Vor allem im Alter von 18-30 und weiblich. Wie hat sich das geäußert und wie habt ihr gemerkt, dass ihr Autismus habt? Was war der letzte ausschlaggebende Punkt, an dem ihr das gemerkt habt?
Mein Paketbote ist ein Arschloch das sich trotz mehrmaliger Bitte, nach oben zu kommen, weigert, das Paket oben an der Tür abzugeben. Stattdessen verlangt er das wir runterkommen, das Paket abholen und unterschreiben.
Manchmal lässt er das Paket auch einfach ohne Einverständnis im Treppenhaus liegen oder nimmt es aus Trotz wieder mit. Trotz mehrmaliger Beschwerden beim Kundenservice hat sich nichts geändert. Eines Tages hat er wieder ein Paket im Treppenhaus liegen lassen, obwohl ich daheim war.
Diesmal ist mir der Kragen geplatzt und ich habe die Rechnung mit der Behauptung, dass das Paket nicht angekommen ist, nicht bezahlt.
I 25F and my partner 28M have been dating for 5 years.
I’m a person who needs mental stimulation in form of good, deep, thoughtful conversations. That’s how I bond with someone. It’s very important to me in order to feel close to someone, it’s one of the biggest ways I experience intimacy with someone. I love the exchange of different views, emotions, scenarios. It allows me to understand the other person better and experience life from their perspective.
Through out our relationship I’ve noticed I’ve been carrying the weight of the conversations which makes me feel lonely. He does initiate conversations too, but they’re very superficial (he asks what I’m up to, how I’m doing, stuff like that). I’m the one who is trying to have more intimate conversations. I have tried playing “question games” with him, where we ask each other deeper questions, to get more initiative from him. However, the questions he will ask are usually also superficial questions. When I try to deepen the conversation and ask questions like “why do you think or feel that way” he will start getting annoyed and just say “that’s just how I think/feel”. There is no reflection, no curiosity, no willingness to explore together. I feel like I’m talking to a wall. It makes me feel less connected to him and just lonely.
I have tried to communicate my need for more stimulating conversations and asked him to search for interesting topics or questions to talk about. Even though he was annoyed by that at first, he tries to put more effort and look up questions. Unfortunately, the questions he will ask are repetitive and things we already have talked about..
So after a while, I just stopped asking and trying to have deeper conversations, which also led to me being less talkative with him in general. It just feels draining and like a chore to talk with him because it’s not nourishing me. I tried to get the stimulation else where but it’s still not the same as mentally connecting with your partner. I figured I really need that connection to bond.
At the same time I feel bad for pulling back like that but I don’t know what else to do. I’ve brought it up multiple times and it usually leads to arguments. So it’s frustrating. I came to the conclusion that he just lacks interest or/and the capacity of curiosity and introspection tendency that I crave, which is not necessarily anyones fault but still make us incompatible.
How can I change this situation?
TLDR: how to deal with a partner who is mentally not stimulating
I really wanna know. Would you consider yourselves stingy? Why or why not? Are you an April or May Taurus?
I feel like I might come across stingy when in fact I’m just very picky about what I spend my money on. If I consider something worth the money, I have no issue spending it. If I know I can get the same thing/quality else where for cheaper tho, I’m not gonna spend my money on it or wait until it’s on sale.
When it comes to spending on others, it depends on how much I like that person and how close we are. I love spoiling my friends and family and invite them here and there (if my budget allows at the time).
If I notice you’re only taking and not trying to return the energy tho, I will match your energy!
I also like to donate money monthly when it comes to charity stuff or political activities.
Would you consider me stingy? And how about yall?
I don’t understand how they’re supposed to be the most harmonic and fair sign. They’re the most unjust and negative sign I’ve met. Always complaining, spreading negativity when something doesn’t fit their narrative. They have such a hard time to accept people who are just different than themselves. They will look at you and make negative comments about your looks, but in a passive aggressive, backhanded way. Or they will tell you you’re stupid and become insulting when you have a different opinion. And they are so two faced??? They will pick sides in front of one person and then switch up in front of another. And they are so indecisive. You could make an appointment with them and they will call off last minute for no reason or to meet up with someone else. But don’t you dare you do the same!!!
