u/Shawminah-Queen

I feel embarrassed posting here, I know I need therapy for the longest time now which is why I go to church sometimes, and it has been helping, but more often than not it’s exhausting getting my kids ready in the mornings as I’m the only one doing it myself while my husband does God knows what.

So we tried 8:30am

Then we tried 10:00am

And then 11:30am

We are late every dam time and I eventually got frustrated especially one day when after a whole hour of finally convincing my 5 year old son to get ready, he finally gets ready then I can’t find his socks and he can’t pick which pair of shoes to wear, so I spent minutes trying to convince him what shoes to wear.

I struggle my 3 year old daughter into her car seat and then now we are sitting and waiting for their dad (30m)

Well wait I forgot I need to clean up our home bc I can’t leave it messy, so I go and put things away and sweep a bit, and this guy is still doing God knows what.

So long story short I didn’t want to go to church anymore at least not until the kids are much older.

I find myself getting easily irritated with my kids and dreading them waking up, I wake up at 5 then they’ll wake up like an hour later. It doesn’t matter what time I wake up, my kids always wake up 1 hour later and demand snacks and juice first thing in the morning.

The other night I tried sleeping in the living room then my husband and kids decided to sleep with me.

I can’t catch a fkn break, my sleep almost every night is broken.

I feel so fkn horrible bc the kids were fighting over my husband’s phone and I threw it, I only broke the case but I just know he’ll be mad about that and give me an earful for that.

I feel horrible being this way.

I just know people will jump down my throat for that, I scared my son :( I know I need help.

So anyway… are there any apps or anywhere affordable I can go to take myself to therapy or anger management?

My husband thinks he’s a loser, I just can’t see why other than his mom always judging him and he’ll have dreams of her telling him that he’s a “loser”.

He always feels badly about himself, but I can’t help but feel like he resents me a bit.

He’s a business owner with polishing (I think that’s very cool as he has his OWN business and not working for someone else)

But he’s been discouraged and im not sure what to do.

I used to work here and there and eventually stopped due to having kids and lack of support system. I keep telling him I’ll go back to work once both kids are in school. I don’t know not sure if he believes me.

I believe we are doing fairly well for ourselves, sure we need to budget better, but we have our own home (mobile home or not it’s ours at least) and he’s able to save some money, and I as well from doing surveys online, I haven’t splurged all my money like how I would before, I only got gel I needed for my gums, and a pizza as it’s close to my daughters birthday (today is her birthday now) and I have 53 dollars saved, enough to get her a toy and some clothes.

My husband watches Caleb Hammer and he feels even more so of a loser, I ask him why he watches him if he just feels bad about himself.

Am I thinking too optimistic? Are we really losers like how he thinks he is?

(Also his mom(50f) has never outright called him a loser, just makes him feel like that, but I think sometimes maybe he’s just too hard on himself, so any “signs” he sees validates his “reality”

Are we losers?

How do I make him feel better? ❤️‍🩹

Every weekend is lonely I wanna spend time with family, my husband’s cousin used to hang out with us almost every weekend, and after Bible study he just stopped. Last weekend we tried calling and texting him multiple times, I told my husband to call his mom (as he has a habit of losing his phone) and he refuses.

The other day my husband dreamt his mom called him a loser so he’s hesitate to invite his mom to do anything with us.

I want the weekend to be family time.

Oh well…

This is just really depressing and causes me anxiety like maybe everyone does think we are losers so won’t hang with us.

Went to church ⛪️ for a year and a half and no friends still lol 😂

This generation sucks.

So my 5 year old son lied

I (26f) was inside for a bit to clean and check on my kids every 15 minutes

And I was inside for a bit, and my son came running inside, my 2f year old followed him

My son hid in the room

I asked, “what’s wrong?”

And kept asking as he wouldn’t say anything, he was really scared and twiddling his thumbs.

Then finally I ask “are you ok? It’s ok you can tell me.”

And he mumbled “Grandpa hit me.”

