u/sattukachori

This country has a colonial legacy. The culture is deeply absorbed with oppressor and oppressed sections. The moment you enter a government office, it will "show you your place". You can be easily snapped at, insulted, disrespected. Respect is the monopoly of a certain few.

People identify with their jobs, Oh I mean some people identify with their jobs. The kind of jobs that were inherited from British era. Those who enter the jobs are 100% convinced of their merit, past life merit, entitlements, superiority over others. There's a theater going on. Everybody knows their place in the theater. The moment you meet a government officer, you will unconsciously enter into a submissive, pleasing, back breaking role. It's like hypnosis or trance state. You're no longer you. The officers rejoice in this treatment. They expect you to behave a certain way.

Children are trained from a young age to think in ranks, titles, power, aura. Black sheeps are shunned and not tolerated. You've got to be very mentally tough to survive a system that strips you naked psychologically every single day. The mass men cheer for the very system that looks down upon them. How odd! All empty talks, people know the language of authenticity, they talk the talk but don't walk it.

I don't know if this country will ever heal. It's a deeply traumatized culture. The trauma is passed down to the next generations. Nothing ever changes. Modern Indian, 19th century mindset. It can only change when those in parliament and offices want to change it, but they do not want transformations. They want to preserve the status quo for a century and more because the system benefits them immensely. They're self convinced Gods. The prime minister jokingly (or seriously) said that he is non-biological. It's a symptom of a country where winners believe that they have some incredible past life merits.

People see "eggs removed from mid day meal" and assume that the school children are being served water and roti in schools. Remember all the sensational and heart breaking videos where school kids are eating roti and achar on paper? But that's not what this is about. Those videos circulating on internet happen when the meal is prepared by school rasoiya in the kitchen.

Akshay Patra is a different thing. They don't compromise on nutrition or hygiene. The school kids are served nutritious and stomach filling vegetarian meals. They have a different meal plan for each day of the week. Each meal has some source of protein, whether chana, daal, soya chunks, mungfali. They also give away chikki, daal moth, ragi biscuits, etc. weekly. The meal plan is diverse.

All the sympathy for school kids only pours in when the question is about eggs and non veg in lunch. What do people themselves do to make the life of children better? Are you more emotionally aware? Are you kind? Do you treat children with respect? Do you donate to NGOs? Animal ethics is an important and real reform. Animal rights and philosophy are not fiction. Get used to it!

Why are some people born rich others poor? Why do some people struggle and make it but others never make it? Why are some people intelligent but others not? Why are some animals pet, others live in streets, many others die for meat? Why some people live a long life, others die early? Why some people have a comfortable life, others struggle a lot? Why do children born to same parents not have similar life paths? Why are some people more charming and likeable, others are invisible and merely existing? Why does someone get cancer?

I'm tired and exhausted from asking, obsessing over these questions. In my culture, the most popular and accepted answer is "Because you reap the fruits of your past karma. If you did good karma, you will be born rich. If you are struggling in life, it's due to past life debt". This explanation has NEVER felt right to me, although in my culture people are 100% convinced about this theory.

Some thinkers say that this is simply diversity of life, beauty of life, not all flowers are the same in garden. Some trees are taller than others. All are unique and beautiful. While this answer seems more logical, it does nothing to silence the rage inside me.

I am finally exhausted from asking why to these questions. And I have accepted defeatism, not gratitude or radical acceptance. Just defeated. Defeated, hopeless, dead end, hit the wall. I can't fina ny more explanations that help me make sense of the uncertainty, inequality, injustice, unfairness, chaos of life.

Dunning kruger effect is so visible in the meat eather's argument. They are 100% convinced without any iota of doubt that they are right. Even if they have not read a single piece of information, they are convinced that their opinion is right.

The kind of things that make you question if you behave the same way. It has truly made me self conscious if I am also overconfident and underinformed about my opinions like my fellow humans.

Nowhere is dunning kruger more explicit than in the meat eater's arguments.

The wal clock pencil cells are so bad these days. They hardly last 2 months before the clock stops working again. Are you experiencing the same thing?

The girl and boy met on matrimonial website. They live in different cities. Girl lives in a more developed city while the boy is from lesser developed city. Boy lives with his parents and has a business set-up there.

The parents met and finalized roka. Since they have started talking, there have been continuous disagreement about the wedding guests. Engagement and wedding will be arranged by the girl's parents in their city.

The boy's side wants to invite around 50 guests to engagement and have asked the girl's parents to book 12 hotel rooms for them. Girl side thinks that this is too much for engagement and if they're bringing so many guests in engagement, they might invite even more number of guests in the wedding and the girl side will have to arrange more number of hotel rooms for all the guests.

