I mean it shouldn't matter, this all happened before 19 and I am over 30. But I honest to god stole once from Hot Topic with other kids. Then a girl stole a credit card thinking credit card companies eat the cost when she was told her parents could just dispute any charge. The girls parents were rich enough to eat the cost and she did it again and when she got in trouble with police, she tried to bring me down with her. This culminated in my entire school thinking I was a thief with her. A girl started a rumor I stole from work that concerned by bosses because they didn't have cameras, yet I worked there for 5 years. I did steal from grocery stores and walmart after this mostly because I had the reputation problem and people would mess with me and join in to (1) see if I'd do it (2) they were thieves anyway. So I did steal a few more times. Thats on me. I ended up getting caught once, got it expunged off my record so I was able to work in pharmacy.

Since this whole debacle my family vowed to ensure I am miserable for my crimes. I wasn't aware I was some big thief to people, because everyone knew the kids I hung out with were more the trouble makers than I was. I was the definition of the nice guy joining the crowd and doing the wrong thing, I led myself astray. The way my family tried to make me miserable made me a bit more angry in life, especially because I was left out of opportunity at work and in the family. My family had me picked on in multiple ways during college. They had any workplace pick on me. They had a girl on our campus elicit information pretending to be my friend and telling kids in my course I am a thief and tell anyone who sits aorund me to pick on me and not befriend me. I would've never made friends in college if it weren't for extra circulars. I also didn't land internships in my career as physical therapist because they were told I was a thief. So I got a bachelors, and started work in pharmacy out of college. I was picked on there too. Since 2021 my second job in pharmacy I started inan office enviorment. The people there stared me down all day everyday on breaks you name it for 2 years trying to intimidate me to leave. I didn't perceive it fully until halfway through. They made up rumors that I stare at people and smoke in the bathroom, had people follow me into bathrooms. My boss would give me facility bills to review then say "so many errors, we'll just give it to someone else and you can do census" which was an inane easy task and then if someone from another department asked me how to handle something, even if I knew the answer they would pretend I gave a really dumb answer. During this time I played the nice guy hoping that would persuade them to be respectful but it was only ever faking respect.

I left that job on my own accord despite intimidation. I had begun sewing clothing for myself, my family, even my boss got a smocked purse, while I was in graduate school. During this time. I also can sing well and play piano I am a very engaged guy. For the chance of an auspicious life, they kept trying to ruin me for my past and not being sorry enough or nice enough to disrepectful coworkers. I went to pharmacy technican job again that worked with my schedule and they fired me in less than 2 months for being inept. I had been a pharm tech for 4 years at this point. Nationally certified, all that. I got 8 more jobs in 3 years all the same. Bullying as soon as I walk in the door, no one will give me advice, etc. Making the same rumors spread over and over. Now its been 2 years without a job.

I just want to be treated with respect like everyone else. What gives? What Am I missing? I was mean to my family who I found out ruined my chance at my career and pretended to be close only cause they felt force to be nice to me, after my suicide attempt at 18 (I am gay and perceived high school kids bullying for being an effeminate male as I had a reputation at 10 that I wanted to be a transvesite). They tried to tell me to kill myself and entrapped me for a day at an amusement park and I drove home speding 80-90 on a 70 MPH road and they filmed it and that's a big reason why everyone is doing this. But past workplaces say I disengage, am fake nice to get through the day, etc. I

I have to make a career somewhere. I don't understand what I am supposed to do? I mean I had to put up with peoples shit all my life in disgusting ways. My life has transformed to being so productive despite set backs, to now my family was able to make up a crime about a stolen check book so I was kicked out of school, arrested but I have no criminal record, they held onto my belongings and they broke my two sewing machines. I can't easily go back, and all I need is a job. I have been hired in this year but its been 4 offers and each say "the specimen for the drug test is inconclusive". I live in a state where marijuana is legal, and I am telling you. I hadn't been drug tested for any of those jobs I was fired for.

