u/neoworldprogrammed

currently working entry-level in the industry and am hoping to eventually get a bachelors in hospitality and move upwards, does anyone here have any experience with this specific industry? i know the work conditions and standard experience vary greatly from country to country. any sort of planning is still in the very very infant stages but i figure looking as far ahead as possible is always smart.

(on a side note: i am fat and transgender. is this something to severely worry about or is a lot of the fuss people make about the culture in japan mostly coming from stereotypes/flatout xenophobia? lol)

finally getting around to setting up my 401k with my current job and their program is through fidelity. i got my account set up for the first time but when i logged in it was entirely focused around my old job (starbucks). i'm kind of confused because not only have i not been employed by starbucks for over a year but i also only worked for them for under a week? lol. how do i go about changing my program(?) to my current employer's 401k program to begin earning through that. i couldn't find any way to do it onsite and have been getting kind of frustrated

does anyone have any recommendations for good/reliable psychs in town? looking to hopefully get on mood stabilizers/anti depressives and unsure where to start. thanks!

sorry if this isn't the right place to post this, first time renter & very nervous haha. i've been living with my spouse on a double occupancy lease for about a year and a half now but our current place filled our unit without telling us, even after saying we'd successfully renewed, and now we're scrambling to find a place by the end of the month. on 7/7 we toured an apartment in town & the property manager said she would send over a lease offer by the end of the week, as soon as she had all of our information. my proof of income & credit check have gone through, as have my spouses, and we confirmed with her that everything was in order. i reached out yesterday to double check but haven't heard back yet. is there a normal turnaround time? am i just being far too impatient? about how long do background checks/income checks take to come back?

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sorry for bad image quality- seller deleted the listing for the collar i bought so i had to copy the tiny image from my review & i can only attach one image hahaha.

bought this collar from a seller i'd had saved for a while- i was specifically very attached to the brown color, and had been waiting for them to get the material for it back in stock. i purchased the dark brown color from the listing, but when it arrived it was undeniably black (photo on the right). i reached out to the seller to ask if i could exchange it for one of the right color, but the seller instead doubled down and blamed the color discrepancy on my screen resolution? and told me that their pictures were "taken under good lighting" and all they could offer was a refund if i returned the item.

i'm kind of sad because i'd been looking forwards to that specific color for a while but i do understand that leather dye is not always exact and things can come out darker than expected- i'm just upset i pretty much didn't receive what i ordered & the shop is taking 0 accountability. when going to the shop to grab a reference image for this post, it also looks like the entire listing has been taken down either sometime before or directly after i left a review regarding this, which i thought was odd.

i have to know if im just crazy or if it's an actual problem. i live in the arrow and every thursday morning (except when they come again unscheduled on another day!) the garbage truck will spend 5-10 minutes presumably picking up the dumpster and slamming it into the ground as hard as they can as many times as they can. it's so loud it rattles my bed/wall & the dumpsters have visible damage from being dropped and slammed into the posts behind them. is this normal? am i just spoiled from growing up with a garbage can we put on the street that was quietly collected? its so loud it wakes me up & persists for long enough ill often just get up early because i can't fall back asleep. does anyone else deal with this or am i being dramatic lol

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get your tickets while they're hot! cheap entry, unlimited tickets. 2 gorgeous mngwas (one heir & one VH fert cub), some skin apps, breeding items, and some other goodies :-) ending on the 24th, definitely won't be cancelled! :^)

i hope this makes sense. for most of my life growing up, and now into my adult life i've been eating a specific recipe i always just knew as "barney buns". it goes as follows (with some wiggle room for tweaks added over the last 30+ years)

1 pound ground beef, cooked on the stove with paprika, garlic powder, onion slices (replaced in recent years with onion powder since i'm a picky eater, lol), and some salt to user discretion. remove from pan once mostly cooked, place into a separate mixing bowl. in separate bowl, add 2-3 dashes worcestershire sauce, a splash of pickle juice, 1-2 grated pickles, and mayo + ketchup to taste (usually till the sauce mix is a light pinkish color. this may have been exact measurements at some point, but not for a long time). add grated or cubed cheddar cheese (i believe it started out with cubed cheese, and then i figured out that shredding it kept the beef mixture together better and tasted better). slice 3 english muffins in half, pile the beef in equal portions onto each side. i'm pretty sure the addition of extra shredded cheese shredded on top is recent, but it may be from the original recipe. bake at 375 for 15 minutes, or until cheese is fully melted and top is slightly crispy. no clue if that's the original parameters, it's what i've been doing since i moved out and it works for me.

the closest thing to an origin i have is that my grandmother allegedly got the recipe from a church friend, and my mother grew up eating them and passed it down onto me. no idea where the other family originally got it from. as far as i know they came into the world being called "barney buns", and i don't think the family's last name was barney, lol. my mother is in her 50s so the acquisition of this recipe would have been in the late 80s-early 90s, i think. i've googled every possible variation of this recipe and it's name but it's so broad i haven't found anything.

