u/prettylittlebabyyyy_

Obviously we all know that instagram is a sh*t hub meant for misogynists to exist freely but what the absolute f*ck?

There was this video of a doctor explaining molar pregnancy experienced by a 16 year old minor, thus advocating safe sex, while explaining partial and complete molar pregnancy (all that biological process). She also said basic things that the girl wasn't having her periods.

Now what's a normal person's reaction to this? If the girl is safe or not, if her pregnancy was terminated or not and if she's doing okay, right?

Naah, some 4-5 scums decided to comment "that's why we look at the past of a girl before marrying" and "marry vir*gin girls only."

First of all, how does vir*ginity determine a normal pregnancy?🤡 I mean, I'm all up for preferences, but how does this statement fit the situation given?

Second, instead of showing basic sympathy for a teenager, here you are moral policing her? Try having some sympathy ffs!

Why do men drag marriage everywhere?

I'm [21F] trying to be done with this relationship with my boyfriend [24M]

My(21F) boyfriend(24M) hasn't replied to me for 3.5 days now! You can call me everything that you want, stage 5 clinger, anxiety issues and shit, I don't know. And it's an LDR. Pardon me, I cannot write in full order, this may seem a bit here and there because my emotions are all over the place. We have been dating for just a month. I've anxiety attachment and overthinking issues which fuels it even more but after I figured out that this is bad for our relationship, I am doing therapy, I'm trying to fix myself, I read books on overthinking and anxious attachment JUST SO I CAN LET HIM BE AT PEACE WITH ME AND PROTECT MY RELATIONSHIP.

We spoke really normally on Wednesday afternoon. Everything was good, he sent me a picture of a teddy which he told me that he will give me when we meet. He has done this silent treatment thing before also but not for this long. And the last two times he did that, he had valid reasons, so that's understandable. He always replies to me when I panic or when I tell him that I'm worried. This time it's dead silence. I waited the first 2 days thinking maybe he will come back but after that I started panicking. I sent him two three texts but no response. The text was delivered though and sometimes his internet keeps switching from on to off, which indicates that he's manually using his phone. I know that he works a pretty demanding job and we cannot talk all day. I text him only after 10 hours of my last text (if there's no response ofc).

Since yesterday I've been crying badly and I'm having panic attacks. Now, since last evening, when I CALLED HIM FOR THE FIRST TIME SINCE HIS SILENCE, his phone is switched off which is odd because he either remains at work at that time or he gets out in the evening to buy food or hang out with friends. I was even more stressed out thinking that something happened to him. Natural, right? WhatsApp messages undelivered. This morning, at 9 AM (I know his routine, he wakes up at 7 or 7.30 and checks his phone at around 8.30-9), I saw the texts delivered, but his phone switched off still, implying that he has his WhatsApp open on his laptop or somewhere else. His WhatsApp messages are delivered for some quick time, 3 minutes max, as if he skimmed through it and closed it again. When I sent the next text thinking that he might get the notification at sharp 9:01, the message is undelivered. He just checked his WhatsApp on his laptop for a few seconds and went off. That means he is active, he's getting the notifications but chose not to say anything. This happened 3 times till now..every 4-5 hours, his WhatsApp is active for 2-3 minutes and then again inactive. And no, nothing is wrong with his phone, he got a new iphone just 5 days ago. What hurts more is that everything was going well between us. Today only I sent him some voice texts while crying and they were delivered at around 5 pm even though his phone is off.

Now, I've no problem if he needs space. He's a human, he's stressed and humans need space. But at least inform me that "Baby I'll be going offline for a few days, I'm dealing with a lot currently, I'll text you back after a week." Simple. I wouldn't have spiralled and just waited patiently. I'm done with this, you can call me immature but I cannot tolerate all these panic attacks and all. I've been abandoned previously by an ex, he was silent for 11 days without any notice, even though everything was going well and when I spammed him with calls, that's when he said that he wants to break up.

