u/robotchikcen

Idk what to even think of this but I honestly think hes (work crush) making fun of me. Everytime I see him he’s already smiling/smirking. I literally want to ask him what’s so funny but I just don’t understand why he’s doing this.

I’m reactive, I’m defensive, I have a short temper. I yell when I’m angry and cry when I am too. I second guess people’s motives all the time and I push people away the second they come close.

This past week has been some sort of test to my patience or my character I’m not sure. I’ve argued so much with my sisters, and yesterday at work my coworker scared me (on accident) and I yelled at him.

I just don’t think I’m a good person. I need advice or some sort of rehab program to get better. I don’t want to be angry all the time. I don’t want to attract arguments or negativity because of my character anymore. I want to be free. I just want to be better.

So there’s this coworker… and he was into me first. Literally stopped in his tracks when he saw me during my interview. He unfortunately is my type as well.

Anyways slowly we get to talking and getting to know one another… then someone tries to spread a rumor that we’re hooking up.

I confront why he’s been so avoidant and he tells me about the rumor. He said we could both lose our jobs and that it’s just not fair for either of us and since we work in different departments, we’re not supposed to be friends anyway.

Things are stagnant for a while, some waves and how are yous, but the longing stares and forced proximity still go on. Until May comes and some of June, we start talking a lot before heading out for the day. A lot of the times it’s intense eye contact while speaking to eachother and low voices. It’s obvious there’s attraction but neither of us will admit it.

Until I see him talking to another girl— he basically has his own office and we have to stop by for security checkouts on our way out of the building.

And so I see him and the other girl talking and I realize so many things at once. 1. I basically confirmed my suspicions that it was her that tried to spread the rumor. 2. He just didn’t want to be seen speaking to me 3. Clearly no one’s losing their job by being friendly with you or vice versa. So it’s clearly that he just didn’t want to be seen talking to me. I don’t know why. I’ve seen them speak in different parts of the building. He just didn’t want to be seen speaking to me.

And so after I realize this I just ice him out. I was basically the side piece in my first relationship. There’s always been another girl with every guy. I’m so absolutely done and quite honestly way too old for this. So I stop the conversations and the hellos. The longing stares from him and random intense eye contact doesn’t stop. I still like him too.

Until today he happened to be in the same area as I was and came up to me and asked “hey (name) how are you doing” he didn’t make eye contact with me and was doing something while asking me. I answered and asked back and that was it.

We literally haven’t spoken since June. I don’t know what to think of it or if there’s any “it” and this is some game he’s playing or he just thought it’d be funny to talk to me.

Title basically. Planning on buying these tonight but Im not sure if they’re comfortable enough to be in unless you wear socks— I already have Jadon platforms for a few years now so I know they’ll be comfortable after I break them in. But I really want to wear these without socks but knowing docs I don’t want my heel to peel off lol

There’s been a huge heatwave in the US and today was extremely hot. I run cold but today I could feel my body temperature rising.

So after I come home from work, it’s just way too hot and I can’t stand to be in cotton pajama pants and a shirt, so I switch to a tank and shorts. Totally normal. My other sisters almost always wear shorts, even when it’s not hot.

The first thing my sister says when she sees me, after looking me up and down, is nice outfit. My mom is eyeing me like crazy.

I had already known this would be the response but I just hoped today would be different from how hot it is.

My mom won’t stop eyeing me and making comments about how I’m “undressed” and how I have no manners. I’m already uncomfortable so I just go upstairs and change. But it’s so hot.

I I change back into the shorts and tank and just decide when I leave my room I’ll change back into a shirt and pants. It’s extremely hot.

My mom is upstairs and I was coming out of the bathroom and she saw me and started shaking her head at me and looking at me crazy. I feel extremely uncomfortable at this point but it’s genuinely so hot. Both my sisters are in shorts, one in a tank, and not one word to them.

