u/gramofgod

Im a F, looking for a guy I met, at the madrone back couches by the river, I was laying back there with my friend who was very high and we were cuddling. You came and sat down and we started talking about the festival and the weed industry. You shared some fire bud with me from your pipe and you just had very sweet, welcoming and friendly energy. Don’t really know what I’m looking out of this I just thought it would be nice to reconnect I can’t remember if you said you were from Humboldt or not might be a long shot but whateva.
Edit: I think I remember you said you worked on building the grove in the past, especially the pirate ship year.

I have a friend who can only go for one day and was wondering if they’re doing that this year? I thought I heard this but could be wrong, can anyone confirm?

I’m almost 30 and I’ve never had chicken pox to my knowledge I’ve asked my parents and they said they don’t recall and I think they would have. If you haven’t has anything happened from it? I’ve heard that it’s a bad thing if you haven’t and you could get shingles is this true?

I’m disappointed.. it’s so hard not to read all the crappy comments from angry weirdos on here, i guess I’ll be un joining now /: for anyone cool, are there any other places for real discussion on body language or I guess this might just be the world we live in and it is what it is 💀

Im a huge fan of these genres but im getting so tired of my playlists , anything niche anything new, old, interesting, international, even your own music if you got that. I’m just needing some more goods. Even if its not niche send it anyway I wanna know your favorites .

Im having the hardest time this year, im about to turn 30, I have no money in my bank account, I work at a very unstable inconsistent job, im single, emotionally diss regulated most of the time, I am medicated but it does barley anything for my motivation or sense of self worth. Ive been in therapy since I was a kid, battling depression anxiety and now recently diagnosed adhd. I just have to say it, I’m sooo fucking tired. I have literally no will to live, the only will I have at this point is seriously just not disappointing people who I love. If I was completely alone I would have done something about it already. I find myself selfishly resenting my own mother for giving me life almost weekly. I obviously don’t tell her this that’s just awful but for real my only dream as a kid was to have a family and have the white picket fence simple life and at this point in my life I feel that is absolutely impossible. I can’t figure anything out I quit everything I do, I don’t believe in myself enough to start a career as well as I have no idea what I want to do. My only passion is music I love to listen to it and the only thing I’ve done with that is volunteer at a radio station where now I’m so overwhelmed by even that that I don’t even like it anymore. Basically I’m just so overwhelmed exhausted angry broken and absolutely over it. I also don’t feel like I can tell people this even my own therapist. I don’t want to scare people I’ don’t want people to think I’m so fragile that they have to baby me even more. I’m tired of feeling so insecure and disabled. I can’t even drive a car I have no money to afford one and I have no idea how to budget make my life smooth in anyway I’m constantly stressed trying coping mechanisms that fail after like a week. All I want is peace and I pray to any god for a miracle every single day. Something that just makes life more bearable, someone to com and save me, to win the lotto, to get in an accident at a grocery store and sue for lots of money literally anything. I’ve been a practicing Buddhist for like 2 years now, ive lost my practice due to just anger, panic and fatigue the last time i sat was a week ago but it was the only day of the week i felt calm . I consider myself a very spiritual compassionate and kind loving person but Ive realize now that will get me nowhere. I’m smart but I don’t apply myself and if I do I quit because I can’t maintain the momentum. I can’t have relationships because of fear of abandonment and shame. People just don’t get me my friends keep asking me when I’m gonna get my shit together so we can all go on trips together and stuff instead of having to leave me out because of my financial issues. I feel so left out all the time and like people just think I’m such a hot mess. There’s no escape. I feel so trapped and there’s nothing I can do about it anymore. I’ try so hard and it is never enough. Just needed to let this out today because I’ve been crying every hour and I can’t talk to anyone anymore I feel like a broken record.

So I gave this dude my number like a week ago, I don’t know him at all just thought he was cute, he texts me for the first time a week later asking to hang at 2am I told him I don’t do that and if he wanted to hang he should hit me up at an earlier time.
I was already like over it since he didn’t reach out for so long but he originally told me he was very busy all the time and i believed it cause so am I. I was definitely offended by the text but i was not rude or make it seem like i was offended just told him it’s to late for me, he apologized for asking and thanked me for even replying.
Is this definitely a lost cause and he already had no respect for me or was this just a test to see if I respect myself? Im getting fuck boy vibes but I really don’t get why he would immediately assume I would come over that late when we have never even had a chance to get to know each other.
I’m aware he might not be looking for anything serious and tbh I’m not either but I’m definitely not a late night hook up kind of girl. What are your thoughts?

