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My apologies if this is a stupid question and if my court jargon isn’t correct…

Im obviously watching the Clancy trial and I’m wondering why the CW is having so many objections sustained against Defense when defense gets close to a truth that helps Clancy’s case? I mean obviously the CW won’t want those answers to be on the record, but it feels excessive and also… why are the objections being allowed? Like what rule is Defense Breaking in the way he’s asking these questions?

Sorry again if I sound so stupid lol. Just trying to watch this with as must education as I can

My grandmother passed away suddenly this morning and I’m looking for poems about bees and honey to use at her memorial. We called her bee bee and she loved flowers and nature.

I’ve been scouring through Mary Oliver’s work and have picked some options, so looking for other poets/ poems that may relate ❤️🐝

Thanks in advance ❤️

Hello neighbors! Just a heads up I had a package stolen from my stoop (was only out there for an hour or so) yesterday between 4&5 PM. Jokes on them because it was 10lbs of dog food 😂

Keep a close eye on your packages in the area! Thankfully my landlords are installing a ring camera today.

I would love some advice on this/ stories from people who can relate/ general strength and hope. ❤️

I hit 500 days this week. I have an awesome sponsor, good local fellowship and, what I believe to be, a good conscience contact with higher power.

My first year sober I was in a very unstable relationship that I believe took me out of really experiencing sobriety. Since ending the relationship in January and just recently finishing up step four this past month, I feel the intensity of seeing my character defects so intensely. I have newfound anxieties I didn’t really have in active addiction.

An example of the defect: I’m in a new career and have been at my new job for a month. I’m in an apprenticeship position at a salon. I recently received feedback that my energy in the workplace is chaotic and anxious. They also said that I have a hard time taking direction and that they think my skill level is less fundamental than they thought. My boss was very nice and I took the feedback well but I can’t stop dwelling on it. I see myself ACTIVELY resenting the feedback even though it was deliebered in the best way she could. I am SO worried about getting fired and worried that I will continue to be more anxious because of it. I think she’s right tho- these are things I do and struggle with, it’s so much clearer to see and recognize sober but dealing with how it feels and how to approach working on these things feels extremely difficult. The anxiety I have about loosing this job is overwhelming.

My sponsor has been super busy with work so I haven’t had a chance to talk to her about this and I would love if some folks could give me guidance. This subreddit has been so helpful during my first year and I continue to feel grateful for this fellowship and resource.

Thank you so much in advance ❤️

EDIT: for clearer info

Hey stylists!

I’m getting back into the industry after exploring another career opportunity after cos school for 3.5/4 years. I’m currently apprenticing (for a month) at an amazing salon in a state different to where I went to cos school- I’m learning a lot about what I did and didn’t learn while I was there.

I am HORRIBLE at slide cutting (never learned, we seriously just learned razor) I learned little to nothing about body positioning and mine is all over the place- and there are just some basic terms I didn’t get (like I know how to DO things but I don’t know how to execute them in the most efficient way).

Had anyone else experienced this? Do you have any advice for practicing these things or resources for beefing up this education? I feel bad that I’m having to learn these things at this point in my apprenticeship and embarrassed that I have to put my mentors thru teaching me them.

Hello beautiful sapphics

I have been texting with my crush on and off for about a month. We have a lot in common. This is an acquaintance from my past I’ve recently reconnected with after running into her in person. It moved from seeing each other a few days a week (due to work proximity) to seeing each other and also texting. The texting is…. Kinda intimate? It’s very like “I’m getting to know you” vibes. Lots of questions back and forth about our lives, sharing art, opening up about this that and everything. The thing is- I don’t know if she’s gay. I know for a fact she’s been with men in the past but hasn’t mentioned women or non male folks. She is extremely open minded and has expressed intensely supportive views on LGBTQ matters, but hasn’t outright said she’s queer. We do text on and off for the whole day sometimes… often into later in the night!

