u/pathetic_gay_mess

gente boa tarde, eu ainda não comecei nenhum processo seletivo mas sempre aparece pra mim vídeo de dicas sobre entrevista de emprego só que vídeos gringos em inglês. Eu não sei se no Brasil existe essas coisas que os vídeos costumam falar

por exemplo, sempre aparece falando que você precisa negociar a proposta do salário que te derem. Eu não sei se isso sequer é permitido no Brasil tipo dentro da legalidade. E eu não conheço ninguém confiável que fale sobre entrevista de emprego no Brasil ainda mais na veterinária. Como eu faço pra saber oque é certo e oque é errado?

pra contexto eu planejo tentar processo seletivo pra clínica de pequenos animais e posteriormente pra dar aula em faculdade

today I had to reschedule something with a friend because Im struggling very hard with my mental health and she asked me why. I explained some stuff that happened and made the mistake of mentioning these past few weeks I have wanted to SH every day (for context Ive been clean for 6 months)

she completely flipped on me and started saying a bunch of stuff like it would make my psychologist disapointed and upset at me and that she would think her work doesnt help me at all, and that everyone in my life would be upset with me. She even went on to say that she doesnt self harm because she isnt imature and irresponsible and can take care of her own life and that she isnt a child that cant handle things and her mother, boyfriend and friends would never trust her that she can be left alone and they dont have to babysit her because she isnt incapable and can self regulate and live by herself

she also said I shouldnt break my boyfriend's trust in me and that I should "think of other people and not of myself"

well that obviously made me feel 10000x worse, I had a huge anxiety attack in the restroom in class and SHed

hii everyone! Ive been on T for 6 years and I have a full beard but Id like to go on oral minoxydil cause I was told it makes hair thicker. My beard isnt as thick as I want it especially in the mustache area, and I only grow a beard on the lower portion of my jaw

my mom was showing me old photo albums we have at home and we saw photos from when her and my dad were still married. I had never seen my dad with facial hair before, but theres a photo of him in his early 30s with a beard. I noticed that, even though his beard is way thicker than mine, he can only grow it where I currently have hair. He only has facial hair on the lower portion of his jaw

I was wondering if that means I likely cant grow hair higher on my jaw towards the cheek. Like I inherited follicle placement from him lol or if like minox will make follicles appear there

also my endocrinologyst once said my facial hair is clinically head hair and not body hair lol and I have no idea what that means

"Dont be scared, Stella, they will be comming straight for us"

it comforts me so much. The challenges will come, they will be hard and ruthless. And I shouldnt let fear stop me

she says this before the jellyfish event. She is terrified of jellyfish. And they will be comming straight for us

thank you Gwen I love you. I love Spiritfarer so much.

hi there! I just watched the "We Dont Talk About Bruno" Encanto ASL clip that came out recently (which is awesome btw) and I dont know much about sign language so I was wondering if anyone could explain this to me

in the clip they seem to be doing very brief signs and it doesnt look to me like they are saying the entire sentences? Like no way "your faith is sealed when your profecy is read" is just 2 gestures right? Are they doing only specific parts of sentences or the entire lyrics?

hi everyone. I have diagnosed OCD and Im in my 8th semester. I started internship this semester and its been amazing, Im learning so much and Im so happy with the opportunity and the people there are so patient and cool with me

this week I did something wrong. A doctor was seeing a dog owner and there was another doctor and me in the room. In the middle of it, the owner mentioned they didnt use a repelent collar on their dog. Leishmaniasis is endemic in my city (even one of my dogs was rescued with it) and every dog must be collared to prevent it. The second doctor told the owner this and the owner responded saying their dog is allergic to the repelent collar

then I talked to the owner. I wish I could have gone back in time and cut my tongue off. And this was like the second or at most third time Ive ever exchanged words with an owner there. I told them something I thought was right according to a class on leishmaniasis I took last semester, that there was a repelent spray to be applied before walks. Worse, I went on to fucking show a pic of the spray directly to the fucking owner. The doctor asked to see the pic and said that that spray (or any other leishmaniasis mosquito sprays) isnt in the guidelines for leishmaniasis prevention and isnt proved to work by science. I quickly apologized, the owner seemed unbothered and equally nice and thanked me anyway, then after the owner left I apologized properly to the doctor. I expected her to scold me or even yell at me cause I would have deserved even a punch in the face from her. But no, she didnt seem worried at all and just gave me more details on the leishmaniasis protocols

Ever since then Ive been reliving it in my head and every time I think about it the worse I see it. What the absolute fuck was I thinking. Every part of what I did was so wrong. Why did I speak? Why didnt I check with the doctor first? I SWEAR I remember the exact slide my teacher showed me last semester, with the repelent spray and the name of the substance it used. I have it written down. Even if the info was correct I shouldnt have spoken. I guess in my head since the second doctor was speaking during a consult that wasnt hers I was somehow allowed to speak too?