I've had my own share of bad experiences and I had made it clear to him that he can take however space he wants, just lmk before going offline. And if he wants to share his problems, then I'm right here to listen. He knows how much I panic and how much I'm trying to fix myself for him, yet he does this. Whenever he goes MIA, he never informs me. After 1.5 day when I start panicking, he reassures and then goes MIA again. And this time no matter how much I panic he isn't here.

I don't know whether he will return or not, but I'm done with this relationship. I've cried and worried enough. I've had enough panic attacks. Even my therapist had told me until yesterday to wait and not overreact but now after seeing his patterns, she is also puzzled.

I'm even shocked. He was so caring and loving. He used to reassure me when I used to panic. He used to tell me not to worry, he loves me. Even in our last chat, he showed me a really cute teddy which he bought for me and told me that he will give it to me when we meet. I am thinking that maybe I should leave but when I'm done with my panic attacks, I soften up a bit and I'm like will he even return? If he doesn't return, then will I regret it?

I'm [21F] trying to be done with this relationship with my boyfriend [24M]

My(21F) boyfriend(24M) hasn't replied to me for 3.5 days now! You can call me everything that you want, stage 5 clinger, anxiety issues and shit, I don't know. And it's an LDR. Pardon me, I cannot write in full order, this may seem a bit here and there because my emotions are all over the place. We have been dating for just a month. I've anxiety attachment and overthinking issues which fuels it even more but after I figured out that this is bad for our relationship, I am doing therapy, I'm trying to fix myself, I read books on overthinking and anxious attachment JUST SO I CAN LET HIM BE AT PEACE WITH ME AND PROTECT MY RELATIONSHIP.

We spoke really normally on Wednesday afternoon. Everything was good, he sent me a picture of a teddy which he told me that he will give me when we meet. He has done this silent treatment thing before also but not for this long. And the last two times he did that, he had valid reasons, so that's understandable. He always replies to me when I panic or when I tell him that I'm worried. This time it's dead silence. I waited the first 2 days thinking maybe he will come back but after that I started panicking. I sent him two three texts but no response. The text was delivered though and sometimes his internet keeps switching from on to off, which indicates that he's manually using his phone. I know that he works a pretty demanding job and we cannot talk all day. I text him only after 10 hours of my last text (if there's no response ofc).

Since yesterday I've been crying badly and I'm having panic attacks. Now, since last evening, when I CALLED HIM FOR THE FIRST TIME SINCE HIS SILENCE, his phone is switched off which is odd because he either remains at work at that time or he gets out in the evening to buy food or hang out with friends. I was even more stressed out thinking that something happened to him. Natural, right? WhatsApp messages undelivered. This morning, at 9 AM (I know his routine, he wakes up at 7 or 7.30 and checks his phone at around 8.30-9), I saw the texts delivered, but his phone switched off still, implying that he has his WhatsApp open on his laptop or somewhere else. His WhatsApp messages are delivered for some quick time, 3 minutes max, as if he skimmed through it and closed it again. When I sent the next text thinking that he might get the notification at sharp 9:01, the message is undelivered. He just checked his WhatsApp on his laptop for a few seconds and went off. That means he is active, he's getting the notifications but chose not to say anything. This happened 3 times till now..every 4-5 hours, his WhatsApp is active for 2-3 minutes and then again inactive. And no, nothing is wrong with his phone, he got a new iphone just 5 days ago. What hurts more is that everything was going well between us. Today only I sent him some voice texts while crying and they were delivered at around 5 pm even though his phone is off.

Now, I've no problem if he needs space. He's a human, he's stressed and humans need space. But at least inform me that "Baby I'll be going offline for a few days, I'm dealing with a lot currently, I'll text you back after a week." Simple. I wouldn't have spiralled and just waited patiently. I'm done with this, you can call me immature but I cannot tolerate all these panic attacks and all. I've been abandoned previously by an ex, he was silent for 11 days without any notice, even though everything was going well and when I spammed him with calls, that's when he said that he wants to break up.

I've had my own share of bad experiences and I had made it clear to him that he can take however space he wants, just lmk before going offline. And if he wants to share his problems, then I'm right here to listen. He knows how much I panic and how much I'm trying to fix myself for him, yet he does this. Whenever he goes MIA, he never informs me. After 1.5 day when I start panicking, he reassures and then goes MIA again. And this time no matter how much I panic he isn't here.