So obviously I was furious, and I march out and told my husband (30m)

And together we confronted his stepdad (52m)

And he claims that he didn’t touch our son

I didn’t believe him as he has a history of whooping his kids butts

Then he finally asks his friend’s kid (7m) as he’s a witness

The kid says that my daughter threw dirt on him, then son proceeds to chase her with a stick, and grandpa got mad and told him “no!” Firmly

Son runs inside after that

I believed him after that as there’s dirt on my son

And husband and I apologized like endlessly

Now I’m sitting here wondering why my son would lie a big lie like that

Usually it’s over dumb small things

I took away tv privileges for the night

How should I go about this? Right now I’m trying to get him to apologize to his grandpa

🤦🏼‍♀️

So I (26f) give chocolate coconut bars to MIL

And then her and FIL (52m) ask what kind of party I’m doing for my daughter (2f)

Even though the other day I told them I’m taking her out instead

I quickly said “no”

Then added, “we are taking her out instead, you guys are welcome to join. We are going out to eat then the mall.”

They weren’t too happy lol 😂

I don’t know if I can post this here, but just a little achievement for me for setting boundaries and not being afraid.

It felt good! 😊 👍 (even though it was such a small boundary, but still)

AITAH (26f) for being upset at (let’s call him Don) husband (30m) for not sorting through his mail and keeping the important stuff somewhere safe like his wallet or drawer?

I’m a fkn SAHM for crying out loud, and wtf do SAHMs do? They clean and cook and clean, clean, clean!

If the table is cluttered of random junk mail, especially with a bent card next to crumpled booklet, guess what? Im throwing it away!

Then he gets all huffy and puffy if he can’t find his important mail, his fkn Achieva card that he hasn’t activated, then proceeds to dig through the trash to get it.

I was about to tell him to just get a new card.

But noooo

Like seriously he fkn stresses me out.

So he’s fine now after he got mad at me about his dumb card that only has 100 on it.

AITAH for being upset with him now and done sorting through his mail?

I seriously don’t know what I (26f) else can do to drop hints at her so she doesn’t ever feel like hosting a party for my daughter again.

Last year for my daughter’s second birthday she hosted a party for her without my input, never asked me or my husband (30m) what cake we wanted for her, or what food we wanted, or even the guests. Then she had the audacity to tell me how to dress my daughter, she picked out a dress for her and told me she wanted her to wear it. And I had my son (5m) dressed already in his outfit I wanted for him, and he was with her for only 5 MINUTES and was dressed into different clothes. Some tacky shark 🦈 shirt and black shorts.

I dressed him back into what I wanted, a floral shirt with some pants, that gave off prince 🫅 vibes, and I dressed my daughter in a pink dress with a silver sparkly buttery pin and a gold sparkly butterfly hair clip that gave Princess 👸 vibes.

This year MIL asks when’s my daughter’s birthday, and husband and I haven’t said anything, I told him “great now she’s going to throw a birthday party without our input again.”

I honestly thought she’d take the hint when I dressed my kids how I wanted anyway in spite of her input. But she’s at it again.

So now I’m thinking I should just confront her, just ask her “why? So you can throw a party again without my or DH input?”

Like what’s with her, she wants to host everything I should be hosting.

UPDATE: So my husband and I had a talk and he says he doesn’t care, and it’s up to me what I want to do and he’ll go with it. So we are taking our kids out to Dave n Busters or Chuck E Cheese, and then Once Upon a Child and then getting either Chinese food or pizza, and then I’m picking out a cake!

*sigh* I feel like I’m always posting on here but I (26f) have nobody to come to for advice

I know I should just tell her to back off or not take my daughter (2f) to RCMA (a free daycare for low income families)

I want to take her so I can finally look for work for part time. But now I’m not wanting to.

First of all I never told MIL I wanted to take my daughter to RCMA.

A bit of background btw, she’s best friend’s with the principal there at the establishment.

