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I (31F) have been coping all by myself with my recent heartbreak, from the person(42M)I thought I would marry someday. Not only did he discard me, he also left for a very long holiday with his friends right after our breakup to Sweden and Norway and has been partying and being very active on social media, without thinking once how his actions would ever affect me during this time.

I didn't take the break up well because this was a person I decided to be very open from the beginning and always tell him what my intention of dating a man now entails. He never told me he had any issues with it. We met on a dating app, and his profile as I realise now was a complete false advertisement. When I started to open up to him about our future plans to get clarity, he started bringing up all the nth number of reasons he can't marry now and what not. He then went on to add why he can't marry in another 5 years either. Mind you, this is a 42 year old man. I dated him because I thought by this time their frontal lobe is fully developed and they don't use lame excuses with the chance to lose you.

Ofcourse, after he left me I pleaded him not to, that what we had is not worth throwing away just like that. That people you connect with don't come easy. And yet, he said he just doesn't know and he can't just be with me. There was never a concrete reason as such because our relationship was beautiful.

And then I saw these two crazies do what they did at the top of the Empire State Building. I was so desperately looking for signs from the universe, and then this incident took the internet the world by a storm. Especially, because in 2026 people in the name of romance treat the people they say they love like they mean nothing on a random day.

I think this is all I required to have faith once again that someone who loves you, will also understand your crazy, will walk that mile with you, and also flaunt to the world what they have with you.

Choose wisely. We no longer have time for people who treat eachother like disposable when there is someone who will climb the Empire State Building and claim their love for you.

Choose who chooses you.

I have a R2 case study interview next week. I have never interviewed for JPMC before and I really want to nail this. It is going to be an hour meeting. So I wonder how long do they prefer the presentation to be, potentially how many slides would be good enough, what makes a candidate stand out and anything that I could get tips on.

Can someone share their experience?

I have a R2 case study interview next week. I have never interviewed for JPMC before and I really want to nail this. It is going to be an hour meeting. So I wonder how long do they prefer the presentation to be, potentially how many slides would be good enough, what makes a candidate stand out and anything that I could get tips on.

Can someone share their experience?

I have made it through the first round of the Exploratory interview for the above role and now I have been invited for the case study for the same. The team is yet to send me the case study I need to work on, however, this is what they said they would require the candidate to prep, "

• Be ready to share your screen and walk through your approach.
• We will send a case study in advance, you will be provided with a webpage and asked to condense and synthesize key findings on specific AI related subject
• Prepare to create and present a PowerPoint summarizing your findings, focusing on clear communication of complex ideas.
• Review key technical skills from the job description, such as AI concepts, data analysis, and presentation skills."

Can anyone give me an idea on anything specific I should be focusing on when preparing for their case study round to stand out? How long should the presentation be, like how many slides for an hour interview in total?

Any tips would be very grateful! Please help. #JPMC #JPMCLondon

End of last month my ex just randomly decided to break up with me while we are in LDR just into 3 months. He told me he was all broken and sad and going to his GP for meds and stuff to show me that he is emotionally not well, whenever I wanted to speak with him. I actually believed that he might be suffering. In my head I was like how can he not, because I am crying here and controlling my emotions throughout the day as a dumpee, but even though he dumped me he still must be struggling. I almost believed him in whatever he said.

Cut to like 2-3 weeks post that, he is posting pictures on his instgram having a great time drinking and partying with his friends. He left me devastated and I am still picking pieces of it by myself, while it took him days to show to his instagram crowd that he is having a ball of a summer. cruel as hell.

I am tired of people telling me to keep my dignity and stay above and all that and ignore. But I literally can't pretend when I am this hurt by his action and inconsideration. I genuinely cared for this human being. Why should we only share how we feel when we are good? He can hate me for all I care now but he should know what he did and how it impacted me. I will not take this hurt to my grave. So I let it all out. He obviously saw my messages and avoided, because he is an expert in avoiding accountability. But I feel a sense of relief letting everything out.

I think more people should. I am tired of people asking women to hold on to their suffering caused by a man she loved so deeply while they go frolicking around town like a stud post break up.