I don't know whether he will return or not, but I'm done with this relationship. I've cried and worried enough. I've had enough panic attacks. Even my therapist had told me until yesterday to wait and not overreact but now after seeing his patterns, she is also puzzled.

I'm even shocked. He was so caring and loving. He used to reassure me when I used to panic. He used to tell me not to worry, he loves me. Even in our last chat, he showed me a really cute teddy which he bought for me and told me that he will give it to me when we meet. I am thinking that maybe I should leave but when I'm done with my panic attacks, I soften up a bit and I'm like will he even return? If he doesn't return, then will I regret it?

My(21F) boyfriend(24M) hasn't replied to me for 3.5 days now! You can call me everything that you want, stage 5 clinger, anxiety issues and shit, I don't know. And it's an LDR. Pardon me, I cannot write in full order, this may seem a bit here and there because my emotions are all over the place. We have been dating for just a month. I've anxiety attachment and overthinking issues which fuels it even more but after I figured out that this is bad for our relationship, I am doing therapy, I'm trying to fix myself, I read books on overthinking and anxious attachment JUST SO I CAN LET HIM BE AT PEACE WITH ME AND PROTECT MY RELATIONSHIP.

We spoke really normally on Wednesday afternoon. Everything was good, he sent me a picture of a teddy which he told me that he will give me when we meet. He has done this silent treatment thing before also but not for this long. And the last two times he did that, he had valid reasons, so that's understandable. He always replies to me when I panic or when I tell him that I'm worried. This time it's dead silence. I waited the first 2 days thinking maybe he will come back but after that I started panicking. I sent him two three texts but no response. The text was delivered though and sometimes his internet keeps switching from on to off, which indicates that he's manually using his phone. I know that he works a pretty demanding job and we cannot talk all day. I text him only after 10 hours of my last text (if there's no response ofc).

Since yesterday I've been crying badly and I'm having panic attacks. Now, since last evening, when I CALLED HIM FOR THE FIRST TIME SINCE HIS SILENCE, his phone is switched off which is odd because he either remains at work at that time or he gets out in the evening to buy food or hang out with friends. I was even more stressed out thinking that something happened to him. Natural, right? WhatsApp messages undelivered. This morning, at 9 AM (I know his routine, he wakes up at 7 or 7.30 and checks his phone at around 8.30-9), I saw the texts delivered, but his phone switched off still, implying that he has his WhatsApp open on his laptop or somewhere else. His WhatsApp messages are delivered for some quick time, 3 minutes max, as if he skimmed through it and closed it again. When I sent the next text thinking that he might get the notification at sharp 9:01, the message is undelivered. He just checked his WhatsApp on his laptop for a few seconds and went off. That means he is active, he's getting the notifications but chose not to say anything. This happened 3 times till now..every 4-5 hours, his WhatsApp is active for 2-3 minutes and then again inactive. And no, nothing is wrong with his phone, he got a new iphone just 5 days ago. What hurts more is that everything was going well between us. Today only I sent him some voice texts while crying and they were delivered at around 5 pm even though his phone is off.

Now, I've no problem if he needs space. He's a human, he's stressed and humans need space. But at least inform me that "Baby I'll be going offline for a few days, I'm dealing with a lot currently, I'll text you back after a week." Simple. I wouldn't have spiralled and just waited patiently. I'm done with this, you can call me immature but I cannot tolerate all these panic attacks and all. I've been abandoned previously by an ex, he was silent for 11 days without any notice, even though everything was going well and when I spammed him with calls, that's when he said that he wants to break up.

I've had my own share of bad experiences and I had made it clear to him that he can take however space he wants, just lmk before going offline. And if he wants to share his problems, then I'm right here to listen. He knows how much I panic and how much I'm trying to fix myself for him, yet he does this. Whenever he goes MIA, he never informs me. After 1.5 day when I start panicking, he reassures and then goes MIA again. And this time no matter how much I panic he isn't here.

