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Hi everyone, I'm getting married in a few weeks and we are finalizing our music choices. We have a string quartet for the ceremony, which we are super excited about. We've decided the recessional will be Concerning Hobbits but are still undecided about the processional. My fiance won't walk in as he just wants to appear under the wedding arch from the side (ceremony is in a garden). The groomsmen and bridesmaids will process one by one (9 total with the last bridesmaid walking with her kids who will toss flowers). I was thinking about using Aníron for this since it's so romantic, but a non-LotR friend told me it might sound too sad. I'm also considering Into the West, but my mom told me it was too somber! I know it doesn't really matter since it's *our* wedding but I don't want guests to think we picked something funereal :P I'm the bride, walking in last with my parents to In Dreams from Breaking of the Fellowship (aka the Fellowship theme).

From my fellow fans, do you think Into the West or Aníron is a better processional song? I would guarantee no one besides us will recognize either, except maybe my brother (he is also a groomsman).

Yes, I am a chronic overthinker, why do you ask?

Thank you!

I moved to Los Angeles 7 years ago from MA and I never bothered to convert my license because I a) don't own a car and b) don't actually really drive. I now need a CA ID with my address on it but for sentimental reasons (silly, I know), I am reluctant to give up my MA one. I also need to get the CA ID quickly and don't have time in my current situation to study for the written test to convert the license. Is this allowed?

I know you can only legally hold 1 Real ID, which my MA license is, and I can't find guidance about holding a Real ID and a regular ID card from another state at the same time.

Thanks!

The caterer recommended 3/guest but I'm wondering if that's enough since some are kids and their parents might need to wipe up spills or their faces or whatever. 65 person wedding, cocktail hour with passed apps & a grazing table, buffet dinner, dessert table with cookie and cupcakes. There will be cloth napkins on the tables for dinner. Should we put out more small paper napkins with dessert? We have dessert plates. Currently have 200 cocktail-sized napkins I'm having fun embossing/it doesn't take long, and it's not like it's expensive to get 100 more . . .

Thank you!

Hi BBBs! Where are you getting your vow books? I've spent ages looking on Etsy but none of them are truly speaking to me. We're hoping to keep the books as heirloom pieces and continue to write love letters to each other in them on our anniversary with the extra pages! Our wedding is vintage-inpsired and nature-forward but not rustic. We're five weeks out and this is stressing me. Thank you! Would like to keep it around $100, probably not as BBB as some but costs are creeping up as we get closer.

Hi, I’m on tray 4 of 7 refinement trays and I wear each for 10 days. Today, day 3, a freak gust of wind blew my bottom tray away from the table where I was eating lunch. I’ve searched everywhere and cannot find it. It must be caught in bushes or something. I’m also on vacation and away from my dentist for another month. I don’t have the previous trays with me but I do have the next set. I emailed them but it’s Sunday so I don’t expect a reply. I put in the bottom tray from the next set and it’s already hurting me. The fit is okay but not amazing, there’s a tiny halo. Maybe just normal since it’s a “new” tray. Any else been in a similar situation and can share what they were advised, while I wait to hear back? Cursing my bad luck!

Thanks!

My wedding is in a little less than two months and I really need to sort out my jewelry. My dress is long sleeved and lacy with a small v neck. It's vintage from the 90s. I have a single pearl I could wear, but not really feeling it and I don't love pearl studs or pearl drops for earrings. My vibe is vintage, ethereal, and delicate. My hair is mostly likely going to be in an updo with flowers but I haven't 100% decided. I prefer yellow gold but my ring set is platinum so I'd consider that too (ring was my grandmother's). Ideally these will be pieces I'll wear again and again. I'm on the lower end of big budget and would like to spend $1000 max for both. Thank you!

ETA I do already have a delicate gold chain that may work with a pendant so I wouldn't need to purchase the chain necessarily.

Hi all, finalizing the set up for our tented wedding in September. We have a live band. Is it the norm to have an extra table for them set up exactly the same as the guest tables so they can eat during their meal break? Photographer also will get a meal & sit there. That's what I am planning on currently & have the rentals for it. I've actually seen this band play at another wedding and it was a few years ago, before I was even engaged, so I don't remember at all what their eating arrangement was. I want to do the most respectful thing for the band/photographer and it just feels weird/rude to have a plain table somewhere else outside the tent for them to eat. If you had a tented backyard wedding, what did you do for vendor meals? Thanks!

Hi! My wedding is a backyard wedding in 2 months and I've been waffling about a coordinator for the day. My fiance is adamantly against it because of the cost. He works in live events as do his brothers and he is confident they can pull it off. I plan to set up the linens, seating chart, and welcome sign the night before. We have a florist for the flowers, and caterer who I've already spoken to about setting the plates/silverware/cups. We do not really have any other decor. My brother's partner is going to do the ceremony timing for sending people down the aisle (we are practicing the day before), marshaling everyone to the tent after cocktails, etc. She is not in the wedding party (her choice). My dad is doing the ceremony. Fiance's middle brother is point person for the band. Band leader will emcee reception. The vendors are all well-experienced with weddings and communication has been great so far. Caterer will clean up, guests will take flowers, wedding on family property so no rush to clear venue & we can finish whatever's left the next day.

Reddit is making me feel like I need to hire someone . . . am I missing something?

edit - expecting about 70 guests

Hey all, I was excited to try a year of Ffern and then likely cancel as I've read the scents are similar. I received Summer 26 yesterday and it's very powdery on me and kind of unpleasant. I normally like fresh, green scents so I'm a bit surprised. They are offering Winter 26, Autumn 25, or Spring 25 to exchange. Should I try one of those and or get a refund and wait for Autumn 26? Thanks!

Hi all, I'm so bad at picturing things in my head and I can't quite find on Pinterest what I want (or it's just AI slop). I'm wanting 3 pillar candles of differing heights (in hurricane glasses), some tealights or votives (5?), and bud vases (3-5?) on 60" round tables. And then for our two 8ft farmhouse tables for the head table, I want the same design elements but really struggling with how much of each. If you did something similar for your wedding I'd love to see pictures. I also have kerosene lamps I could incorporate leftover from my parents' recommitment ceremony for their 25th anniversary.

Thank you!

edit: the only other decor will be the table number, which is a 4x4 tile on a mini easel. No bread/butter as we are having a taco buffet. TBD about salt & pepper.

Hi all, I'm getting married and want to add a milk frother to the registry. We have a handheld one from Amazon that was a gift a few Christmases ago and use it about 1-2x a week. Recently I was visiting my parents, who have a Miroco foamer, and I noticed the superiority of the foam in my matcha latte. However it seems that model isn't available anymore. I'd prefer one that doesn't take an age to froth the milk, does non dairy (soy or oat) very well, and can do a small quantity (enough for one drink, we don't always both have a drink with foamed milk or I have oat and he has dairy so we do separately). Less important is ease of cleaning since we won't use it every day. Not sure if the Breville Milk Cafe is worth the $200? Especially since we are not heavy users. Thank you!