u/Responsible-Hat2456

life wasnt bad till stepping out n reading about mbti at the same time.. all the types n seeing how life treats them in practice.. living with roommates has shown me how easy all other ppl's lives are. Any problem they have is because of their own choices or irresponsible ness. Not because the world inflicted it onto them... n when they try a little they actually get further than us intjs sometimes...

whereas all intjs struggles r mostly becuse of obstacles in the outer world .. what do u think??

the more i analyse... we had one life man... is intj female even worth it...

I scratched a girl's hand when playing basketball back in school by mistake ... who was being mean to me with her friends in lessons n outside... like cliquey behaviour...

she was all in your face n getting me to take the bait... had a verbal spat... became really aggressive with my playing.. snatched the ball and scored. i think she fell behind me.. she stumbled n everyone went up to her n asked if shes ok... i just stood by the side looking elsewhere... she had blood in her mouth becus she hurt her mouth

she looked like about to cry n i couldnt care less...i high fived some team members... but noticed they all were concerned abt her instead... but everyone knew shes mean person...

then other fell n i went up to them, took care of them and made a huge fuss on purpose to make the girl feel irrelevant... like i dont care about u but i do abt others...

i made it awkward n everyone went quiet...even though im the one who was wronged first... ppl take bullys side.. nobody likes anybody who can defend...did i handle this wrong... this happens too much.. i look strong n ppl gravitate towards the dramatic person..

i went to the changing rooms n cried n told my friends i'd be late to next class ... i dont want to be mean but i cant help it in the moment... but i feel bad later

Do you actually read people/their feelings in live time?

Or does Ni pattern recognition determine where you've seen that type of person before? And then its as if opening a file with all the predicted emotions, actions of that person. So it's cheating kind of

my -sfj family critising intj cousin abt her everything...how shes mental weird n psychotic becuse she speaks weird... she is only one who has bought her own house.. carved her own path... compared to these dependent ones

not envy...they just think she is abnormal.. i asked why n they said becase they all went out shopping once n she bought a skirt w/t asking anybody else if they want buy too... i said what ?? maybe she assumed u can buy if u want without her babying u... they r good ppl.. which is shocking to me. not jealous types ... they just hate her

i overheard them saying she has no friends.. nobody to help her when she got autoimmune flare n admitted so she must be the problem... n saddest thing they said was ... she deserves it...

intj did some questionable things.. angry at someone for suggesting a name for her baby daughter she didnt like... could be polite but she exploded

is this even social skills or we think too logically for most n no one will get it ever...?

when ppl make me angry i go ice cold.. start telling them their flaws through endless taunts n how immoral they r.

i cant help myself... and do not care that i make enemies

whats a better way to handle this

ts so damn difficult keeping friends. friends gaslight me too much.. call me names...bad person. i should just ignore, keep relationships?? that's advice i've been given. sometimes jealousy... sometimes their insecurity..

i've never felt lower about myself. im giving... through my actions. I am also kind gentle careful with words. other people r excused for no reasons... so many bad comments, actions.. but i don't do anything n still i become a villain? I never like to cut off people.. but they set out to destroy me... noone communicates issues with me directly. They start doing a indirect manipulative thing. I can't stand it and i cut them out becos of that. not because am petty.

it looks like im the problem but i tolerate so much that no one even sees or appreciates... i feel really sad today... im not a bad person. but so many people think i am. when i hvnt even spent enough time in the real world to become bad

i'm a little ashamed of today's happenings... went on holiday with 1 istj and 1 esfj. Had gut feeling they r just use me to execute the trip... to deal with logistics n practical details. esfj decided location from someone snapchat story. even though is not practical to go there during this weather at all... i didnt plan as deeply as usual becos they also would refuse to meet up to discuss the trip. i booked nice accomodation..... had a lets wing it attitude becos why i be only one to plan (they invited me on it). esfj said she was busy so didnt help out at all but istj was free?

esfj was complaining non-stop. she loved the hotel n clicked pics everywhere of herself only... but then when some minor issues happened....like uber driver getting lost first. .. normal travel issues... she became super negative. badmouthing eveything.. and said she cant wait to go home multiple times... even calling me a mature grandpa sarcastically when i said its good to be grateful sometimes... to her... she helped out with nothing.. zilch. just vlogging everywhere n said hurtful things. I stood up for myself n istj then thought i was the bad person n took esfj side... thanking HER for the trip because she was why we went because she suggested location... big question mark. they didnt even say bye at airport on way out

i'm very hurt. should i have not stood up for myself? i dont think i handled it well

istj doesnt even realise esfj is using them... n manipulating. esfj is using the istj constantly n making istj angry and stressed by purposely acting hurt.. like that. i just had enough but i controlled a lot.

do you create tension after feeling ignored for too long?

