u/TheBritshViking

So long story short, me and my wife were having issues I kind of started pushing her away, but eventually, she was the one that gave up and divorced me fast-forward to now two months post divorce and I was not fully healed, but I was definitely coming to the fact that she’s gone and there’s nothing I can do. Well, she invited me to the Fourth of July with her and her kids since I helped to raise them from when they were little, I agreed because I didn’t want to spend the holiday without those kids but then at the end of it, I realized I didn’t want a broken family, especially one where I have no rights to the two kids. well anyways, we got into a fight about it pretty much we were just gonna be done again because she doesn’t want to fix a relationship with me, but obviously she still wants me to be around for the kids. Well today, I invited her over to hang out and she agreed for whatever reason and we hung out for a couple hours. Talked about our relationship, but she still doesn’t want anything to do with us getting back together however she’s being super flirty and deep down, I know she still has feelings for me, but I can’t keep feeling like I’m letting her string me along

So for contex I was a keno gambling addict for a long time. from about 24 - 30 it was on and off there were even times I quit for 6 months to a year and one thing would drag me back. Long story short, I was diagnosed with ADHD and being on the medication help me realize gambling was just an escape it was never about the money or anything.

I realized that it was traits of my adhd the pattern reconiztion the feeling a rush the feeling of being someone important when I would hit jackpots.

Even though I finally quit before I got diagnosed it only help me realize my brain was searching for that constant dopamine. So it may be worth it to get checked for some of you.

Recently my wife left and divorced me. I had to move out within two weeks life completley in shambles and not once was I tempted to gamble or think it would fix my life.

Now I make pretty good money at my job but there was times I was so far in debt I couldnt even get out.

Now the divorce is final, I will be filing for bankruptcy to get a fresh start and finally start over from everything.

I only make this post now to tell you guys, you can do it. You can get out and try and figure out mentally whats causing this.

So I was diagnosed last year with ADHD after my whole life knowing I was different or the signs of adhd like being good under pressure or pattern recognition, but I never knew why. Iwas always tired and had no energy and would force myself to do things. Even things I loved.

Anyway, since then I have tried multiple medications. At first I did not want to do any stimualants because my family had a history of abusing pills. So they gave welbutron and other types of things but I told them it doesnt do anything except make me even less emotional lol. After awhile my doctor said hey lets just try the stimulants and see what happens.

I gave in because I knew nothing else had worked also realizing if someone truly has adhd then stimulants dont get you "high" anyways I started with adderall and hit the was quick and it was amazing to see how productive I was and wow this is what its supposed to be like. However I had to constantly be hydrated and eat for me to not feel like I was a crackhead or something.

I then switch to a off brand ritalin and that wasnt as strong as the Adderall and they even up my dose. However that one I was just irratable a lot and even on the extended release it wouldnt last and I would crash. So fast forward to the last couple of days I have been on vyvanse and its been great the feeling I have been looking for! no instant rush feeling or anything very smooth and you dont notice it. Brain is calm and it last and its way easier for me to focus on something and see it through. Also I have asthma that requires me to take advar and since ive been on vyvanse I noticed my asthma has been really good havent needed it even after intense gyms sessions and everything. I paid for the name brand but will go to generic next for insurance reasons and I hope it doesnt change anything.

So yesterday I was doing great then I saw my ex wife with what seem to be her new fling or whatever and I wasnt gonna say anything but then I noticed she was still using my last name on everything. So I went off on her and she told me she isnt seeing anybody and that she has just gone out with her friends and co workers and she knows shes a mess so she isnt trying to get involved with anyone. Anyway we talked until about 1 am and I basically left it as If you truly havent seen anyone and want to heal (she has never been alone until now) then ill wait. But I am only waiting until october because that was the deadline I gave myself to start looking after healing from the divorce. Either way I feel dumb and all the progress of no contact is gone and she knows she still got me by the balls.

So yesterday I was doing great then I saw my ex wife with what seem to be her new fling or whatever and I wasnt gonna say anything but then I noticed she was still using my last name on everything. So I went off on her and she told me she isnt seeing anybody and that she has just gone out with her friends and co workers and she knows shes a mess so she isnt trying to get involved with anyone. Anyway we talked until about 1 am and I basically left it as If you truly havent seen anyone and want to heal (she has never been alone until now) then ill wait. But I am only waiting until october because that was the deadline I gave myself to start looking after healing from the divorce. Either way I feel dumb and all the progress of no contact is gone and she knows she still got me by the balls.