And I also don't understand, he is a 42 year old man, like act your age. You just broke off with your partner, you have never even married a woman, all you have had is failed relationships so far. Maybe it's rather time to reflect on why that keeps happening to you over and over?Can you atleast for a little while calm down and not care about social media validation about a great holiday you're having as a single man? I obviously blocked his account after that post because it felt nasty. I cried seeing how happy he was at that time.

It's 2026, why do people treat someone they say they once cared for as such disposable?

I loved my ex very deeply and it felt to me like it was one of those beautiful sacred once in a lifetime kind of relationship you would ever have with someone.

Unfortunately because of my visa issues I had to move back home and we decided to do long distance until I was back. He broke my heart into pieces and broke up with me over a video call in just 3 months to our LDR. I tried to plead him a lot that he should rethink as this was a test for our relationship and he came back twice and told me he wants nothing to do with me in relationship wise, but he considers me a friend. Like as if I would care for that option to leave a door open for him if tomorrow he wakes up and realises he left me hanging as a friend.

But I finally found a job and I wanted to surprise him and tell him that the hard work has all worked out. He has been doing the bread-crumbing thing of liking my insta stories once in a while which left me very confused but I still decided to not give any meaning to it. I know that right post our break up and few days into it he has planned his summer trips with his friends to Sweden and Norway. Like what a way to distract yourself. But I was still like okay whatever, not a biggie. I will let him know the news when he is back from his holiday.

But last night it was worse than how he left me blindsided and broke up with me. He put up a carousel of pictures having a midsummer with people he is visiting and he is smiling ear to ear. It felt like a punch to my gut. I have had anxiety attacks almost every night while I was looking for a job and dealing with the heartbreak he left me with, and on top he has happily posted random strangers on his instagram main feed while throughout our whole relationship he never even put a picture of maybe even my hand lol, forget me. It felt like such a slap to everything I did and felt for this man. Like he would put random people than the person who loved him and was planning to build a future with him someday. I was always told that a man likes to flaunt what he is proud of, but he never ever in the course of a year and half that we were together ever posted me, and he knew i had asked that indirectly at times because I would happily post him, i mean he is my favourite person, so why hide him? But I had a deep realisation today that I meant nothing to him when I saw that whole feed of pictures.

I can barely eat a meal since he decided what was better for him, as always. I would keep inviting him to my hometown but he chose everything else over me. Something in me realised that this man never respected me, so I couldn't think of anything better than to block him.

How can people treat someone who loved them so deeply as nothing but a disposable? I will get over it someday, because I know the depth I bring in a relationship and someday someone will look at me and ask how others let me slip through. But today it feels heavy. Today it feels like I meant nothing to a person I thought was my world.

But maybe universe has a ironical way of working things out for us. He left me because he probably thought I was lesser of a person because I was unemployed for sometime. But he also has no idea about the place I secured my job in London, which is literally where people dream most of their life to work at, and I made it there.

But yeah, it's tough to see how people show their true colours at the end, and who they would choose over the person who they were in a relationship with and threw words like "soulmate" like it has no meaning at all.

It has been so difficult for me. Mentally, physically being away from him. But I got laid off and had to come back and figure out my life so that we can reunite. He had promised to wait for me. And in 3 months he just cracked, and he forgot everything it took to build what we had in a year and half. I loved him with pure intention, and I always stayed open with my communication about how I felt about him. And this was the time I needed him the most, and he decided to leave me. I was always told that people who truly love you will sit through the discomfort and study you. I know I prayed for him, and I was working very very hard so that we could reunite. I had whole picture of how our life would turn out.

And he just got on a video call and broke my heart into pieces. I am not coping well because of what he meant to me. People tell me relationships will test you and you fight for it, but the fact that he left just because of the long distance makes me wonder if he ever genuinely loved me for who I was.

We met on a dating app, there was never any lack of men to go on a date with. But sometimes you come across people who you let your guards down, slowly, but fully aware that it means something. And that was him for me. I guess I feel more hurt that I believed he would carry that I side I showed to him with carefulness, and that's why it hurts to know how he mishandled it. That's why it hurts to trust people and they abandon you when you are at the lowest you could ever be, but not broken down. They knew you still had the ability to rise, they just didn't want to stick around and hold your hand while you did that.

