u/lost_bikuo404

So I have a Lenovo Legion Gaming pc and it is on Windows 11.(everything is updated) This has been happening for probably over a year now, but Im tired of losing game progress to my malfunctioning pc. Whenever I usually start up the computer from shutdown and I go to play a game, maybe after 30 mins to upwards of even an hour and a half, it will freeze.

The audio will become slightly glitchy and distorted and the image will freeze. To fix this I usually press down on the button to shut off the pc and turn it back on. After that turn on, the rest of gameplay is uninterrupted. But, if I do let the frozen image and audio sit there for like 5 ish minutes, there will be a blue screen with a frowny face and it will start reebooting with a percentage on the screen.

But I find it odd that once I shut the computer down after it freezes it is completely fine afterwards. But then when Im done playing and shut it down and then come back another time to start it up, it freezes again.

This is not just with games either this includes simply watching youtube as well. Does anyone know how to fix this? I am going to turn off fast startup to see if this fixes anything, or maybe I can try restarting the pc after the last shutdown and see if restarting before playing does anything. Please help!

Ok storytimeee about another thing my mom has said thats insane. So starting off, Im heading to college this summer and I recieved an email for info about orientation. I showed it to my mom and the email included a discord with new orientation students and also an instagram, cool. So my mom is like oh my god you have to join this discord (theres like 300 people in it) so im like yea ok. I join it later, and Im scrolling through the people who've joined and Im fairly surprised that theres a lot of various profiles.

I go to my mom and am showing her the profiles of these people who are gonna be at my school, and shes like "wow ugh why are these all anime and japanese??" and like "oh my god these people are so weird and gamers" like alright... then shes scrolling and clicks on another profile and its a girl that has a pfp with a chibi in the middle and a half ace flag and half non binary flag. Im like oh look thats the asexual flag, and shes like "excuse me what? its the what?" and I say yea thats the flag for asexual. and she says "how do you like even know that?" and I repeat myself again and point at which half is the ace flag. Then she loudly groans and throws her head back and says "ughh dont go waving around that bullshit or whatever" and Im like woah.. what? and shes like "this stuff is all just stupid ugh." then she moves on. she literally knows im ace btw 😭 im honestly not surprised since this is far from the first time shes said something aphobic.

Btw she told me to be careful in college because I could get pregnant. And she was like "well you know.. anything can happen..." and she got defensive when I said she was denying what I told her aka my sexuality. Sorry that you got pregnant at 20 because you were hypersexual but thats not me...

So recently, Ive made a new friend I guess I could call him? Basically we met at our post hs graduation event that was like 8+ hours long and we hung out the whole night with also a couple of my other friends. Hes super sweet and thing is he is from China and doesnt speak too much English or have too many friends, but I enjoyed our time together and I felt that made it more special for him perhaps. I also find him very aesthetically appealing which I liked about him.

So fast forward a couple days after this and Im having a sleepover with a couple friends aka the friends who were also hanging out with me and him. So Im gushing about this new friend because I absolutely love making friends and its hard for me to get out of my shell a lot, but when I do Im fairly extroverted.

Im saying how sweet and kind he is(mind you i am always like this about my friends and even new friends; Im always expressing my love for people), and I told them I wanted to invite him to my grad party but I wasnt sure(i get super nervous asking people things), but it made me feel better that my other friend was also contemplating inviting him. I was also telling them about how I thought he was aesthetically good looking and (both my friends at this sleepover know im aroace plus I tell them all my horror stories about other people invalidating me/saying bad things about it) one tells me "well shoot your shot!" sighhh. are we fr? first of all the friend is gay, and im aroace.. and i say wait can we backtrack what did you mean? he says "oh idk" and moves on. im clearly upset but he doesn't say something until my other friend leaves the room for a second and then apologizes. That ended up bothering me but I got over it after a while

Then sleepover passes and I want to invite my new friend to my grad party. I maybe think it over for like probably an hour because im so so nervous about talking to people initially. I finally gather courage and do it anyway and I invite him. Before that I went to my group chat with my friends rambling about how nervous I was and how I wanted to invite him and whatnot, then he finally responds and is very happy to come to my party(hooray!) and Im rambling to my friends about the messages he sent and how nice he is and how excited he was to come, and how im so happy, and theyre just making fun saying "AWWW HES SUCH AN ANGEL HES SUCH A BABYY HAHA" like.

Oh but if this was me and him and I was straight and he wasnt gay they would all be happy for me and be like ooo yess u got him to come to ur party!! but since its just me making a friend they just dont give a shit and make fun. ok man. like sorry you think the whole world revolves around romance and you can barely fathom platonic relationships being important.(the amount of times I have friends ditch me for guys is insane) i dont understand why we cant have platonic relationships be just as important as romantic ones. i swear it just pisses me off.

