u/mcrfreak78

Like the title says, I have an $100 coupon for any Airbnb experience. I am taking a long asia trip soon and I have decision paralysis! It's me, my husband and toddler so must be kid friendly! I would love any ideas of what I should spend it on! I'm willing to travel outside the cities I'm staying in.

Here is where I'm traveling:

Chiang mai, Thailand

Seoul, South Korea

Tokyo, Osaka, & Kyoto, Japan

I was thinking some sort of day trip to get my money's worth. We're huge nature people! But I'm open to anything amazing!

(We already have two things planned. Elephant sanctuary and photoshoot in Tokyo)

Thanks for any ideas!

Like the title says, I have an $100 coupon for any Airbnb experience. I am taking a long asia trip soon and I have decision paralysis! It's me, my husband and toddler so must be kid friendly! I would love any ideas of what I should spend it on! I'm willing to travel outside the cities I'm staying in.

Here is where I'm traveling:

Chiang mai, Thailand

Seoul, South Korea

Tokyo, Osaka, & Kyoto, Japan

I was thinking some sort of day trip to get my money's worth. We're huge nature people! But I'm open to anything amazing!

(We already have two things planned. Elephant sanctuary and photoshoot in Tokyo)

Thanks for any ideas!

Like the title says, I have an $100 coupon for any Airbnb experience. I am taking a long asia trip soon and I have decision paralysis! It's me, my husband and toddler so must be kid friendly! I would love any ideas of what I should spend it on! I'm willing to travel outside the cities I'm staying in.

Here is where I'm traveling:

Chiang mai, Thailand

Seoul, South Korea

Tokyo, Osaka, & Kyoto, Japan

I was thinking some sort of day trip to get my money's worth. We're huge nature people! But I'm open to anything amazing!

(We already have two things planned. Elephant sanctuary and photoshoot in Tokyo)

Thanks for any ideas!

My husband and I are residents in Albania, as Americans. I am a stay at home mom to a toddler. I rely on my husband's income. I really want life insurance on him for peace of mind if something ever happened to him, I could support myself and my child. He is 31 with no health problems. I was thinking a 1 million dollar policy for, less than $100 a month? Is this possible? Where do I start looking? Thanks.

We've been doing elimination communication with my child since she was 8 months old. She sometimes signs for the potty, sometimes not. She usually goes in the potty upon waking and hardly ever poops herself anymore. It comes and goes. She even signs in public sometimes, but not fully consistently. Point is, she seems to have some bodily awareness of when she needs to go.

She's almost 20 months now and I want to give her the respect and dignity to not have to use diapers anymore. The only thing is, we are leaving for a long asia trip in 3.5 weeks. I figured if I started now maybe we could get good before the trip, but now I'm stressed that traveling with a newly potty trained child will be difficult. We will be in Thailand, south Korea, and Japan and using lots of public transport. What if she has to go while we're on a bus or subway? What if we can't find a potty? The easy thing to do is just put her in diapers for the whole time (tho I've heard finding large diapers in these countries can be difficult) but since she has been actively signing for the potty I feel bad not just pulling the trigger. When we get back from the trip, she will be 2 and I fear it will be harder at that age. I feel she's in the sensitive learning period right now.

I've planned to bring a small potty with us to keep in the home. I also have a travel potty, seat reducer, wet bags, towels, training panties, and an absorbent thing to protect the stroller. I also have cloth diapers I could put her in like in the airports or on flights? I honestly have no idea what this would look like while traveling. Am I insane for considering this, or could it be doable? Appreciate any insight.

We've been doing elimination communication with my child since she was 8 months old. She sometimes signs for the potty, sometimes not. She usually goes in the potty upon waking and hardly ever poops herself anymore. It comes and goes. She even signs in public sometimes, but not fully consistently. Point is, she seems to have some bodily awareness of when she needs to go.

She's almost 20 months now and I want to give her the respect and dignity to not have to use diapers anymore. The only thing is, we are leaving for a long asia trip in 3.5 weeks. I figured if I started now maybe we could get good before the trip, but now I'm stressed that traveling with a newly potty trained child will be difficult. We will be in Thailand, south Korea, and Japan and using lots of public transport. What if she has to go while we're on a bus or subway? What if we can't find a potty? The easy thing to do is just put her in diapers for the whole time (tho I've heard finding large diapers in these countries can be difficult) but since she has been actively signing for the potty I feel bad not just pulling the trigger. When we get back from the trip, she will be 2 and I fear it will be harder at that age. I feel she's in the sensitive learning period right now.

