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For the past month I have been training flexibility about three times a week. I noticed that there are some days where I move like butter and other times when I’m stiff. There are also times where I really feel it and times when I don’t feel it at all.

There are times where I feel like I’m improving and times when I feel like I’m regressing.

There are times where a split doesn’t hurt but times where I feel the stretch more in my hamstrings?

I’m 28f btw if that makes a difference.

But is this normal? I just want to make sure that I am continuing to progress.

During luteal I tend to hate my boyfriend. The way he talks, the way he smells (he doesn’t have no), and I absolutely dread when he touches or kisses me. It makes me so angry and I will fantasize about being single.
However, during ovulation and follicular, and my period I tend to be ok and leveled out. I think about how I do want to stay with him.
Overall my man isn’t a bad person. He’s actually a really good boyfriend. I just hate him during luteal.
How do I know that these are my true feelings or is it just luteal speaking?

I’m 29 and will be 30 in a few days. I have been doing pole for almost two years but started with 0 background in any dance or exercise.

However for some reason I have it in my head that once I turn 30, every year after that I will get weaker and weaker until I can’t dance anymore.

Idk why I have that mindset. 30 isn’t even old! But it’s like I have this weird fear that my bones and strength will all of a sudden crumble!

Who here is still dancing at 30+ or started at 30+?!

When I first moved into my one bedroom apartment five years ago, my rent was $1400. After five years, I now had to pay $2000! I kept trying to find cheaper places but I lost my job around 8 months ago, so I no longer could prove that I made 3x the rent. Since I was already in this lease, I had to stay since no other apartment would approve me to move.

This past year has been a struggle because I had to work odd jobs and take the only part time job that I could find that was a two hour commute.

But I’m so blessed and happy because I found a job that is closer and gives me full time hours. I also found an apartment in the same city that is only going to cost me $1200 a month instead of the $2000 I was paying and they approved me!

I’m so happy because I have been struggling for so long! The only thing that I want to do is just work and save.

But I am just so happy for myself!

I used to be a huge Caleb hammer fan because he used to mainly just focus on the finances. However, I noticed whenever he has guests who are even the slightest bit chubby he goes in on them and also throughout the episode talks about their weight…when he is big himself!

Over the years he has only gotten bigger.

I can understand it if they were spending too much money on fast food. But I feel like he’s a bit hypocritical when he isn’t thin himself.

I also don’t understand to constantly remind someone that thru fat the whole episode.

I see so many influencers and content creators that always push the idea that for women having a child and being the mom is the best. They speak about the sweet laughs and moments with their children. However, literally every single tradwife/ SAHM influencer/ creator literally are only moms to children who are currently under 5. I NEVER see these types of influencers with teenagers or speaking about the joy of having teens or adult children.
It’s like they’re only romanticizing being a parent to a baby/ toddler.

I am 27f and around eight months ago I lost my job. I was working as a university professor full time. The beginning of this year, the university I worked for had a 63% decrease in student enrollment so they told me that they didn’t have any more classes for me to teach. I was able to quickly get a job as an English tutor for an elementary school. But I knew it would only be temporary.

While I was working at the elementary school, I had been applying for jobs like crazy. When the job ended in May, I was able to get a small retail job that is about a two hour commute. (I take two busses and two trains). I only make about $18 an hour my rent alone just went up to $2100 a month. The job also isn’t even full time.

Since June I have been applying for sm positions. I heard back from a job and went through 4 ROUNDS of interviews just for them to say that they’re going to freeze the hiring process.

I got offered another job and got hired and then fired all in an hour because they told me “we’re actually going to go with someone else. Sorry”.

The saving grace here is that my lease is ending soon but I have no money to my name I can’t even afford to find a roommate.

I asked my parents if I could move back in with them but they are against it because they say they don’t have the space. (Three of my siblings still live with them)

Everyday, I apply anywhere from 15-20 jobs and I am trying so hard.

I am so broke that I literally had to ask my parents to give me money to just catch the train and bus to work.

Idk how much more of this I can take. I feel like a failure. I feel like as hard as I try it just isn’t working.

Is the job market this bad for anyone else?

I was speaking to a guy friend. And he told me that only women can be bisexual but not men. When I asked him why, he told me that you’re just not a man if you like both and you can only like one. Obviously I was confused. But I spoke to other guy friends and they all agreed and told me the same thing.

Why is this the common thought amongst men?

In January of this year I lost my job. I had been working as a professor for the past few years but the university I worked at experienced a 60% decrease in enrollment and were not able to offer me classes this year. So then I started working as a writing tutor for an elementary school. The job was only contract so it rended in May.

During my time working at the school I have been applying to jobs like crazy. But literally no luck for me. In June of this year I found a retail job that is a two hours commute from my house. I hate the commute but I didn’t have a choice.

Around a couple of weeks ago, I thought I finally got hired for a full time position that was close to my house. But they hired and fired me all within an hour.

Today I just completed my FOURTH interview for a job that was full time and near my house. Later on I received an email stating that they were going to freeze the hiring process due to them not knowing when their company would actually open up in this area. (They advertised that the company was already open)

My rent just increased and I won’t be able to afford it. So now I have to somehow find the money to move and need to find a roommate.

I also just got like three job rejections today.

I am just so incredibly tired. The only thing I want to do is work and find a full time job but it is just so HARD.

