u/Sleepy_Sheepz

So I 19 genderfluid, just moved in with my boyfriends family. I’m currently not financially stable and I’m out of money on my EBT card. I have 20$ in emergency cash while my boyfriend has 10$ in emergency cash. Due to some issues with his bank he doesn’t have access to his money temporarily. I’m not going to get to into details with that because it’s super frustrating but it’s being worked out.

That being said last week me and my boyfriend needed to pick up eggs from the store. We have just enough left on my card to get the eggs. My boyfriend’s friend will call him Dave wanted to join us so we let him join. Before we left the house we told Dave we don’t have enough money for eggs and fast food, so he can get fast food while we buy eggs then meet up with him afterwards.

Dave decided that instead of eating alone he’ll just pay for our food. Me and my boyfriend were very appreciative and thanked him a lot. We also told him the next time we go out will cover for him. In total we spent no more than 9$ plus tax, I got a drink and a small snack while my boyfriend just got a drink and we split the snack between each other. Dave on the other hand got a full meal. Afterwards we went shopping and got the eggs and headed back.

Well once we got back to my boyfriend’s house, Dave requested the money back. I was really confused because I thought Dave was treating us. My boyfriend said that Dave had changed his mind and wanted us to pay him back. Since Dave isn’t really my friend my boyfriend gave him, his money.

I don’t have a problem with paying people back, the issue was that we were told that Dave would cover for us and we don’t owe him anything. If I knew he would change his mind later on I would have insisted that we just get the eggs and Dave could meet up with us later. I feel like I’m overreacting mainly because one of my other friends said there’s nothing wrong with what he did.

So Reddit am I overreacting for being frustrated that my boyfriend’s friend wanted us to pay him back for dinner?

So let me just start the post off by saying, I’m doing better. This happened in 2022 when I had my first ever failed attempt at taking my own life. This also took place when I was a sophomore in high school just for context. This is what happened in the nightmare.

It started off as a regular morning getting ready for school, I took a hand full of pills hoping to end it all in my dream. I got really sick and the earth started to shift, I ignored it because what can I do about a random earthquake. I ran outside and the air felt thick and warm I felt like somebody was holding me down and choking me out. My bus pulled up to my house and I got in.

I went to school listening to music when I suddenly heard screaming. I got off my bus to see students running away. It was nothing but panic and disease in the air. A few students were falling to the ground shaking and vomiting. Students were dying everywhere and being dragged out by men in hazmat suits. The main people who were alive but suffering the most were my old friend group and my best friends. They were in pain with blisters forming all over their bodies.

Some of them coughed up blood and held each other tight. They were being quarantined in those giant clear plastic bubbles, but you could tell they won’t live long. They were crying and begging for their pain to end sooner. Some even blamed me and cried asking why I made them all suffer. I was then pinned to the ground and shoved into the pavement face first by the hazmat suit people. I was then labeled patient zero and thrown into the plastic room to join them.

We were probably the last survivors of that plague but were suffering the most. My eyes were turning red and my skin started to form the blisters faster. I was choking and dying even faster now and all I could do was cry and apologize. My voice was getting horsed and my lungs were filled with blood as I cried harder and kept saying I’m sorry. Before I woke up I had to watch everyone die huddled together.

I’m not to sure what that nightmare was supposed to mean but it terrified me when I woke up.

So I (19 genderfluid) had this happen back in October of 2025. My parents keep bring this up to remind me how selfish I was so I want to know if I was in the wrong.

So for starters when I was 18 my aunt came over for an even my mom was hosting. I came with them but after the event I found out we only have for dinner fish and some baked vegetables that I don’t eat. Think brussels sprouts, roasted peppers, baked asparagus etc. for starters I’m allergic to fish so I can’t eat that and I don’t recall the vegetables, I just know it’s all food that I usually refuse to eat.

(I do eat vegetables but I have a few vegetables that I typically won’t eat those are just the few I don’t eat.)

So I skipped dinner that day. Come the next day there was no food for dinner. All day I was begging my parents if we can go to the good Mexican food place. It’s my favorite restaurant to eat at and sadly it was shutting down in three weeks. This place has been around before I was born.

My mom told me she will think about it, so I get dressed and ready because there’s no food in the house and my mom hates going shopping when we have a guest. As soon as I got out of the shower my parents started rushing me to finish getting ready so we could get food. I wasn’t even told we were about to leave I was being rushed the second I stepped out of the shower.

So after quickly getting ready and running out the door I made it to the car. This part is important, there’s two Mexican food places close to each other we got “good Mexican food place” and “bad Mexican food place”. My parents know I hate the “bad Mexican food place”. Every time I eat there I either leave hungry or I leave and have bad diarrhea sometimes even vomiting. My parents are very much aware of this, that is why I never go with them when they choose to eat at “bad Mexican food place”. Before we left the house while I was getting in the car I ask which Mexican food places are we eating at. my dad said “your favorite one” I assumed that meant we’re eating at “good Mexican food place”.

