u/Zealousideal-Age-212

I found this highly rated local jeweler that specializes in lab diamonds for an engagement ring upgrade. After going in for two consultations, we excitedly put down a $1,200 deposit for this 3.1 elongated cushion diamond pictured in the first photo. They told me they could put it on my current engagement ring band (pictured in the last 2 photos) and add a hidden halo. The estimate they gave us all-in was $5,700 before tax.

But another jeweler from the store just called me and said the 2 sales associates I saw last week gave me bad information and that she cannot in fact put that stone on my engagement ring . Her exact words were, “can I do it? Yes, will you like it? No.”

Instead, she said she wants to use my current small stones from the engagement ring and put the metal towards the price of a totally new ring so that she can start from scratch and build on that because it will be more sturdy for the stone and more aesthetically pleasing.

She was talking a lot about why it wouldn’t work and that I should love it because it’s my upgrade, it’s a beautiful stone, etc. but she was dancing around the new price so finally I asked how much more it would cost than the estimate they gave us. She said $8,700 pre tax. So that’s a 50% increase—plus I wouldn’t be able to visually see the ring that she is going to create for me, whereas in the store I was able to hold the stone up to my engagement band and I liked the look of it.

What do you think? Does this stink? Is she just trying to upsell me? Should I find a different jewelry store and see if they’re willing to put a similar stone on my engagement ring or should I believe her that I need a totally new ring?

We are likely going to ask for our deposit back. I am totally bummed. This was supposed to be my 10-year anniversary upgrade 😩

UPDATE! They just emailed the itemized new estimate and it’s now $10,700 just 2 hours later!!! I am shook.

HW: 227 SW: 220 (June 2024) CW: 147 Height: 5 ‘7

Hey gang,

I feel like you’re the only peeps who will truly appreciate this NSV without judging me (family, friends, even my SO doesn’t love me sharing my image online), so here I am.

Today for the first time in probably 20ish years I tried on and bought a size SMALL garment (the yellow shirt). I took it to the dressing room telling myself, “It won’t fit but it’s okay, just see how far you have to go before it does.”They didn’t have a medium option.)

Holy shit, it fit! 🎉

That’s all for today, and it’s more than enough.

Keep going! Take it slow and steady. I honestly never thought I’d go from an XL to a medium or small, but it’s materializing and I’m so grateful 🤍

Edit: some have pointed out I need new bras for my new figure and yes, I agree 😅 I put on an old everyday basic one here not expecting to take pics.