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I’ve never really ever had a genuine crush on anyone in my real life as someone nearing my 20s. Sure I’ve had like a first elementary school crush and I’ve thought guys were hot but I never really had a crush on a guy where I thought “Damn, I want to date him.” And it’s not like I’ve never been asked out, I have and have declined.

Tbf I don’t really care, the concept of being single doesn’t really bother me, perhaps I am feeling sure of myself right now but in general, I don’t lose sleep over not having a romantic and/or sexual relationship. I’ve thought before perhaps I am on the ace spectrum but I don’t think so due to the fact I have intense celebrity/famous figure crushes. I also definitely have such a type: bad looking boys that are sweethearts with cute smiles.

These days I am consumed online by a specific famous ish crush, it’s quite funny now that I type this out, and honestly, on a parasocial level, it’s made me think that no one would measure up to them lmao. He’s just so damn fine, so my type, so so SO the standard as a gentlemen that it’s absolutely insane. Perhaps I’m delusional, I think I am.

I guess logically if someone like this does exist in a world filled with 8 billion+ people then surely there’s a few others like him. But yeah…this might sound super stupid but I just lowkey think that if I don’t have a guy like him, or just him in general, it’s like I’m settling. Lol perhaps I just need to grow up and fully realise that I just like the IDEA of this guy, rather than HIM. I mean I do realise that but…yk haha.

Oh well, there are tougher problems in my life and in other people’s lives so I guess I should be grateful that this is my only concern right now that I feel like I need to rant about.

Does anyone feel similar? Or does anyone have anything else to add to my vent lol?

Currently I’ve been obsessed with Tunnel by Mingi from his new solo project and I really want to find songs that have that similar rock ballad or soft rock quality to it! I would prefer boy groups/soloist but I don’t mind girl groups/soloist.

Feel free to recommend songs out of kpop too if you have any in mind like j-rock, jpop or just rock in general just because I feel like there are definitely songs out there with a similar sound in these genres too!

Thanks <3

Apparently every woman either resembles and has the beauty of a vampire, witch, fairy or mermaid/siren.

I got this from a katseye subreddit and am curious about how this everyone would categories different girl kpop group members

Apparently every woman either resembles and has the beauty of a vampire, witch, fairy or mermaid/siren.

I got this from a katseye subreddit but I’m interested about what everyone’s categorization is for this for kpop groups.

This is mostly a girl group member conversation but you can comment boy group members too if you think they fit in the categories

Today I took a nap before my exam. Within this nap, I “woke” up within my dream about 8 times after the time my exam ended. I thought I had woken up in real life and missed my exam lol

I’ve experienced dreams within a dream before like waking up for school to get ready and actually going to school but I’ve never had like 8 different times when I woke up from a dream within a dream.

Has anyone experienced this? What is everyone’s most crazy dream within a dream?

My best friend and I have drifted apart and I’m currently in my feels and need to process it through music.

I’m not sure how often kpop addresses the lost of a friendship in their songs so I don’t know any except for Empty Box - ATEEZ and so would love to get some recommendations! Feel free to recommend songs that are about breaking up in a relationship as well because often you can interpret the lyrics as about losing a friend.

They don’t have to explicitly be a ballad song but I love ballads and they are perfect when you are feeling this type of mood. I’m also more of a boy group stan: ATEEZ are my ults but I love ENHYPEN, LNGSHOT and P1harmony and I’m a casual listener of TXT, CORTIS, BTS and EXO. But I don’t mind any girl group or soloist recommendations so feel free to recommend their songs too!

Thank you!

I was just peacefully scrolling on Instagram reels and you know that feature where you can see your following like a reel. Well, I ended up at this reel that had the text “When I catch myself saying ‘this girl I used to know’ like she wasn’t my literal other half.”

And it genuinely makes me want to sob because we were best friends for nearly 10 years of our lives. We made it through being long distance best friends. We used to text everyday, call each other everyday unless we were busy and just would always be there for each other. We weren’t perfect and we had our bad days and kind of toxic situations that stemmed from us being so young and treating our friendship with such seriousness and intensity that it was almost like a relationship without the romance and sexual aspect to it. It didn’t help that my parents hated hers because they were so toxic to their friends and so it felt like the act of even talking to her was treason but I was best friends with her before they had the beef so our friendship came first to me okay.

