u/Wonderful_Addition_6

I've been working as a dishwasher for about a month and a little over a week. In my and my boss's opinions, I have been doing pretty well. I have understood the layout and work fast. Last night when I walked in for my shift, I met this new guy standing at the dishwashing station. I don't even remember his name because of how much I was multitasking the whole time. Apparently he isn't a new hire. He is returning since it's summer. But he basically is a new hire.

He said he worked 8 nights before. It must have been a long time ago because he barely retained anything. I assumed I was just getting some extra help since we had to deep clean that night. Nope. He is clueless. Once I got the memo I went into teacher mode, but holy shit. He doesn't listen. I sound like an old man, but I kind of understand when people say that teenagers are lazy. (We are only five years apart in age).

I started monitoring how he does things. He moves incredibly slowly. He's overly cautious about the dishes and equipment. He's not asking any questions. And it's like he's scared of the dish hose. Don't get me wrong, I was like that too when I started. But I also understood that we could have a rush at any moment. It was luckily a slow day, but I would have been fuming if I had to keep telling him to do things when he was going at a turtle's pace.

I always know that some parents have acted like their kid is still a child, even when they are in their 20s. I just didn't think my mother was like that.

I just went to the store to grab myself a treat. For MYSELF. I let my mom know that I was going to be out for a moment. She texted me and asked if I could also buy something for her. Trying to be nice I said I would check.

I don't make that much money. I only recently got a job. She knows that I don't make much. I give her a good portion of the money I make to pay for my phone bill and contribute to groceries. The rest of the money that is not in my savings should be mine to spend.

When I came back and told her that I didn't find what she asked for, she asked if there wasn't anything else I could have grabbed as a substitute. Yes, there was. But at that point I gave up on being nice and said that I didn't want to use up my money because even simple treats are expensive. She got upset and was disappointed. Wow, how terrible of me for wanting to save money. She said something stupid about how she doesn't ask for much whenever I go buy something.

That's not true at all. Whenever I did have money before my job, she would always ask if I could also buy something for her too. It's why I don't usually announce that I'm leaving the house just to buy something quick. This is the first time I denied her, and I am somehow in the wrong.

I'm just pissed. And I'm finding it hard to mask my emotions.

This comes up a lot especially this month. But whenever a BI person explains or talks about their preferences, they are usually hit with judgment or having their sexuality invalidated. I saw a post a while ago about someone mentioning that she considers herself bisexual but wouldn't date a girl. She got so much backlash for saying that and only that and was told that just means she's straight. People can use the label if they know they are attracted to more than one gender. It doesn't mean that you have to date. ATTRACTION.

I, for the sake of this post, mostly identify as a guy. I am bisexual and like both men and women and other genders from time to time. But who I would see myself being in a long-term relationship with would probably be men. That doesn't mean I don't like women. I do. But I would only date women. That's all. I find women and feminine-presenting people attractive. I've dated people of both sexes, and I still have a preference. If you want to go into the specifics, then I am a heteroromantic homosexual.

It's so frustrating when we go so hard on labels. There are too many ways, too many things to call ourselves. But just leave people alone if you don't have the full context. Telling people how they feel is wrong when the only one who really knows... is them.

This is a vent and just getting things off my chest. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety back when I was in high school. My mom thought it would be best if I saw a therapist because of all the school days I "missed." It got to a point that I felt so miserable that maybe it would be better if I weren't around. Then my mom wouldn't have to struggle as much as a single parent. I kept wondering why I felt this way and like I must have done something wrong. But of course my anxiety also told me that I shouldn't go through with it because it would scar my mother for life.

My anxiety sucks. It's not as bad as it used to be, but it still feels like it controls how I function around new people. I used to lie that I would get nervous and throw up to avoid going to school. Unfortunately, I became a self-fulfilling prophecy, and it was something I actually did and still do struggle with when I am stressed. I'm better now. Not sunshine and rainbows, but better. I feel better when I have things to do. If I don't, then I can sense that I won't be happy for some time.

Being diagnosed was good for me. I admit that. I know what to do when I can't handle things or just need to take a break. But on the other hand, it's like I have a label over my head. A label that's invisible to others. I know what I am, and only my mom has seen the sheet of paper with my diagnosis. I feel like she forgets how bad my anxiety is sometimes just because I don't show it. I don't like showing emotions.

I'm glad that I got diagnosed. I just don't appreciate some of the consequences.

I do not have DID. I've been writing a book for a while, and I've been doing my best to make sure I am portraying DID (dissociative identity disorder) as accurately as I can. My main character has DID, so the topic is commonly brought up. The book's main goal is talking about mental illnesses through the story.

I know that each system has its own... system. But it would be great if I knew that I'm not doing anything offensive, and I could change things if I were doing so. I am aware that I can not appeal to everyone and that I may offend someone no matter what I do.

It would also be great to know what NOT to do.

Edit: Just a thanks to everyone here who has given me great advice.

I've been writing a book for a while, and I've been doing my best to make sure I am portraying DID (dissociative identity disorder) as accurately as I can. My main character has DID, so the topic is commonly brought up.

I know that each system has its own... system. But it would be great if I knew that I'm not doing anything offensive, and I could change things if I were.

Edit: It would also be great to know what NOT to do.

This is a stupid complaint. I'm just constantly disappointed by whatever shows up on the shop's for you page. My main will be there... sometimes. But there usually happen to be a few heroes I don't care for. I tried them out for the fun of it, and then they take up a chunk of the page.

The game already has a ton of useless things like voice lines and souvenirs. It just sucks that if I play a hero for a few games, they take over the Just For You shop, and I might not get the skins I want when it refreshes.