I was excited especially since my favorite place was shutting down on Halloween night. Once we started driving we started pulling into “bad Mexican food place” parking lot. I was confused I was just told ten to fifteen minutes prior that we’re eating at my favorite place why are we now eating here. My dad started laughing at me for thinking we were actually going to eat at “good Mexican food place”.

My dad told me to get over it and I can chill in restaurant while everyone else ate and afterwards I can get food at “Jack In The Box”. I refused to leave the car I needed some space from my parents and aunt. I decided that I wouldn’t go in because I was really hurt by my dad lying to me as well as how I was treated by my parents throughout the day. I stayed out of the restaurant and decided to wonder around different gas stations looking around.

Apparently I made my aunt feel uncomfortable by not joining them at dinner so she no longer wanted to eat at “bad Mexican food place”. So she ordered her food to go, because of that my parents did the same.

The most ironic part about this, my parents had diarrhea after eating there. Yet I was still considered selfish by my parents. So Reddit am I the bad apple for refusing to eat dinner with my family?

TL;DR My parents and aunt wanted to get dinner. Before we went to get food my dad lied and made me think we were eating at a place I like. We went to a place that I not only don’t like but makes me get sick after eating there. I refused to eat there due to being hurt by the lie I was told. Due to me not eating with my family my aunt got uncomfortable and refused to eat at the restaurant. Am I the Bad Apple?

So I (19 genderfluid) had this happen back in October of 2025. My parents keep bring this up to remind me how selfish I was so I want to know if I was in the wrong.

So for starters when I was 18 my aunt came over for an even my mom was hosting. I came with them but after the event I found out we only have for dinner fish and some baked vegetables that I don’t eat. Think brussels sprouts, roasted peppers, baked asparagus etc. for starters I’m allergic to fish so I can’t eat that and I don’t recall the vegetables, I just know it’s all food that I usually refuse to eat.

(I do eat vegetables but I have a few vegetables that I typically won’t eat those are just the few I don’t eat.)

So I skipped dinner that day. Come the next day there was no food for dinner. All day I was begging my parents if we can go to the good Mexican food place. It’s my favorite restaurant to eat at and sadly it was shutting down in three weeks. This place has been around before I was born.

My mom told me she will think about it, so I get dressed and ready because there’s no food in the house and my mom hates going shopping when we have a guest. As soon as I got out of the shower my parents started rushing me to finish getting ready so we could get food. I wasn’t even told we were about to leave I was being rushed the second I stepped out of the shower.

So after quickly getting ready and running out the door I made it to the car. This part is important, there’s two Mexican food places close to each other we got “good Mexican food place” and “bad Mexican food place”. My parents know I hate the “bad Mexican food place”. Every time I eat there I either leave hungry or I leave and have bad diarrhea sometimes even vomiting. My parents are very much aware of this, that is why I never go with them when they choose to eat at “bad Mexican food place”. Before we left the house while I was getting in the car I ask which Mexican food places are we eating at. my dad said “your favorite one” I assumed that meant we’re eating at “good Mexican food place”.

I was excited especially since my favorite place was shutting down on Halloween night. Once we started driving we started pulling into “bad Mexican food place” parking lot. I was confused I was just told ten to fifteen minutes prior that we’re eating at my favorite place why are we now eating here. My dad started laughing at me for thinking we were actually going to eat at “good Mexican food place”.

My dad told me to get over it and I can chill in restaurant while everyone else ate and afterwards I can get food at “Jack In The Box”. I refused to leave the car I needed some space from my parents and aunt. I decided that I wouldn’t go in because I was really hurt by my dad lying to me as well as how I was treated by my parents throughout the day. I stayed out of the restaurant and decided to wonder around different gas stations looking around.

Apparently I made my aunt feel uncomfortable by not joining them at dinner so she no longer wanted to eat at “bad Mexican food place”. So she ordered her food to go, because of that my parents did the same.

The most ironic part about this, my parents had diarrhea after eating there. Yet I was still considered selfish by my parents. So Reddit aitj for refusing to eat dinner with my family?

TL;DR My parents and aunt wanted to get dinner. Before we went to get food my dad lied and made me think we were eating at a place I like. We went to a place that I not only don’t like but makes me get sick after eating there. I refused to eat there due to being hurt by the lie I was told. Due to me not eating with my family my aunt got uncomfortable and refused to eat at the restaurant. Am I the Jerk?

So I (19 genderfluid) had this happen back in October of 2025. My parents keep bring this up to remind me how selfish I was so I want to know if I was in the wrong.

So for starters when I was 18 my aunt came over for an even my mom was hosting. I came with them but after the event I found out we only have for dinner fish and some baked vegetables that I don’t eat. Think brussels sprouts, roasted peppers, baked asparagus etc. for starters I’m allergic to fish so I can’t eat that and I don’t recall the vegetables, I just know it’s all food that I usually refuse to eat.

(I do eat vegetables but I have a few vegetables that I typically won’t eat those are just the few I don’t eat.)

So I skipped dinner that day. Come the next day there was no food for dinner. All day I was begging my parents if we can go to the good Mexican food place. It’s my favorite restaurant to eat at and sadly it was shutting down in three weeks. This place has been around before I was born.

