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Hello there.

In June, I decided to do the "big chop". My hair was a damaged, uncoordinated mess. It was bleached, fried, dyed, you name it. I did everything possible to my hair and yet I was unhappy with myself. I decided in June to go to a hairdresser and get a pixie cut...but then a couple days later I clipped it with a 8 guard. I have never felt my scalp so open before and honestly, it was so freeing.

My hair is a huge part of my identity. I love doing new things and experimenting, but I felt that my hair had finally had enough. Now, I am stuck with a cute little pixie cut. The thing is, I never knew how to take care of my hair.

I want to ask everyone, if you had to choose to start over, what would you have done differently in your hair journey? Is there any advice I should listen to? Thanks to anyone in advance.

Hello there.

In June, I decided to do the "big chop". My hair was a damaged, uncoordinated mess. It was bleached, fried, dyed, you name it. I did everything possible to my hair and yet I was unhappy with myself. I decided in June to go to a hairdresser and get a pixie cut...but then a couple days later I clipped it with a 8 guard. I have never felt my scalp so open before and honestly, it was so freeing.

My hair is a huge part of my identity. I love doing new things and experimenting, but I felt that my hair had finally had enough. Now, I am stuck with a cute little pixie cut. The thing is, I never knew how to take care of my hair.

I want to ask everyone, if you had to choose to start over, what would you have done differently in your hair journey? Is there any advice I should listen to? Thanks to anyone in advance.

Hello. Just a quick question. I rented an apartment and the floors are...squishy? They look like hardwood but they are like tile, and most of them are quite squishy. It's not rot, and i have been wondering how can I clean them? My landlord told us not to use a mop. Thanks.

Sorry for the long post...this is more of a vent.

Hello. I worked FE for about 7 months now, and love it. I worked as a restaurant manager before this job and absolutely hated it. Working here has been one of the easiest things...that was until we got a new Team Lead.

My other two TLs and Coaches are amazing. They are very understanding, social and overall a good person to be around. I can always depend on them to help me and they actually help the workers do their jobs. However, our newer FE Team Lead has completely shifted my work life.

I am disabled. I have accommodations at work that allow me to work, while still managing my health. I am allowed to sit, take longer breaks and go home when I need to, etc. This Team Lead thinks that these accommodations are completely unnecessary.

Recently they have been making me pick up all the slack. Doing returns and claims. Cleaning ALL the registers, and I mean all of them. Helping service desk. Basically giving me an endless task list while all my other coworkers sit there and watch people.

By all means, I don't mind taking up a heavier workload. It's just days that are harder on me, I physically CANNOT do a lot of work.

Some other things are, making up stupid rules. Like not being able to ask for cash. Not letting me go home early, even when I have PPTO, and accommodations. Writing me up for going home anyways because I had a medical episode. Not letting me leave the register to use the bathrooms. Calling me back from my 15s because I was "taking too long to come back". Keeping me way past closing time. One time they kept me until 11:50 to just clean registers. The list is endless.

It got to a boiling point where a couple days ago, I had asked to leave an hour early. I needed to go home, wasn't much of an option. They proceeded to tell my Coach, and write me up when the Coach left. It took everything in me to not quit.

Luckily, I was smart enough. I wrote down every single thing that they have done. Going against my accommodations, making me take up more work, restricting my needs. Basically everything that goes against ethics.

Tomorrow I will bring it up to my Coach and Store Manager. I haven't been able to since they were both on PTO leave. Otherwise, I would have taken action a long time ago.

Anyways, wish me luck.

TW: Please be cautious before reading I mention SH so please be aware...

Hello. I am 21F and I just need advice, so bear with me.

Over the course of 2 years I have been having these very VERY bad episodes (idk what else to call them). I am talking weeks where I am a completely different person. I will take on different likes, personality traits, dislikes, etc. Basically creating a whole new persona to fit a desire I have. After the "high" comes down I completely abandon it and go to another thing. While in these highs I will do very impulsive and harmful things to myself. One lasted a month where I harmed myself to the point of needing the ER.