I don't know whether he will return or not, but I'm done with this relationship. I've cried and worried enough. I've had enough panic attacks. Even my therapist had told me until yesterday to wait and not overreact but now after seeing his patterns, she is also puzzled.

I'm even shocked. He was so caring and loving. He used to reassure me when I used to panic. He used to tell me not to worry, he loves me. Even in our last chat, he showed me a really cute teddy which he bought for me and told me that he will give it to me when we meet. I am thinking that maybe I should leave but when I'm done with my panic attacks, I soften up a bit and I'm like will he even return? If he doesn't return, then will I regret it?

It starts this way that I met this certain guy on Tinder some months ago. Blue tick, VERIFIED ACCOUNT. I had given up dating apps quite a long time ago but decided to try them again. Swiped right on this guy who looked kinda decent, with beard, long hair and a lean type body (lowkey my type). The match came after 2 hours and we chatted for a week or so before exchanging numbers. This guy did not have a pfp nor any name in WhatsApp. Like, he had a pfp but it was of a cylinder. He had once uploaded a status of a guy, WHO LOOKED TOTALLY DIFFERENT FROM HIMSELF ON A BIKE (I didn't see the face properly but pretty sure that's not him) and I asked "huh, who's that?" And he said "it's me." And I said "That doesn't look like you from tinder?" He said "no, this photo is 2 years old, my latest pics are the ones you saw there." It was strange - like why would someone upload pics which are 2 years old on WhatsApp status. Nevertheless I didn't read much into it.

After exchanging numbers he slowly started giving off creepy vibes like unsolicited flirting, like he asked once if I'm sleeping or not. I said nope, but about to. He said "you sleep alone or..?" I clarified that nope, I sleep alone. Then he says "If I was there, then you are gonna have problems" (in hindi- mai tumhare saath sone aa gaya to dikkat ho jayega). I was creeped out and blocked. Looks are a different thing but I don't like flirting, that too like this. And by blocking, I mean I blocked him everywhere - whatsapp and calls. I didn't exchange insta or snap with him so yeah. I unmatched him on tinder too.

The other day after blocking him, I got a text in WhatsApp from a different number. The pfp had an entirely different guy with a DIFFERENT NAME! And I can make out from my memory that it's the same guy in the bike photo. I didn't know who that was so I blocked him but kept the chat. This person has a disappearing timer on his chat settings so the message was automatically deleted but I had the number.

A few days ago, I got a Snapchat request from this guy. I looked at the profile and saw that his public Snapchat profile had a photo from the gym which this guy had previously uploaded on his status. And guess what? The snaps that his guy had uploaded on his public profile had the same freakin' face as the one I saw on the second number from which I received a message after I blocked him on WhatsApp. The name was also the same one which this guy had on that second number..! I did some digging around in insta and found that yes, the name and face he mentioned in Snapchat are real and the tinder one is completely fake. Even though it had a blue tick.

How did this person bypass the blue tick security feature?Did the photo he used belong to some friend or relative? How did he convince them? Were they even aware of this? I'm starting to believe that tinder should start doing aadhar card verification.

Also to women out there on tinder, please be safe and do a video call with the guy if necessary. Or ask him to send a real-time video of his.

P.S- Before people ask me why I exchanged numbers, I just give out my number to matches in tinder I speak for a week or two. I'm a carefree person and nothing major has ever happened to me till this date. Once only I received some threats and I took care of it legally so nothing went wrong. So yeah I'm fine, but won't recommend others to do so. I don't give out my socials because I am private in that aspect and I don't want men to see who I follow and who follow me. Now yes, I can restrict who can access that but I'm too lazy for that so I just don't share. Also my photos are there in insta, so just nope for me.