Ive been freaking out about this and reliving it multiple times a day. Im not like cringing at something embarrassing Im horrified at myself

Writing this post is so hard Ive been re-reading what I wrote so far for like 15 minutes. How do I cope with this? I know I'll make more mistakes in the future but I cant help thinking if I wasnt so damn stupid and uncapable I would make idk less serious mistakes? And less often?

I keep thinking one of the doctors that were there is going to tell this to my internship supervisor and I wont be allowed in the clinic anymore? The doctor I apologized to didnt treat me any different afterwards. And Im pretty sure the doctor whose consult it was even joked with me about another case we both saw later that day. Maybe Im lying to myself about the order of the events to pretend Im not fucked. Even if Im not fucked what does this say about me as a person you know?

Anyways Im sorry if any of this doesnt make sense Im not very good at medical terms in english and I had to google translate a few things. If anyone has any advice on this, I apreciate it

Thank you for reading

When I was a teenager questioning my gender identity, the internet where I learned everything about the LGBTQ+ community was different than what it is today. I feel like some things werent popularly taught or even known at all about gender and sexuality yet

for example, the image of a trans man that I was taught was more like a hyper masc guy with no feminine interests. This caused me to take way longer to be in touch with my own femininity, and to be confused for a long time that I must be nonbinary when Im actually just a man with lots of feminine interests who likes presenting more fem sometimes

we were also taught passing was this super complex (and obligatory) science where you cant relax at all and must do everything perfectly

and this wasnt taught by transphobes either, it was queer people online spreading information they believed was correct to other queer people

also the definitions of many genders and sexualities, along with the lingo and terms used for things, have been updated many times since. I worry I'll end up sounding like a transmed if I say something that was considered right in 2016 lol so Im always extra careful

anyone else feel like this?

hi everyone. I read the short story for the first time last month (which I found amazing) and read the whole official wiki on AM with info on the game. But Ive never actually played the game

I was under the impression that AM doesnt have a physical body, just a voice the 5 humans can hear. But ever since I joined this sub Ive seen multiple depictions of him with a body, usually with a bird-like head

in my mind, it makes sense that he wouldnt have a physical body cause it would add to his entire lore of having been conscious without being able to do nothing about it, which drove him to hate the humans so much

does the game AM have a body? And where does the bird-like AM come from?

hi there! Im moving out of my mothers house next year into an apartment with my boyfriend. Its been my dream for years to get a borzoi, I love the breed and Ive been following lots of creators with borzois and researching about the breed.

I was wondering, are there any tips or info I should know before getting my puppy? I understand they are very athletic and like running, and that they can be hard to train for being stubborn

My boyfriend has a grown up dog who is very sociable and receptive to other dogs, and a young cat who has only lived with his dog so far but is generally very agitated and playful and not agressive at all, neither to the dog or to people. Both the dog and the cat are female. The dog isnt neutered yet but she will be. We were thinking of getting a male borzoi

Is there anything I should know about adapting the borzoi puppy to the other 2 animals, or just generally about raising him? Both my moms dogs were rescued as adults, so Ive never raised puppies, just her adopted cats who were kittens. But I should add that I study vet medicine so I have a little bit of knowledge already regarding dogs

hi there. Im posting this here and on the other neurodivergency sub hoping to get some info, guidance or advice

TW: brief mention of CSA

Ive recently started searching for a professional who could diagnose and help with my cognitive disability because Im so tired of living the way I am with no real support and bordering burnout again

I couldnt afford to see a neuropsychologist before, but I talked to a friend and he recommended me a professional who saw his boyfriend with social price. I contacted her and actually got social price too

We did the first appointment this morning. She seems great but something she told me worried me. I answeared a questionaire with some questions to get her started and we talked for a while. I told her all about my struggles and how I was sexually abused from 7 to 10 and feel like this repeated trauma for multiple years as a child had a huge impact in my cognitive ability, ability to learn and withhold information, process what I just heard, follow directions even if simple, study, etc. She asked a couple questions about the abuse

During this first part of the conversation, she said something along the lines of "We will test many disorders/disabilities but I will keep an eye out especially for signs of ADHD, borderline personality and "high abilities". I dont know how thats called in english. This immediatelly made me so confused and I told her the reason I was looking for a neuropsychologist is because Im the opposite of a person with high abilities. I struggle with everything that - at least from what I thought high abilities was?? - a high ability person does well. Then she told me something along the lines of " high abilities can make it seem like a person has a cognitive disability" and I didnt really understand or remember the explanation she gave

Then she did a bunch of oral tests like some riddles or something. I got everything wrong and took way too long to understand each one, like I always do. So maybe this changed her mind about it being high abilities? Cause at least I thought a high abilities person would be easily able to do them. But Im still worried she is going on a completely wrong direction and Im wasting my time doing this

When I search high abilities online, everything that appears is like the polar opposite of me. And its stressing me out. I cant tell if theres like a secret type of high abilities thats exactly like having a cognitive disability and makes your life just as hard

I dont know what to tell her in a way she will understand whats really happening to me. I need help and she seemed like a person who could help me but now idk