So I wonder, when situation like that happens to a person, especially when they are away. Do people who dumped them overtime realise what they lost when they wanted the easy route out? Or is it just about surface level happiness and sunshine, and nobody has the time to hold on and make a choice to love a person anymore?

The worst feeling was that through the whole long distance, he never asked me my address and I used to hope so badly that he would, and I would receive just a bunch of flowers. That's all it would have taken to make me happy. But he asked me for my address to send me back my belongings. It stung.

I hate modern relationships, and how easily people dispose people, and keep doing that in a loop over and over again.

please feel free to reach out. my dm's are open :)

It has been so difficult for me. Mentally, physically being away from him. But I got laid off and had to come back and figure out my life so that we can reunite. He had promised to wait for me. And in 3 months he just cracked, and he forgot everything it took to build what we had in a year and half. I loved him with pure intention, and I always stayed open with my communication about how I felt about him. And this was the time I needed him the most, and he decided to leave me. I was always told that people who truly love you will sit through the discomfort and study you. I know I prayed for him, and I was working very very hard so that we could reunite. I had whole picture of how our life would turn out.

And he just got on a video call and broke my heart into pieces. I am not coping well because of what he meant to me. People tell me relationships will test you and you fight for it, but the fact that he left just because of the long distance makes me wonder if he ever genuinely loved me for who I was.

We met on a dating app, there was never any lack of men to go on a date with. But sometimes you come across people who you let your guards down, slowly, but fully aware that it means something. And that was him for me. I guess I feel more hurt that I believed he would carry that I side I showed to him with carefulness, and that's why it hurts to know how he mishandled it. That's why it hurts to trust people and they abandon you when you are at the lowest you could ever be, but not broken down. They knew you still had the ability to rise, they just didn't want to stick around and hold your hand while you did that.

So I wonder, when situation like that happens to a person, especially when they are away. Do people who dumped them overtime realise what they lost when they wanted the easy route out? Or is it just about surface level happiness and sunshine, and nobody has the time to hold on and make a choice to love a person anymore?

The worst feeling was that through the whole long distance, he never asked me my address and I used to hope so badly that he would, and I would receive just a bunch of flowers. That's all it would have taken to make me happy. But he asked me for my address to send me back my belongings. It stung.

I hate modern relationships, and how easily people dispose people, and keep doing that in a loop over and over again.

please feel free to reach out. my dm's are open :)

My bf(42) and me(31) met a year and half ago in London through a dating app. I had almost given up on dating, but I had this yearning for love, so I also struggled with giving up. And then oneday we matched. I didn't think much of it. Took him a couple of days to ask me, he sounded nice to speak to. I said yes to the date. And I use to chase "the spark" before. This time there was nothing like that. But he seem inquisitive and shy, so I went back home thinking we will never meet again. But to my surprise he messaged me back saying he had a good time and he would like to see me again if I was up for it. He also told me that he was leaving the next day for a trip and had another trip and in between he would adjust a date. i didn't think much of it, I was like sure.

But our love wasn't a spark. My love for him grew with days. I felt calm, calmness I hadn't experienced before being with a man who was always up for the chase. And now after a year and half later I can't think of how he suddenly thinks I can shut the chapter and act like what we have is buried and only to be visited in my imagination.

I had to move back from London this year, February 2026 because my graduate visa expired. I couldn't find a sponsored job in the mean time and I had never done long distance so I wasn't sure what he would say to it. I loved this man so man, but I feared long distance as I had never done it before. But my boyfriend told me that he wouldn't want to be with anyone and that finally gave me the confidence to say that okay, let's try this and I will find a job and be back soon. And we can continue our life together because I can't imagine doing life with anyone else if not you. And long distance sucks no matter what, but I would go through this little hellish chapter if the end goal is to be together. I wouldn't take a chance on that.

The last few days before I left we were both very emotional and I had never seen him that way so it used to pierce my heart seeing him in tears. I felt as if i was abandoning my person all alone and going away. But I had a goal, the goal to be back to him. And I was gonna work hard even though the current job market is difficult in UK.

