u/skywalkers2345

I don't know what to do anymore. It's so impossible for me to find clothing that actually fits anymore. I mostly like to wear band tees and I don't know when it happened but there's been a subtle shift in the sizing for it and it's driving me up the wall. I'm 5'6 and I weigh around 108 pounds. I also have slightly longer legs which doesn't help with my upper body proportions.

I'm non-binary so my style is pretty androgynous and I do prefer typical 'masculine' clothing that's even harder to find so I've been mostly looking at womens clothing sites and it's still too large. I legit only wear 3 shirts on repeat because it's the only thing I own that fits. I can go tighter but I typically like to wear shirts that are 16 across and 20-22 inches long. But the smallest size I ever see shirts go is 18 W and 28 L. Sometimes its okay as I can tuck it in otherwise it looks ridiculous on me.

Is there any sites or stores that actually sell xxs-xs clothing that's actually small and tight. I look and I look and I can't seem to find any. As long as it's nothing extremely feminine I'm at the point where i'll buy anything. Hell, even places with youth sizes that aren't boxy. If ya'll could recommend some places you've found that would be incredible. Thank you sm

Don't know if this is a dumb question but I don't know how to go about this. I've very skinny. Have been my whole life. Arfid definitely hasn't made it easier but i'm only a few pounds under what i'm supposed to be for my age and height so it's not awful. I tried working out and gaining weight a few years back but it was so hard, had hardly any support and I could not keep anything on me. Most I gained was maybe 5 pounds like over a month of exercising and just mostly drinking muscle/protein shakes and then I immediately lost it all in like a week and I just gave up.

I did get some help with nutrition but it's still not enough and my arfid is still awful. Manageable but not great. I want to start working out with my partner as he wants to lose some weight and I thought maybe that could be a good idea to do it with him except I want to gain weight and get somewhat muscular. Not crazy but a decent tone would be nice as I'm tired of being this skinny slightly underweight guy that can't even lift anything.

Has anybody been able to gain weight, get some muscles, etc while having arfid? Is there certain foods or drinks that could help or is mainly gonna be hard unless I start eating more and different types of food?

Been extremely stuck and annoyed at this problem I have been having lately. Try to keep this as short as possible but as of the past year I have been noticing a lot of pain down there whenever I try and get intimate with my partner. I'm asexual so sex or masturbating of any kind has never really interested me until I met my boyfriend and now I'm having issues. We've been together over a year and have yet so still have sex due to me just not being ready so I didn't notice this issue till earlier this year when we started to take things further. At first I thought these were just issues cause I wasn't used to anything and some anxiety as well but I think its further than that. Started to think it was possible vaginismus but was wondering if this sounds like Vulvodynia or maybe a bit of both?

I will feel alright at first but after a few minutes I start to get this sort of horrible tight stinging pain that feels raw and hurts so bad. Whether that's from using a vibrator, my partner just rubbing me or the few times with fingers but I can never get any further cause I get that horrible sensation and have to stop and then I get a raw sort of numb feeling for the next hour.

It looks completely normal and nothing visible so I'm clueless to what it could be. Does this sound like Vulvodynia? Vaginismus? Is there anything I can do about it? I started taking birth control around the same time I started doing anything intimate and I know some people have experienced this but I have no idea. What do I do?

(side note I happen to be a trans man and not a woman)

I'll try to keep this as brief as possible but I have never been able to orgasm ever and I don't know what to do. I'm a trans guy (early twenties) but was born a woman so I figured I'd go here to see if anybody else experienced this and what I should do.

I'm asexual so pretty much my whole life I never cared about sex, wanting sex or anything sexual. Never masturbated till pretty much this year. I started seeing my boyfriend a year ago and he's the only person I ever wanted that way. We've just gone slow and to my comfort level with intimacy and I want to do more and actually have sex with him but there's a huge thing stopping me and it's the pain I experience trying to come. I'm very dysphoric about my downstairs so I only ever masturbate with vibrators (tried many kinds) but I can never get off ever. Same with my boyfriend and it feels the same way. I can get so close right to the edge every time and then I get this like horrible sharp pain that I feel so tight and around my entire lower body. It almost burns and then it feels so sore and aches so much I immediately have to stop. I've tried so many ways to figure out if something can ease that but it doesn't. I know it can hurt a tiny bit when you come for the first time but I don't think this is normal. Or if it is I don't know how to get through because it hurts so bad.