Then well, just like all teen best friends, she got a boyfriend. And of course we promised we would remain bestfriends if we ever did date, but you know how it is. And the fact we just entered different chapters with her having a boyfriend and going to university and me also moving to go to university. I also didn’t agree with a few aspects of their relationship especially since she had the same view of said aspects until she got a boyfriend. I obviously was and still am really happy for her and I really like this guy for her. He’s super sweet and genuine, I gave him my blessing. She also has really great friends she has met and I also do too. She loves them and I love them too bits and so we just sort of drifted apart from the on.

At the beginning, it was really hard. She was a part of my schedule for a really big part of my life, my childhood and younger adolescence. I would always say good morning, how was your day, talk about my day and say good night etc etc. But yeah, new beginnings, new boyfriend and new friends and different perspectives and different chapters just made me realise that yeah, we were doing what we told each other we would never do: outgrow each other. And that was so painful. I had to constantly
stop checking my phone for her text cuz she was too busy with her boyfriend or other friends doing things I didn’t agree with and she herself once didn’t agree with.

But over time, it got easier and it didn’t feel like my heart was getting ripped out of my chest every time I thought of her and what our lives once were. I became more happier and more carefree with my friends that I also begin to make in my new chapter (she was the extrovert and I was the introvert so this was a big deal).

We still talk from time to time. The other day she told me about a cute gym set she got. I mentioned that she was in my dream a few weeks ago. We haven’t cut our ties that much. And honestly, this new norm has felt like a whole lifetime when in reality, it’s barely been a year since we’ve been like this.

But that Instagram reel really just made me me rerealise that damn, I do really miss my ex best friend and her liking that reel confirms that she does too and that makes me oddly comforted and sad at the same time.

Yeah. Just damn. I miss her a lot.

I was just peacefully scrolling on Instagram reels and you know that feature where you can see your following like a reel. Well, I ended up at this reel that had the text “When I catch myself saying ‘this girl I used to know’ like she wasn’t my literal other half.” And I noticed that my ex best friend liked that reel.

And it genuinely makes me want to sob because we were best friends for nearly 10 years of our lives. We made it through being long distance best friends. We used to text everyday, call each other everyday unless we were busy and just would always be there for each other. We weren’t perfect and we had our bad days and kind of toxic situations that stemmed from us being so young and treating our friendship with such seriousness and intensity that it was almost like a relationship without the romance and sexual aspect to it. It didn’t help that my parents hated hers because they were so toxic to their friends and so it felt like the act of even talking to her was treason but I was best friends with her before they had the beef so our friendship came first to me okay.

Then well, just like all teen best friends, she got a boyfriend. And of course we promised we would remain bestfriends if we ever did date, but you know how it is. And the fact we just entered different chapters with her having a boyfriend and going to university and me also moving to go to university. I also didn’t agree with a few aspects of their relationship especially since she had the same view of said aspects until she got a boyfriend. I obviously was and still am really happy for her and I really like this guy for her. He’s super sweet and genuine, I gave him my blessing. She also has really great friends she has met and I also do too. She loves them and I love them too bits and so we just sort of drifted apart from the on.

At the beginning, it was really hard. She was a part of my schedule for a really big part of my life, my childhood and younger adolescence. I would always say good morning, how was your day, talk about my day and say good night etc etc. But yeah, new beginnings, new boyfriend and new friends and different perspectives and different chapters just made me realise that yeah, we were doing what we told each other we would never do: outgrow each other. And that was so painful. I had to constantly
stop checking my phone for her text cuz she was too busy with her boyfriend or other friends doing things I didn’t agree with and she herself once didn’t agree with.

But over time, it got easier and it didn’t feel like my heart was getting ripped out of my chest every time I thought of her and what our lives once were. I became more happier and more carefree with my friends that I also begin to make in my new chapter (she was the extrovert and I was the introvert so this was a big deal).

We still talk from time to time. The other day she told me about a cute gym set she got. I mentioned that she was in my dream a few weeks ago. We haven’t cut our ties that much. And honestly, this new norm has felt like a whole lifetime when in reality, it’s barely been a year since we’ve been like this.

But that Instagram reel really just made me me rerealise that damn, I do really miss my ex best friend and her liking that reel confirms that she does too and that makes me oddly comforted and sad at the same time.

