u/nommabelle

Just wondering if I should consider anything before hosting free mat pilates classes for my apartment. I would need to get my own insurance, which is fine

For starters I think I'd host it in our gym, which has a good amount of free space (probably fits 15 people), and maybe I'd host it outside on nice days. I think people will be fine with the gym floor (bit spongey) and a towel, as we have limited mats

I am classically trained, and am a new instructor so fairly closely following my training even in regular classes (which is very infrequent - I just sub currently every month or so at my big box gym). I plan to do strictly classical with this group though, and keep it very beginner-friendly/all-levels, with the idea they can google the sequence when they're home and continue their practice on their own. I might even print off a small sheet with the exercises we do so they have a reference

Really disappointing to see this exchange - someone at my gym had 'booked' a red light session (via the front desk, on another level in the gym), and was entering the room for it, but someone stepped in front of him and started saying it was hers because 'shes a high priority member' and knows the Crunch CEO

They argued for a bit, one of them saying how he'd booked it (which he had), and the other saying how she was priority and it was hers (it wasn't, if this was a normal person). I tried stepping in that if the front desk booked it for someone, they get it. At our gym, if you want a service, you have to speak to the front desk, and if it's occupied, you have to wait at the front desk for it. She wouldn't listen and eventually the guy who booked it said she can have it, just to avoid further conflict

I told the front desk of the incident, and they confirmed it should've been the woman's (CEO's friend). This confirmed being friendly with the CEO means you get to ignore normal, fair, handling of gym services

I am really disappointed to hear Crunch's CEO is pulling strings like this for his friends. Obviously this shit happens across companies, but it doesn't make it right and I expected better of this gym. Personally my opinion of the gym has fallen in the drain due to this, I absolutely hate seeing behavior like this. Maybe I'm the weird one, but when I've been in positions I could benefit from something at the expense of someone else, I don't do that shit.

Extremely grateful we were lucky with a relatively short wait, as anyone knows it can be a stressful process, especially when there's a loss of status involved. So very happy to have our I-130 and I-485 APPROVED!!

Case details:

• FO: NYC (Manhattan)
• Relationship: 13y together, 7y living together, 2 months married, no joint financials
• Original status: L1b, status lapsed 1 month before interview
  • Otherwise never was present without status
  • Never worked without authorization
• Evidence:
  • bank statements showing 7y living together
  • no joint financials (beyond beneficaries on retirement/brokerage/bank accounts, authorized user on a credit card)
  • photos spanning 13y (trips to eachother, with friends, with family, family weddings, moments like covid vaccines, proposal, wedding, etc)
  • affidavits from family
  • written timeline of our relationship
• Interview: very quick, documented here
• Did not apply for EAD or AP
• Did not consult a lawyer, used youtube videos + USCIS instructions

Timeline:

• 06/11/26: I-130 submitted/received
• 05/7/26: I-485 received
• 05/14/26: RFE received
  • Documented here, I am still annoyed about it as I followed the instructions as written, but all is forgiven now everything is approved
• 05/21/26: RFE responded
• 05/23/26: Biometrics scheduled
• 06/09/26: Biometrics
• 07/21/26: Interview scheduled
• 08/27/26: Interview
  • Notably, no 'why aren't you using consular processing'-type questions
• 08/27/26: I-130 approved
• 08/28/26: I-485 approved

Thank you so much to r/USCIS for helping over this process! Special shoutout to u/chuang_415

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I have 7 min ebike remaining from my Lyft Pink pass, and am considering redeeming my bike angel points. I'm curious if it adds to this time, or otherwise seemlessly changes from using my lyft pink minutes to bike angel minutes?

I'm sure they use bikes, and maybe even horses, from time-to-time, but I can't recall the last time I saw a cop on a bike, and 99% of the time, they have a car nearby, not a bike

Just wondering why, as surely bikes are the superior way to manage most city conflicts? Sure, maybe sometimes they need a car to travel somewhere fast, or store items they can't store on a bike, or block off an area more effectively than a bike would (cough, summer streets), but in my ignorance, I'd estimate 80% of cop activities don't need a car, and could even be a detriment in the sense they're bulky af and cannot move in traffic like a bike can (a car doesn't help you travel fast if there's 1000 selfish drivers who don't want to move over for you!)

