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I know the only way out is through, but why does it hurt so bad? Why does the grief hurt so bad? It’s literally paralyzing.

I have a potential booking that would involve caring for two dogs during an 8-hour window. I normally offer standard drop-ins, but I’m trying to figure out how other sitters approach longer daytime care.
Would you treat an 8-hour daytime booking as multiple drop-ins, extended care/day sitting, or something else? I’m curious how you structure the service and what factors you take into consideration.

I’m coming out of the worst breakup of my life a narcissistic one, and if you know, you know! What has helped you the most after navigating a breakup/heartbreak?

I’m coming out of the worst breakup of my life a narcissistic one, and if you know, you know! What has helped you the most after navigating a breakup/heartbreak?

I’m taking steps to start my own pet care business and I’m getting a lot of side eyes and people telling me that it’s not a real job and I’m in my head about it. Can anybody offer some kind words or advice?

Hi everyone! I’m hoping to get some perspective from property managers, leasing agents, landlords, and anyone who works in multifamily housing.

I own a local pet care business, and I’m trying to understand the appropriate way to introduce my services to apartment communities.

I don’t want to come across as soliciting, loitering, or creating extra work for staff. Instead, I’d like to understand what property managers actually appreciate from local service providers.

For example:
Is it okay to reach out to the leasing office directly?

Do communities ever include trusted local businesses in resident newsletters or welcome packets?

Are resident events or pet events a better way to introduce services?

Are there liability or policy concerns that make these types of partnerships difficult?

I’d really appreciate hearing what approaches make you more likely to work with a local business—and what approaches are an immediate “no.”

I finally left my boyfriend this week. I took him back after he cheated on me twice, and I tried to work through it. I tried to move past it, but as I’ve been processing everything, I’ve been struggling with feelings of inadequacy.
I keep asking myself, “What’s wrong with me?” Like I’m not enough. Like I’m somehow the reason this happened.

Hi everyone! I’m curious to hear from parents who had pets before bringing home a baby.

What was the biggest adjustment when it came to caring for your dog or cat?

Did walks, playtime, grooming, vet visits, or exercise become more difficult? Did you have family or friends helping, or did you figure out a routine that worked?

Looking back, is there anything that would have made life easier during those first few months?
I’d love to hear your experiences!

I’m just curious how other night-shift workers handle having dogs or cats. If you work overnight or long shifts, what does your pet care routine look like? Do you rely on family, dog walkers, daycare, neighbors, or just adjust your schedule? What’s been the biggest challenge?

For months, I kept questioning whether I was overreacting or expecting too much. It wasn’t until my therapist started pointing out the psychological abuse and the people closest to me noticed it too that I realized how unhealthy my relationship had become.

The first time I should have left was when he cheated on me. He promised he would change, but nothing did. When I told him I thought we needed a break after everything that happened, he said he “dissociated” after I asked for space and that it “takes time” for him to figure out how to make things up to me. There always seemed to be an excuse instead of accountability.

Then I caught him emotionally cheating again.
He had been building a relationship with one of his friends who was in jail, telling her he loved her and missed her. When I asked him why he would do that if he loved me, he said he was only trying to “give her hope” and “give her something to look forward to.”

I asked him to block her if he wanted to repair our relationship, and he agreed. But after I found out about everything, he locked me out of his house and took my keys. I had to ask one of his neighbors to let me back inside. Instead of apologizing, he got angry that I had told the neighbor what happened.

A few days later, the woman’s son called him asking why he wasn’t talking to his mom anymore. He exploded at me and blamed me for it, as if I was the problem instead of the fact that he had cheated.

He also became angry whenever I confided in anyone. He didn’t want me telling my family, my friends, or anyone else what was happening.

Looking back, I realize how isolated and confused I had become because I spent so much energy trying to understand his behavior instead of trusting my own feelings.
My therapist helped me realize that what I was experiencing wasn’t just infidelity it was manipulation, blame-shifting, and psychological abuse.

Today, I walked away.
I’m heartbroken, but I’m proud of myself. Leaving has been one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, but I know staying would have hurt me even more.
For those who’ve left emotionally abusive relationships, how did you start trusting yourself again after spending so long questioning your own reality?

For months, I kept questioning whether I was overreacting or expecting too much. It wasn’t until my therapist started pointing out the psychological abuse and the people closest to me noticed it too that I realized how unhealthy my relationship had become.

The first time I should have left was when he cheated on me. He promised he would change, but nothing did. When I told him I thought we needed a break after everything that happened, he said he “dissociated” after I asked for space and that it “takes time” for him to figure out how to make things up to me. There always seemed to be an excuse instead of accountability.

Then I caught him emotionally cheating again.
He had been building a relationship with one of his friends who was in jail, telling her he loved her and missed her. When I asked him why he would do that if he loved me, he said he was only trying to “give her hope” and “give her something to look forward to.”

I asked him to block her if he wanted to repair our relationship, and he agreed. But after I found out about everything, he locked me out of his house and took my keys. I had to ask one of his neighbors to let me back inside. Instead of apologizing, he got angry that I had told the neighbor what happened.

A few days later, the woman’s son called him asking why he wasn’t talking to his mom anymore. He exploded at me and blamed me for it, as if I was the problem instead of the fact that he had cheated.

He also became angry whenever I confided in anyone. He didn’t want me telling my family, my friends, or anyone else what was happening.

Looking back, I realize how isolated and confused I had become because I spent so much energy trying to understand his behavior instead of trusting my own feelings.
My therapist helped me realize that what I was experiencing wasn’t just infidelity it was manipulation, blame-shifting, and psychological abuse.

