u/Reasonable-Pilot5368

I Just had my Bachelorette weekend and we went on a cruise. I have a small bridal party ( Maid of honor, 2 bridesmaids, and also invited my mom and MIL and a close family friend on my Bachelorette trip. My maid of honor is my sister and my bridesmaids are my other sister and SIL. I had bought everybody gift bags filled with matching things for our cruise. Went all out to make sure everybody had what they needed. However, during the cruise it seemed like everybody went their own direction instead of staying with the group. My mom and one of my sisters actually stayed with me the whole time and were Champs. The rest of the crew kind of disappeared and did their own thing. The cruise activities I had planned were mostly done by everybody except my MIL and SIL. All they wanted to do was lay out on the deck and tan. They only went to the dinners with us. They also said they were going to participate in activities and then bailed last minute. I had a spa day planned for the bride crew and my SIL was the only one who did not want to participate. My MIL and SIL kept telling me they were ready to celebrate the last night with me and made an excuse to go to their room to "get something" after dinner and bailed. They went to lunch on their own at the island after saying they wanted to wait for me after I got done with my paddleboard session. I really wanted to play bingo and everybody went but my MIL and SIL. It's like they weren't there to celebrate me but to relax and hang out with each other on their own vacation. To hype me up saying they were ready to celebrate me to completely bailing on every activity. I am hurt by them because I feel that they made me look stupid and by lying to me and just not participating with the group. They didn't even wear the stuff I had got them from the gift bags. We planned to meet up for breakfast the last morning and they said they would and I got a text that morning saying they changed their time to get off the ship earlier and just left without saying goodbye. I'm so in shock how I was treated by them. I feel so different towards them after my cruise and don't look at them the same anymore. I am so grateful for my mom staying by my side the whole time constantly making sure I was having fun and my other sister. I had fun overall and am grateful to experience a wonderful trip planned by my maid of honor but am hurt by the actions of my MIL and SIL. I genuinely feel it was pointless for them to be there.

I need to know if I'm overreacting or right to feel the way I do. I Just had my Bachelorette weekend and we went on a cruise. I have a small bridal party ( Maid of honor, 2 bridesmaids, and also invited my mom and MIL and a close family friend on my Bachelorette trip. My maid of honor is my sister and my bridesmaids are my other sister and SIL. I had bought everybody gift bags filled with matching things for our cruise. Went all out to make sure everybody had what they needed. However, during the cruise it seemed like everybody went their own direction instead of staying with the group. My mom and one of my sisters actually stayed with me the whole time and were Champs. The rest of the crew kind of disappeared and did their own thing. The cruise activities I had planned were mostly done by everybody except my MIL and SIL. All they wanted to do was lay out on the deck and tan. They only went to the dinners with us. They also said they were going to participate in activities and then bailed last minute. I had a spa day planned for the bride crew and my SIL was the only one who did not want to participate. My MIL and SIL kept telling me they were ready to celebrate the last night with me and made an excuse to go to their room to "get something" after dinner and bailed. They went to lunch on their own at the island after saying they wanted to wait for me after I got done with my paddleboard session. I really wanted to play bingo and everybody went but my MIL and SIL. It's like they weren't there to celebrate me but to relax and hang out with each other on their own vacation. To hype me up saying they were ready to celebrate me to completely bailing on every activity. I am hurt by them because I feel that they made me look stupid and by lying to me and just not participating with the group. They didn't even wear the stuff I had got them from the gift bags. We planned to meet up for breakfast the last morning and they said they would and I got a text that morning saying they changed their time to get off the ship earlier and just left without saying goodbye. I'm so in shock how I was treated by them. I feel so different towards them after my cruise and don't look at them the same anymore. I am so grateful for my mom staying by my side the whole time constantly making sure I was having fun and my other sister. I had fun overall and am grateful to experience a wonderful trip planned by my maid of honor but am hurt by the actions of my MIL and SIL. I genuinely feel it was pointless for them to be there.

I need to know if I'm overreacting or right to feel the way I do. I Just had my Bachelorette weekend and we went on a cruise. I have a small bridal party ( Maid of honor, 2 bridesmaids, and also invited my mom and MIL and a close family friend on my Bachelorette trip. My maid of honor is my sister and my bridesmaids are my other sister and SIL. I had bought everybody gift bags filled with matching things for our cruise. Went all out to make sure everybody had what they needed. However, during the cruise it seemed like everybody went their own direction instead of staying with the group. My mom and one of my sisters actually stayed with me the whole time and were Champs. The rest of the crew kind of disappeared and did their own thing. The cruise activities I had planned were mostly done by everybody except my MIL and SIL. All they wanted to do was lay out on the deck and tan. They only went to the dinners with us. They also said they were going to participate in activities and then bailed last minute. I had a spa day planned for the bride crew and my SIL was the only one who did not want to participate. My MIL and SIL kept telling me they were ready to celebrate the last night with me and made an excuse to go to their room to "get something" after dinner and bailed. They went to lunch on their own at the island after saying they wanted to wait for me after I got done with my paddleboard session. I really wanted to play bingo and everybody went but my MIL and SIL. It's like they weren't there to celebrate me but to relax and hang out with each other on their own vacation. To hype me up saying they were ready to celebrate me to completely bailing on every activity. I am hurt by them because I feel that they made me look stupid and by lying to me and just not participating with the group. They didn't even wear the stuff I had got them from the gift bags. We planned to meet up for breakfast the last morning and they said they would and I got a text that morning saying they changed their time to get off the ship earlier and just left without saying goodbye. I'm so in shock how I was treated by them. I feel so different towards them after my cruise and don't look at them the same anymore. I am so grateful for my mom staying by my side the whole time constantly making sure I was having fun and my other sister. I had fun overall and am grateful to experience a wonderful trip planned by my maid of honor but am hurt by the actions of my MIL and SIL. I genuinely feel it was pointless for them to be there.