I keep feeling like I am getting better. But of course I saw a picture of her coworker where my ex wife was in the background downtown. Mind you this woman has two kids that I helped raised and is 34. I truly thought she would be trying to work on herself this time but it appears nope. She just gonna keep living with her mom and do whatever she wants. It hurts it sucks. I always stay alone to heal while the other just goes out and distracts.

I keep feeling like I am getting better. But of course I saw a picture of her coworker where my ex wife was in the background downtown. Mind you this woman has two kids that I helped raised and is 34. I truly thought she would be trying to work on herself this time but it appears nope. She just gonna keep living with her mom and do whatever she wants. It hurts it sucks. I always stay alone to heal while the other just goes out and distracts.

Idk what it is but finally I decided I had to block my ex wife. Even though I unadded her on everything I still could see when she was active and stuff. The divorce was finalized june 10th and she knew about it I didnt know until I got it in the mail and that was june 15th. Even though that hurt I knew that there was no coming back from it. Today I went to pick up my mail from my mothere in law and they have been begging me to see the kids (Her kids I help raise) I unforturnetly had to go no contact with them as well so I didnt see them and it didnt seem like they cared much they ran out gave me a hug and wanted to go right back and play video games. Anyways it was a tuff day so I just decided its best to block her everywhere and just not wonder anymore. She also is still using my last name on social media idk why when she was granted her previous name back.

Idk what it is but finally I decided I had to block my ex wife. Even though I unadded her on everything I still could see when she was active and stuff. The divorce was finalized june 10th and she knew about it I didnt know until I got it in the mail and that was june 15th. Even though that hurt I knew that there was no coming back from it. Today I went to pick up my mail from my mothere in law and they have been begging me to see the kids (Her kids I help raise) I unforturnetly had to go no contact with them as well so I didnt see them and it didnt seem like they cared much they ran out gave me a hug and wanted to go right back and play video games. Anyways it was a tuff day so I just decided its best to block her everywhere and just not wonder anymore. She also is still using my last name on social media idk why when we was granted her previous name back.

In my case from what I know she never cheated but I do know there is another co worker of hers also going through a divorce who I am sure was giving her validation to be okay with divorcing me

Welp I am the guy who helped someone raise her kids and together for 7 years married for a year and a half. She filed only maybe 3 weeks ago and I got the divorce decree yesterday. Weird feeling. I knew it was coming but I guess it just killed any hope I had. I guess I dont have anymore copium so thats the brightside. The only wierd thing is she is continuing to have my last name on socials even though she got her old name back. Besides that I just have to accept it.

Welp I am the guy who helped someone raise her kids and together for 7 years married for a year and a half. She filed only maybe 3 weeks ago and I got the divorce decree yesterday. Weird feeling. I knew it was coming but I guess it just killed any hope I had. I guess I dont have anymore copium so thats the brightside. The only wierd thing is she is continuing to have my last name on socials even though she got her old name back. Besides that I just have to accept it.

I'm a 31-year-old guy going through a divorce and I honestly just need outside perspectives because I'm struggling to make sense of everything.

I got with my wife when I was 24. She already had two boys and I stepped into the father role. Their biological father has been largely absent and later went to prison. I spent the last 7 years helping raise those boys and they're all I've really known as my kids.

We got married a year and a half ago.

We lived with her mother our entire relationship because she wanted the support system and cheap rent. Over the years I started feeling trapped and wanted us to move out and have our own life together. She didn't want to because her mom was such a huge help with the kids.

I wasn't perfect. Far from it. I withdrew emotionally and escaped into work and gaming. I have ADHD, but I didn't even know that until recently. She constantly told me she didn't feel chosen and didn't feel like she was "the one."

About six months ago I was actually the one pushing her away. We had talked about splitting up before. We weren't intimate anymore, but we still slept in the same bed every night, said "I love you," and there were no concrete plans to separate. I thought we were struggling but still trying.

Eventually I went to therapy because I wanted to understand why I wasn't emotionally available. That's when I found out I had ADHD. Over the last three months I got treatment and started changing. I started doing more with her and really trying to reconnect. I felt like I was finally becoming the husband she needed.

Then one day she asked me when I was moving out.

I was completely blindsided because I thought we were working on things. I begged and cried and asked her to keep our family together. I told her I wanted counseling and another chance.