Today, I walked away.
I’m heartbroken, but I’m proud of myself. Leaving has been one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, but I know staying would have hurt me even more.
For those who’ve left emotionally abusive relationships, how did you start trusting yourself again after spending so long questioning your own reality?

This is my first time leaving and experiencing an abusive relationship, and I don’t know how to handle it.
I’m in shock. I’m hurt. I’m grieving someone who also caused me so much pain, and I don’t know how to let that go. I keep replaying everything in my head, wishing he understood the damage he caused, knowing he probably never will. I never imagined leaving would hurt this much.

For the women who have been through this, how did you survive the beginning? How did you accept that you might never get the apology or closure you deserved?

This is my first time leaving and experiencing an abusive relationship, and I don’t know how to handle it.
I’m in shock. I’m hurt. I’m grieving someone who also caused me so much pain, and I don’t know how to let that go.I keep replaying everything in my head, wishing he understood the damage he caused, knowing he probably never will. I never imagined leaving would hurt this much.

For the women who have been through this, how did you survive the beginning? How did you accept that you might never get the apology or closure you deserved?

Am I wrong here?

Be honest ladies, am I being unfair?

I recently ended a relationship, and I’m struggling because part of me feels justified, and another part of me wonders if I wasn’t showing up as a good partner.

One of the biggest issues that came up was that my ex felt like I wasn’t doing enough “little things” for him. Things like organizing his socks, helping clean his room, doing more household tasks, making dinner, and generally taking stress off his plate.

For context, we didn’t live together.

I can fully admit where I fell short. I should have planned more dates, put more effort into creating experiences for us, and paid more attention to his love language. Looking back, I got comfortable with us spending time together and probably stopped being intentional in some ways.

But where I’m struggling is that I never felt like organizing his room, folding his laundry, or managing his household was my responsibility. Helping occasionally is one thing, but I didn’t see that as my role as a girlfriend, especially when we weren’t living together.

On top of that, there was infidelity earlier in the relationship that I stayed and tried to work through. I thought I had moved past it, but looking back, I was still carrying a lot of hurt, anxiety, mistrust, and resentment. I don’t think I ever fully healed from it, and I think it affected how I showed up afterward.
He also financially helped me during a difficult time, and I owe him money that I fully intend to pay back. He feels like I took advantage of him. I genuinely don’t feel like I did, and that hurts because I appreciated everything he did for me. The support he gave me was a huge part of why I fell in love with him.

I guess my questions are:

1. Do you think it’s reasonable to expect a girlfriend who doesn’t live with you to take on household chores like organizing, cleaning, and laundry as part of being a supportive partner?

2. How do you tell the difference between not meeting someone’s love language and being asked to take on responsibilities that aren’t really yours?

3. Have any of you stayed after infidelity and realized later that you were still carrying resentment even though you thought you had forgiven it?
   I genuinely want honest feedback, not just people telling me I’m right.

Be honest ladies, am I being unfair?

I recently ended a relationship, and I’m struggling because part of me feels justified, and another part of me wonders if I wasn’t showing up as a good partner.

One of the biggest issues that came up was that my ex felt like I wasn’t doing enough “little things” for him. Things like organizing his socks, helping clean his room, doing more household tasks, making dinner, and generally taking stress off his plate.

For context, we didn’t live together.

I can fully admit where I fell short. I should have planned more dates, put more effort into creating experiences for us, and paid more attention to his love language. Looking back, I got comfortable with us spending time together and probably stopped being intentional in some ways.

But where I’m struggling is that I never felt like organizing his room, folding his laundry, or managing his household was my responsibility. Helping occasionally is one thing, but I didn’t see that as my role as a girlfriend, especially when we weren’t living together.

On top of that, there was infidelity earlier in the relationship that I stayed and tried to work through. I thought I had moved past it, but looking back, I was still carrying a lot of hurt, anxiety, mistrust, and resentment. I don’t think I ever fully healed from it, and I think it affected how I showed up afterward.
He also financially helped me during a difficult time, and I owe him money that I fully intend to pay back. He feels like I took advantage of him. I genuinely don’t feel like I did, and that hurts because I appreciated everything he did for me. The support he gave me was a huge part of why I fell in love with him.

I guess my questions are:

1. Do you think it’s reasonable to expect a girlfriend who doesn’t live with you to take on household chores like organizing, cleaning, and laundry as part of being a supportive partner?

2. How do you tell the difference between not meeting someone’s love language and being asked to take on responsibilities that aren’t really yours?

3. Have any of you stayed after infidelity and realized later that you were still carrying resentment even though you thought you had forgiven it?
   I genuinely want honest feedback, not just people telling me I’m right.

I just recently found out that my boyfriend was cheating. I went through his phone and I seen him texting this girl that day he had texted her good morning beautiful and she said hey handsome. I confronted him about it and he said it was nothing and that he was just using her for money and he told me “ why did you go through my phone anyways you were just looking for a reason to break up with me” when that wasn’t the case.

I tried to explain to him that that was still cheating! Doing something behind somebody’s back is still cheating. Am I wrong?

boyfriend M27 and I F29 have been dating for a couple months, we’ve hit a rough spot and I told him I feel like my emotional needs are not being met. He deflected and made the conversation about him. He then brought up how I don’t cook or clean for him. We live an hour away from each other and also has two other roommates one that couch surfs and one who stays full time. I’ve expressed how uncomfortable I felt cooking because I feel obligated cooking for everyone. He then said if you cook/clean I can give you what you need emotionally.

How would you handle this situation?