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I’m going through my mom’s old things, and I found a binder FULL of these cards. I had no idea what they were until I googled the label on the back of the cards. I understand that the game isn’t available at Walt Disney World anymore, but it seems like a waste to throw them away. I don’t really know what to do with them at all. Would a game store accept them, or would I have better luck finding a collector online? I’m not sure.

I (18F) was very close to my great-aunt who died a few years ago from breast cancer. One of the last things I got to keep from her was a cardigan that she knitted herself and wore all the time, given to me by my aunt to remember her by. I wear it all the time and, being very old, it’s pretty frayed in some areas and I’ve had to repair it a few times.

My dad, trying to give me a thoughtful present, purchased me a new cardigan and gave it to me the last time I saw him.

I was in a bad mood because it was the week of my great-aunt’s birthday, and I was missing her a lot, and my dad said that now I “didn’t have to wear“ my old cardigan.

I got so pissed off. I gave him the cardigan back, told him I didn’t need a new one and that mine had sentimental value, and then went to sit in my car and lose my shit in private.

My sister called me today and told me my dad was very hurt that I rejected his gift. I wanted to explain myself, but I don’t like the idea of using my grief as an excuse for my awful behavior.

I want to apologize to my dad for the rejection and leaving so abruptly, by I’m still upset at him. He knew where I got the cardigan from and why I kept it for so long. I understand the gesture of getting me a new one, but the comment that I didn’t have to wear my old one anymore made me really upset.

AITAH and should I apologize even though I’m still upset?

edit: I know it’s barely been an hour since I posted but I took a short nap and came back to read the comments that had been left so far. I feel really guilty for rejecting the gift from my dad and I plan to apologize in person tomorrow when I go over to his house for dinner. Thank you all for urging me to apologize. The last thing I want is to make my dad think I’m angry at him, especially when all he did was try to give me a nice gift.

I (18F) have five siblings, two older and three younger. I love them all to death, and they are the most important people in the world to me. I recently got my first job, and my first paycheck came in at around 400 dollars. With that money and my money I received as gifts for graduation, I decided to buy gifts for my two youngest siblings (12 & 10M). my sister is 16 and pretty independent, but I still take her out for food and shopping every now and then.

I got the ten year old a very nice jacket that he loves to wear everywhere, even though we live in the south and it’s boiling out, which was about 150 dollars USD, and the twelve year old a year long subscription to the app he uses to draw and animate (around 100 dollars USD). I have also recently purchased noise cancelling headphones for the twelve year old and hair products for the ten year old since he told me he wants to grow it long, and I want to teach him to take care of it properly.

I love buying gifts for my siblings. I think they’re all amazing and I want them to feel as special as they make me feel. I also recently bought a $20 video game for my oldest sibling since we wanted to play together and their birthday is coming up anyways. I only mention all this because my dad used them as examples while we argued, which I will explain further.

My dad started an argument over the phone, bringing up the jacket and the headphones etc as things I’ve purchased for them recently, framing it as an issue. I told him that I don’t mind buying them a few things here and there (like the headphones & hair products), especially since sometimes it can’t wait for the next grocery trip and they can’t drive themselves anywhere to buy things. He didn’t seem satisfied with my answer, but he didn’t argue further.

The real issue started when my dad saw me give either of my brothers a few dollars out of my wallet and tell them to go put it in their piggy banks. I work the drive through at my job and occasionally receive small cash tips from customers.

I don’t usually carry cash aside from my emergency money hidden in my car, and the amount I receive in tips is so insignificant that I’ll just give it to my brothers to split here and there, since they’re not old enough to even babysit and make their own money.

My dad scolded me for giving them money, so I explained all this to him, but he doubled down. He told me I’m spoiling my brothers and causing their behavioral issues (I am unaware of any behavioral issues, but they do live at my dad’s house during the week and with me and my mom during the weekends, so maybe something is happening at my dad’s house that I’m unaware of?). I apologized and told him I wasn’t trying to spoil them, but now I’m overthinking it.

Is it bad that I keep buying things for my brothers and giving them cash? should i be more careful about how often I’m buying them gifts?

I know to my dad it probably looks like I’m burning through all my money, but I’ve been very careful with my budgeting since I got my job, and I also have savings from babysitting and gift money from birthdays and my graduation. I live with my mom and I spend $350 a month contributing to my car insurance and household groceries as well as doing general housekeeping in place of rent.

i split the remainder of my paycheck between my savings, gas, and lastly pleasantries and gifts. I have explained this to my dad and showed him my budgeting (I do it all on paper to keep track of it all) but he doesn’t seem satisfied. Should I stop buying my brothers so much stuff?

TLDR AITAH for buying my brothers so many gifts after my dad told me I’m spoiling them & contributing to alleged “bad behavior”?

edit to clarify a few things that I wasn’t clear on. My dad does not give my siblings allowance. He never has and I know he currently does not.

this is copy-pasted from a comment I left:

I should’ve specified that the jacket and subscription are also my brothers birthday gifts for this year. We live all over the state so I try to knock out birthday gifts for my siblings as soon as possible. I am also paying for my older sibling to go to a steakhouse for their birthday dinner, so the $20 game wasn’t their “entire gift” so to speak. The subscription is something my brother already had, paid for by our uncle for his birthday last year, I’m only renewing it.

The $400 paycheck was for 2 weeks, not the full month, and not even a full two weeks since I started work on a Thursday. My monthly pay is closer to $900, so I will be able to pay the $350 a month and continue to put away my savings as I have been without issue. I also have money from babysitting in my neighborhood almost daily, and I have about $2,000 saved from babysitting and birthdays before I got a real job. 

