u/anony7150

Normally when I see their travel videos I skip but today I saw this one white women from the same American city I live in and had to comment “have some respect for your sisters across the globe who cannot flee their homes, their home with the highest female suicide rate in the world, their home that gives objects and animals more legal protection.” I got my comment deleted and blocked 💀

In her video she went into Taliban territory, she got a tattoo, she rode a motorcycle by herself… she did everything the afghan women can only dream of, as a fun vacation with no fear or consequence

I study mass violence against women across the globe. I’m normally ok at not getting emotional over most of it but Afghanistan is where I cannot control my sorrows. It’s reading and learning about what the Taliban does that has led me to collapse and cry while doing my work. I hardly cry yet it’s learning about the burka, Taliban law, all of it, that breaks me the most. And I just do not understand how a WOMAN could go there by choice and go to bed at night and live with herself knowing that on the other side of this earth we share, our sisters are not human. They are not animal. They are not objects. They are the worst most satanic creatures: women. There’s a different kind of anger that rises in me when I see women who choose to travel there, do so, document it, post it, make money from their trip online. While our sisters are forced to be beaten and raped under a law that protects the beating item over their humanity.

Behind every Afghanistan travel video are the women behind the walls of the buildings they broadcast, sitting alone in their homes having not seen the sun in days, weeks, months… who cannot go to the hospital when their life is in danger because they are women. Next time go to Afghanistan with a burka on Victoria 🙏

Exactly the title. I’m so tired of these dudes fully believing they know more than an expert who studies these things daily. It’s not only entitlement it’s straight up rude! I tried to escape the convo and luckily did after 10 long minutes that I will never get back, but god those ten minutes were BRUTAL. Bro was laughing at Marx but when I asked him if he read Marx, silent of course 😆same with any relevant famous scholars on the topic. This dick was like “o believe we’re not hyper capitalist bc we’re actually feudalistic” dawg do you know what feudalism is??

It’s so sad how on this sub I see women in STEM venting about the men they put up with. And then for me as a humanities student, it’s the same exact thing. Like hey buddy sometimes it’s not our turn to speak

It’s just a word thrown around atp. The tldr of my story is I was in recovery for 8/9 months for DV and intimate partner SA. Part of my non recovery process included a police report, having to file a restraining order, and a title nine case.
The title nine case was surprisingly the most traumatizing out of the three lol but I had to go through with it since he was in my major. I’m done w all the cases now but constantly I was told either by them, the website, or school “resources” that they were “trauma informed.” When I have to share details to the very second it happened to me, regarding the event from the position I was in to where in his room it occurred, I really doubt the statement trauma informed. Esp bc I had to have over 5 different meetings where I just repeated myself to the same people who were supposedly recording. Specifying things that didn’t need specification for in regard to my case. On of the interviewers was laughing at one of my SA instances (there were several…) and told me the whole case would take four months. The actual time for the whole case was doubled that. These “trauma informed experts” were the most apathetic indignant people who clearly only pretended to care.

Even in residential therapy, my therapist triggered me quite constantly, preaching empathy for the perpetrator, forgiveness to others, “do you know that for a fact?” BS about my rapist which made me clearly visibly upset each time. Honestly she was mildly traumatizing in her own way with how she handled some of the information I regrettably shared. She would side with anyone but me, she would focus on getting me to try empathizing with my rapist, understanding why his lawyer and police dehumanized and belittled me. You know, the usual!

Like what even is “trauma informed” brah (rhetorical). My favorite professor who I’m close to who has zero background in mental health, has never been to therapy or any treatment, has far more respect and understanding towards me than any “trauma informed” professional has had. It’s the same with my closest friends, with a TA who hardly even knows me, with professors who I’m only acquainted with, even my goddamn academic advisor 💀😭 Those untrained individuals have given me far more respect and support than ANY treatment team I’ve ever had and so I don’t even understand wtf trauma informed even entails if anything trauma informed sounds like a training to invalidate and belittle the traumatized. Like you know it’s fucked when my male TA who can’t even remember my name has shown more sympathy for my circumstance than any “professional”