I've planned to bring a small potty with us to keep in the home. I also have a travel potty, seat reducer, wet bags, towels, training panties, and an absorbent thing to protect the stroller. I also have cloth diapers I could put her in like in the airports or on flights? I honestly have no idea what this would look like while traveling. Am I insane for considering this, or could it be doable? Appreciate any insight.

I’ve coslept and nursed on demand since birth. Around 17 months, I started thinking about night weaning because my body had hit a wall. The lack of sleep was really starting to affect my physical and mental health. I talked about it for months before I finally worked up the courage to do it. A mom of three told me all of her kids slept better after she night weaned, so my husband and I decided to start that night when our daughter was 19 months old.

That was 10 nights ago. The first two nights, she cried a bit and asked to nurse, but I would tell her no and hold her instead. Night three went well—I held her, and she fell back asleep. I really thought it was the beginning of getting more sleep.

Since then, though, she's been waking up at exactly 3 a.m. every single night and tossing and turning for 1–2 hours. I know she's also going through a lot developmentally right now. She's learning to walk, and we're also working on using the potty more often, so I know there are a lot of big changes happening for her all at once.

I try holding her, patting her, cuddling her, and soothing her, but nothing works. Her head gets so heavy on my arm, and it's becoming incredibly uncomfortable. I'm feeling so touched out. More than anything, I just want to be able to roll over and sleep in whatever position I want. If I try, she bumps her head against me while trying to get comfortable. Last night, it took two hours for her to fall back asleep. Then, even after she finally did, I couldn't fall asleep myself.

I'm starting to feel depressed. I'm so desperate for a good night's sleep. I feel like I'm in a lose-lose situation. If I start nursing at night again, she'll probably fall asleep faster, but I'll also be waking up more often. I honestly don't know what to do. Does it get better, or is this just how it is? Has anyone else experienced this after night weaning? (Also, I'm not willing to fully wean.)

I’ve coslept and nursed on demand since birth. Around 17 months, I started thinking about night weaning because my body had hit a wall. The lack of sleep was really starting to affect my physical and mental health. I talked about it for months before I finally worked up the courage to do it. A mom of three told me all of her kids slept better after she night weaned, so my husband and I decided to start that night when our daughter was 19 months old.

That was 10 nights ago. The first two nights, she cried a bit and asked to nurse, but I would tell her no and hold her instead. Night three went well—I held her, and she fell back asleep. I really thought it was the beginning of getting more sleep.

Since then, though, she's been waking up at exactly 3 a.m. every single night and tossing and turning for 1–2 hours. I know she's also going through a lot developmentally right now. She's learning to walk, and we're also working on using the potty more often, so I know there are a lot of big changes happening for her all at once.

I try holding her, patting her, cuddling her, and soothing her, but nothing works. Her head gets so heavy on my arm, and it's becoming incredibly uncomfortable. I'm feeling so touched out. More than anything, I just want to be able to roll over and sleep in whatever position I want. If I try, she bumps her head against me while trying to get comfortable.

Last night, it took two hours for her to fall back asleep. Then, even after she finally did, I couldn't fall asleep myself.

I'm starting to feel depressed. I'm so desperate for a good night's sleep. I feel like I'm in a lose-lose situation. If I start nursing at night again, she'll probably fall asleep faster, but I'll also be waking up more often. I honestly don't know what to do.

Does it get better, or is this just how it is? Has anyone else experienced this after night weaning? (Also, I'm not willing to fully wean.)

I'm pretty disheartened. I live in Europe and in June we went to America for a month to visit family. I assumed it would regress her but the opposite happened. After using exclusively disposable diapers, I bought her some cloth diapers and while at in-laws she was signing constantly to go potty in the cloth ones. Id put her on the seat reducer and she would go. Before all this she would consistently go in the morning on the toilet, sign after waking from a nap, now she does none of this.

Once we came back home, she's regressed. Now she's not signing at all, even in the cloth diapers. When she turned 18 months I started putting her in training panties while at home hoping it would click and she wouldn't want to feel wet, but she's just peeing in them anyways. Her dad left for a week and she wasn't signing at all so I was wondering whether the change tripped her up, but now that he's back she's either still not signing or will sign WHILE she wets her panties.