My mom told me she will think about it, so I get dressed and ready because there’s no food in the house and my mom hates going shopping when we have a guest. As soon as I got out of the shower my parents started rushing me to finish getting ready so we could get food. I wasn’t even told we were about to leave I was being rushed the second I stepped out of the shower.

So after quickly getting ready and running out the door I made it to the car. This part is important, there’s two Mexican food places close to each other we got “good Mexican food place” and “bad Mexican food place”. My parents know I hate the “bad Mexican food place”. Every time I eat there I either leave hungry or I leave and have bad diarrhea sometimes even vomiting. My parents are very much aware of this, that is why I never go with them when they choose to eat at “bad Mexican food place”. Before we left the house while I was getting in the car I ask which Mexican food places are we eating at. my dad said “your favorite one” I assumed that meant we’re eating at “good Mexican food place”.

I was excited especially since my favorite place was shutting down on Halloween night. Once we started driving we started pulling into “bad Mexican food place” parking lot. I was confused I was just told ten to fifteen minutes prior that we’re eating at my favorite place why are we now eating here. My dad started laughing at me for thinking we were actually going to eat at “good Mexican food place”.

My dad told me to get over it and I can chill in restaurant while everyone else ate and afterwards I can get food at “Jack In The Box”. I refused to leave the car I needed some space from my parents and aunt. I decided that I wouldn’t go in because I was really hurt by my dad lying to me as well as how I was treated by my parents throughout the day. I stayed out of the restaurant and decided to wonder around different gas stations looking around.

Apparently I made my aunt feel uncomfortable by not joining them at dinner so she no longer wanted to eat at “bad Mexican food place”. So she ordered her food to go, because of that my parents did the same.

The most ironic part about this, my parents had diarrhea after eating there. Yet I was still considered selfish by my parents. So Reddit Aita for refusing to eat dinner with my family?

TL;DR My parents and aunt wanted to get dinner. Before we went to get food my dad lied and made me think we were eating at a place I like. We went to a place that I not only don’t like but makes me get sick after eating there. I refused to eat there due to being hurt by the lie I was told. Due to me not eating with my family my aunt got uncomfortable and refused to eat at the restaurant. Am I the Asshole?

So I (19 genderfluid) had this happen back in October of 2025. My parents keep bring this up to remind me how selfish I was so I want to know if I was in the wrong.

So for starters when I was 18 my aunt came over for an even my mom was hosting. I came with them but after the event I found out we only have for dinner fish and some baked vegetables that I don’t eat. Think brussels sprouts, roasted peppers, baked asparagus etc. for starters I’m allergic to fish so I can’t eat that and I don’t recall the vegetables, I just know it’s all food that I usually refuse to eat.

(I do eat vegetables but I have a few vegetables that I typically won’t eat those are just the few I don’t eat.)

So I skipped dinner that day. Come the next day there was no food for dinner. All day I was begging my parents if we can go to the good Mexican food place. It’s my favorite restaurant to eat at and sadly it was shutting down in three weeks. This place has been around before I was born.

My mom told me she will think about it, so I get dressed and ready because there’s no food in the house and my mom hates going shopping when we have a guest. As soon as I got out of the shower my parents started rushing me to finish getting ready so we could get food. I wasn’t even told we were about to leave I was being rushed the second I stepped out of the shower.

So after quickly getting ready and running out the door I made it to the car. This part is important, there’s two Mexican food places close to each other we got “good Mexican food place” and “bad Mexican food place”. My parents know I hate the “bad Mexican food place”. Every time I eat there I either leave hungry or I leave and have bad diarrhea sometimes even vomiting. My parents are very much aware of this, that is why I never go with them when they choose to eat at “bad Mexican food place”. Before we left the house while I was getting in the car I ask which Mexican food places are we eating at. my dad said “your favorite one” I assumed that meant we’re eating at “good Mexican food place”.

I was excited especially since my favorite place was shutting down on Halloween night. Once we started driving we started pulling into “bad Mexican food place” parking lot. I was confused I was just told ten to fifteen minutes prior that we’re eating at my favorite place why are we now eating here. My dad started laughing at me for thinking we were actually going to eat at “good Mexican food place”.

My dad told me to get over it and I can chill in restaurant while everyone else ate and afterwards I can get food at “Jack In The Box”. I refused to leave the car I needed some space from my parents and aunt. I decided that I wouldn’t go in because I was really hurt by my dad lying to me as well as how I was treated by my parents throughout the day. I stayed out of the restaurant and decided to wonder around different gas stations looking around.

Apparently I made my aunt feel uncomfortable by not joining them at dinner so she no longer wanted to eat at “bad Mexican food place”. So she ordered her food to go, because of that my parents did the same.

The most ironic part about this, my parents had diarrhea after eating there. Yet I was still considered selfish by my parents. So Reddit Aita for refusing to eat dinner with my family?

TL;DR My parents and aunt wanted to get dinner. Before we went to get food my dad lied and made me think we were eating at a place I like. We went to a place that I not only don’t like but makes me get sick after eating there. I refused to eat there due to being hurt by the lie I was told. Due to me not eating with my family my aunt got uncomfortable and refused to eat at the restaurant. Am I the Asshole?