Group is exchanging awkward looks seeing my moody and bored face. I tried talking to them but i was ignored multiple times. i hate attention-seeking.... seeking it is never a comfortable experience. but being left out is a really bad feeling for me. I'm looking at anywhere but them to revenge them. I feel even worse when someone try to draw me in again. Last time this happened, a relative told a story about how smart kid I was to put spotlight on me. I just wanted to cry after. i felt so much worse. I get a sense talking to me is like a task of extra effort for others...

trying to analyse deeply why I react like this. this kind of situation is often for me. Is it bitterness, narcissim, insecurity, or something else?

Is it rude if someone asked me if I wanted to change my religion to theirs?

intj females by looks of it... struggle with making big decisions. ig this is the first hurdle to execution right... what to do in the first place. i've seen a hesitancy after our deep analysis in deciding what next.

does this struggle come from wanting to make correct decision first time round coz we like avoiding uncertainty n further problems.

sadly we do kick the can down the road for a while when problems comes up that we did not expect or hv the skills to deal with

but perfect decisions made to eliminate problems that we r unable to handle is a fantasy

u hv that issue too?

In a relationship, I realised I love getting hurt. In all the ways you can. I want them to be mean and give adrenaline, I find it difficult to stay attracted if they're just stable. I even try to irritate them to make them more dangerous. My current partner doesn't entertain that kind of nonsense. It's pretty hot because he knows exactly who he is and doesn't always mould himself to what I want. I finish a lot faster when he hurts me a little.... maybe tmi

I'm in shock because I never imagined I'd be into that. I'm the complete opposite when single. Protecting myself, non-impulsive. So discovering I can be impulsive in some ways makes me feel guilty, sad and even unworthy. Am I a toxic person? I don't want to learn anything more about myself. I legit took a week's break from the relationship to sort this

Had a normal childhood and no major trauma.

with more success i left behind real friends who i can pay arms n legs to get back.

i pursued the newer richer shrewder friends. now there is a jealousy toward me and my success.. greater than theirs

my old friends never did that... now am wealthy but lonely. i miss their honesty and simple talks. i see their value now n i was so stupid, so stupid.

did u ever have this moment n how do you handle it ?

group of 4 of us r wanting to make mbti VR (virtual reality...)

want to show how life is from perspctive of all mbtis types. who gets ignored walking into room,, who is hugged from all 4 directions... what we say n how it is recieved by otherss.. what runs thru their heads. if ur intp then u can feel whats it like as estp n so forth

good idea or no ?? what more can we include in it

are we more than... just 'good point' person...?

can our created systems last without creating ten more problems...?? currently i offers a good insight here or there... but not i see the bigger picture enough... can we trust we do??

im told am thoughtful and sensible. i want to be brilliant. but i dont have any brilliant qualities.... just caring a lot... r we really masterminds? i would award that to intps n entps...

Hey all, been struggling with relationships a lot.

I think I come across as overbearing on dates. I end up being the funny, knowledgeable and talkative one with lots to share and lots of energy. But my dates are either impressed or intimidated and end up going quiet. Ends with them feeling like they are my co-workers. Or they think I'm trying to be "cute", from their expressions. I'm not full of myself, I just want to have a good time.

I can't find anyone who takes a genuine interest in me. I'm starting to think I'll end up alone with no one who loves me for who I am.

throughout my life i've noticed weird, personality disordered people manage to find me somehow. in real life but also online.

i don't know why? it must be the way I write, walk, look. Idk what they sense. Does this happen to you all too?

After reading her books, I walk around in real life like everybody is a potential murderer lol. Life feels so much more dangerous.

Watching Peter Rabbit now to feel better

(sorry, kind of a silly post)

I play with the soft inside bits of my fingers 99% of the time. Not sure if it's necessarily for 'relief'. I just have a compulsion to do it.

Anyone else share this habit?

Was in 99th percentile of maturity as a kid. As an autistic adult, it's the opposite. The reason is because the more I see, the more I don't want to leave my room, want to be left alone. I've lost my ambition, walk around with fear. I feel sad even in happy moments.

I've lost interest in milestones that most people have like finding someone, getting married, career goals. It doesn't happen easily anyway. Meeting friends and people who genuinely like you is rare. My hope is kind of gone.

The solution is putting yourself out there more, but I don't want to. I don't fit in and I never will. Most things are not made for me to enjoy my way. Now that I've got a label, I feel free from the high expectations I set myself.

Does life turn around for people like us? Or are we forever treated like outcasts for being who we are.

I'm told and feel too serious for my age. Many others around me are much more high achieving, knowledgable, experienced.... but they don't take themselves so seriously and have a naturally relaxed vibe about them.

I can sense me bringing the whole energy of the room down by saying something weird. I'm often shocked to see people's real self around people they feel comfortable with. And how we are a lot more distant than I thought we were.

Because I fail so much at tiny tasks, I'm thinking about myself and how not to mess up 99% of the time.

Missing out on so much because of this.