u/Range_Wolf1937

Today my (55M) father loudly opened my door and started to yell at me because I had moved a pair of his outdoor work gloves. I had previously been asleep and been startled to be yelled at over gloves. Apparently, he had spent 30 minutes looking for them (I had put them in his office). 

Now some context, my father has always hated having his stuff moved to places where he could not find them, which is understandable. I had grown used to this song and dance and when I started taking on the responsibility of cleaning the house each week, I made a notion to put anything of his that needed to be moved to his office desk. He had never complained about this and even said to my mother (55F) that he knew that if I had moved something it would be on his desk. Recently he has cleaned out his closet, and I have been placing some of his items (big items or coats/hats that could be hung) there since I knew that they would be easily found. However, I came up with the now stupid idea a week ago to get a hanger and clip one of his pairs of outdoor gloves on it and leave it front and center hanging in the closet. To further this, yesterday I had moved his other pair of gloves off the dining room table and put them on his desk, both actions were mistakes.

Now back to this afternoon (morning for me) I was abruptly woken by my door being loudly opened and my father angrily yelling/talking to me. Apparently both yesterday and today he spent 30 minutes looking for his gloves (my mother found the other pair for him the day before) and that he spent a whole hour that week looking for them. He had planned to go to my grandmother's house to mow her lawn, and he was upset that he wasted his time looking for them. He continued to lecture me about moving his stuff then threatened that if I did it again, he would send me to live with my grandmother. After I told him where the gloves were, he told me to go back to bed, turned the light off, and left. I was very shaken, because I was too scared to go back to sleep, two I was unsure if my mom was home, three I was scared that if I called her and she was home that my father would come back angrier, and three I was too scared to leave my room now. Eventually, I got the courage to call my mother. She was at my grandmother’s and was confused when I told her what happened. She immediately left and as she was driving back home to console me, she passed my father and apparently flipped him off whilst I was still on the phone with her.

Now I am sitting here wondering what to do going forward. I know what I did was stupid, and I take full responsibility for not realizing that he would not look in the closet for his gloves. However, he has threatened to kick me out over a pair of gloves. He has gotten very angry before over trivial and understandable things, but he has never gotten to the point of threatening to kick me out of my home. I am a college student who has not been working due to all the classes I have to take and now summer classes too. I honestly wonder if I should live with my grandmother since she lives a similar distance from my college. After this incident I don’t recognize my father anymore. He used to be so much calmer but now it seems he is getting worse as a person.

Where do I go from here? 

 TLDR: Father wakes me up angry over a pair of moved gloves and threatens to kick me out if it happens again. Where do I go from here?