And I know some places - like London - use these pretty often. When I lived in London even my non-central, zone 2 flat would have cops on horses occasionally patroling the streets

I bought milk from Amazon Fresh, and it went bad extremely quickly. I got a new one from Whole Foods, it also went bad within a few days (my walk from WF to home is maybe 2 min, so it wasn't exposed long, nor was it hot that day). Idk if it was the recent heat wave but curious if anyone else has the same issues

I just want morning coffee :(

I trained in classical ballet, including several years of pointe. At the end of classes, a student would lead the class in reverance to thank the instructor, and we'd end with curtseys to the instructor. The reverance was always improvised and nothing crazy: simple steps, fairly short (<1 min)

I have a fairly close-knit adult class, we just did a recital on Friday, and I thought it might be nice to do the same for our instructor: we don't do any reverance at all currently, and we also don't curtsey our instructor at the end. I was curious what others' classes do, and if this is something reasonable to add

FWIW I mentioned it to a few people a few months ago and they were all supportive. However at the time, our class was only 45 minutes long. We now have a 75 min class (yay! pressuring to increase it worked!) and we also are no longer rehearsing for the recital, so I'd like to propose the idea of adding this at the end of class again (we weren't even doing center work during 45 min)

It looks like from this subreddit people are still getting approved if they lose legal status after applying for AOS. Does anyone have reason (eg denials, removal process started, etc) to think it's not ok to stay in the US after applying for AOS once your legal status otherwise expires?

Will the government start removal proceedings for an AOS applicant, assuming their AOS was submitted while still in legal status, or wait until AOS is decided?

My husband and I (US citizen) have an I-130 and I-485 application (submitted early April 2025). He lost his job mid-May, so his L1b expires mid-August. Looks like it won't be approved by then (I know it was wishful thinking anyways), and with the memo I just want to make sure he won't be forced away or in trouble for overstaying while the AOS is decided

I made several comments when I moved to NYC about the state of micromobility compared to London. And indeed London does have some nice 'cycle highways' which are not attached to normal vehicle roads at all! However at the time I really hadn't tried cycling in NYC and was also a bit scared to

Anyways I've been regularly cycling for about 4 months now and grown to appreciate that, although there's few places a cyclist can 'detach' from roads and cars, it's very nice that I can get anywhere I want to go on almost entirely protected bike lanes due to the grid layout. And places like the river greenways (especially Hudson River) and Broadway's bikelane are always a treat to cycle

I regularly walk very short trips in the sun - usually 4 min walk to the gym, then sometimes another 10 min walk to another gym, and sometimes stop by the other gym on the way back. Maybe 30 min in total, but spread across hours and workouts

Given the short amount of time between each stop, I'm not sure how to protect my skin against the sun. I use tret and do sunburn, but not sure if even the 4 min trips end up burning (obviously depending on UV of the day too). I'm working up a decent sweat at each stop, so my sunscreen definitely wears off, plus I like to wash my face after working out (topic for a separate post actually - I've been wondering how bad it is to have sweat on my face for a while, how bad it is to use dry clothes to wipe it off, etc), but it feels like a waste to keep reapplying

What would you do? Maybe a wear a hat? Or re-apply each time?

Nothing new to r/fuckcars folks, but I thought this was a nice take on why NYC has a stronger sense of community:

>I do think there is something to a city where cars aren’t the primary means of transportation. People in car cities seem to me like they’re detached from each other. Everyone in NYC has tons of practice being around other people all the time for better or worse. The better part is that it can be a humanizing factor and foster more comfort around strangers.

And makes me sad we won't have something like this outside major cities because cars caused and perpetuate sprawl and a slew of other issues

Obligatory don't brigade the post, just appreciate the anti-car sentiment 😄

I want to learn what I'm missing in the city to enrich my life especially on a physical/mental level. Right now I regularly do:

• at the gym: many mindful workout classes (like pilates, yoga, aerial yoga, breathwork, stretch), massage chairs, water jet beds, red light therapy
• at home: foam rolling, lacrosse ball rolling, sometimes stretch, loosely monitor with the questionably-accurate body comp scales
  • Also tend to take baths most days, which I did to help recover muscles, but I learned recently long baths (eg 1hr+) can actually be bad and stress the body, so starting today I'm trying to make them shorter or just shower

So what ideas do you have to make the most of city life for my wellbeing?

Massages immediately come to mind, but I kinda struggle with their value - it seems very expensive for something a massage chair can kinda do? (to be clear, please give all recs even expensive - I have budget but I like value)

I used to feel kinda sad when I didn't go to work because I'm paying almost $7k in rent to be close *to* work for a better commute. So any day I lived here without working in the office used to feel like a waste of money. But since finding this subreddit and realizing it's actually ok to spend the money I have, I don't feel this anxiety anymore. We've far exceeded our FIRE number and arguably are at ChubbyFIRE, but I don't think we will live a 'Chubby' life (tbh I don't even know how to spend money, honestly don't, please give advice)

Though I still think about what to do with the lease when I leave my job (0-2 years). I plan to leave after bonus payout (eg Feb) but my lease is annually in October. I might try to negotiate a 0.5 or 1.5y lease, or just use this hard-earned money to chill and try to enjoy the city I've lived in before leaving it. It would suck to pay so much per month without actually working here at all for 6 months

https://discord.gg/Nb9b5gC5

I started a discord a couple months ago to discuss pilates - whether checking in how your workouts are going, questions that you don't want to make a r/pilates post for, or anything else. The intention is definitely not to replace this group, just offer a real-time space to chat pilates where you don't need a proper post for :D

We're a small group with some instructors, some training to teach, and of course everyone interested in pilates!