Protecting "me and mine" whether that by family, community, even property. They think taking ownership of certain things is altruistic cause it goes to "me and mine" and they're making a good for others. But lots of people that aren't "yours" make it a good world and there are even two factions of people, sinners, and those grey area sinners and saints, where some people sin to fight people perpetually fighting them cause the grey areas sinners and saints fight them. Because again fighting for "me and mine" to most people puts them on a pedestal from others for contributing, but their contributions only rewards theirs. Leaving out others. The saints give to all, so these people are't true saints but in fact lie in the intersection of what they want to be and taking things down a notch citing someone else did it first so they do it too to them and fighting fire with fire surely will put out the flame someone started. Its asinine. Its ass backwards. Its ingrained in how we live.

IDK where to post this. I am a male who has always been skinny. Not exactly skin and bones. I had a traumatic experience with my fmaily that made society attack, dismantle and disenfranchise me for years that in some manner i am actively still experiencing. It causes me great stress and either makes me binge eat and eat and think of food or hate myself for eating, yet I still eat but I don't eat nutritious food just to make myself happy in the moment. I eat cheap cause I can't afford nice food and something is making me hate eating. I just hate how much I think about my next meal. I am not overweight, so maybe I am just hungry. But idk why I hate eating so much.

I don't understand what I am supposed to do in a situation like this. Regardless if you believe me, regardless of the judgement of what I did. What am I supposed to do when the liars and constantly supported just because theres more liars than there are me, and by de facto a large group of people with a solid reputation in life are able to lie about me to continue a cycle of abuse.

Why wouldn't any think about this with the shame cycle thats supposed to be about improving things but shaming and hurting others rarely motivates people to improve. The only want to simply motivate someone to change is by disenfranchising their livelihood and keeping them from the things that make you human. Effecively dehumanizing people. Why is it ok it happens to others and not you?

I am speaking about this one in Sharonville Ohio. off Glenford Mildred.

Their customer service department is always closed when I get there. I told my son to apply they must be short staffed but they're not hiring. Is that strange? No other Walmart I've visited this ever happened. They said it would be open at 7 pm tonight when someone comes in. Yeah right. Why would you open it right before closing? People use money services, thats a service they need to keep open

Someone, called me, from a verifiable official UHG phone number, stating I had applied for a position with the company. Firstly I applied for the remote position, but the office within the metro area so I let him steamroll me on that. Secondly the recruiter gives me their direct line when he initially called leaving a voicemail, or said to call another general number that was very apparently the general number of the recruiting department. Direct line led to their voicemail for the past 2 days I called in. I call the general line to just reach someone for a job I know I applied to, and they say "let me draft the email while you're on the line to inform this person you are reaching back out". Like they couldn't do that with me off the phone.

and before I could say anything put me on hold for 5 minutes. I stay on the line, we hang up together and respectfully. I waited for them to draft their email for 5 minutes. Then I try one more time calling back the recruiters main line and he picks up right away, after being made aware I was reaching out and only then. Then he asks me questions I answered in the application, like am I eligible to work in America when I gave had to put down SSN on the application so obviously I am an American citizen. No company would waste their time double checking and asking a second time information that is apparent and verified without having to ask . He took 30 minutes to do so. He did go through job history too, so that makes sense. I'm fine with the double checking, I don't think it makes sense they would double check things like am I an American citizen when I provided my SSN for the application, not to the recruiter.

This was a recuirter with nothing to do but waste my time I feel. I answered the questionnaire already on the application about immigration status, etc. That's tax information no recruiter is going to waste time to double check. He told me the hours of the job which again was listed in the job description. I understand its good to repeat something like that but it was a 9-5 position. He just kept repeating things, making it seem like he actively wanted to give me the run around. He wasted 30 minutes with the questionnaire and work history I answered in the application, the person kept me on hold to draft an email, I could never reach the recruiter through their direct line, it went straight to voicemail until that person sent whatever they sent that I was calling in and he was honestly a bit rude, although I guess it was my fault cause I go "didn't I answer these questions on the job application" and he goes "we just want to make sure its still the same" for a job I applied for 5 days ago. The recruiters name was NARESH KUMAR for their 866--566-8715 number. People were questioning if I gave my information over the phone, I did not. but in case you guys want to verify this information for me so I know I am not scammed, please go right

People are constantly applying standards where need not. Not accomplishing much or enough or engaging with life. Life is ruined when you can't enjoy AND engage. Engagement is like stress, a good kind of stress. People have standards that are routines when engagement to life is antithetical to routines.

