u/angelxdustx101

Been seeing this chick for a few weeks now. We kicked it off pretty good. Had real good sex and spent the night together for a week straight. But she keeps telling me she's still tryna "figure me out" and even tho we been acting like we're in a relationship, she doesn't wanna be official. She blew me off the entire weekend to hangout with her other friends, and I seen tonight she posted a snap of what looked like her legs laying on top of another shirtless dudes, and I replied to it asking if that was her new boy and all she says back is "no." It feels like she only hits me up during the work week when she's bored and then when the weekend comes around blows me off to hangout with a bunch of other guys and party. Should I just cut her off?

TL;DR Should I cut this girl off for blowing me off to hang out with other dudes?

Hey guys. I'm finally starting to figure out my passions and what I want to do in life. I have always loved music, whether listening to it, playing instruments, creating lyric videos, etc. I'm 30 years old now and have basically only done construction and I'm very unhappy with it and where I'm at in my life. I want to get into the music industry somehow! I live 2 hours away from Las Vegas and I think it would be so cool to be a stagehand. I'm willing to literally do anything it takes to get my foot in the door, I don't care what the job is at first. I just know this is the direction I want to head in after years and years of trying to decide what I want to be when I grow up LOL. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!!!

I just started my first job as an excavation laborer Monday. We are digging 20' trenches to lay sewer pipe, but it sketches me the fuck out that to get in and out, we're using a ladder that is outside the trench box. We stacked two trench boxes together, but when climbing in or out, the ladder is separate from the box and completely unprotected if a collapse happened. I'm just wondering if this is normal, something I should just man up and not worry about, but honestly it sketches me the fuck out. I'm not tryna die for 23/hr. I dont worry too much when inside the box, but I hate leaving the box to climb in and out and not sure what to tell my foreman tomorrow..

Company that wants to hire me says that I have to purchase my own tools for the job. I asked how much, and he said its between $1500-$2000 and that $50 dollars would be taken out of my paycheck twice a month until fully paid for. Just wondering if that's normal or not? Seems to me like the company should provide the tools, figuring they are a large company in multiple states...

I just turned 30 a few days ago and I'm completely lost in life. There's not very many job opportunities where I live, and the ones I've had I blew them all. I'm a creative person, and I just wanna find something I enjoy doing. I've been having fun making lyric videos on Capcut the last month, messing around with video editing. I enjoy photography. I think I might enjoy building websites if I learned. I dont know what to do at the moment, any suggestions would be very appreciated.

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I seriously cannot hang in this life anymore. I just turned 30, I got less than $50 dollars to my name. All my bills are past due, cars on E. I can't find a full time job for the life of me that doesn't make me have a complete nervous break down. I have no friends. The girl I use to talk to everyday for 2.5 years don't love me no more and won't reply to my texts or even wish me happy birthday. I have lost/on my way to losing everything. I used to wanna stay around at least for my family and baby sister but lately I don't even care about that anymore. Nobody understands the amount of pain I hold inside, and I don't know how much longer I can go.

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I seriously don't know what I'm gonna do. I spent the last year and a half broke AF, trying to get my business I started up off the ground, but I'm now realizing it's just not gonna be what I thought or imagined and that I need to hang it up and focus on something I'm more passionate about and don't hate doing. My problem is, I need to go back working a normal regular job and I just can't do this 9-5 life. I can't not have a complete total nervous breakdown being stuck somewhere in an uncontrolled environment for 8-9 hours, being taken advantage of and used for abysmal wages that hardly cover food and gas let alone rent or savings. Then to know you're getting taxed on that so innocent people overseas can be killed since bombs and missiles are the only things made in the US. The shirt on my fucking back right now was made in Vietnam. I just don't know what to do. I been thinking about taking a digital design course at my local community college, but it doesn't start til August and its 12 months long. I'm gonna be 30 next month and I've never sought out or known exactly what I wanted to do in life, I just kinda always fell into these bullshit jobs that I had to take because I needed work at the time. I'm creative, I enjoy photography, editing videos (recently started making lyric videos on youtube) not construction or serving at a fuckin restaurant. Idunno my brain feels like it's on fire. Most days I just hope to go to sleep and not wake up again... Does anybody have any suggestions or ideas to help me thru this nightmare of a chapter im currently going thru?

