. Dare I selfishly say I feel “used.” Maybe he’s not a bad guy and I have too many feelings.
I’m still in love with him.
Ok. So it’s been about a couple months since this. But has anyone ever find out that after a friendship ended that they are better off without said other person? Such as your mood is better, you realized you’ve been treated poorly, and at the end of the day you didn’t align with the individual anymore? You realized you were spending time with people of “poor value” and “judgement” and now you just feel bad? They may have not have “bad judgment” the entire time, but you realize when it’s for how bad the friend has gotten & was? How do you not feel bad for hanging out with this person? I feel guilty for even associating myself with her at one point. She ended up being white trash. Very poor towards different people. I don’t want to say I didn’t see the signs, but I guess I got “used” to her. We were also like 6 when we met and she didn’t get like this until recently and now we are in our late teen and early 20s.
Has anyone ever find out that after a friendship ended that they are better off without said other person? Such as your mood is better, you realized you’ve been treated poorly, and at the end of the day you didn’t align with the individual anymore? You realized you were spending time with people of “poor value” and “judgement” and now you just feel bad? They may have not have “bad judgment” the entire time, but you realize when it’s for how bad the friend has gotten & was? How do you not feel bad for hanging out with this person? I feel guilty for even associating myself with her at one point. She ended up being white trash. Very poor towards different people. I don’t want to say I didn’t see the signs, but I guess I got “used” to her. We were also like 6 when we met and she didn’t get like this until recently and now we are in our late teen and early 20s.
Ok. So is Jax transgender? Because when I watched the movie my initial reaction was that he was gay, but then I was like remember that head cannon where people said he was trans. Is that the case and he’s closeted? But then that doesn’t make sense to me because at the end of the movie their humans selves were supposed to be at their happiest… and Jax went by he/him. I also took it as that any man/ person can feel this way regardless of sexuality or gender identity. I’d have to re-watch the movie/episode again at home to really understand/ take it all in. In no way am I trying to offend anyone, I’m just trying to get clarity! I love Jax! Maybe it’s something we aren’t meant to figure out and it’s supposed to be ambiguous. I’m leaning towards the ambiguous sentence and maybe we’re all meant to take it in our own way.
Has anyone ever left a friendship/ had a fallen out and realized that the person you had a fallen out with was not the best for you? Or realized how fake you may have been acting? I just look back at some things and I’m like wow.
Has anyone ever left a friendship/ had a fallen out and realized that the person you had a fallen out with was not the best for you? Or realized how fake you may have been acting? I just look back at some things and I’m like wow.
Hello. I matched with this guy and he seems nice. But he ended up asking me what my body count was & why. Does anyone else feel like this is a red flag?
Hello. I matched with this guy and he seems nice. But he ended up asking me what my body count was & why. Does anyone else feel like this is a red flag?