There’s tons of songs about thick women and big girls being preferred and adored what about the boys?? I love me a confident husky big boy, theres has to be music with this sentiment 😂😂

I finally built up the courage to give my number to this guy I’ve had a crush on for like a year two days ago he works at a store near my house works the night shift midnight pretty much everyday. The reason I finally did it cause my roomate who is a guy said he went to the store earlier that day I wasn’t there and the guy asked him where I was and if I was his girlfriend, he told him no and that we’re just friends. So later that night I went and gave him my number told him I thought he was cute and that if he ever wants to hang out to hit me up, I then asked if he was even single he said yes I am single but he has to let me know that he’s very busy all the time, I didn’t think that was a rejection so I said that’s ok and to let me know when he’s free. He said ok and we shook hands and exchanged names. It’s been 2 days… no text or call. I’m absolutely tripping and I feel like it’s pretty clear at this point he’s not interested. Fucking bummmerrrr! Im feeling hurt and spiraling a bit. Any advice to manage these feelings and move on? I keep going i circles thinking i made the worst mistake by approaching him and also thinking maybe he is just busy but come on who is that busy to not even send a short message. This feels like limerence and I haven’t felt this in a while. Help please ladies im so sad 😭

I have a big fat crush on this guy who works at the grocery store near my house. I’m usually not a nervous person or have trouble flirting but with this guy I can’t figure out how to approach this, I’ll be in his check out line and we smile and make small talk but I can’t get myself to ask him out because he’s always so busy and there’s people in the same line checking out. I don’t know how to go about this. I don’t wanna ask if he’s single and if he wants my number in the line while he’s working cause it seems so awkward with other people around listening. I don’t expect him to make a move on me obviously because he’s at his place of work. This has been going on for a while now and I almost feel like giving up and just never going back to this store again cause it just makes me nervous. Any advice? I have no idea if he likes me but when we talk he looks me in the eyes and smiles. Could just be a friendly guy but I over think. I’m to old for this shit now I know it but there’s just something about him I can’t get it out of my head. Is it even worth it?

Update: posted this on another sub but wanted to repost here for a ladies perspective because I finally did it and gave him my number this weekend. This is what happened please tell me your opinion: I went in before his shift ended at like 11:30 pm, when I was going to his line to check out he had switched shifts and someone else was at the desk, I was like fuck I missed the chance so I walked out and then thought about it for a sec, then I went back in and found him and handed him my number. I said I wanted to give you this, I always thought u were super cute,you should hit me up if you wanan hang out, then I said are u single, he said I am single but I just gotta let you know I’m super busy all the time, I just said that’s ok and to hit me up whenever he’s free. And he said ok, Then I asked his name and introduced myself shook his hand 🤦🏽‍♀️so dorky, but i looked damn good, I was a coming home from a night out and was in a mini black dress hair on point looking my best. Idkk guysssss I’m freaking out now but I’m so relieved to have finally done it. It’s been more than 72 hours and he still hasn’t called. Am I over thinking and he really is just busy and will hit me up when he’s not? I also feel I should mention that he asked a friend who went in the store earlier in the day about me and basically asked if he was my boyfriend and my friend said no we’re just friends so I took that as a sign he likes me therefore I went in later the evening and shot my shot. I’m feeling kinda sad he hasn’t reached out but he did explicitly tell me that he’s busy all the time and works night shifts. Any thoughts?

F 28, I have a big fat crush on this guy who works at the grocery store near my house. I’m usually not a nervous person or have trouble flirting but with this guy I can’t figure out how to approach this, I’ll be in his check out line and we smile and make small talk but I can’t get myself to ask him out because he’s always so busy and there’s people in the same line checking out. I don’t know how to go about this. I don’t wanna ask if he’s single and if he wants my number in the line while he’s working cause it seems so awkward with other people around listening. I don’t expect him to make a move on me obviously because he’s at his place of work. This has been going on for a while now and I almost feel like giving up and just never going back to this store again cause it just makes me nervous. Any advice? I have no idea if he likes me but when we talk he looks me in the eyes and smiles. Could just be a friendly guy but I over think. I’m to old for this shit now I know it but there’s just something about him I can’t get it out of my head. Is it even worth it? Helppp

