u/SithisWorshiper

I'm four weeks post op from a hysterectomy where they took everything except the ovaries. Now my surgeon is a pretty just cut and dry guy. He isn't going to ask if you have any questions. He's gonna tell you what he's going to do and that's it. But I didn't know what questions to ask? So maybe this is on me.

I caught a chest cold a few days ago and every time I cough I pee myself a little. Which never happened pre op. One time I even just straight up peed my pants. After looking into it it's pretty common to lose some bladder strength after a hysterectomy but he never mentioned that. I had to look to this subreddit and the internet for all the dos and dont's. If I have to wear pads again because I leak whenever I cough or sneeze I'm gonna be so mad. I had to wear them for two years straight because of my faulty uterus. Now it's gone and there's still liquid coming out of me! I swear I can't win.

Boy transitioning to a life with no uterus is just so fun sometimes. I thought people were exaggerating the post hysterectomy hormone changes. 😭

He swears he can help me, and take care of them, and all our animals but I know him and he can't. I want to come home after surgery and be able to not wear pants and recover in a clean, comfortable environment. But he decided that he has to have the kids literally less than 24 hours after I have surgery and they'll be here for four days.

They are loud and messy and pee all over the toilet and fight and yell and slam every door etc. They rile up my two 80 pound dogs and spill everything. My house has a living room, two bedrooms, a kitchen and one bathroom. And I'm supposed to share that space with obnoxious preteen boys after a whole body part is removed. I'm going to have to wear a bra and pants the whole time. And clean the pee off the floor so I can shower without stepping in it. And forget recovering on the couch because they HAVE to play Deltarune and it's the only TV in the house.

I feel so hurt he couldn't even pick me this one time when I need help. Like physically actually need help. They were here the whole Summer. He could've done any other weekend. I told him to not even bother coming to the hospital and I will just drive myself there and drive to my mom's house that's 3 hours away after. I don't wanna mess up his weekend of playing video games all day with his kids that's apparently more important than me.

I am looking for anyone or any place that will let me in to their abandoned property to explore. It doesn't even have to be some big well known place. I'd just really like to be able to go somewhere like a ghost town, or an old prison, or whatever, but where I can explore it on my own at night. I'm in the eastern Idaho area but go to southern Idaho a lot as well. Everywhere I can find is either in Boise or they don't let the public inside. Any ideas or suggestions on who to contact or where to start?

SO good. I've wanted to shave my head forever. I had hair that went just past my shoulders. I colored and bleached it so many times. Did every color you could think of. It was so dry and broken and frizzy and heavy. And every time I wore it down I just ended up pulling it up. I started seeing videos of women buzzing their hair and they all just GLOWED after. I took it as a sign and I did it.

I haven't told or shown anyone yet. Including my husband. I don't think he's gonna be happy about it but you know what? I feel happy about it. And it's my hair. And just with everything, it's only temporary. :) I feel the most like me I've felt in a long time.

Update: Husband came home from work. I kid you not he won't even look at me. He has yet to even make eye contact with me or say one thing about it. It hurts a little but he barely looked at me before anyway. I still feel good with it and I'm excited to learn more about myself in this transition.

I feel like I am seeing more downvoting lately on just normal frustrations anyone would have about being in a parental role.

I know there's adults who lurk this sub just to express frustration at step parents frustrations but it's gotten bad lately. Don't these people have anything better to do?

I have two step sons who are 13 and 11. They live with their mom and step dad about 4 hours away. I always dread the summers because it means long stays. My house is small and it gets crowded quickly with two extra people here. Every flat surface is covered in their stuff. Trading cards, stuffed animals, candy, books, toys, etc. The only TV in the house gets taken over the whole time so they can play video games. Even my personal computer gets used so they, the two kids and my husband, can all play Minecraft together. Even though all my husband does is yell at them because they aren't playing the way he wants them to.

But this visit has drained me from 30% battery to 5%. With no charging to be found. Because right before they came for their 3 week stay, my husband ran out of his medication. And he has to go back to his doctor to get more refills. And he's not going to do that while the kids are here because he'll "miss time with them." And when he doesn't take his medication the difference is noticeable and downright intolerable. He has ADHD and Autism and his medication really helps him focus and regulate and have structure. When he doesn't take it, he acts just like his kids. So essentially I have three 12 year old boys in my house and no parent. I can't talk to him about anything without him interrupting multiple times to make sound effects, fake punch me and the dogs, dry hump me, grab at my chest, or say one of his three vocal stims 10 times. I just tried to talk to him about our dogs paw pads because they are drying out and fraying and I couldn't say three words without him interrupting me to put his junk in my face or fake punch me with sound effects. I feel so exhausted and stranded and I honest to god can feel the effects of the stress in my body all day. I can't sleep. My joints hurt. My chest hurts. I can hardly think. I go to work and I don't want to come home because it's just a turbulence of children and a partner that acts like a child.

They all went out of town overnight for one night and it's the first time in months I slept through the whole night and felt like I wasn't on edge.

I work in the public and attended a couple events today as well and I only saw two people wearing horrendous MAGA merch. Everyone else went with a much more America focused attire and less politician focused.

I live in a tiny, isolated, mostly LDS and majority Conservative town so it was just nice to see most people expressing love for their country and not the men who run it.

That's it. I have no clue why it happened. I haven't crafted anything from The Death Roll outfit yet and yet there I was dripped out in it from head to toe. I changed my clothes because I don't feel like that outfit fits my Arthur and then it completely disappeared from my inventory.

What a strange glitch.