I need to know if I'm overreacting or right to feel the way I do. I Just had my Bachelorette weekend and we went on a cruise. I have a small bridal party ( Maid of honor, 2 bridesmaids, and also invited my mom and MIL and a close family friend on my Bachelorette trip. My maid of honor is my sister and my bridesmaids are my other sister and SIL. I had bought everybody gift bags filled with matching things for our cruise. Went all out to make sure everybody had what they needed. However, during the cruise it seemed like everybody went their own direction instead of staying with the group. My mom and one of my sisters actually stayed with me the whole time and were Champs. The rest of the crew kind of disappeared and did their own thing. The cruise activities I had planned were mostly done by everybody except my MIL and SIL. All they wanted to do was lay out on the deck and tan. They only went to the dinners with us. They also said they were going to participate in activities and then bailed last minute. I had a spa day planned for the bride crew and my SIL was the only one who did not want to participate. My MIL and SIL kept telling me they were ready to celebrate the last night with me and made an excuse to go to their room to "get something" after dinner and bailed. They went to lunch on their own at the island after saying they wanted to wait for me after I got done with my paddleboard session. I really wanted to play bingo and everybody went but my MIL and SIL. It's like they weren't there to celebrate me but to relax and hang out with each other on their own vacation. To hype me up saying they were ready to celebrate me to completely bailing on every activity. I am hurt by them because I feel that they made me look stupid and by lying to me and just not participating with the group. They didn't even wear the stuff I had got them from the gift bags. We planned to meet up for breakfast the last morning and they said they would and I got a text that morning saying they changed their time to get off the ship earlier and just left without saying goodbye. I'm so in shock how I was treated by them. I feel so different towards them after my cruise and don't look at them the same anymore. I am so grateful for my mom staying by my side the whole time constantly making sure I was having fun and my other sister. I had fun overall and am grateful to experience a wonderful trip planned by my maid of honor but am hurt by the actions of my MIL and SIL. I genuinely feel it was pointless for them to be there.

What's something that motivates you to get your day started? I'm struggling with waking up and getting stuff done around the house. I want to be more active during the day. I usually wake up, make my husband breakfast before he leaves for work. My 2 year old usually wakes up with us. I then make my toddler breakfast eat with him and end up being lazy on the couch until his nap time. I want to try to start waking up before my husband and toddler to actually put myself together for the day but I struggle with waking up early. Any advice?

I'm feeling very discouraged. I've come here because I just genuinely need advice because I feel like I have given my all and it's still not enough. This may be long so sorry in advance. I have an 11 year old son who was diagnosed with ADHD. I love him with all my heart but he is so unpleasnt to deal with. His behavior started worsening around 3rd grade. He gets in trouble at school alot and does not really do well listening at home either. I've tried routines, taking away things, even tried to see if an allowance would work but nothing. He doesn't express his feelings. I would ask every morning how do you feel today or after school i would ask questions about school he would just say "idk". He plays baseball. He never wants to go out and do anything (store, out to eat, even lately things he used to enjoy). He has a 2 year old brother who he plays very well with. He does like gaming and i fear he does have an addiction to his devices. The routine has been the devices are gone after a certain time and he is in bed at a certain time. He thinks my rules are "so stupid". It seems like he is never satisfied. For example: I bought him 4 different mattresses in the span of 3 years because they are always "uncomfortable" or I bought him a laptop very expensive perfect for gaming and now he is starting to say it's not good anymore he wants better. He has no emotions and every time I try to talk to him about these things he just doesn't communicate back or just says ok. I should add that me and his dad are no longer together. We've been separated for almost 4 years now. His dads house is completely different than mine. His dad is also a gamer and very well addicted. He has bad eating habits and very lazy overall. He stays there 3 times a week. He seems to enjoy it over there more than with me. I'm assuming it's because of the eating out everyday and he has absolutely no structure or routine over there. He goes to bed super late and even some times he tells me he didn't go to bed at all because he is on the computer all night. The routine will never be consistent because of the habits over there. But I try my best to make sure routine stays in my house. I have taken my son to the doctor for his adhd and behavioral problems. He is in behavioral therapy and does take a very low dose of adhd medication only when he's in school. Everything is just boring to him nowadays and it seems like nothing excites him anymore. I feel like he thinks I'm the bad parent because of my rules and routines but it's only to make sure he lives a healthier and better lifestyle. I do feel like the older he gets the more immature he gets. He acts very "silly" and does things out of impulse. He destroys things in my house and when i tell him not to do it he always has an excuse of why it's "ok" to destroy things like "it's not going to break" or "i don't use it anymore". Anytime i try to talk to him about his behavior he just doesn't take it serious. There's so much more I can go on about but this is a glimpse of what I'm dealing with. Any advice would be appreciated and helpful.