My boyfriend said I should talk to a gyno but i'm worried that they'd have to look or do certain things to figure out what's wrong rather than just talking about it. Has anyone felt anything remotely like this before? Is it normal for it to feel that painful the first time? What do I do?

This is gonna sound dumb but I have no idea how to inhale or pull the weed into my lungs. I never smoked anything before but I started to want to try and get high. I got a pipe and a vape (thought it would be easier) and i've tried it over and over and I feel nothing every single time. Looked up every tutorial I could find, had my boyfriend help show me and I still feel nothing. I have no idea what i'm doing wrong. I think i'm inhaling but I should feel something and I don't. What do I do? Is the proper way to do it is suck on it like a straw, stop, take an inhale into with my mouth slightly open and then exhale?

I've never heard anybody talk about this before so I thought I'd ask. I'm a trans guy but i'm pre-t in every way possible. I do however look somewhat androgynous but I still have some of those feminine traits. I usually just go by they/them currently but the people close to me call me He. My boyfriend always refers to me by what I want and everything and while I find it sweet and reaffirming sometimes it makes me uncomfortable when he does it to people who don't know me. I know I don't pass and I feel like being called He or a man in front of others bothers me. Probably cause I know how I Iook and I don't want to sort of be perceived as trans at least until I somewhat look more masculine. Has anyone ever felt like this?

(also i know the title is spelled wrong)

I have the worst trouble finding band tees that actually fit me. I wouldn't say that I wear xxs clothing but I can easily fit well in an xs or a really tight small but even then that's rare. And so many shirts are extremely long as well and I'm tired of tucking in every shirt I own.

I used to mainly get shirts at Hot Topic but now even their smallest sizes are still too big. The last decent shirt I got is like 16 inches across and 22 inches long. I wear it constantly and it's starting to wear out and i'm worried about not having something that fits me well.

I never even shop in stores in person anymore since it seems to be even worse and twice as much money.

Why can't I ever find anything? Why is everybody so obsessed with wearing big clothing? Are there any stores (mostly online) that I can find actual small and tight band shirts?

(I'm non-binary but afab so I usually prefer more unisex type clothing but even stuff in tight womens sizes I am fine with)

Ive wondered this for years but I could never find an actual answer for it from people. Ive had raynauds for close to ten years now and something I always struggled with was having to cut my nails, specifically my toes. It’s very hard for myself to do it so I would usually have people in my life do it or go to a salon but I get horrible pain whenever I have to do them. It feels like the tips of my toes are being sliced and stabbed at essentially. It’s probably because the circulation is so intense and sharp that it’s more sensitive but I don’t know if anybody else experiences this. Can anybody relate or is my body just weird for this?

I have my favorite pair of Levi jeans but due to me constantly wearing them they're getting stretched out more easily. Every size has been gone everywhere I've looked so I bought the last one which was two sizes down. Not a horrible fit overall but it takes me forever to fully zip up. Could maybe get them tailored but is there any possible way for me to loosen that area up or tricks to get them on easier?

Really want to get a nail polish color that matches the San Jose Sharks logo and I can't find anything that looks good. Found out they had a sort of official NHL polish set years ago but that's been long discontinued and I want something exactly like this one. Don't care what brand or price. Any help would be great

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I don't like babies. Never have. Never will. Always accepted that I don't want them or to be around them ever. I started getting more of a social life entering my early 20s and I feel like everybody is having kids and I'm so tired or lying to their faces and pretending that I think their kid is cute. It's not. Babies have never been cute and never will be. This isn't like a horrible issue obviously but I just find it tiring to get ridiculed for not finding babies cute and not wanting to say anything. My partner's friend had a kid and he's going on and on about it and I just don't even say anything. I don't wanna lie but I also feel like a piece of shit for sort of bringing the whole energy down by just not saying much about it.