I am currently in trade school with a full scholarship, so paying for my schooling isn’t a concern I have either.

fair warning its fucking stupid

im 18 and I just graduated. my brother is 10. my older sister can’t take her cat with her when she moves out, so she asked me if I’d take him. I said yes.

then she told our 10 year old brother that he can have the cat if I don’t have a job by the time she’s moving out. I don’t know why she said this. especially since he’s literally ten years old and can’t really take care of a cat the same way I can (purchasing litter and food and paying vet bills) so really she’d be pawning her cat off onto our mom, and I already agreed to take the cat without knowing that my employment was a factor.

anyways I got a job and my brother is very angry with me because now I get the cat. he won’t talk to me at all. I feel awful and I’m kind of pissed at my sister for saying anything to our brother about the cat in the first place.

My younger brother is autistic if that matters at all and he was having a bad day and got overwhelmed when his white board fell off the wall and broke. I took him to Walmart to get him out of the house and give him space to breathe.

we bought a new whiteboard and markers and sat in the parking lot for a while so he could relax, then we went home. there was garbage in my car from when I took my friends out on Tuesday, specifically McDonald’s happy meal boxes.

I put the garbage in a plastic bag (I keep them in my glove box for this purpose) and threw it out in the garbage can outside the house.

my mom saw it when she went to throw away some dog poop and came back inside and accused me of taking my brother to mcdonalds. he didn’t eat his dinner because it was grilled chicken and he doesn’t like the black spots.

I told her no, thats garbage from when I took my friends out on Tuesday, and she is convinced I’m lying. I know she’s not seriously upset, but it hurts me that she’d rather believe I’d lie to her about buying my brother McDonald’s than that I just picked up the trash out of my car.

is it stupid to be upset about this??? like I know the situation is not serious at all but my mom thinks I’m a liar :(

My brother and I share a birthday. he was born on my 7th birthday. when I turned 15, my dad made a cake for my brother from scratch and forgot to make me one, so he bought one from Publix. I was extremely hurt at the time, especially since my relationship with him was already strained, and the memory just appeared in my head today and now I’m mad at my dad because four years ago he forgot to make a cake

It’s 12:12 in the morning. I have work tomorrow. my brothers are trying to sleep. and my sister insists on having her boyfriend spend the night. they’re having very loud sex and the dog is going crazy because she barks around strangers. fuck me.

I didn’t hit the swipe limit, I didn’t get the pop-up. when I swipe it just? bounces back to the first message? doesn’t generate a new one at all. DID I hit the swipe limit & just not get the pop-up for some reason?

My surname is uncommon in the USA, especially where I live. It’s an Armenian name I get from my great-grandfather on my dad’s side. My grandfather and my dad are extremely proud to be of Armenian descent. We went to an Armenian church when I was a kid and my grandfather often talks about the fact that we are Armenian.

First of all, I am VERY white. My great-grandfather is literally the only bit of Armenian in my blood. My surname is ten letters long and spelling it over the phone is a hassle. I was bullied in high school because the first part of it is “anus” and I had to wear it on my NJROTC uniform every week (my dad made me take NJROTC, he knew I was being bullied and he didn’t care). I literally moved out of his house to go live with my mom in another city to get away from it.

I am considering changing my surname to my mom’s maiden name because the field I want to go into is closely related to my father’s career, and I do not want to be associated with him among my own hypothetical future colleagues. if I change my name my father will take it as a personal attack no matter what I tell him, and I know his entire family will side with him and shame me like they have in the past.

Would I be in the wrong to change my name despite my father’s attachment to it, even if my intentions are not to hurt him?

This has always been an issue but it’s been more prominent lately since I cut my hair. I am an eighteen year old girl.

At my job I’ve been told by CUSTOMERS that kids aren’t supposed to be behind the counter.

I got out of my car at Walmart and a random lady asked me if I was old enough to be driving.

I went to chilis with my sister and the hostess asked her if she wanted a kids menu for me.

When I called a dentists office to make an appointment the secretary kept asking to speak to my parents. And when I got to the office the secretary there told me this was an adult dentist office and they wouldn’t take kids.

I know how I look and if it’s once in a while I don’t care as much but this all happened IN THE PAST MONTH. I’m just waiting to get pulled over at this point.

https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1tPwh8jyms6hw17Yx42WU70Qtvk__lup6

for no reason in particular

I had a baseball stitch bracelet from when Iwamura was with the Devil Rays and it fell off while I was at school. today was my last day there before graduation so I’m never getting it back. I got myself fast food to feel better and the second I turned away from my food to grab a napkin my dog stole my chicken. I’m done today, I’m going to bed.

Pipsqueak 2 and the yap version are identical and neither of them work properly. they speak for my character more often than they do for the bit they’re supposed to be. the grammar and phrasing is terrible. everything reads as if ChatGPT wrote it. why intentionally move away from the only engine that worked as intended? are devs intentionally trying to sink the company more than it already is?

the new engine sucks ass

Basically I (18nb) have been seeing this girl (19F) that I met at a party. She’s really easy to talk to, and she seemed genuinely interested in my life, so I wound up telling her about my siblings on our third date. I mentioned that my younger brother is autistic, and she cut me off to call him a tard. I immediately stood up, told her this wasn’t going to work, and left.

now she’s blowing up my phone telling me it was supposed to be a joke and she didn’t do anything wrong. honestly it’s such a turnoff when people will joke about and jokingly use slurs like that, and I will never let anyone close to me insult my siblings like that.

Should I respond and hear her out, or is it okay if I block her?