updates on the cleaner who was smoking in my apartment
a few weeks ago, i made a post asking for your opinions on my cleaner smoking inside my apartment. i defended her against all the comments i considered too exaggerated.
https://www.reddit.com/r/hygiene/s/L2AfypDeU5
i had mentioned that i was already considering firing her for other reasons, but that i liked her because we had a friendship and she cleaned well. she liked me too and used to say that my house was the easiest one she cleaned.
what bothered me the most was actually the organization. every time she left, i had to organize the house again, even though i always organized everything before she came too, which i thought was ridiculous.
i had already talked to her about it before and i had to repeat myself about some things. i even got an organizer for her to put all the things she “didn’t know where to put,” since that was her excuse. even so, she would put things in completely nonsensical places, and ever since i hired her, i haven’t been able to find half my stuff.
i would organize the cleaning supplies cabinet and she would leave everything a mess again. the product bottles would be sticky, with the caps left open, in an overhead cabinet where they could spill into someone’s eyes if they weren’t paying attention. every week i would organize it again, and she would mess it up again. not to mention that she ruined my cleaning cloths and spray bottles, left the buckets in random places, etc.
last week, i decided to send her a message pointing these things out. i only brought up the essentials, politely, of course. my post here was proof of how much i cared about her. among the things i mentioned was that she had put a hairband in the fruit bowl, a matchbox in the electronics organizer, and things like that.
and then, her reaction was this: she sent me some kind of response that thankfully i never saw, because if i had, it probably would have stressed me out. then she didn’t show up for her next cleaning and blocked me. 🤡
this is positive since i didn’t have the courage to fire her but i wanted to share the outcome because that’s without even mentioning the smoking! of course i feel like an idiot. i gave her gifts, bought diapers when her granddaughter was born, paid her full rate for a day when she came over but couldn’t get in because the door was locked, and i was even considering helping her with a bread business she had started by paying for entrepreneurship courses.
ofc i’ll never be this lenient again. with the next cleaner, i’m going to handle things very differently. i’ll be stricter and more demanding.
if you guys have any tips, i’d really appreciate them! i’m very passive, and also young. i should’ve listened to my grandma more instead of trying so hard to be nice 💔 i feel like such an idiot.