She’s done this before where she’ll literally just stare at me crazily even if I’m in bed under the covers but notices I’m only wearing a tank. One time she woke me up to ask me if I’m wearing anything. I was half asleep so I yelled at her.

I hate living in this house. I hate feeling so objectified. I wish I felt safe. I remember once my mom told me I would end up getting shot, and I can’t help but feel that this shame or this inclination to wanting to wear shorts or revealing clothing will lead me to that fate.

I made a post about a week ago, so I’m not sure if anyone will remember it but the TLDR is that now that I’m graduated, I have nothing tying me down, and I’m at a chance where I can leave my household. The only question is how.

My mom is home all the time. She literally does not leave. My sister is a student, the other works 9-5, and my dad is at work most of the time. Because of this I literally have no ability to just bring my car closer to the house and put all my stuff in. I already put some clothes in the trunk though.

My mom and younger sister were going to travel, and I decided that would be my window, but it seems that that plan has fallen through. My mom said she still might travel but it’ll be in two months. By that time my sister will be using my car again to take it to school.

I need to leave. I’m so done with the slut shaming, the repression, the absolute disregard… all of it. I just don’t know how. I could literally take the car right now and just leave, but I know I’d need my stuff. I’m just so afraid. I just wish things could be easier. I’ve never felt so lost or confused in my life.

I don’t know if this is something that is specific to the 60’s as well as beyond and below it but both Pete and Don were not present during their wives childbirth. Yes, they were in and out of the hospital but weren’t there in the delivery room, or even when the baby finally came. Pete didn’t even rush to Trudy when she finally gave birth, but went to the funeral (the juxtaposition here isn’t lost on me). Was it a hospital rule or more so another social norm of that time?

I need help understanding this. For context someone did try to spread a rumor we were hooking up when they saw us speaking to eachother. We’re both in the same age range.

So I have this coworker and since we first met his eyes never left me. It’s insane, whenever I feel someone’s eyes it’s him, four months to the day. He’s my exact type and really attractive. So I gathered the courage to go and speak to him, but on that day someone tried to spread a rumor we were hooking up. He avoided me like crazy the next day and I felt really stupid and confused.

I confronted him and he told me what happened, and since then it’s just been… tense. Stares across the room, forced proximity during closing time, long stares, voice changes, etc. he asked about the book I’m reading (he can’t even remember the last time he read a book), about my self and just getting to know eachother. I really do like talking to him. I know I sound insane but last Sunday the conversation felt like foreplay. The way his voice was so low, the way his eyes looked, how my eyes looked, the intense, long eye contact. I didn’t even realize how close we were to eachother until I had to leave.

I saw him talking to another girl (who’s been mean to me and I know for 100% sure tried to spread that rumor). They’re giggling and smiling when they’re on the sales floor, walking and talking. I’m just so confused because if he apparently can lose his job and we’re not supposed to be friends (he works in a diff department) why can he talk to her so proudly?? When he saw me he kind of stuttered for a bit and then continued his conversation and started laughing loudly.

I got upset and the next day I didn’t talk to him when he checked my bag before I left (he’s risk management). I feel really bad and stupid about it now, I feel like I’m overreacting. But I just don’t understand. I know this might make me seem toxic or possessive but I can’t help it. He can’t look at me and speak to me the way he does and then tell me we’re not supposed to be friends and then goes and be all buddy with her.

But, the thing is when we’re in public like out on the sales floor, he basically ignores me. Today I was walking to get my stuff and he literally took a detour to go across the room. I tried making eye contact with him but he wouldn’t meet my eyes. The times we have said hi it’s been almost discreet. I remember once I tried talking to him since I had a question about a previous conversation we had and we were in front of some other coworkers and he answered so lowly and in a way that didn’t invite further questions or conversation so I just said “bye” and left. He tried to walk after me but I left the building.

I don’t know what to think, i genuinely feel insane. I haven’t had a crush in so long. I hate that he’s my exact type, down to everything. I hate that I’m so easily charmed. I wish he would just be upfront because all signs point to him liking me, and I know I like him. But then this happens and I become even more confused. I wish I never met him, or I just wish we met in a different way.