To preface, I'm 20 years old. I live with my mother and step-dad for obvious reasons.

My parents divorced when I was around 10-11. My mom had to take even more shifts at her job at the time to take care of both of us. Plus, she cooked for me or we got takeout.

In my teenage years I was a homebody a lot. I was alone a lot too because of my mom's long hours. I will admit, I did not cook for myself and usually ate prepackaged things because I didn’t have the energy. But that doesn't mean my mother didn't leave me without any means of fending for myself. A lot of kids grow up without ever actually learning to cook, and it shouldn't be like that.

Now at my mother's age and current health, I take pride in knowing the basics to be able to prepare and make food without her over my shoulder.

Every situation is different. But if you have the facilities, the time and the patience, then make sure your kids have these skills. Plus, it means that you won't have to cook all the time.

This is a common thing, and I want to bring it up due to a game I just had.

We are attacking on the new map, so our advantage is already lost. Both of the enemy teams dps are flankers, and I am a Widow main. After too many deaths I decided to switch to Emre so I could push up more. Still I am more in the backline sometimes. I ping as much as I can because we are getting flanked constantly. It doesn't end well, and by the second round one of the support types in chat that I am going negative.

I wouldn't be going negative if I had some help. But my pings were only ever listened to AFTER I died. Why is it so hard to wear a headset? Or you know, turn around?

Telling your teammates that they are doing badly doesn't do anything instead of bringing negativity and making people play worse. And of course at the end of the game, only then does our tank decide to use their mic just to tell me that I was the sole reason we lost. If you have a mic, please use it.

I feel like there is a large portion of redditors that just downvote for the fun of it. It will badly affect the person they downvote even if they do nothing wrong. You have to make sure to look at the post and what the OP says before you cause some random person to lose karma.

I'm a new poster. I would like to post on certain subreddits. But when I try to look for how much karma I need, it just tells me I don't have enough. That should be the bare minimum, right?

Long vent and maybe advice too. I'm 20, and before you make any random assumptions, I do have a job, but it's probably never going to pay enough to afford my own place. Even saying the word "stepdad" feels wrong. He's not my father. I never liked the father I am blood related to either. I could live happy without a dad in my life. My dad was great, but that may have just been my younger self talking. He had anger issues, and he and my mom would constantly fight.

My mom reconnected with him after a long, long time. We moved away shortly after I graduated. I've got no friends besides the one online, and I basically live in my room. My stepdad is WORSE than my real dad.

He's all nice and stuff because that's what people want to see. I can't tell if he is always annoyed or if it's just how he talks, but it's like he has an anger meter. He gets more agitated over time until he bursts, and then he has the biggest temper tantrum ever. It'll happen at least once a month. I swear it's like he forgets that his loving wife isn't across from him while he goes on a rant about what she has done that has annoyed him so much.

I tried to intervene once, but my mom said it's her issue to handle. No, it's not! You are my mom! It's our problem. I know that one day I will snap and confront him, but I am too anxious and think about what would happen after. I feel guilty for being around so much, so I always try to go out of the house.

I want my mom happy. I don't want a repeat of her last marriage because that was also my life, and it wasn't good. He's the main provider, even more so now that she is on disability leave for maybe another 1-2 months.

I just hope one day that my mom can retire (who knows if that's possible) and she can get away from his negativity. Given the chance I can move out. I want to tell her that he either needs to figure himself out or they need to split for both their sake.

I can understand that Widow's bite is the more popular perk. It's extra damage, who wouldn't want that. Especially if you are someone who can hit their shots consistently. But I think that Seeker mine is more effective. Venom mine is Widowmaker's least useful ability. With the perk, it becomes more viable.

Yes, it can still be shot. But people aren't paying attention during a fight. You can get many assists and maybe even kills if your teammates can't get that last shot off. It builds your ult fast, and also you have constant sights on at least one enemy.

A quick thing about me, I have depression. It has always been a constant in my life and was unfortunately very detrimental when I was in school.

I don't have strong emotions. Not frequently at least. It takes so much for me to ever have a genuine outburst of anger. Or to cry.

People in my life have passed away, and it was chilling when I realized that instead of breaking down, I didn't feel anything. It's still a constant in my life now. I got a job a few weeks ago, and it's great. I had been looking for 2 years and finally got something. But once again, I didn't feel much of anything. I felt like a robot when my mother kept asking me if I was excited. I couldn't even hide my lack of joy and just shrugged.

Let me know your thoughts and your own experiences.

I want to post a rant/review of a new movie teaser trailer, and I don't know where exactly to post it without it getting taken down. There are so many rules for some of them that I feel like my post would be out of place.

I want to post a rant/review of a new movie teaser trailer and I don't know where exactly to post it without it getting taking down. There are so many rules for some of them that I feel like my post would be out of place.

I know this is a common topic, but still. I'm new to posting on Reddit, so maybe some of my opinions are wrong, and I will admit it if proven so. On other posts that I have viewed throughout the years, there are always people overanalysing and forgetting the point of the post. If someone asks about a specific thing, they are met with the most passive agressive or sarcastic comments. One person will say something that only brings up one part of the post, and then everyone else branches off from them instead of OP.

A lot of times it turns into comments vs OP. I know that a large portion of the world is just mean for the sake of being mean. People sometimes wait for a new post to pop up to add their opinion or share their knowledge with someone not in the know. That hasn't stopped, but a lot of people just take things too far. It's like that one argument: I like waffles without syrup. So you hate pancakes and syrup!? What's wrong with you?

Who knows? This post might turn into the same thing. I just wanted to share this because it bothered me. And once again, I'm a new poster, so bare with me.