u/softbutmadly

I’ve found the man I’m in love with. but there's an intimate challenge between us that I never expected - but he’s starting to see a psychiatrist to work through it, and we’re facing it together. I want to build my life with this man, create a family, have children. And he’s told me he wants all of that with me too.

At the same time, I’ve been out of work for a year, and I’m in a psychologically hard season. We’re moving to a new city together, even with this challenge between us, because we both deeply believe and hope it will be good for us and for our relationship.

I don’t yet know what work I’ll find there, or what I’ll do. And I’m scared. Scared of slipping into depression, of everything going wrong, of it not unfolding the way we dream.

But here’s what I know about myself: I have only ever brought goodness to the people around me. I’ve wished the very best for everyone. So now, I’m wishing it for myself too. PLEASE.

Let it land like a manifestation:

Let everything fall into place quickly and gracefully. Let me return to my old self: confident, energetic, fully alive and employed asap !! Let my relationship heal completely and move forward, full speed ahead. Let us be so deeply happy in our new home, living this life together. Let us build our family.

This is my only wish. And I’m open to receiving it. 🤍

I’ve found the man I’m in love with. but there's an intimate challenge between us that I never expected - but he’s starting to see a psychiatrist to work through it, and we’re facing it together. I want to build my life with this man, create a family, have children. And he’s told me he wants all of that with me too.

At the same time, I’ve been out of work for a year, and I’m in a psychologically hard season. We’re moving to a new city together, even with this challenge between us, because we both deeply believe and hope it will be good for us and for our relationship.

I don’t yet know what work I’ll find there, or what I’ll do. And I’m scared. Scared of slipping into depression, of everything going wrong, of it not unfolding the way we dream.

But here’s what I know about myself: I have only ever brought goodness to the people around me. I’ve wished the very best for everyone. So now, I’m wishing it for myself too. PLEASE.

Let it land like a manifestation:

Let everything fall into place quickly and gracefully. Let me return to my old self: confident, energetic, fully alive and employed asap !! Let my relationship heal completely and move forward, full speed ahead. Let us be so deeply happy in our new home, living this life together. Let us build our family.

This is my only wish. And I’m open to receiving it. 🤍

I’ve found the man I’m in love with. but there's an intimate challenge between us that I never expected - but he’s starting to see a psychiatrist to work through it, and we’re facing it together. I want to build my life with this man, create a family, have children. And he’s told me he wants all of that with me too.

At the same time, I’ve been out of work for a year, and I’m in a psychologically hard season. We’re moving to a new city together, even with this challenge between us, because we both deeply believe and hope it will be good for us and for our relationship.

I don’t yet know what work I’ll find there, or what I’ll do. And I’m scared. Scared of slipping into depression, of everything going wrong, of it not unfolding the way we dream.

But here’s what I know about myself: I have only ever brought goodness to the people around me. I’ve wished the very best for everyone. So now, I’m wishing it for myself too. PLEASE.

Let it land like a manifestation:

Let everything fall into place quickly and gracefully. Let me return to my old self: confident, energetic, fully alive and employed asap !! Let my relationship heal completely and move forward, full speed ahead. Let us be so deeply happy in our new home, living this life together. Let us build our family.

This is my only wish. And I’m open to receiving it. 🤍

We think my boyfriend has something like madonna whore complex, so we have limited sex life. How can I cope emotionally? Anyone with experience?

We think my boyfriend has madonna whore complex, so we have limited sex life. How can I cope emotionally? Anyone with experience? we're in love

We think my boyfriend has madonna whore complex, so we have limited sex life. How can I cope emotionally? Anyone with experience? we're in love

I spent 10 years building my career in marketing. A year ago, my role was eliminated, and since then I’ve felt stuck between applying for jobs and having the courage to build something of my own.
I’m moving to a new city next week with someone I love, which should feel exciting. Instead, I keep watching my savings shrink and my confidence disappear.
How do you rebuild momentum when you no longer believe in yourself?
What was the one thing that helped you start again?

My partner and I are looking for spiritual content, readings, or practices to do together -something that deepens our connection and intimacy, including sacred sexuality / tantra. Anything that’s helped take your bond to the next level?