I didn’t get a chance to talk to him today but I’m so over this I almost want to confess but I know it’s not because I actually want to it’s because I want to know if he likes me too. I would’ve been like “sorry if I left quickly on \\\\\\\_\\\\\\\_\\\\\\\_ I had to be somewhere” and just ASK why is he always so giddy with her but can’t even say hi to me?? Or just something along those lines. Ugh. I keep asking the universe for signs but then I get them and I’m confused all over again. Help, please!!

I need help understanding this. For context someone did try to spread a rumor we were hooking up when they saw us speaking to eachother. We’re both in the same age range.

So I have this coworker and since we first met his eyes never left me. It’s insane, whenever I feel someone’s eyes it’s him, four months to the day. He’s my exact type and really attractive. So I gathered the courage to go and speak to him, but on that day someone tried to spread a rumor we were hooking up. He avoided me like crazy the next day and I felt really stupid and confused.

I confronted him and he told me what happened, and since then it’s just been… tense. Stares across the room, forced proximity during closing time, long stares, voice changes, etc. he asked about the book I’m reading (he can’t even remember the last time he read a book), about my self and just getting to know eachother. I really do like talking to him. I know I sound insane but last Sunday the conversation felt like foreplay. The way his voice was so low, the way his eyes looked, how my eyes looked, the intense, long eye contact. I didn’t even realize how close we were to eachother until I had to leave.

I saw him talking to another girl (who’s been mean to me and I know for 100% sure tried to spread that rumor). They’re giggling and smiling when they’re on the sales floor, walking and talking. I’m just so confused because if he apparently can lose his job and we’re not supposed to be friends (he works in a diff department) why can he talk to her so proudly?? When he saw me he kind of stuttered for a bit and then continued his conversation and started laughing loudly.

I got upset and the next day I didn’t talk to him when he checked my bag before I left (he’s risk management). I feel really bad and stupid about it now, I feel like I’m overreacting. But I just don’t understand. I know this might make me seem toxic or possessive but I can’t help it. He can’t look at me and speak to me the way he does and then tell me we’re not supposed to be friends and then goes and be all buddy with her.

But, the thing is when we’re in public like out on the sales floor, he basically ignores me. Today I was walking to get my stuff and he literally took a detour to go across the room. I tried making eye contact with him but he wouldn’t meet my eyes. The times we have said hi it’s been almost discreet. I remember once I tried talking to him since I had a question about a previous conversation we had and we were in front of some other coworkers and he answered so lowly and in a way that didn’t invite further questions or conversation so I just said “bye” and left. He tried to walk after me but I left the building.

I don’t know what to think, i genuinely feel insane. I haven’t had a crush in so long. I hate that he’s my exact type, down to everything. I hate that I’m so easily charmed. I wish he would just be upfront because all signs point to him liking me, and I know I like him. But then this happens and I become even more confused. I wish I never met him, or I just wish we met in a different way.

I didn’t get a chance to talk to him today but I’m so over this I almost want to confess but I know it’s not because I actually want to it’s because I want to know if he likes me too. I would’ve been like “sorry if I left quickly on \\\_\\\_\\\_ I had to be somewhere” and just ASK why is he always so giddy with her but can’t even say hi to me?? Or just something along those lines. Ugh. I keep asking the universe for signs but then I get them and I’m confused all over again. Help, please!!

I need help understanding this. For context someone did try to spread a rumor we were hooking up when they saw us speaking to eachother

So I have this coworker and since we first met his eyes never left me. It’s insane, whenever I feel someone’s eyes it’s him, four months to the day. He’s my exact type and really attractive. So I gathered the courage to go and speak to him, but on that day someone tried to spread a rumor we were hooking up. He avoided me like crazy the next day and I felt really stupid and confused.