Also saying "shoot your shot" like imagine if a lesbian found a guy like generally attractive or just conventionally attractive because there are some who do acknowledge that men are attractive, then I tell her go shoot your shot!! Id be scrutinized to HELL. this double standard is pissing me off.

Im kind of panicking a little bit, but I have until this afternoon to get this done since I have work later. I am moving out late summer to college, and I have a ton of my lolita dresses in the closet along with my cute winter coats.

He told me to pick some to keep, get rid of, or to store in the attic. I wont have a lot of space in college and I already have a shit ton of clothes(12 drawers full that barely fit them all) and Im scared I wont have any room to fit lolita. And I also have my big winter coats I gotta bring

Thing is I would like to maybe put a couple into storage like my prom lolita dresses, and I dont wear lolita often(sorry im not full time lolita), but Im so scared of not having access to all of my dresses readily available in my closet. So im kind of freaking out because I love to dress like that on random and nice occasions or going out with friends but now I feel like putting them at home(my college is 2 hrs away) will limit me a ton

Ik its a dumb problem but I spent hundreds on these dresses and I adore them so much but I dont think I can fit them all in college plus my insane amount of clothes. Im just sad. Anyone know what I can try doing?

edit: I have 10 dresses and 4 petticoats(one full length petti)

Im curious as to how the human brain really does this. The thing is that it is fairly common for children/younger kids to have crushes on adults(in no way is it ok for an adult to reciprocate obviously) but it is very uncommon for an adult to have feelings for a younger kid(let me emphasize it is in no way shape or form okay and I am NOT supporting this either) I simply want to understand why the human brain is wired in a certain way and the psychology behind this (SEEMINGLY) "double standard"(again i am not supporting any of this nor saying either is okay and take "double standard with a grain of salt) I literally just want to know how brains work in regards to this. (please know i DO NOT support this stuff) I just want one answer as to why.

So I am a hetero oriented aroace, and Ive been feeling pretty bad lately. The thing is I feel physical attraction like thinking a person is pretty, but I would never want to date them or have sex with them. I am feeling guilty because I feel like I would want to label some guy as my "boyfriend" just so I can basically parade around with a pretty man, even though we arent romantically or sexually involved. Like I love pretty people and I honestly just feel bad that I would want a "boyfriend" just because he is pretty and to just have him around because he is simply pretty like a showpiece. Im wondering if anyone else feels this way? Probably not because it is pretty shitty, but I just feel bad but I cant escape my true thoughts.

I know it doesnt make me any less aroace but I feel sort of insecure since my family is not accepting and my friend recently doubted me, but Im not focused on that since ik im aroace, its more about acceptance from other people. Maybe im just too worried about what other people think.

I am 17f and theres a coworker I just met for the first time maybe a week ago and he is maybe 30m. I dont think he is new but it is my first time seeing him and also working with him. So this coworker is fairly chill and he doesnt really talk much, until he starts doing slightly unusual things I guess? So first time I am meeting and working with him, I go to the back of the store to grab some things and like its chill and nobody is back there. Out of nowhere, (he is supposed to be running our station while im back there) and he shows up, I am in between shelving and he is just standing right there outside the shelf staring at me, and then he walks in and asks me what I need. So I got what I needed but he just watches me open the box and leans in towards me and is in my personal space,(for no reason bc he isnt doing anything)then he walks away after i crouch down to open the box to get away from him.. like alr weird but whatever.

Maybe a week goes by and I am working with him again but on different stations. This time things kinda get weirder. So he always ends up on my station somehow. He either is grabbing something from under me for no reason, just randomly opening drawers in my station for no reason, and he throws away trash on my side. He would come to my side to throw away trash constantly and when my coworker came to take out the trash, it was to the point thag my side was full, and she didnt have to change his because it was practically empty. Then my break time rolls around and another person fills my place for a bit. He is supposed to be at his station while I am on break, but no. He comes into the break room at least 3 times to grab a drink and I see him looking at me through the corner of my eye. Like weird.

Then Im back from break and Im made to do a couple things. I have to go get some stuff from the back shelf to restock while someone is holding down my spot and he is meant to do the other spot like normal. This time there is one other person in the back in the shelves but farther away slightly. I go to grab my stuff and im just looking to find my exact item, bam right behind me he asks what im looking for. i tell him and he shows it to me. why is he not at his station...why is he here again.. then he just walks away like nothing happened.