This leads to nasty controlling and abusive behaviors in others. I wish we could get the word out. I kind of thought the mistreatment of women, Afircan-Americans, immigrants, different sexualities, peoples abilities was something we stopped doing. Yet it is still occuring on a micro level and not macro, systemic issue. WE can't stop these social woes until people take the responibility for themselves and learn how inhibition isn't immaturity. It is actual immature to live your life one way all your life.

Mirror, mirror, but do you see at all?

The mitigating solution to this horror is to be the light once on the other side. You can only act friendly once people meet your standards of life. Theres an inherent selfishiness ot that, but no one excuses this cause its sensical people want to be around like minded individuals but also not hurt by anyone when just living. But we also believing in hazing people before entrance to certain communities. IF you do not pass you must be terrorized. This can come in many forms. Intimidation through stalking, being left out of success while ensuring others show off their either true or fake success for intimidation. If you do not show terror in the right moments, you must be disgraced and seriously left out of oppurtunity. Because the proctor of the opputunity of the provider worked hard and doesn't have much to give away. Except the fact thats not a humanitarian outlook to constantly say I worked for something I deserve it over others. OUr work is supposed to give to teach other. That way others work gives to you,. That way all work benefits everyone and we get more simply because we all have fans and legions giving to humanity, which is us. We are all missing this point. Religions battle of good and evil is just the battle between temporary good times and solutions (like the initiation I described above) or long term solutions that suck in the beginning. We all know which is wise to choose but sometimes prefer an unwise choice. We seem to be pushed, poked and prodded by life into choosing a more wise decision. I just don't see why we can't be more wise and circumnavigate the hazing, terrorizing and disgrace we make some individual endure cause theyr enot like us. We don't want them around us. Its the same as saying any minotirity or ethnicity shouldn't be around you or have a seat with you. But to this day we love our degree of segregation I mean separation. Can we mature to a point we don't make everyone endure the mental illness we choose when we choose short term solutions that makes others live horrible and tourtous? Can we not knowingly choose bad things cause "we;ve been good up until this point and someone was bad and now you want to be bad". Can those people realize they choose good cause it was supposed to be valuable? When you enforce without understanding or comprehension from the side you enforce, they still choose the worng thing when they are not watched or enforce. Enforcement is a short term solution getting us no where for so long. I just want others to feel this frustration and do something about it. Any wise god sees us assholes and reincarnates us with bad things when were bad to each other like this. Can we think long term?

My mom and old friend used to mess with me, take money from me and not plan to pay me back then call me an asshole if I snapped. This was OK to do because I had a reptation having stolen a few petty times, but the kids who were stealing blamed me when they got in trouble so my "good" name was slandered and attributed to crimes I never committed and my upper middle class family and peers turned on me constantly. Agreeing to stealing from me and organzing to take my money then blaming me for calling them out because I deserved this in a nice society.