Just now, her panties were dry for a while so I literally just put her on the toilet, she screamed I took her off, then she immediately peed in her panties. If she had to go why didn't she go on the toilet? This is really upsetting for me because I was hoping to be fully potty trained before we leave for a long asia trip in September and I have no idea what's happening.

I've tried a small child sized potty (she loved at first but now she fights), three different seat reducers and even one where you climb steps to go on the potty. She fights every one. She won't just go when I put her on it. I really wanted to wrap up potty training soon. I'm confused because if she has the body brain connection, why is she refusing? Idk what to do but we're feeling defeated and don't know where to go from here.

I cut off my parents first. Then my extended family like aunts and uncles but I was still in contact with my sisters and grandparents. Then my maternal grandparents broke my boundaries and were being toxic so I cut them off because honestly they sucked. I didn't want to cut off my sisters or paternal grandparents. My husband told me that as long as the door is cracked my parents will get in. And he was right. I caught my sisters feeding my parents information about me. So I cut them off. I was pregnant and vulnerable at the time and still in contact with my paternal grandparents who seemed less toxic than everyone else. But as I was approaching my due date, my grandma, who I would talk to on FB messanger about once a month, started blowing up my phone almost every day. Saying things like "how are you????? Everything ok????🩵🩵🩵🩵🩵🩵🩵" At first I thought it was innocent so I would either give her updates or say "nothing new has happened..." If I didn't respond she'd message me "hello???" It started feeling excessive and overwhelming.

Eventually I have the baby. I send my grandma ONE picture of her, then unsend it after she sees it bc I was scared of her sending it to my parents. She messages me "where's the picture of the baby? I can't find it" she then says "I long for more pictures of her..." I said "I don't feel comfortable with that bc I'm worried you're going to share them with my parents" hoping she would say something like "I wouldnt do that" but instead she says "I'm sure they long for pictures too" that's when I realized she wasn't a safe space and I told her I wasn't comfortable with this and I blocked her.

Maybe that was an extreme reaction, but oddly enough, I've been through so much SHIT with all of them that having NONE of them in my life has taken a weight off my shoulders. I feel so at peace. The guilt has healed for the most part but sometimes I have regrets about my grandma. She's honestly less toxic than the rest of my family and she really loved us a lot as children. Very kind. Very hands on. Always taking us places. Idk. I guess I'm scared that since she's old, shes going to die when we're no contact and I will have regrets and miss her. Yet I feel opening the door back up isn't very safe for me right now. Can anyone relate? I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place.

I went no contact with my parents from 2020-2023, tried opening the door a little again for about two months. Realized it was a huge mistake and went no contact again from 2023-present.

I didn't hear from my parents for about a year. Then word got out that I was pregnant and I started hearing from them more. My mom has been sending me emails about every 6 months saying really vapid bullshit like: I miss you, happy birthday, I read your favorite book, I know I won't hear from you but I can't help but hope we can move past this, I'm reading *spiritual book* everything is love and light, our family is doing great here's an update...

I've healed so much it doesn't hurt me much anymore. For a bit I found it amusing. Like heehee after all they put me through I'm still taking up space rent free in their head. But for some reason I snapped with this most recent email. She wrote, "even though we don't talk, I still think of you and send you love"

My husband always encourages me not to engage, but this time I couldn't help myself. My first email was along the lines of "what will it take for you to leave me alone? I think you're awful and want nothing to do with you." Then I felt like that wasn't enough so I sent another email saying basically that if she thinks for one second I would ever give them access to my children she is completely delusional. She can be successful and join Christianity and none of it will fix how deep she is in her own suffering and mental illness. I said, typical spiritualist, everything is love and light until you're screaming in your crying daughter's face. I didn't hold back, I wanted to be as ruthless as possible.

I think it worked. I may have hurt their egos so bad that, so far, I haven't heard back lmao. I know it might sound dumb that I broke NC on this, but it was actually super cathartic to fire back for once.

I've figured out how to block her emails so hopefully I won't see them anymore.

She ended up getting pregnant. So I asked her, I don't want to be on hormonal birth control, what happened with your fertility planning?

She said oh, I did it successfully for like 10 years. What happened is I was with my boyfriend, we knew I was ovulating that weekend. It was my birthday and we got drunk. In the heat of the moment I told him he didn't need to pull out. Lo and behold she got pregnant.

So it wasn't a failure of the method. In a way they chose to get pregnant in that moment.

Just wanted to share because I thought it was amazing she was so successful for so long.

There's literally nothing out there that says this