Our first 2 months were okay, we dealt with it. We learned to cope and adjust to our new schedule. But by the 3rd month he started to little by little shut down. I don't know why it started happening. I obviously would at times complain to him when I received work rejections, but I would also tell him while crying that I am not giving up and I will be back. I understand at times when your time zones are different phone calls can not be of the same quality. But with everything that was going on in my new life and missing him like crazy and not being able to go to the UK because i would need to get visa and all that and we both knew I would go back so we decided to endure sometime in this distance. He started going into his shell little by little but i didn't take much of a notice at the time, because I was so confident about the strength of our relationship. I literally had day dreams of us marrying and starting a family someday in the future. He was my person.

I would invite him to my country, and he would never say I would love to visit, but maybe I'll need a solid plan or anything like that. But I still kept inviting him. And last month beginning of May he just over breakfast shared his Sweden and Norway plans with his friends. I was stunned for a second and it hurt me. He could see my mood change and he asked what it was. I never hide anything from him so I directly told him what I felt. He only got defensive. We hung up the phone and in a few hours i could feel my anger growing and before i felt bitter I just shared how I felt, it was definitely sheer anger and I said some mean things which hurt him emotionally. I also told him I am blocking him and i did so. But I also unblocked him and waited for days and he didn't say anything. I thought over things and how what we had was beautiful to not ruin over a heated argument, so I called him in like 2 days. He no longer sounded like my man, he was all about this is done i give up, I don't care. I just couldn't recognise him and the way he way he was speaking. We used to be so soft to eachother. And couples fight and long distance is hard and I clarified to him why i said what i said and that it's not okay and i will never speak to him like that.

Post that I have been overworking to understand him, empathise, sympathise and every other way possible. But he just kept being and sounding like a stranger. I would cry every night because I missed him so much and he didn't even know and ask me how I was really really feeling. But I wanted to be better after that incident, so I thought I will be understanding. I love writing letters for people I love, so I sent him three online letters to remind him of what he meant to me and i also made one of those video chat rooms where LDR couples can watch movies together. I asked him if he would like to join and do something to remember things we used to do before and he said yes. But for 2 days he kept postponing, and finally for the 3rd day he was like let's watch it at 2 pm my time. i WAS VERY VERY HAPPY. He completely forgot and this was one moment where I was like this cannot be real, he literally didn't cancel on me thrice. So I lef him a message and I said I feel unwell and will go to sleep. He called me in 10 mins and then was like I apologise for forgetting. I don't know where he was. He was like I'll be home and then let's watch. But the moment was gone for me. We had a mini fight again and I tried to explain to him how it felt like a rejection and he then screamed that let's separate, I was stunned. So i cut the phone. He instantly called me again and said okay, that is not okay let's not speak to eachother like this again. I was like definitely, you are important to me to lose over something like this. And I just asked him, can you call me for a few mins before you go to bed. He then said that i make him nervous and we got off the phone. That really confused me, like he is my bestie, he knows i will listen to him. So I asked him why he felt that way. He said nothing.

It made me think, think about him. I could feel he was overwhelmed. So I sent a long text and told him that I know we both can bring much better than the version we are bringing in LDR, and I want my man back so I would like him to take a week and think over everything and come back and we can continue in a better way. Doing that hurt me, I didn't sleep a single night, maybe max for 2 hours or so, but I wanted him yo feel better because I love him so much. He came back and said I understand your sincere words and I'll work on it. It gave me hope.

I then reconnected with him a week later and we finally got on a call, i was very positive and i couldn't wait to share things with my love. But he came on the call and said he wants to break up with me. I am shattered, I tried so much to show him what we have is biggere than this small test we are facing in LDR. But he just kept saying his mind is made no matter what I said. He was crying and saying it hurts him and I tried to soothe him and tell him to take sometime and think and not just come and throw a big decision that could change the trajectory of our life. But he was just saying the same thing over and over again crying that let me go, let me go.

I know what we have is so good. it's not always ups and ups. But he didn't even fight for us. He just thought overtime what he felt he wanted, while knowing that LDR is tough, but he just came and declared his verdict and told me that's it.

I don't really know what to do or how to cope or who to ask help. Someone please tell me what this all means or what I can do