Maybe I’ve just met the broken libras but idk sorry for the rant
My fellow bulls…
I refuse to believe that we are all lazy!
Do you guys work out? If so, what do you do?
Edit: it’s funny asf and typical that NO single Taurus has answered 😭😭😭 I should’ve known better
Kriege nachts immer Lust auf einen Snack. Hab’s schon mit Heidelbeeren versucht aber ich brauch was anderes.
Was snackt ihr wenn ihr keine Kalorien mehr übrig habt aber trotzdem was knabbern wollt, salzig/süß?
Habt ihr Empfehlungen? Danke
Do you regret it? Or not? And why? How did you know you were sexually compatible before marrying each other?
For me, it’s firm waist grips and whispers in my ear. UGH.
Im a Taurus woman and whenever I find a guy physically attractive, he usually turns out to be a sag! I wonder what makes them so attractive to me?
I’ve never dated or spoken to one, I always just admired them from a far. I heard they aren’t compatible with Taurus though and I would like to know what sign or physical traits they find physically attractive (most of the time)?
Kennt jemand HNO Ärzte, die zuerst Untersuchungen durchführen, um eine Diagnose zu stellen und nicht sofort anfangen mit Medikamenten zu therapieren?
Habe bisher verschiedene Diagnosen erhalten, ohne vorher richtig untersucht zu werden.
As my final act of love, I will vanish like I have never been there, like we have never met.
As my final act of love, I won’t step on that court again, and I will give you the peace of never having to speak to me again.
As my final act of love, I’ll stop intruding the little group you’ve built around you and make space for people who truly belong there.
As my final act of love, I’ll let your memories become just that—memories.
As my final act of love, I’ll stop searching for my place where there no longer is one.
As my final act of love, I’ll carry what we were quietly, without asking you to carry it too.
As my final act of love, I’ll let you build your happiness without my shadow lingering over it.
As my final act of love, I’ll stop holding onto the hope that keeps me from moving forward.
As my final act of love, I’ll leave behind the questions that will never have answers.
As my final act of love, I’ll wish you every happiness, even if I’m no longer there to witness it.
As my final act of love, I’ll let silence say the things my heart no longer should.
As my final act of love, I’ll choose acceptance over longing, and peace over what could never be.
As my final act of love, I’ll take this as a sign of the times.
Did you ever develop a crush on someone u didn’t even find physically attractive? How did that happen and how did it go?
A mixed group of guys and a girls are playing basketball together in the uni gym in a repeated class.
A new girl asks, “Do we play zone or man defense?”
The guy says, “Zone,” and shows her where she’s supposed to stay. Then he adds, “But you can also move around more.”
She looks at him, smiles, and says, “Really? Can I?”
He starts laughing/cheesing up - It wasn’t a loud laugh—it seemed a little bashful.
From a guy’s perspective, what would most likely be going through his mind in that moment?
Would you think she was just being playful? Teasing you? Would it come across as cute? Would flirting even cross your mind, or would you just see it as a harmless joke?
Immer wenn ich mit ner Freundes Gruppe unterwegs bin, in der sich neue Leute bzw. Männer befinden (irgendwelche mir unbekannten Freunde von Freunden), weiß ich nie wirklich, wie ich mich beim verabschieden verhalten soll.
Ich umarme meine Freunde grundsätzlich alle immer und fände es daher komisch und ausgrenzend, wenn ich die „neuen“ Bekanntschaften in der Runde einfach überspringen oder irgendwie mit der Hand verabschieden würde, während alle anderen eine Umarmung bekommen.
Anderseits kann ich nicht wirklich einschätzen, ob die das überhaupt möchten bzw. Komisch finden, wenn sie von einer kaum bekannten Frau zum Abschied umarmt werden.
Deswegen an euch die Frage: Wie würdet ihr in so einer Situation gerne verabschiedet werden?
Kurze Umarmung, Hand, ein Winker oder einfach nur ein verbales Tschüss?
Wollt ihr Sex nur innerhalb von festen Beziehungen haben oder habt ihr auch gerne lockeren Sex (als Single)?
Falls ihr nur innerhalb von Beziehungen intim werden wollt: Was sind eure Gründe dafür, Sex nur innerhalb einer Beziehung zu haben?