I’m taking 37mg of Concerta, everyday I take one in the morning, when I go to work I can feel them helping me be more focused and productive with what I’m doing I’ have energy and I’m feeling locked in, but when I’m at home I still have no energy or motivation to do anything and when I do have energy it’s always for something I don’t really need to be doing like procrastination basically. It’s been super hard today I have the day off I want to get stuff done but at the same time I’m like soooo bored and feeling super restless and I don’t want to be doing the boring stuff right now so I’m basically just stuck on the couch, over thinking and feeling impulsive. I just wish the meds would make me want to be a better human and not just work when I’m forced to be productive. I know this is probably just a personal problem that I need to just suck it up and start but today I’ve been just in a super bad mood everything is feeling super overwhelming and my anxiety is high, I’ve been feeling super dis regulated lately even on my meds. Today I been wanting to just have a drink and spend time with friends instead of get some important stuff done before I start work again. This is mainly a rant but I would appreciate some advice if anyone has any. Feeling pretty useless today and upset that I can’t ever feel normal.

F 28, I have a big fat crush on this guy who works at the grocery store near my house. I’m usually not a nervous person or have trouble flirting but with this guy I can’t figure out how to approach this, I’ll be in his check out line and we smile and make small talk but I can’t get myself to ask him out because he’s always so busy and there’s people in the same line checking out. I don’t know how to go about this. I don’t wanna ask if he’s single and if he wants my number in the line while he’s working cause it seems so awkward with other people around listening. I don’t expect him to make a move on me obviously because he’s at his place of work. This has been going on for a while now and I almost feel like giving up and just never going back to this store again cause it just makes me nervous. Any advice? I have no idea if he likes me but when we talk he looks me in the eyes and smiles. Could just be a friendly guy but I over think. I’m to old for this shit now I know it but there’s just something about him I can’t get it out of my head. Is it even worth it? Helppp

F 28, I have a big fat crush on this guy who works at the grocery store near my house. I’m usually not a nervous person or have trouble flirting but with this guy I can’t figure out how to approach this, I’ll be in his check out line and we smile and make small talk but I can’t get myself to ask him out because he’s always so busy and there’s people in the same line checking out. I don’t know how to go about this. I don’t wanna ask if he’s single and if he wants my number in the line while he’s working cause it seems so awkward with other people around listening. I don’t expect him to make a move on me obviously because he’s at his place of work. This has been going on for a while now and I almost feel like giving up and just never going back to this store again cause it just makes me nervous. Any advice? I have no idea if he likes me but when we talk he looks me in the eyes and smiles. Could just be a friendly guy but I over think. I’m to old for this shit now I know it but there’s just something about him I can’t get it out of my head. Is it even worth it? Helppp

I have a big fat crush on a guy who works at the store near my house and I’m always way to nervous to give him my number or ask if he’s single. I just wanna hear some songs that make me yearnnn. Ugh.

I feel so dumb today, I told my coworker a couple months ago that I was being evaluated for adhd and today she asked me about my new medication if I’m taking any and I told her yes. I can feel like she is low key kinda being passive aggressive to me now cause the job is performances based and my performance has definitely improved a lot and we are both the most efficient people in the work place so I now feel some sort of like competition feeling, like she thinks I’m using performance drugs or something loll I know I’m probably over thinking but I feel sad that if she might be thinking this cause we’re kinda friends. so I can feel myself starting to be a little slower today as to not “show off” ugh 😑

Edit:
Thank you all for the reply’s and you are completely right, it was a mistake to talk about that at work I think I just got an impulse to talk about it cause it’s a new thing in my life and I wanted to contribute to conversations. I’m usually pretty quiet at work so it was just like word vomit. I will not let it phase me anymore much love!

F29, I’ve recently been dealing with a knee injury (patella dislocation) I’m in recovery and been doing a lot better and making progress. I have a festival I’m planning to attend in 3 months by then I should be walking normally again but I will have to still wear my knee brace it’s a bit chunky and doesn’t look good over tight pants. I will have to take it easy this year and be more mindful of things which Is not holding me back. But basically I’m just wondering if anyone else has gone to a rave or festival with an injury or brace and how did it go for you? Also does anyone have any outfit ideas or inspo to still feel cool and fun. I’ve never had to party like this before and I’m a bit nervous and embarrassed so if anyone has any advice or suggestions anything at all.
I’m excited to be out again after recovery and be able to dance(carefully) and feel like myself again.

Looking for songs or bands like rage against the machine, tryna channel my personal problems/anger towards something real and worthy of my rage. F the system, wake up, loud, , fight for your rights, revolution vibes. Any genre but match the energy.