u/Substantial-Bank-330

Every adult is so special, it probably feels the opposite, and like you do not fit in. Because as children and guided through schools, we were all sort of forced into groups, once you become and adult, it's a shocking change. But if I could pass on one thing, it would be to like yourself a lot sooner. Do no measure yourself by your so-called flaws, or differences, measure yourself by your amazing traits and talents. We all have them. Some people are good w/ animals, children, art, science, knowing computers, music, dance, sign language, etc. All of those things are everyone's special gifts. And those make up the reason you are here. If you listen to that and accept yourself, you will go where you fit in.

Not everyone evolves with you, and you have friends or loved ones that don't get where you are going. But it's ok to outgrow the way they still want to live, and to not keep you there the way they want. Tell yourself you outgrew this routine and go where the new things you are seeking feel more like a fit for your soul.

Not sure if anyone else had this happen, but I carried my problems, friend's problems, family problems, and work problems in my brain. Let's say I was born without a sifter to break it all done. As I became older, I could no longer hold this much, and it also was not good for me. I had to teach myself how to not carry everyone, and to make myself a priority. Fix my own self and my own life. And its way better, but I only got here in my 60's, I hope for everyone that they learn this sooner. We are still great people - not carrying everyone's lives in our hands. Give yourself permission to let go.

If kid's needs are ignored, that child grows up, and wants to be seen and heard. And sometimes without boundaries, they will proceed to be visible. This is what fake likes, and clicks are all about - fake visibility. Some of the people with the most followers are the loneliest, because it's not a measure of person's real identity. What matters is to heal from the inside. Cry for that child that was not seen, or heard, and mourn that same child. And then become what you were missing. Save another child by seeing them, and hearing them. Then you not only create a happier child, but you create your own 2nd childhood. Go to the swings, go on rides, walk in the sand, with that child, and you get to see what joy it is to be visible and loved. And you start healing your own soul.

We have to end some connections, because it is a pattern etched in stone. Tell yourself, not everyone gets to stay in your presence - you outgrow them and see a future of peace of mind.

When we put boundaries around our tolerance, and don't allow for people to mistreat us, we send the clear message to living well. Take the high road, and lead others by example, teach kindness, and 0 bullying. When we tell others that we know our worth, they don't get as much room to put out negative vibes.

We can carry something negative for too long, give it too much weight. It's so important to find powerful strong voices that support you, and they need to be what you keep in your mind, not negative things that "someone said". Empty that out, and do not let it bog you down.

Once you believe you can achieve more, it's there, and falls into place. More is not measured in terms of just money or material things, more = more that aligns with your soul. Never give up on trying to get it for yourself.

I never heard my own cries. I let someone else dominate my choices. I grew, and I finally outgrew someone, forced myself to let go, and let go of the fairytale that I kept holding onto. There was no fairytale, just the wrong life. I outgrew the person who wanted to live on the same stage for life. And when I faced that I outgrew this life, I found freedom and got to my own dreams. My wish for others, is that they hear this, and do it sooner than I did. You get more time on earth to live as you were meant to. Do it sooner!!!! And trust yourself.