I confronted him and he told me what happened, and since then it’s just been… tense. Stares across the room, forced proximity during closing time, long stares, voice changes, etc. he asked about the book I’m reading (he can’t even remember the last time he read a book), about my self and just getting to know eachother. I really do like talking to him. I know I sound insane but last Sunday the conversation felt like foreplay. The way his voice was so low, the way his eyes looked, how my eyes looked, the intense, long eye contact. I didn’t even realize how close we were to eachother until I had to leave.

I saw him talking to another girl (who’s been mean to me and I know for 100% sure tried to spread that rumor). They’re giggling and smiling when they’re on the sales floor, walking and talking. I’m just so confused because if he apparently can lose his job and we’re not supposed to be friends (he works in a diff department) why can he talk to her so proudly?? When he saw me he kind of stuttered for a bit and then continued his conversation and started laughing loudly.

I got upset and the next day I didn’t talk to him when he checked my bag before I left (he’s risk management). I feel really bad and stupid about it now, I feel like I’m overreacting. But I just don’t understand.

But, the thing is when we’re in public like out on the sales floor, he basically ignores me. Today I was walking to get my stuff and he literally took a detour to go across the room. I tried making eye contact with him but he wouldn’t meet my eyes. The times we have said hi it’s been almost discreet. I remember once I tried talking to him since I had a question about a previous conversation we had and we were in front of some other coworkers and he answered so lowly and in a way that didn’t invite further questions or conversation so I just said “bye” and left. He tried to walk after me but I left the building.

I don’t know what to think, i genuinely feel insane. I haven’t had a crush in so long. I hate that he’s my exact type, down to everything. I hate that I’m so easily charmed. I wish he would just be upfront because all signs point to him liking me, and I know I like him. But then this happens and I become even more confused. I wish I never met him, or I just wish we met in a different way.

I didn’t get a chance to talk to him today but I’m so over this I almost want to confess but I know it’s not because I actually want to it’s because I want to know if he likes me too. I would’ve been like “sorry if I left quickly on ___ I had to be somewhere” and just ASK why is he always so giddy with her but can’t even say hi to me?? Or just something along those lines. Ugh. I keep asking the universe for signs but then I get them and I’m confused all over again. Help, please!!

I (22f) just graduated college. I now have nothing tying me. The days pass by and I’m still in the same place while the world keeps moving and the older I get the faster time seems to move but I can also feel it moving in slow motion.

I’ve been sheltered and heavily abused all my life. I’ve done so many Reddit posts about my family that it seems redundant to say everything again. But the fact that I’m here says enough.

I tried to run away before at 19, but they tracked me down. Now, I have more money saved, I’m smarter, and I’m less attached to them.

I’ve had a plan for the last few years that after I graduate, I’ll just take my car and leave and never look back. I know where I want to end up. There is absolutely no way I can live the life I want for myself living here. The longer I’m here the more I deteriorate.

I already started putting clothes in my car, and I’ve sold a lot of them. My cosmetics are all already in bags so I can easily just take those and leave. My car is paid off and in my name. The only thing is my phone since it’s a family plan but I figured a way to pay it off in one payment.

I don’t know what I’m asking here. I guess I need validation. I love my family but it’s clear their love for me is conditional. I cannot describe how sadistic they are. They have a ceiling of how much I’m able to progress. I know they plan to marry me off in a year. I have to leave. There’s never been another choice.

I know the consequences. I know the risk I’m putting myself in. But frankly I’m willing to die for my freedom. I’m okay with dying knowing that I’m free. I have to leave.

The thing is, Im just scared. There’s no way to know what’s after. I know Id be homeless for what would be months. I’ve thought of everything. It’s not necessarily appealing but I know that I have to leave. I’ve always been strong and adaptable. I know I’ll see my plan through. But I just have no one. But at the same time that’s extremely liberating.