The girl side feels that their convenience is not being considered. The boy is like "sabko saath lekar chalne wala". They have met and been talking since around 1 month and since then the wedding guests dilemma has been going on.

What do you think about this? How many guests are reasonable and how many hotel rooms are reasonable for engagement and wedding? It's a North Indian wedding. The girl side wants to invite few of their own guests while the boy side wants to invite 50 guests. The girl side thinks that they should invite close relatives in wedding while extended family in reception but the boy side wants to invite all relatives to wedding also.

So, is about 50 guests and 12 rooms too much for engagement?

Hi. Those who are doing a PG course at DU, can you please tell me how did you convert the SGPA to percentage to fill the semester wise academic details in CSAS portal at the time of admission?

My college semester marksheets have both SGPA and CGPA. I will complete my degree in 2026 so the last semester marksheet is awaited. I have done UG from a different university, not DU.

Please tell me, how to convert SGPA to percentage?? Thanks a lot.

Hi. How do you convert SGPA to percentage to fill in the academic details in DU CSAS portal? Some websites are sharing multiply SGPA with 10. Some are saying (SGPA-0.5)x10.

Please confirm -

How to convert SGPA to percentage?? Thanks a lot.

My friend is 31F. She has been waiting for a match for a long time because she's Manglik and her parents believe a lot in match making. All the prospects did not match astrologically with her and she was told to wait until after 30. The girl is single child to her parents so she also wants to support her aging parents.

Now, she has met a 31M guy on jeevansathi.com. They exchanged numbers. Her parents talked to his parents. Her mother talked to his mother and they agreed to meet next week on Saturday. The boy side was rushing to meet but the girl managed to get one more week before meeting. They live in different cities almost 6.5 hours away from each other. The boy is also Manglik and they don't believe much in astrology rather their Guru ji advises them. Guru ji has said yes to this match.

Boy and girl have been talking on phone for two weeks now. Earlier they talked that there will be no engagement and direct wedding. During conversations, the boy said they will have engagement in July or August during sawan. But she felt that this was too early and her parents won't be able to arrange everything. Then they decided the engagement will happen during Navratri. But the boy's bhabhi is expecting so she won't be able to attend and if she doesn't come then bhaiya will also not come. And they will bring 100 guests to engagement. The girl felt all these demands were unreasonable and he is not prioritising her over his family.

She told me that she is frustrated, he seems immature and cannot take a stand. She will end the relationship now. But in the evening she told me that everything is okay now. She talked to the boy who said "Okay we will do everything as per your wish. We will bring only as many guests as you like. Our parents will handle these things now, we won't discuss it. Don't talk about ending the relationship. I like you. I'm getting many proposals but I don't like anyone else. I have decided I will only marry you. I can't like anybody else after you. If I don't marry you, I will not marry at all." etc. Additional details: The boy has had a roka broken within last one year because of some disagreement on wedding arrangements.

Now the girl feels reassured and happy. It's a rollercoaster. As a friend, I don't know what to say to her. It seems too intense and early to declare such things. But there are couples who get into relationships early and end up having a normal marriage. They will meet next week and if the parents finalize, wedding will be fixed and she won't be able to say No then because of her strict father.

Do you think the events are happening as they should? Is everything normal? Is this boy really as good as he portrays? Additionally, what precautions should she take while talking to him? How to test whether he is a good guy who wants a normal life or not?

There are animals whose suffering is documented for the world to see. At least we know they are suffering.

Think about the animals who are suffering silently. Just think about the gore, violence, atrocity humans do to humans. There must be animals who are silently being tortured in the silence of homes. Whose cries we will never hear. Their suffering never acknowledged. Their pain never heard. How lonely, helpless, unfair, unjust.

My introduction to veganism started when one day suddenly I came across a post on reddit that cats are being tortured and videos shared online. Those videos were horrible, hell, torture, extremely gore. It was everything that you imagine what hell would look like. Their suffering was documented. Think of the suffering of animals who are hidden. There was a video on twitter where a boy was eating a live chick, the chick was screaming. There was a video on YouTube where a man in some kind of religious Hindu ceremony had tied all 4 legs of a pig and with an axe he cut open the head of the pig. He was hitting in the middle of the pig's head repeatedly. The pig was screaming like hell. In the comments, people were posting jokes and saying tasty.

It's hard not to lose faith in humanity. Humans can do unimaginable things. Some people have the worst kind of mental illnesses. Mind is a dangerous thing.