And it irks my SOUL that whenever I used to take my son (5m) to RCMA, the principal (60f) would tell MIL everything about my son , I forget the specifics but this one stuck out to me the most was when I told the daycare I couldn’t take my son due to transportation issues as husband (31m) uses truck for work. And there’d be most often than not days where we can’t take him.

And anyway the next day MIL says she can drive my son or have someone drive him, so the principal called MIL and told her what I said to the daycare which I find unprofessional.

Well noooooow, just yesterday I called RCMA to see how I can enroll my daughter, and then MIL later in the day tells me that I can take her in tomorrow. So they called her again for some reason about how I wanted to take my daughter there. And I already told them that my husband and I can go there do them and enroll, but they were saying on the phone that I need MIL to write a letter to basically get the OK for my daughter to go to RCMA.

I’m already crazy about this because first of all why the heck do I need MIL’s approval to take my daughter, nobody else has to do that.

So now I’m not wanting to take my daughter now just to stick it to MIL and the daycare.

I need the break but now I’m thinking of having husband ask her to watch the kids every once in awhile since she wants to be invasive and always ask for favors anyway about her dam cats.

I don’t know 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m seriously peeved off right now, I don’t know if I should subtly stick it *to her *or just confront her nicely.

Edit: I’m also on my period so idk if it’s just hormones but her being nice I find invasive and rude and yeah it makes me mad that I want to punch something

So I’ve(26f) posted here a couple times before

But this is something that caught me a bit off guard

For a quick peek into my life, my family and I live in a decent mobile home on their property, we are in the back of their house 🏡 husband (30m) pays for the electricity bill that’s it, and he helps FIL out with bounce houses and tents if he isn’t working with his own business (polishing). And pays someone to mow the lawn as well.

And so with that out of the way

Yes we are on their property

But I find it a bit weird that FIL goes on our side and is only a feet away from our mobile home

Outside of our home is sand, stone steps, a small fridge with eggs and drinks like sparkling water and such. Some tents so my husband isn’t hot while working on rims outside, and a go cart.

So it’s not like he’s some distance away, but this is a third time I’ve noticed he’d go on our side close to the RV and look around and leave whenever the truck is gone, but I feel like after he hears the kids and I in our home he’ll walk off.

To me I just find it odd, if he’s just getting some sparkling water that’s perfectly fine as it’s ok for us to get soda or juice from their fridge.

I don’t know,.. has anyone dealt with this before? Like is he just being nosey? I told my husband and he just brushed it off.

Should I talk to FIL about this sort of confront him? Or just leave it up to my husband?

It unnerves me.

I’m sorry if this has been asked before, I couldn’t find the page or the post. But has anyone actually competed the FULL game not just getting the divine beasts and defeating Ganon. I mean everything, shrines and side quests and main quests and finding all the Korok seeds, and completing outfits and all. I’ve been playing this game for 3 months now, and I still haven’t found all the Korok seeds, or completed all the shrines or outfits. I wanna get all the monster items, and the ancient items.

This game is super long and there’s just so much to do.

The title says it all she’s (50f) is offended because my husband (30m) took me out to eat in town somewhere nice. And she’s offended for no reason because he told her that he’d take her out tomorrow. But that doesn’t change anything she’s still offended as her daughter (27f) as well.

He only took me out (26f) as actual Mother’s Day is Mexican and American. And he figured that she’d be busy with work besides the weekend.

And he even asked her earlier during the day if she wanted to go and she didn’t say anything all day. He even told her on the phone after we had ate that he’ll take her tomorrow. But she still told my SIL and now SIL is all mad and taking her out to eat now.

lol 😂 like ok wtf.

Everyone’s beautiful to me, like magnificent sculptures shaped of different cultures

I look at myself and see those Pablo Picasso paintings, my face all distorted into something hideous and unknown

I can’t seem to love myself no matter what, and yet I love others so easily, it makes me feel queasy

I’m beneath them like a worm to birds, flocks of beauty pecking at the grotesque, like it’s a test of endurance