She told me she had already emotionally processed us being over and had nothing left to give. She admitted she probably stayed longer because of the boys.

I only signed the papers because I knew I couldn't beg someone to love me. I had to find an apartment and move out within two weeks. She's staying with her mom with the same support system she's always had.

The hardest part is that I lost the boys too.

The first weekend after moving out I put my feelings aside and picked them up to take them to a car show. She had told me she'd never keep me from seeing them.

Then her mom met me at the door and served me divorce papers. My wife later admitted it was a "dick move."

She reposts TikToks about choosing herself and being unhappy and recently started posting old memories from our marriage and trips together on an old account she knows I follow. It's confusing because she says she's moved on and doesn't care, but then posts things that are directly tied to us.

I also suspect she may have found validation from someone at work, which may have helped her emotionally move on, but I have no proof and I don't want to accuse her of something I can't prove.

I know I wasn't perfect. I know I hurt her. I know I made her feel alone.

But I also spent seven years trying to love her and raise kids that weren't mine. I was there through some really traumatic things in her life. I repeatedly told her she couldn't rely on me to be the source of her happiness because she had to be happy with herself too.

Now I'm sitting alone in an apartment with a new puppy wondering if I even have anything left to give.

I don't know if I'm looking for advice or just trying to understand how two people can love each other and still end up here.

Has anyone been through something similar?

As I stated in a previous post, I was with somebody for seven years married for a year and a half. I was 24 years old and stepped up to help raise her kids for her. She was 27. And we lived with her mother-in-law the entire time things were pretty good most of the time however towards the last six or seven months, I started to push her away because I wanted to move and she was more content with staying because it was easier for the children the mother-in-law and so I blame myself for pushing her away because I was so zombie push came to shove. I still tried to make it work, and she decided that she no longer wanted to. I begged and pleaded and tried to prove my case I up and had to change my whole life and move out in two weeks. I couldn’t even believe that this had been my life. Seven years basically meant nothing. Now, after a few weeks of living on my own, it’s crazy that I am now accepting a reality that I thought would never be real.

Me and my wife were together for 7 years, married for 1.5. We built an entire life together. She had two boys when we met, and I stepped up at 24 years old and helped raise them. I’m basically all they’ve known as a father figure. I sacrificed a lot of my youth trying to be the man for all of us, and honestly I did it because I loved her.

But throughout our relationship there were always issues. I struggled being emotionally available, and she relied heavily on me for her happiness. Even through all of that though, we always chose each other. At least I thought we did.

The biggest issue was our living situation. We lived with her mom our entire relationship. On paper it made sense — cheap rent, built-in help with the boys, support system, etc. But mentally it slowly destroyed me. Coming home from work just to hide in a bedroom while listening to arguing, complaining, and feeling like I never truly had my own home or peace started eating at me over the years.

I kept telling her we needed our own place. I wanted us to grow together as adults and as a family. But she never wanted to leave because her mom helped so much with the kids, and honestly I think she got comfortable there. Meanwhile I started feeling trapped. Like I sacrificed everything for everyone else while losing myself in the process.

The last 6–7 months especially, I started pulling away emotionally. I became distant. More like a friend than a husband. I won’t deny that. Part of me was mentally exhausted and wanting out of the situation, and she knew it.

But then a couple months ago she started asking when I was moving out. And hearing that honestly shattered me because no matter what problems we had, I truly believed we’d always end up together somehow. I thought after everything we’d been through and everything I sacrificed, we would fight for it.

Instead she told me she doesn’t love me that way anymore. She said she already grieved the relationship while we were still together and that she tried for too long while I wasn’t emotionally there. I told her I still wanted to fix things. I told her marriage vows are supposed to mean you try, even when things get hard. But she seems completely done.

Now I’m moving out this week while she talks about finally doing the things she wants to do, and honestly it kills me hearing that because part of me thinks… what changes? Staying there while her mom still helps raise the kids while I lose everything?

I know I wasn’t perfect. I know I pushed her away. But I genuinely loved her and those boys with everything I had. And it’s hard accepting that someone who once loved you so deeply can become completely emotionally detached while you’re just now realizing you still wanted the life you had together.

I don’t really know why I’m posting this. I guess I’m just heartbroken and trying to understand how two people can love each other for years and still end up here.