This was 10 years ago. Today, I was messed with at my school, workplace, and gym by family who kept me close to keep their enemy closer. They shafted me from my choosen career by making me lose internships asking where I applied and ocntactiing them saying I am a bad person. I became disgruntled having to work in pharmacy a bit and making 14 an hour out of college so I was a bad person for being upset. So they had to teach me. They had a workplace intimidate me to try to get me to leave. The HR department said they had a complaint from a girl who was rude and dismissive when I tried to talk to her saying she felt stared at, while I was sitting in my cubicle. Then when I didn't get the hint they stared me down walking by at my desk. Every single person passing by. Sometimes pretending they had "guests" or raelly other departments get up to walk and intimidate me. Then they watched me on my breaks, disrupted them. One guy sat inside the stall my entire break when I hid in a bathroom. I left and they had the next job pretend I am completely incompetent, know nothing and fired me after 6 weeks when I wasn't done with training. The next job fired me in 3 months. The next job 5 months. I had to get a meantime job worked 5 months before recieving a job in pharmacy again. Worked 1 month before being stared down, followed on my braeks, told I am in competent again. Stuck through it for 4 months before I protested being stared at by not working and having my managers pulled me aside. I got upset in their office and they had me on a month break. Then my dad gave me a check for $500 cause at the same time I told him I had video evidence of my mom and sister stealing from my bedroom while I lived with them for graduate school (they were always staring random fights saying someone stole, never accusing exactly but making huge fusses while I am in graduate school, I was sewing after school and work). They have me arrested just as I start the next semester. I am messed with for a month where gaurds never gave me hygiene products only inmates and they put me on suicide watch for fun, took my clothes for 3 days saying I could hang myself with my shirt and pant. Cranking the AC> Not toilet paper. I am released suddenly one night after a month and got an eviction during that time. My fmaily withheld my things for 6 months while I had to live in hotels with no jobs and ate my savings. When they gave me things back furnitrue was broken and things missing. I go to a new city from my hometown, now not in graduate school. The pharmacy was an LGT pharmacy part of my community as a gay male and they all intimidate me and leave notes like I want to murder you at my statoin. show boating in general and calling me a loser. They made up that I left out a drug a pharmacist was supposed to put away and fired me after 3 months. THey made it so no pharmacy would hire me for 6 months, had one more pharmacy hire me for 3 months to fire me after making something up about a supervisor who likes to gaslight people and was pushing me to do gurnt work. They waited for me to siggn a lease, acted like everything was fine then said theres lay offs and I go right after. That was last year, this year same thing no one will hire me and I find out my parents had someone break into my rental units where landlords messed with wifi, used cookies and tracking from google after using hometown cops to contact google to trace my device, control my device, delete files and block websites and change requirements to where I can use a virtual phone to sign up and while I have no money can't get a rael phone number. Limit any social media so I can't talk bad about them online. I kept applying anyways and right as I got a job at a coffe shop by walking in, so they couldn't track and thwart this job in any way, afte rthey found out from a fake homeles s person they send to talk to me, pretending to be frinedly at the park behind my place and telling them what I tell them, they give me a rael job in pharmacy again. Just for them to say my first day my drug test was invalid by phone, dont return my calls (this was a contract job) the second company doesnt cnntact the parent company so I pay for parking for training just to find out I was never actually hired with the company. They were kind enough to pay me after 8 months no work and the benefits coordinator in my state messes with my application cause the police contacted them as well. Now they did this again with another job 3 months later and I found out today that my result werr invalid and I do not hav ea job again. It will be 1 year in a month without a job. 4 years I cycled through 9 jobs. 9 years working in a field I had to take to try and seek entrance into my intended field. 13 years of my parents tormenting me setting up fake friends, bad jobs, watching and stealing and messing with me. I haven't mentioned the two more evictions, two more car braek ins, breaking my trunk, terrorizing my cats with homeless. IDK what I did to deserve this. I don't think stealing or bad attitude warrants being terrorized by terrorists, gangsters, gas lighters, liars, jealous.

TLDR

for roughly 13 years, family and other people connected to them have repeatedly interfered with education, career, housing, finances, relationships, privacy, and employment. family kept close while undermining you, including allegedly contacting potential employers and portraying you negatively, which prevented you from entering your intended career.

repeated workplace intimidation and job losses, including being stared at, followed during breaks, accused of incompetence or misconduct, and fired from numerous positions. Over about four years, cycled through nine jobs, despite having worked in your field for years.

major disruptions to graduate education and housing, including being arrested during graduate school, spending about a month in jail under conditions you describe as degrading, being evicted while incarcerated, having your belongings withheld for months, and later discovering missing or damaged possessions. You estimate losing roughly $30,000 through education costs, money allegedly taken by family, and other financial losses.