Feel like everything I do is wrong. Turning 30 next month. Tried starting a business last year with the only skills I have which is natural stone restoration. Focused just on countertops tho. Long story short it hasn’t gone anywhere. Looking at selling my equipment and going back to work full time somewhere. My only problem is, well there’s two problems actually. One is that no where is hiring, and two is that I struggle to not have a fucking panic attack being in an uncontrolled environment somewhere for 9 hours a day all week long. I don’t do much but just waste away anyways tho, but not being in control of myself for those 9 hours are torture for me. Where I live my only options are construction, medical, and hospitality. The cost of living is double if not triple what the wages are. Can’t do construction because it’s 100 degrees or more half the year. Can’t do medical cuz I ain’t getting no covid shot. Don’t really wanna work at a restaurant at 30 years old but that’s probably what it’s gonna come down to. I’ve been alone my entire life with no friends or partner and I’m just depressed about everything and have no sense of direction.

I’m about to lose everything. I already lost a relationship I had with someone for almost 3 years I can’t get over. Even tho it was my own fault. I’m a worthless, avoidant, piece of shit who let my past trauma ruin everything. I told myself I would never let someone else break my heart again and what do I end up doing? I break my fucking own. I can’t find work, if I do I end up having panic attacks over it. I have no friends, no money, no job, no hope. There’s no opportunities where I live, I’m 30k in debt. I still live at home. I get to watch my parents raise my sister after 21 fucking years of being an only child. Swear nobody understands my frustrations with that. I just want to be happy and figure out my life and have a job that doesn’t make me want to blow my brains out but I just can’t hang with society. Idunno what I’m gonna do, I can’t go on this way much longer. I’m 30 next month and this is the most hopeless, depressed, and confused I’ve ever been in my life.

I’ve spent my entire 20’s trying to figure out what to do. I only have a GED so I’ve only been able to find different construction field jobs or food service bullshit. Lately I’ve been considering enrolling in a short term program to become certified in something but I’m just not sure what. Thought about massage therapy or pet grooming. I don’t wanna go back to college for a four year degree in something just to have AI take over. I’m turning 30 in 30 days and got nothing to my name. It sucks and I’m feeling very down and depressed. Not having any friends or a partner doesn’t help either.

I 29M don't know what's wrong with me. I haven't been able to stop crying for like the past two days now. I've been suffering from some of the worst depression in my life this year, but now it's like everything is 2X.

I met this amazing, fun, talented girl online playing our favorite childhood game. I knew from the jump that she was into me. She lived 2600 miles away from me but we still end up talking everyday for almost 3 years. That was until the end of January where I totally fucked everything up. :(

Like I said, I have been going thru major depression, I just can't seem to figure out my life. She was always there for me though and supportive and trying to make me feel better, but I was too fucking stuck in my own head to realize it and try to be more positive. When she finally told me 1/31/26 that I was bumming her out by being so negative all the time, for whatever fucking stupid reason and what was going thru in my head at the time, I interpreted that as "she just only wants to hear the good parts about my life, and not the bad." I said, "fine I wont talk to you about my problems anymore." and she said "that's not what I mean" but I never wrote back. 93 days later and I'm fucking devastated with myself over it.

I couldn't have been further from the truth and It just sickens me that I couldn't realize this sooner. I reached back out yesterday and we talked on the phone for an hour today but it's too late. She's with somebody else that makes her happy and doesn't have to second guess how he feels about her. Something I could never do because I'm too much of a fuckin piece of shit and was too worried about getting my heart broken again if I let those walls down and became vulnerable.

She said we could still be friends, which of course I absolutely do want to still be friends. I just don't understand why it took me 93 fucking days to realize what a special person I had in my life, even long distance, and to hold onto that instead of becoming distant and fucking losing it all.

The saddest part is, I don't think there's anything I can do to change anything. I'm to a point where I want to rekindle our relationship and be in a serious relationship with this person, and eventually fly out to meet. But I can't expect her to break up with her new bf and go back to me like nothing fucking happened.

Not sure it matters but I've also been about 4 months sober from smoking weed cold turkey, which is something I have done every single day of my adult life up until this point. I'm starting to finally think more clearly but I just can't stop beating myself up for the way I handled our relationship.

The last time I got my heart broken it was because the girl was lying and leading me on and finally ghosted me one night and it hurt because I had no control over it.

This time hurts even more because It was all in my control and I just dropped the ball. It was all my fault.

I've been out of work for over a year now. I started my own business which has been fun, but it's super slow and I haven't made any money in a couple months now. I'm down to my last couple hundred dollars... I keep looking for traditional jobs but most places just straight up ghost or ignore me, and the others only want to pay minimum wage! I just can't bring myself to work for 16-17/hr when I can easily make 200/hr when I do my own thing. I don't know what to do... working anywhere just seems impossible. I'm gonna resort to door dashing for the next little while and hope to make enough money to pay next month's bills but I'm not sure. Just feeling depressed and hopeless. Like working 8 hours a day for $100 dollars is the most depressing shit in the entire world.