On top of that, I received an email from my university asking to attend my ten year high school reunion. I’m bot going because I don’t need anyone seeing the failure that I’ve become.

I’m so tired of life.

I have been having the absolute worst luck when it comes within the past 7 months. I have been working seasonal gigs and part time jobs all of this year barely making it. I finally found a job position in my field with decent pay. Went through three rounds of interviews and I was offered the job. I was sooo excited and was in the middle of emailing back and forth about my schedule. Until about 30 minutes ago, I get an email from the hiring manager saying “Hello, we actually decided to go in a different direction and won’t be needing you. Best of luck!”

At this point I’m not even mad, I’m just mentally exhausted and defeated. I am literally breaking my back working three minimum wage jobs Monday - Sunday. I make just enough to pay my rent and I am trying so hard.

I hate this job market and this economy.

I am struggling so hard financially and have been applying for jobs near me. I recently applied for a job through indeed. The job messaged me back and said apart of their application process is submitting a 20 minute video answering interview questions. If they think the job is a good fit then there is another zoom interview I have to attend.

I’m going to do it because I am desperate for the money. But tbh some of these applications are just asking for too much.

Why not just ask for a phone screening??

I am 27f and am literally interested in everything. I have never had a long term career.

Since I was 18, I could remember wanting to be in every single industry. I first started off with wanting to be an art consultant and art gallery owner. So I opened an art gallery in my city. I did that for about four years before I got tired of it. I then decided that I wanted to be a bridal consultant. So I worked in that industry for about 6 months and realized I hated it. After about 3 1/2 years of owning my art gallery, I closed it down because I was tired of being a business owner. From there, I thought I wanted to be a florist. I worked as one for about three months and surprise, surprise…I hated that too and quit. From there I became interested in creative art/ movement therapy. So I went to grad school and got my masters in creative art and movement therapy. I now work as a movement and art therapist. I really like it, but now I am entertaining the thought about becoming a writer and a librarian. This would require me possibly going back to school.

With that being said, I cannot commit to one industry to save my life! I just want to do absolutely every single thing. It’s like I get this sudden interest and I go all in or nothing until I’m over it. (I also am diagnosed adhd. So idk if that plays a part). The only good thing about any of this is that I managed to avoid student debt due to me just being really good at finding grants and scholarships for school. But that’s the only good thing!

How do I find a path and stick with it?

I am 27f and am literally interested in everything. I have never had a long term career.

Since I was 18, I could remember wanting to be in every single industry. I first started off with wanting to be an art consultant and art gallery owner. So I opened an art gallery in my city. I did that for about four years before I got tired of it. I then decided that I wanted to be a bridal consultant. So I worked in that industry for about 6 months and realized I hated it. After about 3 1/2 years of owning my art gallery, I closed it down because I was tired of being a business owner. From there, I thought I wanted to be a florist. I worked as one for about three months and surprise, surprise…I hated that too and quit. From there I became interested in creative art/ movement therapy. So I went to grad school and got my masters in creative art and movement therapy. I now work as a movement and art therapist. I really like it, but now I am entertaining the thought about becoming a writer and a librarian. This would require me possibly going back to school.

With that being said, I cannot commit to one industry to save my life! I just want to do absolutely every single thing. It’s like I get this sudden interest and I go all in or nothing until I’m over it. (I also am diagnosed adhd. So idk if that plays a part). The only good thing about any of this is that I managed to avoid student debt due to me just being really good at finding grants and scholarships for school. But that’s the only good thing!

How do I find a path and stick with it?

I had sex a couple of days ago while I was on my period. I took a plan b just in case even though I already had a low chance of pregnancy. I am pretty sure that the plan b is messing with my emotions because I just feel so unattractive and fat. All I want to do is be held and cry. Right now since my period is over, I’m supposed to be in my follicular phase. I guess the pill messed it up.

Does anyone experience depression when taking a plan b?

I often see sm dancers post on here and also on instagram. What camera do you use to get incredibly clear videos?

I saw this question posted on Facebook. Majority of the people said they miss the time they had with their spouse when it was just the two of them.

But what do you miss the most pre-children?

Within the last 5-8 years I have seen a huge explosion of pickleball courts all of the city I live in and other cities when I travel. At my job, we’re always having people that come in that pay pickleball either professionally or on local teams.

My building also just sent out an email saying that we’re going to be getting pickleball courts built?

Why is this sport becoming so incredibly common?

I am just now coming to the conclusion that I have maladaptive daydreaming. I am 27f but since I was about 13 I have completely altered the way I see myself in my brain. Growing up, I was extremely bullied both inside the home and out. The biggest things that they used to speak about were my looks. To the point where my self esteem was completely non-existent. The way that I used to deal with it was going for a run (for 3-4 hours) and completely blasting music in my headphones. This would allow me to escape into an alternate reality.

I am black with short afro hair and small brown eyes with a big nose and a chubby face. In my head, I am light skin with green eyes and long curly hair who is skinny. I didn’t realize how much I convinced myself that I looked like this in my head when in reality it is not true.

I have convinced myself so much to the point, I cannot take photos of myself/ record myself/ or look in the mirror because it’s a slap in the face that I actually am the total OPPOSITE of what I imagine myself to be. Because of this, I have absolutely no photos and videos of myself. And I cannot even look at my own reflection without ruining my day or getting triggered into an episode of extreme sadness.

How do I get through this? I have absolutely no idea where to begin.