u/Pleasant_Loquat_5104

He is a self proclaimed incel. He complained about no women finding him attractive because he is ugly and short. He also claimed that women can't be incels. I showed interest and initiated conversation multiple times. Apparently I wasn't interesting and attractive enough for him because he dry texyed me back and eventually ghosted me. Fuck my fugly femcel life.

For decades men have been propped up as the "protectors". Media has portrayed men as selfless and heroic, protecting women from all sorts of danger. Now, in current day, there is a consesus in male spaces that protecting and helping women is no longer worth it. Why? Well because every woman is an insidious bitch, itching to ruin any unsuspecting man's life. These men complain about everything from false SA accusations, being thrown in jail on the spot, to women simply not being grateful. This is usually followed up with these men mocking women, repeating a variation of "they are strong independent women, aren't they? They can help themselves, I'm not risking it".

The fact is: this is an awfully convenient excuse. Men have never been protectors. Further, men lack selflesness and kindness to anyone but themselves. If we overlook the fact that men always have been and still is one if the biggest dangers to women, at best men simply do not care about womens' safety, they never have. The idea that men are natural protectors is a myth that has been spread by the patriarical society because it gives men false confidence without these men ever needing to actually prove themselves. And when they *do* have to prove themselves, they flaunder and protects their own skin. But because "men are natural protectors" is a commonly accepted idea, they can use every excuse to excuse their selfishness. "She had it coming, what was she wearing, she shouldn't have done that/been outside so late, she should have known better". Because, *obviously* it can't be the mens' fault.

So, when *every woman is on the verge of falsely accusing a man* these men are justified in never actually stepping up and fufilling a gender norm *they have created*. I, for one, have *never* in my life had a man stick up for me in any situation. But I *have* experienced men looking in awe, and almost amusement(?) As I have been harassed and threatened by men.

Please do note that nobody should be forced to sacrifice their safety or life for other people (except if that is literally your job). But to parade around for decades claiming to be a protector, you don't get to hide like a coward and make excuses when it's time to show up.

For decades men have been propped up as the "protectors". Media has portrayed men as selfless and heroic, protecting women from all sorts of danger. Now, in current day, there is a consesus in male spaces that protecting and helping women is no longer worth it. Why? Well because every woman is an insidious bitch, itching to ruin any unsuspecting man's life. These men complain about everything from false SA accusations, being thrown in jail on the spot, to women simply not being grateful. This is usually followed up with these men mocking women, repeating a variation of "they are strong independent women, aren't they? They can help themselves, I'm not risking it".

The fact is: this is an awfully convenient excuse. Men have never been protectors. Further, men lack selflesness and kindness to anyone but themselves. If we overlook the fact that men always have been and still is one if the biggest dangers to women, at best men simply do not care about womens' safety, they never have. The idea that men are natural protectors is a myth that has been spread by the patriarical society because it gives men false confidence without these men ever needing to actually prove themselves. And when they *do* have to prove themselves, they flaunder and protects their own skin. But because "men are natural protectors" is a commonly accepted idea, they can use every excuse to excuse their selfishness. "She had it coming, what was she wearing, she shouldn't have done that/been outside so late, she should have known better". Because, *obviously* it can't be the mens' fault.

So, when *every woman is on the verge of falsely accusing a man* these men are justified in never actually stepping up and fufilling a gender norm *they have created*. I, for one, have *never* in my life had a man stick up for me in any situation. But I *have* experienced men looking in awe, and almost amusement(?) As I have been harassed and threatened by men.

Please do note that nobody should be forced to sacrifice their safety or life for other people (except if that is literally your job). But to parade around for decades claiming to be a protector, you don't get to hide like a coward and make excuses when it's time to show up.

For decades men have been propped up as the "protectors". Media has portrayed men as selfless and heroic, protecting women from all sorts of danger. Now, in current day, there is a consesus in male spaces that protecting and helping women is no longer worth it. Why? Well because every woman is an insidious bitch, itching to ruin any unsuspecting man's life. These men complain about everything from false SA accusations, being thrown in jail on the spot, to women simply not being grateful. This is usually followed up with these men mocking women, repeating a variation of "they are strong independent women, aren't they? They can help themselves, I'm not risking it".

The fact is: this is an awfully convenient excuse. Men have never been protectors. Further, men lack selflesness and kindness to anyone but themselves. If we overlook the fact that men always have been and still is one if the biggest dangers to women, at best men simply do not care about womens' safety, they never have. The idea that men are natural protectors is a myth that has been spread by the patriarical society because it gives men false confidence without these men ever needing to actually prove themselves. And when they *do* have to prove themselves, they flaunder and protects their own skin. But because "men are natural protectors" is a commonly accepted idea, they can use every excuse to excuse their selfishness. "She had it coming, what was she wearing, she shouldn't have done that/been outside so late, she should have known better". Because, *obviously* it can't be the mens' fault.

So, when *every woman is on the verge of falsely accusing a man* these men are justified in never actually stepping up and fufilling a gender norm *they have created*. I, for one, have *never* in my life had a man stick up for me in any situation. But I *have* experienced men looking in awe, and almost amusement(?) As I have been harassed and threatened by men.

Please do note that nobody should be forced to sacrifice their safety or life for other people (except if that is literally your job). But to parade around for decades claiming to be a protector, you don't get to hide like a coward and make excuses when it's time to show up.

It is one thing being ugly and having ugly features. But it's another thing having ugly features that a minority of people have. The majority of people in my country have attractive features and bodies. So I stand out in a very bad way. It adds another layer of humiliation.

I don't have the guts to go all the way and really go deep. I only have surface level scars. But I really just want to go deep and get those deep visible scars. Because then my feelings would be valid. But I'm a coward and I'm scared of losing motor function by hitting a nerve. My shallow nothing-burger scars makes me feel like a larping loser. I'm a coward who don't have the guts to actually do it properly.

Not only is beautiful women pushed down my throat by media, but every single woman has to be sweet, charming, kind and confident as well. In stories with "judging people for their personality rather than looks" the female character is, first of, never actually ugly because god forbid an actual ugly woman is given grace, but she is always selfless and an amazing person. I'm sorry but I'm a spiteful and hateful person. I don't hate groups, but individuals. I'm bitter and vengeful, and have insane anger issues. I'm also just very selfish and apathetic. I genuinly can't bother caring about the contents of other peoples' life. I'm a bqd person, and I'm tired of pretending that I'm not.

Because the thing is: I try. I try so hard to be kind and attentative. I try to force myself to be chill and understanding. I always listen to my loved ones complaining or sharing happy moments because I know how important it is to be seen and heard. But deep down, I couldn't give less of a shit. I force my emotions in check at the slightest inconveniences and disrespectful encounters. But I so strongly want to choke everybody around me.

I'm tires of the notion that you should "just work on yourself and be charismatic". Yes, everyone can improve and become a better person. But acting like our personality is completely malleable is disingenious and simply wrong. By that definition we could all in theory become exact clones of each other. But I think everyone knows that we are all unique individuals exactly because we have a set of unique genetic traits. I'm sorry but my anger issues are never going to dissapear, I will always be selfish, and my lack of empathy is not fixable. I have no personality to fall back on because I am an inherently bad person. And that fundemental fact will never change.

Edit. Interesting how I described so many traits, yet people lasered in on the anger issues for some reason. Almost like most people actually know that there are limits to how much we can change so they only point out the one specific trait that can be semi-changed.