US, MT. prescriber is an informed consent clinic if that matters.

i'm starting to lose hope. my spouse and i are on the same insurance (BCBS carefirst, our pharmacy stuff goes through CVS caremark). i am diagnosed with gender dysphoria disorder and went into my clinic over a month ago to properly begin the medical transition process- specifically starting androgel (topical testosterone gel). my spouse went through the same process as me, with the same clinic and same prescribed brand of gel.

for my spouse, it took less than a week from his RX being sent out to having the prescription in hand. i've been having to fight with my clinic and insurance for over a month now trying to get my own prior authorization approved. my initial prior auth form was denied due to my medication being listed as a "preference, not a medical need". my insurance sent out a second prior authorization form, it spun around in the system for a week or so before being denied again, despite my doctor sending out an ADDITIONAL letter of medical necessity (which i have read to confirm it was actually written and sent out! it's real), and being told they still need "more information". what more information could they possibly need? they will not elaborate to me or my doctor, they will not approve anything no matter what is done. i'm on the verge of calling them and just breaking down and begging the representative to do something for me. i don't know what i can do here, i've been struggling with debilitating dysphoria for years and this was supposed to finally turn a new page for me and let me actually exist in my own body without being miserable. apologies if posts like this aren't allowed, i'm just sad and want to know if there's anything at all i should be doing more.

wtf is up with how high security deposits are?? i'm already getting fucked having to pay like 2000 dollars for anything bigger than a studio apartment, then i look at the security deposit and it's 20x the amount any sane person is willing to pay. i just saw somebody asking for a 3300 deposit on a 1500 a month apartment. good luck to any landlord trying to fill rooms in this town asking for shit like that

no picture because i don't have my medication to take a picture of it. LAST WEDNESDAY i went in for a follow-up appointment at my local clinic to go over blood results & get my testosterone prescription. i was told they would push the RX same day & i should be able to pick it up within the next couple of days. i called the pharmacy same day, and they confirmed they'd sent over the prior authorization form to my clinic. a day passed. i called the clinic, they told me it was in my doctor's "to-do folder" and she would send it out soon. i called the following morning & they let me know it had been sent to insurance. TWO MORE DAYS PASSED and i called insurance to check on the status only to have the automated bot hit me with the "i see you have a recently denied prior authorization form". the rep let me know that apparently my doctor told them that my prescription was "a preference and not medically necessary", so they denied the prior authorization & i had to try three different OTHER medications before they would approve the one i was initially prescribed. now i have to wait until memorial day weekend is over until i can go into the clinic in person and make them fix it. on top of it all during both of my appointments with her my doctor bragged non-stop about how much she loves prescribing people testosterone and how she's been doing it for years, yet somehow can't phrase a prior auth form in a way that won't get it insta-denied by insurance. sigh

the one thing i really liked about SP was being able to get front notifications for my partner & vice versa. with octocon shut down i can't find another app that works online and allows you to view other users' current fronters. if it happened to have a journal function and/or a sticky current fronter notification that would also be really awesome :^)...

my father recently passed away very unexpectedly & i have been coming around to the fact that i'd do well with somebody to talk to about everything. does anyone have a specific counsellor they'd recommend? i have BCBS CareFirst so ideally someone likely to take my insurance lol. i've looked around myself a bit but i've never gone into counselling of my own accord so i don't really know what to look for or who's good in town. i'm in my early 20s if that matters.

currently living in bozeman mt and i'm completely fed up with the transplants/rich old retired tourists and having to pay the mountain tax just to exist. i have some experience in the mining industry (used to be a QC tech) but i'd be happy working anywhere. i don't want to seem like another asshole transplant who's going to move to a new place then complain about every tiny thing. i'm curious if anyone has any advice of specific areas/towns they'd recommend moving to. i am queer and transgender as is my partner if that's important