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I'm turning 26 in a month and I'm not sure what's with my mindset around birthdays. I began noticing this when I turned 25 but, while I'm not exactly depressed about my birthday coming up, but I do feel a little down, and just seem to have a lack of interest. My wife always makes sure I have a great time but I just find it odd that I used to be so excited for it to come up. I'd basically count down the days from the beginning of fall until Nov. Now, leading up to the date, I don't care to plan anything, it takes me forever to update my gift list, I don't take off of work anymore, and I don't even pick a dinner location or cake.

I'm aware this is likely normal, but I was wondering if I could hear some similar stories from people. Did/do you feel the same?

Btw, I'm so extremely grateful for everything my wife does for my birthday and we always have a great time. This is just how I feel leading up to the date.

Hi, everyone! I came out to my wife as Bi in July and she’s been nothing but supportive, accepting, and loving! I seriously couldn’t have asked for a better partner in my life. She does absolutely everything to make me feel like I can be who I am while in our monogamous relationship, which is exactly what I want as I have no interest or intention on pursuing anybody else outside of our relationship!

To get to my question though, despite how accepting and supportive she’s been, she does understandably get a little nervous about if I’m potentially gay or not as my attraction has totally leaned a lot more towards men in these past couple of months. I tell her about the “bi-cycle” as I’ve seen it called and try to comfort her and let her know that no matter where my attraction sways, she will always be my number one (I married her for a reason! She’s my best friend). I think I’m just looking for advice on how to further make her feel comfortable and confident in our relationship and my attraction for her, despite the cycle, and even if this isn’t a cycle, and my attraction will always lean towards men from now on (hypothetical).

TL;DR: Since coming out, I’ve been far more attracted to guys, but I know I’m not gay. I just want to help my wife feel confident in that that I’m not and that my attraction for her hasn’t changed or faded in the slightest

Any advice or past experiences would be greatly appreciated!

I told my wife back in July and she was understandably a little confused and concerned at first. I read a lot of stuff online about coming out to a spouse with me finding a lot of mixed opinions about whether I should or if there’s even a point if I want to stay with her and keep the marriage monogamous but the more I realized this was who I am, I felt that I couldn’t keep this from the love of my life.

Over the past few months, she’s been nothing but loving, caring, accepting, and supportive! We’ll point out guys we find attractive, she put a pride flag in my office, and so much more. She’s always telling me how she feels this has not only brought out my true self and made me more confident but also brought us so much closer and helped us bond.

I could’ve made a post like this everyday since July but what made me want to write this was a situation that happened yesterday.

We’ve been discussing actually starting the adoption process (it’s been years of discussions in regards to babies (a longer story than I care to get into here as this is already long enough) and while looking at children’s books, she mentioned that she wanted to keep LGBTQ+ books around the house because it meant so much to her that any children we have knew the importance of self love and acceptance!

I literally couldn’t have ask for a better partner in life!

I'll occassionally hear of shows/movies that have been filmed in Griffin, like The Walking Dead, The Hunger Games: Mockingjay, Fried Green Tomatoes, and Driving Miss Daisy, but what about musical acts that have come out of Griffin?

For example, the phrase “bada-bing” was an improvised line from The Godfather that’s come to mean something that’s accomplished quickly.

Or the acronym BFF, which originated from Phoebe on Friends

Edit: Thank you to the commenters that corrected me on the BFF thing. That was my mistake. From what I could find, they popularized the phrase rather than invented it!

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Hi everyone. First off, I’ll say that my wife and I love each other very much and have since we started dating over 7 years ago (married 6), and coming out to her this past weekend hasn’t changed that. She’s always been very supportive of the LGBTQIA+ community (we’ve gone to Pride together for years) and she’s continued to be incredibly supportive of me as I’ve discovered and shared this part of myself.

At the same time, she’s been honest about her own emotions. She’s happy for me and supportive, but also, understandably confused and hurting, and I’m grateful she feels safe enough to share that with me. I always try to reassure her that her feelings are valid and that I’m here to listen.