I know I should at least wait for more appointments but Im afraid we will get to the last one and she will say something like yeah youre high abilities. No I know you dont have any rapid learning or will ever easily achieve anything, just... heres a piece of paper saying you have it though

Anyways Im sorry for the long post. If anyone could explain or tell me where to read about high abilities that will have trusworthy info. Or just any advice in general

oh and I was told the word in english is high IQ/giftedness, but the person who answeared is a mod so they must be super busy, probably wont be able to respond to my follow up questions

thank you

hi there. I was told Im allowed to post about this here

TW: brief mention of CSA

Ive recently started searching for a professional who could diagnose and help with my cognitive disability because Im so tired of living the way I am with no real support and bordering burnout again

I couldnt afford to see a neuropsychologist before, but I talked to a friend and he recommended me a professional who saw his boyfriend with social price. I contacted her and actually got social price too

We did the first appointment this morning. She seems great but something she told me worried me. I answeared a questionaire with some questions to get her started and we talked for a while. I told her all about my struggles and how I was sexually abused from 7 to 10 and feel like this repeated trauma for multiple years as a child had a huge impact in my cognitive ability, ability to learn and withhold information, process what I just heard, follow directions even if simple, study, etc. She asked a couple questions about the abuse

During this first part of the conversation, she said something along the lines of "We will test many disorders/disabilities but I will keep an eye out especially for signs of ADHD, borderline personality and "high abilities". I dont know how thats called in english. This immediatelly made me so confused and I told her the reason I was looking for a neuropsychologist is because Im the opposite of a person with high abilities. I struggle with everything that - at least from what I thought high abilities was?? - a high ability person does well. Then she told me something along the lines of " high abilities can make it seem like a person has a cognitive disability" and I didnt really understand or remember the explanation she gave

Then she did a bunch of oral tests like some riddles or something. I got everything wrong and took way too long to understand each one, like I always do. So maybe this changed her mind about it being high abilities? Cause at least I thought a high abilities person would be easily able to do them. But Im still worried she is going on a completely wrong direction and Im wasting my time doing this

When I search high abilities online, everything that appears is like the polar opposite of me. And its stressing me out. I cant tell if theres like a secret type of high abilities thats exactly like having a cognitive disability and makes your life just as hard

I dont know what to tell her in a way she will understand whats really happening to me. I need help and she seemed like a person who could help me but now idk

I know I should at least wait for more appointments but Im afraid we will get to the last one and she will say something like yeah youre high abilities. No I know you dont have any rapid learning or will ever easily achieve anything, just... heres a piece of paper saying you have it though

Anyways Im sorry for the long post. If anyone could explain or tell me where to read about high abilities that will have trusworthy info. Or just any advice in general

thank you

the cognitive disability sub has like 30 people and none of them interact with posts. The disability sub doesnt let me post if I dont have karma from commenting, and I cant really comment on anything cause the recent posts are about physical disabilities and my disability is not physical

I have a problem regarding cognitive disability and I need some information and guidance. Would it be okay if I post it here? If not, is there a better sub to post on?

TW: brief CSA mention

A little context, I have a cognitive disability caused by being sexually abused for most of my formative years. It makes me extremely insecure and I compare myself to my peers constantly

Ive been with my boyfriend for a little over a year, and Im over 6 months clean. He has seen me with SH scars like once or twice.

These past couple weeks have been really hard, Ive wanted to self harm almost every day. Then on the day I was getting ready to start practicing sutures for a surgical technique exam, I found out that among the instruments that came with the suture kit there were also scalpel blades. This made me instantly want to SH but I didnt.

I talked to my psychologist about wanting to SH and told her how long I was clean and she congratulated me. I apreciate that and shes so sweet but all I could think of was how I dont want to be clean. But we discussed alternative activities for when I want to SH and I told her I would try them

Anyways, I did my surgical technique exam today and it was awful. I got all the practical questions wrong, couldnt do nearly anything the teacher told me to do and the theoretical part that I was told would have 10 questions actually had only one question. I broke down after the exam and cried and cried and hated myself so much for being so stupid and uncapable and questioned why Im even trying to study if I cant do anything right

I texted my boyfriend about how awful it was and he called me. I cried on the phone with him, he was wonderful as he always is and comforted me and reassured me. Hes great. He had to hang up to eat before his break was over, made me promisse I would be okay and that I would text if I needed him

I want to SH so bad now but I cant because not only I said I was better, but also we're seeing eachother tonight and he would see my fresh scars.

The both times he saw scars on me he lectured me about how I shouldnt be doing it to myself. He never said anything weird, he just has a habit of lecturing and giving long explanations full of life advice. If he sees fresh scars on me today Im afraid he will lose trust in me or something like that. And I cant use long sleeves cause he would think its weird, its not cold and I never wear them at home. Im probably not going to want to have sex so I could just wear pants and cut on my thighs but it barely gives me any satisfaction, I like my arms better

So I guess I'll just... stay clean. And its not even cause Im trying my best and getting better. That makes me feel kinda disapointed in myself. I work so hard to stay in a good mental health state but all I wanted today was to lose my streak of being clean

:(