I’m begging a little here : if someone who truly knows this work could do my reading and say a few words to guide me, I would be incredibly grateful. I’m in a terrible dead end in my relationship right now, and I’m feeling extremely unhappy and anxious. I really need some insight and a bit of light to help me find my way forward.

We have something really beautiful with my bf(35) an unusually good relationship. But last night things got intense and we had a very raw, confrontational conversation. It was hard. And yet we’re still here, still in love, still choosing each other.

I love him so much. I want to marry him. I want to have his children. And we’re actually moving to a new city together, into a new home. We’re excited. I’m hoping that fresh space brings us things we never even expected.

Maybe that’s just me manifesting. But I hope everyone’s wishes come true too. :)

Hi everyone.

We’ve been together for 8 months. We fell for each other intensely and the first month was incredible, sexually and emotionally. Then something shifted, he started seeming less interested in me physically (in bed), but everything else in our relationship was wonderful.

Around that time, I said something to him in bed. I was feeling unwanted and tried to tease/provoke him playfully, I don’t even fully remember the exact words. Shortly after, he was diagnosed with a herniated disc and had surgery. So the next 5-6 months were consumed by his pain, recovery, and healing. No sex life basically, and I was completely okay with that. his health came first.

But even after he said he was feeling better physically, he kept pulling away from intimacy. Couldn’t maintain an erection. I tried to bring it up a few times, he shut down. Once he said it was his back, another time he said we’d been apart physically for so long it felt awkward.

Yesterday I finally pushed for a real conversation. He admitted that something I said months ago made him feel deeply stung, and since then he’s had a psychological block he can’t get aroused with me, though he can with other things. He said he doesn’t fully understand it himself, that not talking about it made it worse, and that he’s been carrying this alone.

I’m devastated. I had no idea. I’ve been lying next to him for 6 months thinking something was wrong but he was not talking. i thought that this was a common problem that could be seen after surgery and was totally understandable. but now I’m facing this reality. he loves me deeply, says we can work through it, wants to move forward. I know he’s right. But I’m drowning in my thoughts.

Has anyone been through something like this from either side? Does it get better? What can I (or we) do to actually improve things? Please be gentle, I’m really raw right now.

I met my boyfriend seven months ago, and at the beginning it really felt like we were going to have an incredibly passionate and intense sex life, both because of the way we talked and how he acted. But then he started having severe back pain and we found out he had a herniated disc. He had surgery, and we haven’t had sex for four months.

At first it was understandable because of the pain. But later, during recovery, we tried a few times and he couldn’t get an erection. He said that after such a long time without physical intimacy, he was struggling and needed time. I understand that, but I started wondering if the problem was me. A few times I couldn’t hold it in anymore and told him, maybe a bit resentfully, that the whole situation felt strange and I didn’t know what I was supposed to do. He told me he hasn’t even watched porn in a long time and that sex just hasn’t been a priority for him lately.

Normally he’s a man with a very high libido. I honestly don’t know what to do. It’s now been a month since the surgery, and he still talks about moving in together, makes sweet plans for our future, and brings up these topics himself. But there’s basically no sex. He doesn’t touch me with passion anymore. There’s affection, hugs, kind words — yes — but no sexual energy. I’ve never experienced something like this before and I can’t tell if I’m being insensitive or not.

I’ve been unemployed for 9 months, and for the past 2 months I’ve been interviewing. I’ve worked in for almost 10 years. Some of the companies were big, and I made it to final stages, but every rejection felt strangely okay.. because deep down, I didn’t even want those jobs. I knew I’d be unhappy there.

At the same time, my boyfriend and I are deeply in love and going thru a huge life transition together. We decided to move to a different city and start a new chapter. It feels exciting, but also terrifying because I still don’t know what I want to do for work. I just know I don’t want to stay physically tied to my old city anymore, so I need to build/find something remote I just can’t seem to find the motivation, inspiration or clarity to start.

I really hope this move becomes a positive turning point for both my life and our relationship. I just need a sign that we’re not making a mistake!!