Green breaks the room but feels nicer and works well. Light gray makes the dining room feel roomier and the plants pop out. Unable to decide. Rest of the room has tones of terra cotta, green and walnut.
I know it’s a sellers market here. But as someone who can flex a bit on the price, I’m bummed that there are so many more homes in the market right now as compared to just a year ago when I bought my current home.
I’ve got a pretty athletic build with disproportionately thick/muscular thighs. Castelli size L has been the only thing that comfortably fits my quads.
The problem is I’ve been losing weight, so the L is now getting loose around my waist/ass, while my thighs have stayed the same or possibly gotten bigger from training.
Has anyone with a similar build found bibs where you can wear an S/M without the leg openings absolutely strangling your quads? Looking for something snug around the hips/ass but with a more generous/stretchy quad cut.
I’m starting open-water swim training for an Ironman and want to get comfortable in calmer water before progressing to the Pacific. Curious if anyone here swims in the lagoon regularly, especially during the colder months.
Edit: you guys convinced me against it, I’ll just practice in the aquatic cove in SF. Thanks, yall!
An old friend of about 10 years is moving to San Francisco to look for a job and asked if he could stay at my place.
I own a 3 bed / 2 bath house, and I technically have the space. He’d have his own bedroom and bathroom. The catch is that the extra bedroom is normally my Airbnb, so I’d be giving up that income while he stays.
Another factor is that while my girlfriend and I are perfectly happy hosting Airbnb guests (they mostly keep to their room/bathroom), it feels different with a friend. Since he’d be living here, we’d naturally be sharing the kitchen, living areas, and day-to-day home life. We both value having our home feel private, and the idea of hosting someone indefinitely makes us a little uncomfortable.
I genuinely want to help him, but I also don’t want to create a situation where there’s no clear end date or I start resenting it because of the loss of privacy and Airbnb income.
For those who’ve been in a similar situation in SF:
- Is it reasonable to put a time limit on how long he can stay (e.g. 2–4 weeks)?
- Would you charge some amount after a certain point, or keep it free?
- Has anyone hosted a friend while they were job hunting? How did it go?
I’m curious how others have handled this without damaging the friendship.
Edit: really appreciate all the replies here. I’ll be deleting the post in a day to avoid an odd case where my friend ends up on this post.
Considering getting them as I can take calls or listen to music. Any feedback on how they’re?
Do you use it often? I live in SF. Did it impact your resale value? I might sell my home in the next 2-3 years.
My (30m) partner (30f) is incredibly kind, almost too kind, especially to strangers. She’s very understanding of my needs and is both educated and successful. She’s also very attractive, and our sex life is great.
However, there’s a financial imbalance: she earns only about one-third of what I do, our lifestyle mismatch creeps into our relationship. I’ve purchased the home we live in, and I handle all the maintenance, including bills, taxes, and almost everything else. She helps with what she can (it’s not about money). I also cook and clean, and I’m happy to cook for her. I also plan all our trips. I’m a lead manager in a large company, working 9-hour days. But she seems to do everything just for herself. For example, she only puts the dishes in the dishwasher if she eats something, while I do it for both of us. Since I eat meat and she’s vegetarian, our meals are mostly separate.
I generally enjoy living with her, but when I think about it, she feels more like a good friend or roommate with benefits than a partner. I’m not sure how to put it, but she doesn’t feel like a partner to me. Honestly, if it weren’t for the sex, I’d be happier on my own. I feel like I have more to do being with her, and I could do most of what I do with my friends.
And we fight a lot. She constantly feels like I’m taking advantage of her. While she has past trauma and has built up walls, it feels less to do with that but more to do with the 2026 idea of feminism that social media portrays (not speaking against gender equality). I play a part in those fights too, I’m fully aware of it, admit my fault and generally try to avoid my mistakes except for some of my conditioned patterns.
Am I expecting too much from this relationship? Am I just making excuses to break up?
Natural next step for us is to propose. I’m neither psyched nor petrified about it. Don’t tell me that I “need” to be psyched. We have been together a long time so it doesn’t feel like a special event to me. But I feel like I’m wasting both of our time.
My (30m) partner (30f) is incredibly kind, almost too kind, especially to strangers. She’s very understanding of my needs and is both educated and successful. She’s also very attractive, and our sex life is great.
However, there’s a financial imbalance: she earns only about one-third of what I do, our lifestyle mismatch creeps into our relationship. I’ve purchased the home we live in, and I handle all the maintenance, including bills, taxes, and almost everything else. She helps with what she can (it’s not about money). I also cook and clean, and I’m happy to cook for her. I also plan all our trips. I’m a lead manager in a large company, working 9-hour days. But she seems to do everything just for herself. For example, she only puts the dishes in the dishwasher if she eats something, while I do it for both of us. Since I eat meat and she’s vegetarian, our meals are mostly separate.
I generally enjoy living with her, but when I think about it, she feels more like a good friend or roommate with benefits than a partner. I’m not sure how to put it, but she doesn’t feel like a partner to me. Honestly, if it weren’t for the sex, I’d be happier on my own. I feel like I have more to do being with her, and I could do most of what I do with my friends.
And we fight a lot. She constantly feels like I’m taking advantage of her. While she has past trauma and has built up walls, it feels less to do with that but more to do with the 2026 idea of feminism that social media portrays (not speaking against gender equality). I play a part in those fights too, I’m fully aware of it, admit my fault and generally try to avoid my mistakes except for some of my conditioned patterns.
Am I expecting too much from this relationship? Am I just making excuses to break up?
Natural next step for us is to propose. I’m neither psyched nor petrified about it. Don’t tell me that I “need” to be psyched. We have been together a long time so it doesn’t feel like a special event to me. But I feel like I’m wasting both of our time.
My (30m) partner (30f) is incredibly kind, almost too kind, especially to strangers. She’s very understanding of my needs and is both educated and successful. She’s also very attractive, and our sex life is great.
However, there’s a financial imbalance: she earns only about one-third of what I do, our lifestyle mismatch creeps into our relationship. I’ve purchased the home we live in, and I handle all the maintenance, including bills, taxes, and almost everything else. She helps with what she can (it’s not about money). I also cook and clean, and I’m happy to cook for her. I also plan all our trips. I’m a lead manager in a large company, working 9-hour days. But she seems to do everything just for herself. For example, she only puts the dishes in the dishwasher if she eats something, while I do it for both of us. Since I eat meat and she’s vegetarian, our meals are mostly separate.
I generally enjoy living with her, but when I think about it, she feels more like a good friend or roommate with benefits than a partner. I’m not sure how to put it, but she doesn’t feel like a partner to me. Honestly, if it weren’t for the sex, I’d be happier on my own. I feel like I have more to do being with her, and I could do most of what I do with my friends.
And we fight a lot. She constantly feels like I’m taking advantage of her. While she has past trauma and has built up walls, it feels less to do with that but more to do with the 2026 idea of feminism that social media portrays (not speaking against gender equality). I play a part in those fights too, I’m fully aware of it, admit my fault and generally try to avoid my mistakes except for some of my conditioned patterns.
Am I expecting too much from this relationship? Am I just making excuses to break up?
Natural next step for us is to propose. I’m neither psyched nor petrified about it. Don’t tell me that I “need” to be psyched. We have been together a long time so it doesn’t feel like a special event to me. But I feel like I’m wasting both of our time.