u/Zealousideal_Mind_93

Hi, I (19M) have never really liked myself. I hate being alone and get extremely lonely at times. I think this is because I don’t like/ am not comfortable being alone with myself. I recently had my first breakup and I’m honestly taking it very hard. I lost my whole friend group, family and girlfriend all at once. I realize now that I was very codependent and that my happiness relied very heavily on her. I don’t know where to start regarding loving myself. My self image has always been horrible so I feel pretty lost. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

I feel like no one would ever choose me, Like I’m nobodies first choice to talk to or hang out with. I wouldn’t even choose myself if it came down to it. I feel worthless. The only time I’ve felt valuable is with my ex, and now she’s gone. Why does nobody like me? How do I get people to like me or being interested in what I have to say? How can I get over needed to be liked by others?

I (19m) have only felt really wanted or loved by my ex. We broke up a month ago and it’s been really hard, especially since she seemingly found someone else just 2 weeks later. I’ve always had a craving for intimacy and since that was my first relationship I feel like I’m going through withdrawal. Withdrawal from having a connection and the physical touch. My life just feels hollow now. I want people to be curious about me, to want to know me but that’s just never really been the case for anyone. Not friends, family or romantic interests. I don’t know what it is but it just seems like everyone just never really thinks of me, except for her. She approached me first and is the only person that ever made me feel wanted. I have pretty bad self image issues so now that she’s gone I just feel worthless and unworthy of love. It feels like I’ll never be as happy or understood as I was. I just have never really been happy with myself or my life until I was with her. I don’t want to rely on others for my own fulfillment and happiness but I don’t know what to do to improve it.

Hi, I 19m have always struggled with talking to girls I find interesting/attractive. When I’m talking to a girl in person my anxiety kind of takes over and I can’t speak and I end up apologizing and embarrassing myself. I’ve only been in one relationship and she actually texted me first lol. I just wanted to know, shy guys how did you meet your partner? Or rather how did you become more comfortable approaching and talking to people?

I’m 19 and I feel like there’s no where I can just meet people my age and hangout. I know there’s superrad but most of their concerts are a little too metal for me. Just wanted to see if anyone had any suggestions or spots

I feel like I am incapable of loving life and myself when I’m alone. The only time I’ve been comfortable with myself is when I was with my ex and we broke up 3 weeks ago. She was seeing somebody else so that also completely ruined my confidence. I just don’t how I’ll ever be comfortable and happy with myself. Any advice would help a lot.

Me (19m) and my ex (18f) broke up about 3 weeks ago and yesterday I saw her at a party, with someone else. When we broke up she was on a trip and he was on that trip too. Seeing her completely crushed me. I was making such good progress grieving and now I’m back to step one. I’m thinking that either she was talking to him while on the trip and decided to leave me or she just can’t handle being alone with herself. I mean she started dating me only 2 months after her last relationship. Now I’m kinda scared to go back out in case I see her again Seeing her just reopened everything and I feel absolutely dreadful. Any advice would really help.

I’ve always hated myself. The only time I feel of any value is if someone else likes me. So I constantly try to socialize but no one really seems so click. And recently my girlfriend broke up with me and I’m spiraling back into my anxious, depressed self. I don’t want to rely on people to make me feel good my whole life. How do I start to actually like myself?

Sorry I just need to get this off my chest.

People say to get rid of everything that reminds you of them. But everything in my room reminds me of her. I got everything with her. My room was baron beforehand. And we live in the same small town so everywhere I go reminds me of her too. I don’t know what I should do. I can’t even have fun or enjoy life without her. I feel like I need a companion in order to be happy and myself. When I’m alone I’m just some slob. And I’m cripplingly anxious all the time. It’s storming right now and all I can do is worry about her. I worry she’s not doing good or that she’ll do something. And I’m so anxious that we’ll never speak again. I blocked her on socials and deleted her number so the only way is she initiates. (which I guess is a good thing) And when she checked on me a few days after we broke up I told her that I don’t think we should talk and that it will just make it harder for both of us. “Goodbye” was the last thing we said. She was worried and I pushed her away. I don’t know if I should text her and apologize for pushing her away and tell her I’m also worried or if that would just make it worse for both of us. Sorry I think I’m having an anxiety attack right now and I don’t have anyone to talk to. Sorry for the rant.

How do I move on from a break up if I never really talk to anyone? Like not being able to tell people the stuff that happened during my day feels horrible. Going back to my anti social self is like torture after experiencing having a social life.

How as a INTP do I cope/get over my constant need for attention/love/validation from others. Me and my girlfriend broke up a few days ago and I feel hollow without having someone always by my side and I can always tell things, someone who truly understands me. I don’t have many friend and the ones I do have are kind of surface level. I feel this need for every friendship or relationship to be deep and meaningful. I want to truly understand everyone around me the way I did my girlfriend. Any advice would really help.

Me (19m) and my girlfriend (18f) broke up a few days ago and the waves of positive and negative emotions are killing me. Sometimes I’ll feel alright and others time I feel disgusting and that know one will ever love me like she did again. I feel so horrible without having someone to tell everything to and the lack of romantic attention is crushing me. My ex was the most honest and caring girl I’ve ever met, and she approached ME. I don’t think I’ll ever be that lucky again. The thought of getting to know someone that deeply feels almost exhausting. Can anyone offer some words or advice?

Me (19m) and my girlfriend (18f) broke up around few days ago. She said she couldn’t forgive or forget something I did and said around 6 months ago. I have not repeated what I did since then but she said looking into the future she dosent think she’ll ever forget it. I’m not gonna go into details but I understand her decision. We broke up and had the final talk and went to contact. And last night at 3:40 she texted me, saying she was worried about me. Her texting me made me feel better and a lot worse at the same time. I’m just so confused, I feel like it was kinda selfish of her to text me. I already blocked her instagram but I don’t want to block her number because I’m kinda scared of what I’ll miss. Like what if she needs me you know? I’m just so confused and struggling, I don’t really have anyone to talk or rant to.

Me (19m) and my girlfriend (18f) of 8 months broke up a few days ago and I feel like I’m dying. Everything around me reminds me of her. She’s the reason I left my shell and really started enjoying life. Now I fear I’m going to go back to my old depressive lonely ways. Every time I remember her I can’t help but think she was perfect, I know we had problems but it’s like my brain is blocking them out. Being constantly reminded of her is slowly draining me. I’ve been crying a lot and barely eating. Plus I don’t have any friends I can talk to, the only friends I had were mutual friends we shared and they cut me off as soon as we broke up. I don’t know what to do.

I got hired by Walmart to be a cashier a few days ago. I completed the background check and everything. I was just wondering how long on average until orientation?