What breaks my heart is seeing how much this has affected her. She’s worried that she’s holding me back, that I’m suppressing part of myself, or that I’ll want to experiment. None of this has ever been or ever will be true. I’m so in love with her, fully committed to our monogamous relationship, and my attraction to and love for her hasn’t changed in the slightest.

There have been good moments, but when she confides that she’s feeling insecure, depressed, cries daily, and just wishes this wasn’t true about me, it leaves me feeling so guilty for causing her so much pain, even though I know I had to be honest with her.

I’m not looking for reassurance about myself or criticism of her (please, she’s struggling but trying her best and I’m so proud of her). What I am looking for though, is just some advice on how I can best support her, help rebuild her confidence, and make sure she feels secure and loved as we work through this together.

Again, despite any negativities in this post, she’s still incredibly supportive. I don’t want this to turn into any bashing of her (not that I expect that, I just want to protect her feelings if she happens to see this). I pushed through my stress and emotions coming to this realization, now I want to set my newness aside and put my sole focus on her.

Thanks everyone

TL;DR (because the AuDHD in me tends to ramble): I recently came out to my wife. She’s been incredibly supportive but is also hurting and feeling insecure about what it means for our marriage. I love her, I’m fully committed to our relationship, and I’m looking for advice on how to best support and reassure her.

TL;DR: Fiction about a man in a hetero relationship, who’s totally committed to his wife but is discovering he’s bi

Btw: We’ve had lots of long conversations since I told her and she’s been very supportive and caring. I’m very lucky!

Not in any particular order, these are mine (although this could easily change in a week):

Embryectomy - Gluttonous Mastication of Embryonic Remnants

Cerebral Incubation - Asphyxiating on Excrement

Gibbeting - Execution Rampage

Relics Of Humanity - Absolute Dismal Domain

Kraanium - Slamchosis

Abominable Putridity - The Anomalies of Artificial Origin

Guttural Slug - Megalodon

Disgorge - Cranial Impalement (not sure if this would be counted as slam or BDM but either way I fucking love this album)

We had no problems with it the first year we moved to the Springs, however, ever since moving over to the Lorson Ranch neighborhood, it’s sucked. Streaming works only occasionally and gaming is almost impossible. We’re willing to try anything

Back in 2022, I was 2 years into my first duty station and had to get a new license because mine was expired. In that process, I went ahead and got a license from my new state. I went from Oklahoma to Illinois. It was my understanding that getting that new license and an IL registration on my car changed my legal residency. Over the years I felt stupid because OK has no state taxes and Illinois is quite the opposite, so I wish I hadn't changed (or as far as I know). I've been paying taxes and have never skipped paying IL taxes. I was looking through MyPay and it reminded me of the confusion I've had and stupidly never questioned for years... MyPay still says that my state of legal residency is Oklahoma. Do I need to change the information on MyPay or do I need to stop paying IL taxes (which again, I've never broken the law. taxes have always been paid, and OK taxes have never been avoided because they don't have any)

TL;DR: I changed my license and car registration in 2022, thought that I had changed my state of residency in that process, and have been paying IL taxes. MyPay still says my state is OK. Have I been paying unnecessary taxes for 4 years or do I need to change my info on MyPay

I've always thought of metal like a drug. You start to like heavy, fast, and chaotic, until all of a sudden, your brain wants even heavier, even faster, and 10x more chaotic. Well, when it comes to sludge, it's the opposite. I LOVE Primitive Man but are there any albums/bands that are slower, heavier (in a dense way), and grimier?! I need some nasty vocals, ear piercing feedback, and lows that'll shake the room!

Nothing on Spotify/AM/Amazon Music, etc

Edit: For some reason, my question didn’t post, but I was wondering if anybody has been a Nielsen family before and has set up the equipment themselves. I’m considering doing that, but they seem pretty adamant about doing a phone appointment.

I want laid back and relaxing content, not overly edited and fast paced

I’m super curious to find if anybody’s made blackened pop??