Title. I hate it so much. He was staring at me so much when I started working there, it got intense at moments. Some secret language or signal he was trying to communicate with his eyes, notice me noticing you. Then we started talking I guess because of mutual attraction but I hate it so much. I wish I never talked to him. I wish I just stuck to my rules. I hate looking for his car in the parking lot, I hate getting flustered when I see him, I hate trying to force proximity, I equally hate and crave our conversations. I hate thinking of him at night when I’m lonely. I hate how warm his hands were when we first shook them when we met. I hate how deep his voice is. I hate how kind his eyes are. I hate how much of a good listener he is. I hate how he always asks me questions about myself. I hate everything. I wish i started this job earlier. I hate the fact that I’ll be leaving soon.

What makes it worse is that there’s another girl at work who is fawning over him, and once she saw me talking to him she was mean to me and made fun of me, and tried to spread a rumor we were hooking up. I hate how I can’t have a normal crush, a normal anything, it always has to be a trial or a secret. I hate how I’ll never feel his touch again. I hate how tall he is and how he has to bend down sometimes to talk to me. (Not in a weird way he’s like 5” taller than me lol). I hate how he teases me. I hate how I’ll never have a perfect love, I hate how I’m so deeply against marriage and so adamant against relationships and love in general. I wish I could be naive for just once.

hey all,

i graduated two weeks ago and i've had some conflicting feelings since then. one, my parents/family didn't do much to support me or make me feel celebrated during my commencement. it felt like a chore and as a result, i don't feel excited or accomplished, it felt almost like a dream or play.

it wasn't until after when i realized that, this is it. no more summer breaks, the seasons don't indicate semesters anymore, they'll just be weather changes. no more hoping for cute guys in class, coffee between classes, late nights of research... nothing. it's gone. i can't get it back. i can't get back those four years. an innocence and hope left as i was crossing that stage. i always felt like i was running out of time, but now that i'm actually at that stage where i've graduated, i can't help but feel so silly for thinking my life was over at 18, 19, 20, or even now at 21. but now there's nothing to blame, no excuses, no safety net. it's just me now.

i have the day off from work and don't know what to do with myself. i've been more focused on my writing, but i feel like that's silly and is some cliche-- although i am a writer and a writing profession is what i want to delve into (research, advertising, etc). i feel so useless and that i'm just wasting space. there's a whole world outside my bedroom window but all i can see of it is the stoplight that's always green. i have no objective, nothing waiting for me in the fall, it's dependent on me now. such a weird feeling.

i've seen multiple posts about how narcissists / abusers focus or try to control their victims hair. and if i've made that up let me be the first. i'm the only person in my family with textured/ curly hair (i'm not sure if i can describe my hair as textured as a non-black person). so from a young age, my mom just straight up refused to learn how to properly care for it, but was obsessed with hiding it and sending me to hair stylists that did not know how to cut or deal with curly hair. i have a vivid memory of me crying in the salon chair while two ladies literally just pulled at my hair and my mom standing behind me and i saw her in the mirror smiling/laughing. part of me believes this was a nightmare but it is very much real. she went crazy when i started to learn how to care for my hair and do hairstyles and such. two times has she cut my hair so badly, literally back length to shoulder length, even though i was begging and crying for her not to. she did this in my home country, where i don't know the language or the streets, so i couldn't even take the car and just leave. i literally can't talk about this with anyone because i get so emotional

anyway, fast forward to now, i am an adult and i've learned how to take care of my hair. i was refreshing it just now and my mom saw, and she just sighed and was like "you ruined your hair you keep ruining your hair". at this point, i know not to engage in these things as it is just meant to rouse me or to make me angry. so i didn't say anything. but it makes me so angry. SHE ruined my hair. i had to revive it all on my own. i taught myself how to care for my body and hair. i didn't even get a proper bra until last month and i'm 21. it's like she would rather see me with matted, dry hair than with refreshed hair just so she can feel some sense of "this is my doing". it's like anytime i have some autonomy over my body she goes beserk. it makes me so angry.