Same as title. My mental health is so f#cked up rn. What do you expect me to do? He doesn't pick up calls, he doesn't text me, his reads are off so I don't know if he has even seen my texts or not. I'm so stressed rn. The initial 24 hours I was okay, but 36 hours? Are you kidding me? Even if I say that I wanna breakup, he won't respond to that also. Worst thing that I don't have friends with whom I could vent to. And it's not the first time that he's doing this, we had a huge fight regarding this and he still doesn't care. Last time he ignored me (day before yesterday btw and the day before that), he said that he loves me, he wants me, something has happened and will reach back soon. That night he told me that he will call me but he hasn't called me and hasn't replied ever since. Even bad, it's an LDR and the only means that I can reach him is via text. And he ain't replying there. You can call me a stage 5 clinger but I cannot wait 36 hours for a freaking text. At least one response that he's still there would have done the job but naah, bro prefers being dead silent. I don't wanna chase anymore, I've sent enough texts, 5 yesterday and 2 before the day yesterday and 3 today. Funnily enough he's active on his phone. The messages sent at night have single ticks (in WhatsApp) but they get delivered the next morning (double ticks) which implies that his internet was manually turned on and off

UPDATE- He replied. He said that somebody died so he had to rush home. Now idk what to say. If I say that you could have shared with me then it's not the right time+ too selfish of me. I don't know what to reply now

This is the 3rd sub I'm posting this on.

I'm asking this specifically to people (especially men) who keep their relationships private and pose themselves as single in front of their close friends/relatives etc. Reason kya thi? Especially in LDRs.

1. Did you guys really hide your significant other because you guys love privacy? (Some people love it, idk why).

2. You were dating for fun, without any serious commitment tor without being serious about the other person?

3. It's a new relationship and you guys weren't sure where it would lead so just kept it private for the sake of peace?

4. I read somewhere that some friends often se\\\*xualize your partner or have bad intentions for them, so just keep it hidden?

I really need some serious insights on this FROM PEOPLE WHO ACTUALLY KEEP THEIR RELATIONSHIP DEAD PRIVATE. Most of the times, me or my friends faced this, we found out that the other person had a double life. More so in LDRs.

This is something I was just discussing with a male friend of mine (who's kinda a feminist guy) and we both agreed that maximum indian men have this "Madonna wh*re complex" deep-rooted in them, because of society or their own negative views of sex, whatever.

In this complex, men see women as two types - one, the "madonna" whom he loves and respects and cannot view sexually. The other one is the "who*re" whom he views sexually but cannot love and respect.

I cannot help but think, this complex can only be justified for the innocent, first teenage love kinds. Other than that, why would you not want to have sex with someone you like, irrespective of gender? I've seen so many men saying "I'll sleep with as many modern women I want, but in the end I'll marry the virg*in sanskari girl." Which indirectly translates to, modern women aware of their sexuality is a who*re but the susheel, sanskari, vi*gn girl is the madonna. While in reality, the man respects nobody. Neither the madonna nor the who*re. Women are diverse beings and its kinda inhumane and derogatory to reduce them to two labels.

I'm sick and tired of seeing posts when men say "Ever loved somebody so much where u didn't feel lust for them?" Why is lust so demonized, especially when it's from a woman? I'd spiral if I found out that my partner doesn't find me sexually attractive. In women also, this complex can exist, known as "saint-brute complex." But anyways, very few women have it and idk why sex is so demonized when it has existed since the cradle of civilization and it is only because of sex that the human race has survived so far. And I've noticed, sex is far more degraded when it's a woman wanting sex or is aware of her sexuality.

That's all I wanted to ask, why is female sexuality considered impure, bad or negative?

How will men get brides?

They have unrealistic demands of fair skin, beautiful, virginity and all that. And there's female foeticide. At the same time they want an educated woman who will either stay at home doing all the household duties while sacrificing her career and rearing children, OR go ahead with her career+ do everything else that a housewife does + serve in-laws+ rear children. Women have only one demand - the guy should earn well and should be taller than them. And some women compromise here also (good for them, if the man is good). And they have the audacity to cry that women want men with a job. Rocket science?

To be honest, I've seen lots of beautiful women with not so handsome men but I've rarely seen a handsome man with a not-so-beautiful woman. They can cry and crib but that's the ground reality. The only thing that men have to do is earn. And not a hefty salary, a man who is a government clerk can get a wife. But for women, we have to be beautiful, virgin, carry out good conversation, should adjust and cater to in-laws and take care of the family. How does this make sense?