Is anybody else tired of this? I'm not saying you have to be like so honest or 'cruel' to the parents but I wish it was more socially acceptable to say you don't find someone's kid cute

I haven't really seen this asked before much on here so I thought I would. I have both raynauds and erythromelalgia. Never smoked weed before or did anything of the sort. Had one doctor tell me once I shouldn't as it could cause potential problems or give me like an attack. I have a boyfriend who smokes. I want to try it and start doing it with him but I worry about anything bad happening. I've done as much research as possible but all the answers seem to vary as some say it can make it worse when doing it or some people say it actually helps.

To anybody who does weed and has raynauds did you have any reaction to it at all?

I work in retail. I have to deal with people bringing their dogs every single day whether they're on a leash, in their hands or in the literal carts with food. Hell, even off a leash sometimes too. (which let to it running around the whole store and then shitting by the registers) I don't like seeing dogs in general but when they bring them into a grocery store with food, health products and even in the clothing sections it drives me up the wall. The majority of my coworkers don't seem to care, they'll fawn over the dog, ask to pet it or point it out. I refuse to do any of this and the dog nutters notice.

I don't purposefully say anything as I try to avoid pissing off customers but they notice. I've had a few people point out their dogs to me so I'll acknowledge it but I rarely bother. I've gotten mean or dirty looks from them and any time that I might've made a comment about not being a dog person they usually have some stupid retort back.

I hate that it's a norm to treat people who don't like dogs as insane or there's something wrong. Like sorry I don't want your big, dirty smelly dog (that I'm horribly allergic too which I can never avoid now) in a store meant for people and to get their germs all over. We have signs on the front doors that say no animals allowed except service animals yet I'm the only one that seems to care? I'm so sick of this.

I've had arfid for around 8ish years now. Starting in my teens and now going into my early twenties. Didn't know I had it for about the first 4 years until I went and saw a nutritionist for a bit a couple years back. I got a bit better with trying a few things every now and eating a bit more and it was decent for a while and while I was mainly eating the same thing and amounts it wasn't horrible. But lately probably around the last few months or so I've gotten so much worse.

My afrid mostly came from me having horrible mental health and family issues which led to me having depression and not eating at all. My mental health has been fine, it's probably the best it's ever been in years, so I don't think that has anything to do with it. But i'm just so sick and tired of food. I hate every day having to eat and there's nothing that I ever want. I had some safe foods that I was mainly switching up every few days but now I'm so tired of it all and I don't know what else to eat and the thought of starting over trying anything else just makes me feel awful.

I know that arfid is one ED that won't like fully go away but has anyone overcome something like this? To get to a point where I can at least be comfortable with more foods? I feel like it's all pointless and i'm so lost again. What can I do? I just wanna give up

My boyfriend has quite a lot of body pain and a bit of chronic pain. This is something he's had since he was about a teenager and the only thing that helps is getting massages but he doesn't have the time or money to afford getting them often at all. He has it mostly all over but the pain is mainly in his back and neck.

I've tried giving him 'massages' before but he's a bit bigger and while I'm also a guy I'm unfortunately not that strong at all so he doesn't feel much when I do it. Are there any types of techniques that I could learn that would help him? Things I could use, any good videos out there or what type of massages that focus more on chronic pain? Anything would be so helpful.

Ordered something off of Target last week and I knew that this item was going to take longer than the typical two days as it's coming from across the country.

I've only gotten one update from the day it was ordered saying they scanned it and that it is. It said it was supposed to be here today or tomorrow yet there is absolutely nothing. I've had issues before with usps tracking being slow but not to this extent.

Is this normal for it not to update? If I don't get it by the due date how long should I wait before making some sort of complaint?

I cannot stand finding t shirts nowadays for this exact reason. I'm a trans guy. I'm not that short but I'm really thin. The only shirts that I like that helps somewhat with my dysphoria are band tee's or shirts with logos on them. The width is fine but every shirt I've ever gotten goes way down and I'm so sick of having to tuck in every single shirt that I buy. I tried looking for women's sizes as well and even those are long.

Is there any places that you guys shop online/in person that you've found not horribly long clothing. I know hemming is an option but I don't know how to do that. Hot Topic is like the only store with decent sizes but most of their shirts are pretty ugly. I just want short shirts