People who've had bone spurs/tory - did you or did you not have them removed, and any regrets?
I have them on both the upper and lower. I've been told they might cause pain for me with wearing a denture/eating.
Isolation is just making me so crazy. It's been so long and nothing feels worth doing. I've been on a waitlist for a therapist. I went to a psych ward a few weeks ago telling them I was going to kill myself and they sent me home with a referral. There's nowhere to go. I don't believe I'll kill myself I just can't get up. I'm tired of trying to make decisions.
I'm in a data analyst job where my boss cancels all our projects partway through and I am miserable.
Private student debt - 95.6k at 4% interest, $906/mo
Federal student debt - 23.4k ranging from 3-4% interest, standard repayment plan $330/mo
Rent - $960/mo (with roommates)
Utilities - $50-$100/mo (higher in the summer with AC)
Groceries - ~$240/mo
HYSA - 40k
401k - 7.5k
I make 62k/year. I put 20% of that into Roth IRA. In my 20s I had high-interest private student debt - I refinanced what I could but I didn't qualify to finance all of it - so I was focused on paying the high-interest debt off and didn't start contributing to my IRA until the very end. I saw a financial counselor when I was younger and was told to absolutely not file for bankruptcy but I'm now wondering if that would've saved me a lot of stress and money.
I'm 30 now. I need to leave my job due to burnout severely affecting my health - it's been a rough few years. My doctor recommended additional sick days (I don't get many), but my boss denied this request. He is himself a workaholic.
Right now I am on medical leave and receiving partial pay. I am hoping to get laid off so I can at least collect unemployment. I do not expect to be able to start working full-time again immediately.
I halted my student loan payments. Is it worth trying to apply for forbearance? Should I be filing for bankruptcy, and is there any rush?
I also have a $2k bill from a recent psych ward visit. What can I do about that?
EDIT: Also I don't know if this is worth including but some people seemed to think I could make money off of my childhood somehow. https://reddit.com/r/DecidingToBeBetter/comments/1t5smgp/i_was_severely_abused_and_i_want_a_cheerleader/
I got a Pixel in December - they were running a promotion and said it was $1000 off. I only paid tax. But the website shows the phone is only 11% "paid off."
Is there money due if I switch providers?
I was in a shelter last year and I'm having such a hard time being out. I know this is super common. I also have zero teeth and I'm so fucking tired of looking at people with teeth all day.
Does anyone have advice on ways to adjust/stay connected? I miss the sense of community. Please @ me especially if you are missing teeth. I miss having people around me who looked like me.
I just went NC with my family this week and I'm looking at a Mint plan for $15/mo. I can do this.
I feel like continuing to be in contact/dependent on them has been holding me back from processing anything that happened. I made a post the other day about my childhood (thank you all for the generous, generous support) and I don't believe I would've shared that if I was still in contact.
I'm excited for total financial independence. Regardless of how shitty my childhood was, I'm also 30 and I just want my own phone plan.
I grew up without teeth but I don't know anyone else who's been through this and I'm so so tired of being alone with it.
As a kid I had a wheelchair and a feeding tube I didn't need. I couldn't talk either. I was mostly homeschooled. All my teeth fell out. My dad was an alcoholic. I thought my mom was the "safe" parent and only recently did I realize that what she had been doing was also abuse.
I took on too much debt to go to college then took a low-paying job because I had no idea what jobs were out there and took the first one I was offered. I don't have much money.
I made unhealthy friendships because I was uncomfortable being treated well. I do not believe I was a victim in any of those friendships. I did not have to hang out with those people. I don't think I treated them well either.
Where I'm at now as a 30y/o:
I can walk and talk! My jaw muscles are weak as shit after years of being tube-fed, but I'm trying to rebuild the muscles starting with gumming soft food. I blend the rest so I can still get balanced meals in.
I just started therapy again even though my mom was a therapist and I am terrified to be in therapy.
I let all of my unhealthy friendships go.
I want a new job that'll pay me what I am worth.
I am taking a public speaking class to boost my confidence speaking.
I went no contact with my family.
I meditate daily.
I am in so much pain. So much pain. I am in so much fucking pain.
I am terrified to talk about these things but I know I need more support in my life so why the hell not at this point. I often feel like I am powerless and I have no future. I know this is how I learned to talk from listening to my parents and that it is not reality.
I would love encouragement. Looking at the situation rationally, I think I have accomplished a lot, but without external feedback (having just cut all my unhealthy relationships out) I never know how I'm doing and often fall into negative self-talk out of habit.
As a kid I had a wheelchair and a feeding tube I didn't need. I couldn't talk either. I was mostly homeschooled. All my teeth fell out. My dad was an alcoholic. I thought my mom was the "safe" parent and only recently did I realize that what she had been doing was also abuse.
I took on too much debt to go to college then took a low-paying job because I had no idea what jobs were out there and took the first one I was offered. I don't have much money.
I made unhealthy friendships because I was uncomfortable being treated well. I do not believe I was a victim in any of those friendships. I did not have to hang out with those people. I don't think I treated them well either.
Where I'm at now as a 30y/o:
I can walk and talk! My jaw muscles are weak as shit after years of being tube-fed, but I'm trying to rebuild the muscles starting with gumming soft food. I blend the rest so I can still get balanced meals in.
I just started therapy again even though my mom was a therapist and I am terrified to be in therapy.
I let all of my unhealthy friendships go.
I want a new job that'll pay me what I am worth.
I am taking a public speaking class to boost my confidence speaking.
I went no contact with my family.
I meditate daily.
I am in so much pain. So much pain. I am in so much fucking pain.
I am terrified to talk about these things but I know I need more support in my life so why the hell not at this point. I often feel like I am powerless and I have no future. I know this is how I learned to talk from listening to my parents and that it is not reality.
I would love encouragement. Looking at the situation rationally, I think I have accomplished a lot, but without external feedback (having just cut all my unhealthy relationships out) I never know how I'm doing and often fall into negative self-talk out of habit.
please no advice. my symptoms are better when i'm getting plenty of food and sleep but that didn't happen these last couple days which is fine, like i don't actually care. i'm annoyed for literally no reason at all. it's like i'm sharing a brain with someone who's annoyed. i can feel the annoyance but it's not mine. i hope someone understands this and i hope you have a good day.
And then get ghosted once that friend is in a better/new relationship?
I want to believe I will be the person in a relationship someday.
I can easily crush bread/bananas/cookies but I'm really struggling with finer things like veggies and pasta.
Full context: I lost my teeth as a child. I was raised to live on purees but would love to be able to gum food. I really want to be able to eat anything while out. I have sore spots on the left side of my mouth but the other side seems usable.