After moving to another city, the pattern continued through additional pharmacy jobs, housing problems, alleged break-ins, vehicle damage, harassment, and interference with employment opportunities. More recently, your family and/or authorities have monitored or interfered with your devices, internet access, social media, job applications, and employment background or drug-testing processes.

You currently say you have been unemployed for nearly a year, after another prospective job fell through because you were told your drug-test result was invalid. Devastated and confused about why this has happened and emphasize that, regardless of any mistakes, bad attitude, or conflicts you may have had, those things justify years of harassment, intimidation, theft, or having your career and life repeatedly disrupted

If hurting others is normalized as a method of controlling bad behavior, why can't it be perceived hurting others as a method of controlling bad behavior, like how criminality is an individuals way of achieving justice and arose as a response, is also obviously a good thing worth normalizing?

So hurting someone for doing something bad is extremely normalized. When you can reward good behaviors or disregard bad ones rather than doing bad things to stop bad things. It such an obvious oxymoron but half the world doesn't pick up on this. Its normalized with politics, crime, even franking couples normalize hurting each other. People won't listen the first time so we need to use excessive force.

Do we have to rely on excessive force for the leaders or top of society to get their way? They are very aware of what I said, they just earnestly believe they are more right than others and point to their work to provide for others to show their inherent 'greater' value. Which results in some hypocritical, backwards behavior where the mind isn't aware it is making itself ill and insane doing circles in the ground.

In life were trying to stomp out criminals. For good. Once and for all. But its never happened, well cause I guess everyone can be a criminal, anyone can lie, so we just need technology to catch up to capture, document, all aspects of life and track the wrongdoers so no one will disagree or hurt the system that is trying over! You guys want to criticize what's in place, but its in place for a reason ya know. (alright I am the critical guy where, enough with that mockery no one initially understood)

look we just want good ideas in the world to win, proliferate. The system does the best that it can and it captures people who I hate, who you'd reasonably hate if you were in my position. And its easy to find others to agree and stick with mob mentality that hurts all individuals, despite the mod is comprised of individuals so hurting them is pointless, antithetical to what we set out to do. I think this is why even when someone gains traction and moves on their mountain, slowly we realize we keep creating limiting circumstances for our own lives, cause we want to avoid chance, luck, the wheel of fortune, cause luck and chance are either on your side or not. They are not always nice concepts despite big wins.

Well so, at the end of the day. We all wanted the same thing. Good ideas to win, individuals to be honored while the majority isn't forced to act how a select few or an tyrannical individual may dictate. Reasonable actions to win out. But it does not always win out

Its not reasonable to be upset someone hurt and victimized someone so now you victimize them to show them how it feels. The weird thing, its like an eye for an eye. Its leaving everyone blind when we let our basis for attacking someones eyes if they did it to us or to someone we care about or just people in genearl. So cops with guns to stop shooting, secret crimes that are OK so long as someone is santioned to do it, means people have a right to fight back. Now we all know what happens is slowly we move to a totaliarian state to fix this. but the thing is that doesn't happen like it does in the movies. Cause not one single person wants to force others to live like that. But controlling behaviors is still common. I think decency can be taught, not enforced. I think that's the only way to stop crime. Those movies about government controlling all aspects of life could prove true for a bit, but realistically it would be dismantled by even the people fighting for it. No one wants to be controlled in life. Even managers, CEO's, wise leaders. Only if crime proliferated more would this happen and right now numbers are down. Even if there was an influx no one would enjoy that life. It would be over quickly.

Why do we engage in hypocritical methods to make it in the world? Is it possible were all stuck around unthoughtful actors posing as thoughtful and wise, when even as a wise person you are an individual with individual desires and concerns, so honoring what you feel is right is most important?

I said 'nothing' because this topic is about people who go in circles. The motivation to start a circle is the problem, then no one would go in circles all day. The mental disturbance, illness it takes to make you want to start going in hypocritical circles just to do something, is the same thing as sitting around not doing much cause both people go nowhere. Can we all realize this? its not the person sitting around who doesn't realize this (that's me) its the person going in circles putting themselves on a pedestal when all they did was move in a circle. Can we honor this obvious, reasonable truth somehow? I'm feeling very lonely in this analysis and observation. Knowing the world is built around people going in circles so they can feel better but those circles hurt others and I have to accept working with people who accept these never ending circles.