I told my mom about this guy and she said hes a weirdo and to stay away from him. He does sort of make me uncomfortable but I dont want to overreact. I possibly didnt explain some stuff super correctly in this post and it was definitely weirder in the moment, but uh thats my story. Im prob overreacting lol

Can anyone please help me find a cute jfashion dress for my graduation? I want it to be super cute, probably have some ruffles! Either sleeveless or sleeves is fine too. It doesnt have to be white like they usually are for graduation but I prefer a pastel color or white. It also has to be rlly fast shipping within 20 ish days or so; if anyone can send recommendations pls help! tyy

also i cant have it need a petticoat bc it needs to fit under cap and gown 😅 prints are okay as well; and im more into lolita fashion if that helps but i dont want a lolita dress

Does anyone else heavily feel like they don't want to be sexualized like at all?! I dress very conservatively for the most part in regard to shirts because I hate showing any cleavage (besides bathing suits) but when it comes to skirts i dont care about length but i have to wear longer socks to make myself more comfortable the shorter the length. But I absolutely hate tops showing anything below the collarbone area and i hate sleeveless(havent worn in years). I do wear smaller bras on purpose so my chest doesnt seem bigger(im a B cup but i wear an A to feel comfortable) and i still feel like its too showy. I wear a medium instead of smalls in shirts. let me also add that i can never only wear a bra underneath i MUST have on an undershirt. I have very large thighs and I wear biker shorts underneath(skirts, pants, shorts) ALL THE TIME like to bed, outside, anywhere to feel comfortable because it slightly lessens the appearance. i also have chicken type legs with super tiny ankles so theres never a day (rarely) that I dont wear leg warmers or long socks even in summer. When it comes to shorts i will never wear short shorts they are always longer shorts or knee length jorts. i want to say that i do dress alternative which makes these coverups less obvious since its stylized but does anyone not want to be sexualized at ALL? and take it to the level i do or more? i love dressing feminine and alt just with nothing showing (only time im rarely uncomfy is in a bikini because i have feeling issues with one piece and i dont mind showing my body too much when its more intentional like a beach)

sorry for rant i just need to know if anyone else feels this 😅

So I got into an argument with my mom about two cars. She is planning to go into the office for work tomorrow(she goes in twice/week and she rarely tells me when I can take the car bc she just does it when she feels like it)and she asked if I have a ride to school because she understands the other car is difficult for me to drive. i told her oh i dont know yet (i usually confirm in the morning)

I am supposed to be taking my two grandparents out for dinner/late lunch tomorrow and I had told my mom that it would maybe be easier if I could go straight from school to their house and take them out to eat since they like early dinners. (btw the whole dinner was my moms idea and im also paying for them as well, she basically forced me to make plans with them and pay but i dont mind bc i like spending time with em)

So shes like ok well you can take the other car. I told her that i didnt really feel comfortable driving it unless its to work bc its a short commute (school and my grandparents house are fairly far away and a more difficult drive than work) But i told her it was fine i guess, but she said "oh well are you gonna pay me for the extra money it takes?" (bc her commute is an hour and the other car takes more gas than the one we both wanna drive)

and i said oh well i paid for gas in the one car and you guys said youd pay me back but i didnt ask for it so is that alright? and then she flipped out on me saying that she just forgot to pay me back(btw it was like prob 120-150 and i didnt really care bc they got a lot going on rn and i didnt wanna hound them and they dont rlly needa pay me back) but my mom sees it as rlly insulting and i just dont get it and she said that im super ungrateful and that shes got her hour long commute and she needs the car and she said i was being petty by bringing up the gas. so in the end she told me "dont touch my fcking cars" soo i dont know how im gonna go to my grandparents.. i told her that id just take the other car but i think asking and bringing up gas just made her flip so now i got nothin

I feel rlly guilty because i am grateful for my parents but i feel like im thinking too rationally about the money and stuff and im probably the ah.. she called me delusional i dont know where i went wrong 😪 she said that if i was rlly grateful i wouldnt have brought anything up. what do yall think?

So I get it a lot of people do have weird ish reactions to foods where they might cringe when it tastes bad, but I think mine are amplified like crazy and its really involuntary even just thinking about certain foods. So for example I really hate sweet foods like cake, etc, and just thinking about the food in my brain I can almost feel it jerk and make feel sick, and dont get me started if Im forced to try it, its even worse. I usually gag and have jerk back reactions before I eat it and then during chewing I feel my brain tingle and my head involuntarily makes weird movements.

Another example just now like 5 mins ago (which made me want to make this post) I was making a cup of tea and I was minding my business adding honey to it. I grabbed a straw to drink a sip to taste if the honey was good and legit out of nowhere I just felt it and I felt immediately overwhelmed with a tingle in my head like a complete new feeling and my eyes went weird and my head jerked back. I honestly dont know if this is normal and my mom is just calling me lowk autistic for it and i dont think thats the case. And no this isn't only for sweet foods this happens with like peanut butter, and other foods I dont like. I feel like it's maybe normal if I eat the food but even just thinking about it causes those weird reactions. What do yall think??