Me and my wife were together for 7 years, married for 1.5. We built an entire life together. She had two boys when we met, and I stepped up at 24 years old and helped raise them. I’m basically all they’ve known as a father figure. I sacrificed a lot of my youth trying to be the man for all of us, and honestly I did it because I loved her.

But throughout our relationship there were always issues. I struggled being emotionally available, and she relied heavily on me for her happiness. Even through all of that though, we always chose each other. At least I thought we did.

The biggest issue was our living situation. We lived with her mom our entire relationship. On paper it made sense — cheap rent, built-in help with the boys, support system, etc. But mentally it slowly destroyed me. Coming home from work just to hide in a bedroom while listening to arguing, complaining, and feeling like I never truly had my own home or peace started eating at me over the years.

I kept telling her we needed our own place. I wanted us to grow together as adults and as a family. But she never wanted to leave because her mom helped so much with the kids, and honestly I think she got comfortable there. Meanwhile I started feeling trapped. Like I sacrificed everything for everyone else while losing myself in the process.

The last 6–7 months especially, I started pulling away emotionally. I became distant. More like a friend than a husband. I won’t deny that. Part of me was mentally exhausted and wanting out of the situation, and she knew it.

But then a couple months ago she started asking when I was moving out. And hearing that honestly shattered me because no matter what problems we had, I truly believed we’d always end up together somehow. I thought after everything we’d been through and everything I sacrificed, we would fight for it.

Instead she told me she doesn’t love me that way anymore. She said she already grieved the relationship while we were still together and that she tried for too long while I wasn’t emotionally there. I told her I still wanted to fix things. I told her marriage vows are supposed to mean you try, even when things get hard. But she seems completely done.

Now I’m moving out this week while she talks about finally doing the things she wants to do, and honestly it kills me hearing that because part of me thinks… what changes? Staying there while her mom still helps raise the kids while I lose everything?

I know I wasn’t perfect. I know I pushed her away. But I genuinely loved her and those boys with everything I had. And it’s hard accepting that someone who once loved you so deeply can become completely emotionally detached while you’re just now realizing you still wanted the life you had together.

I don’t really know why I’m posting this. I guess I’m just heartbroken and trying to understand how two people can love each other for years and still end up here.

Me and my wife have been together for 7 years and married for about a year and a half. We’re separating now and honestly it’s finally starting to hit me.

A huge part of our issues came down to me taking on the role of being a parent to her kids because their biological dad wasn’t really in the picture. I was 24 when I stepped into this relationship and now I’m 31 looking at life completely differently. We also still live with my mother in law and for years I’ve wanted us to get our own place, but she didn’t want to leave because of the support system for the kids. They can walk to school, my MIL helps watch them, etc. I understood why it mattered, but over time I became really unhappy and started emotionally distancing myself.

To be honest, I pushed her away more than she pushed me away. I got cold, distant, less affectionate. Last year I actually started therapy and got diagnosed with ADHD, which weirdly explained a lot about me emotionally and why I struggled so much with physical affection and connection. I’ve been on medication, working on myself, trying to communicate better, all of that.

But now it feels like I realized everything too late.

She basically told me the ship has sailed and wants me to move out. We finally told the kids what’s going on and seeing how crushed they were completely broke me. I think part of me stayed emotionally disconnected for so long because I felt trapped and resentful, but now that this is actually happening it feels like I’m losing my entire family.

What’s messing with my head the most is going from being a 24 year old kid taking on a family and helping raise kids for 7 years… to suddenly being a 31 year old single guy with no kids. I don’t even know who I am outside of this anymore.

I know I made mistakes. I know she loved me for a long time and I didn’t show up the way I should have. I’m just trying to figure out how to cope with this because this sucks.

It is better in everyway! from the litttle things like you getting better sound effects when turning it on and when bluetooth kicks on. The Mic and sidetone is amazing. I would actually say its the best side tone I have ever used. I am begging for airweave cushions to come back for these but the leather on these pads are so much better then the nova and honestly didnt get hot once. My only two complaints are the batteries keep popping out of the base station and its driving me nuts! and the second thing is I wish when I turned the headphones off the bluetooth would go off. (idk why this was a feature on the artics and not the nova) also Dsp on the base station means all proccessing power is on it and almost zero latency on the 3.5 inline for mic monitoring. AMA

I saw the teaser a few weeks ago and would really love to buy one but I have a white set up and can only buy white.