Yeah. Just damn. I miss her a lot.

I really love ATEEZ’s World trilogy from Movement, Outlaw to FIN:WILL. My favorite out all of them is probably Outlaw (the second one) and my favorite songs from each are Cyberpunk, Wake up and Silver Light. I really want to listen to similar music to this trilogy and those songs but I have no idea what other kpop songs have this rock/metal inspired noisy but melodic sound to them!

I also have given SKZ a go but I don’t find their music similar to this sound of ATEEZ at all but I could have been listening to the wrong songs, so feel free to recommend them too, just not really sure if I would enjoy it but I will try too!

Please give me any recommendations that fit this description. I prefer boy groups recs but I don’t mind girl groups or soloist at all.

Thank you!

edit: maybe not hate but not accepted well

I feel like the obvious answer is because of the very apparent casual racism and ignorance of different cultures, specifically Korean obviously in this instance, but it would be interesting to hear any other specific reasonings that you may have!

It would also be interesting to hear why you think it has been more accepted recently in the last year or so.

Today I came from a group hang out and it was a really great time! I had lots of fun, I know the group likes me as I’ve known them for a year or so and it was a group powerpoint night and they said my powerpoint was the best.

However, I’ve hung out with this group before you know and I would say we are friends but I don’t know why but every time I hang out with them like as a big group, I just don’t feel a part of it even tho they do consider me a part of it like I can tell and they want to include me cuz they enjoy my company and all that but for some reason, I just can’t bring myself to just be out there.

I feel like I’m constantly battling between whether I should strike up a convo with someone or just sitting down on a chair and watching the room. Then whenever I have a convo it ends so quickly and then they leave and I have to find someone else to look for or just sit by myself. I don’t hate sitting by myself, in fact, I’d rather do that honestly than use up all my energy. Not because I dislike these people but I just can’t be bothered.

Then, like right now, I just feel like I was better off not going to this hang out cuz I just don’t find it socially fulfilling when the point of this was to try and “socialise” and get closer with them. I just feel drained, anxious and I just wonder how do people even get friends. There are people who those people have met for only a few weeks and they’re easily best buds now but I’ve known them for a year and I just feel like a my energy gives off stranger vibes rather than bestie energy.

But then whenever I’m in a smaller group setting with only a few of them at a time, I’m fine. I enjoy it. I count it as my act of socialising with them.

Does anyone have similar feelings? Is this just how it is to be an introvert?

Did anyone experience this before and got over it? How? I wanna know

Also they’re not my only friends. I have other friends that I’m much closer with and feel comfortable with. I’m also just sort of adopted into this group if that makes sense.

Today I came from a group hang out and it was a really great time! I had lots of fun, I know the group likes me as I’ve known them for a year or so and it was a group powerpoint night and they said my powerpoint was the best.

However, I’ve hung out with this group before you know and I would say we are friends but I don’t know why but every time I hang out with them like as a big group, I just don’t feel a part of it even tho they do consider me a part of it like I can tell and they want to include me cuz they enjoy my company and all that but for some reason, I just can’t bring myself to just be out there.

I feel like I’m constantly battling between whether I should strike up a convo with someone or just sitting down on a chair and watching the room. Then whenever I have a convo it ends so quickly and then they leave and I have to find someone else to look for or just sit by myself. I don’t hate sitting by myself, in fact, I’d rather do that honestly than use up all my energy. Not because I dislike these people but I just can’t be bothered.

Then, like right now, I just feel like I was better off not going to this hang out cuz I just don’t find it socially fulfilling when the point of this was to try and “socialise” and get closer with them. I just feel drained, anxious and I just wonder how do people even get friends. There are people who those people have met for only a few weeks and they’re easily best buds now but I’ve known them for a year and I just feel like a my energy gives off stranger vibes rather than bestie energy.

But then whenever I’m in a smaller group setting with only a few of them at a time, I’m fine. I enjoy it. I count it as my act of socialising with them.

Does anyone have similar feelings? Is this just how it is to be an INTJ?

Did anyone experience this before and got over it? How? I wanna know

Also they’re not my only friends. I have other friends that I’m much closer with and feel comfortable with. I’m also just sort of adopted into this group if that makes sense.