I finally jumped and asked her to hang out one on one. I didn’t explicitly say date but I offered to plan it and she agreed to it! I feel like offering to plan something may be a good indicator I’m pointing toward date? I’m not sure this stuff always kills me! Regardless, I’m just happy to have a new friend! But do you think this kind of texting seems like it could be more than that?

Basically I've been projecting my fears of abandonment on to my best friend. She will tell me over and over that she is going to include me in something and I still need reassurance that she is. And then it's a fulfilling prophecy because who would want to include a needy person like that? I never think I'm being included enough in her life, even though she is including me plenty. I just act like a little brat and sulk or complain and get resentful. She can feel it and calls me out. She's called me out multiple times over the past 6 months or so and I have owned up to it every time but I cant seem to shake it, its like a compulsive reflex. It all came to a head a few days ago when I engaged in the reassurance seeking AGAIN and she really just got it all out and told me how I make her feel bad and sad all the time with this behavior.

I have an OCD diagnosis and I think that's part of this. She told me she doesn't want this to be a big thing and that she loves me and doesn't need us to talk on the phone or for me to apologize. I responded saying that I am definitely noticing this as an OCD fear now and that I think that will actually make it better but she hasn't responded. We're still in some group chats she's communicating in, but I am analyzing how she interacts with me in each one. I'm giving her space but it's hard because I want to immediately "fix it".

I hate seeing my character flaws so out in the open like this. I know I have a complex where I feel like I need to be included and even when I am included I still feel excluded. Has anyone ever dealt with something similar to this? What helped and were you able to overcome it?

Basically I've been projecting my fears of abandonment on to my best friend. She will tell me over and over that she is going to include me in something and I still need reassurance that she is. And then it's a fulfilling prophecy because who would want to include a needy person like that? I never think I'm being included enough in her life, even though she is including me plenty. I just act like a little brat and sulk or complain and get resentful. She can feel it and calls me out. She's called me out multiple times over the past 6 months or so and I have owned up to it every time but I cant seem to shake it, its like a compulsive reflex. It all came to a head a few days ago when I engaged in the reassurance seeking AGAIN and she really just got it all out and told me how I make her feel bad and sad all the time with this behavior.

I have an OCD diagnosis and I think that's part of this. She told me she doesn't want this to be a big thing and that she loves me and doesn't need us to talk on the phone or for me to apologize. I responded saying that I am definitely noticing this as an OCD fear now and that I think that will actually make it better but she hasn't responded. We're still in some group chats she's communicating in, but I am analyzing how she interacts with me in each one. I'm giving her space but it's hard because I want to immediately "fix it".

I hate seeing my character flaws so out in the open like this. I know I have a complex where I feel like I need to be included and even when I am included I still feel excluded. Has anyone ever dealt with something similar to this? What helped and were you able to overcome it?

Hi! I'm demoing a basic highlight service to hopefully get an apprenticeship at a really amazing high-end salon! My model is a natural level 7/8 with a grown out copper 7/8 gloss and about an 1/2 of regrowth! She has a lob-ish haircut that goes to her collarbone. The attached image is her goal!

I'm obviously thinking about my process a bunch since I want to nail this demo! I think my approach would be to do a partial highlight with a pony-light, thin slice & weave.

The salon uses Igora, which I haven't used before. From looking at the color chart and comparing it with this pic i've been leaning toward the 9-7 with maybe adding some 9-57 as well for her toner. obviously will have to see how she lifts first!

Any advice for using igora demi on highlights? any encouragement is welcome!

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Hi! Jr/ Green stylist here! I'm in the demoing process to apprentice at a high-end salon right now. I'm bringing in a highlight service. My model has a below the shoulder lob, is a natural level 7/8 ash with a faded copper demi gloss and about an 1inch of root regrowth. Her goal is the photo attached. I am obviously thinking about my approach because i want to nail this for the demo! I'm thinking i will do a partial with a pony-light, super fine weaves & slices, lifting to a 9/10 and then toning with a dirty-copper (kinda thinking ill do a ratio of 1/2 parts igora 9-7, then 1/4 igora 10-0 and 1/4 igora 9-57) will obviously have to see how she lifts first. thoughts?

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