So hurting someone for doing something bad is extremely normalized. When you can reward good behaviors or disregard bad ones rather than doing bad things to stop bad things. It such an obvious oxymoron but half the world doesn't pick up on this. Its normalized with politics, crime, even franking couples normalize hurting each other. People won't listen the first time so we need to use excessive force.

Do we have to rely on excessive force for the leaders or top of society to get their way? They are very aware of what I said, they just earnestly believe they are more right than others and point to their work to provide for others to show their inherent 'greater' value. Which results in some hypocritical, backwards behavior where the mind isn't aware it is making itself ill and insane doing circles in the ground.

In life were trying to stomp out criminals. For good. Once and for all. But its never happened, well cause I guess everyone can be a criminal, anyone can lie, so we just need technology to catch up to capture, document, all aspects of life and track the wrongdoers so no one will disagree or hurt the system that is trying over! You guys want to criticize what's in place, but its in place for a reason ya know. (alright I am the critical guy where, enough with that mockery no one initially understood)

look we just want good ideas in the world to win, proliferate. The system does the best that it can and it captures people who I hate, who you'd reasonably hate if you were in my position. And its easy to find others to agree and stick with mob mentality that hurts all individuals, despite the mod is comprised of individuals so hurting them is pointless, antithetical to what we set out to do. I think this is why even when someone gains traction and moves on their mountain, slowly we realize we keep creating limiting circumstances for our own lives, cause we want to avoid chance, luck, the wheel of fortune, cause luck and chance are either on your side or not. They are not always nice concepts despite big wins.

Well so, at the end of the day. We all wanted the same thing. Good ideas to win, individuals to be honored while the majority isn't forced to act how a select few or an tyrannical individual may dictate. Reasonable actions to win out. But it does not always win out

Its not reasonable to be upset someone hurt and victimized someone so now you victimize them to show them how it feels. The weird thing, its like an eye for an eye. Its leaving everyone blind when we let our basis for attacking someones eyes if they did it to us or to someone we care about or just people in genearl. So cops with guns to stop shooting, secret crimes that are OK so long as someone is santioned to do it, means people have a right to fight back. Now we all know what happens is slowly we move to a totaliarian state to fix this. but the thing is that doesn't happen like it does in the movies. Cause not one single person wants to force others to live like that. But controlling behaviors is still common. I think decency can be taught, not enforced. I think that's the only way to stop crime. Those movies about government controlling all aspects of life could prove true for a bit, but realistically it would be dismantled by even the people fighting for it. No one wants to be controlled in life. Even managers, CEO's, wise leaders. Only if crime proliferated more would this happen and right now numbers are down. Even if there was an influx no one would enjoy that life. It would be over quickly.

Why do we engage in hypocritical methods to make it in the world? Is it possible were all stuck around unthoughtful actors posing as thoughtful and wise, when even as a wise person you are an individual with individual desires and concerns, so honoring what you feel is right is most important?

I said 'nothing' because this topic is about people who go in circles. The motivation to start a circle is the problem, then no one would go in circles all day. The mental disturbance, illness it takes to make you want to start going in hypocritical circles just to do something, is the same thing as sitting around not doing much cause both people go nowhere. Can we all realize this? its not the person sitting around who doesn't realize this (that's me) its the person going in circles putting themselves on a pedestal when all they did was move in a circle. Can we honor this obvious, reasonable truth somehow? I'm feeling very lonely in this analysis and observation. Knowing the world is built around people going in circles so they can feel better but those circles hurt others and I have to accept working with people who accept these never ending circles.

What song of hers should've been for her solo career versus for the band?

I think of Gypsy being for Bella Donna or The Chain going to the band. I think both these songs work great as Stevie solos and could see her backup singers on these tracks. Are there songs you think would've developed differently, without the bands help or someone else's eyes from her team with her solo career?

sorry for the title error