This isn't the worst of it. These past few months I will talk to myself without knowing I do. My fiance catches me doing it and asks me who I am talking to. I also "hear" voices or noises that aren't in my home. It's not legible most of the time and only caught a 'hello' or knocking noises. I get irritated and very very paranoid over small things. One of them right now is the feeling of people knowing everything about me and not telling me. It drives me to the point of staying in my home and not leaving because my fear is so terrible.

Another is the nightmares. I will have extreme nightmares occasionally. Maybe once or twice a week. They will be very simple but terrifying, and I CANNOT wake up out of them. One time I swear someone came into my house while I was asleep, and made my fiance check out our entire apartment just to make sure.

I am just worried because I don't know how exactly to bring this up to a professional and I don't want to sound like I am faking it (if that makes sense). I have told a professional before but, they told me I am way too young to be having these problems and I just need more sleep. I just need support before things get out of hand. Please help. Thank you.

TW: Please be cautious before reading I mention SH so please be aware...

Hello. I am 21F and I just need advice, so bear with me.

Over the course of 2 years I have been having these very VERY bad episodes (idk what else to call them). I am talking weeks where I am a completely different person. I will take on different likes, personality traits, dislikes, etc. Basically creating a whole new persona to fit a desire I have. After the "high" comes down I completely abandon it and go to another thing. While in these highs I will do very impulsive and harmful things to myself. One lasted a month where I harmed myself to the point of needing the ER.

This isn't the worst of it. These past few months I will talk to myself without knowing I do. My fiance catches me doing it and asks me who I am talking to. I also "hear" voices or noises that aren't in my home. It's not legible most of the time and only caught a 'hello' or knocking noises. I get irritated and very very paranoid over small things. One of them right now is the feeling of people knowing everything about me and not telling me. It drives me to the point of staying in my home and not leaving because my fear is so terrible.

Another is the nightmares. I will have extreme nightmares occasionally. Maybe once or twice a week. They will be very simple but terrifying, and I CANNOT wake up out of them. One time I swear someone came into my house while I was asleep, and made my fiance check out our entire apartment just to make sure.

I am just worried because I don't know how exactly to bring this up to a professional and I don't want to sound like I am faking it (if that makes sense). I have told a professional before but, they told me I am way too young to be having these problems and I just need more sleep. I just need support before things get out of hand. Please help. Thank you.

Hey there. I am pretty new to this reduction thing, and wondering if I should go through with it. Last year I had went to PT for back issues. My upper back has 2 disc's that are pretty much deteriorated. The main culprit was my breasts. I am currently a 32DD and I am unhappy with how they look and feel. They are saggy, flat and weigh down my back. I have constant back issues and have been on muscle relaxers for a while now. My PCP recommended a reduction since I would be covered because of my back. He stated that losing weight is completely optional, and most women find it easier to lose weight after their reduction.

For reference I am 5ft and I went from 170 to 112, back to 135. So far, I lost about 7lbs exercising and dieting. I find it hard to exercise with my breasts, and want a reduction but I am worried that if I lose more weight I will be back at square one. What should I do?

Hello there. I (21 FTM) have been having a hard time about coming out publicly.

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Privately, I have told my partner, friends and family. It went pretty well, and I can comfortably be my true self around those in my close circle. However, work wise has been kind of hard to come out to.

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I only recently started transitioning. I start T next month and I am getting top surgery in the fall. I normally wear a light binder to work and dress masc to try to feel less dysphoric.

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However, I have worked there for ages and everyone knows me as a girl. I used to wear (sometimes still do) lots of makeup. I only try my hardest to pass whenever I go out or in my own home.

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I already know how most of my coworkers feel about the LGBTQ+ community, let alone Trans people. Which is a very negative way. I have been trying to slowly transition while at work. Wearing masc clothes, binding, wearing less makeup.

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I am just worried about when I start T and I go through those changes. I just need help navigating how people will react and how I can tell them without making it a big deal. Thanks.

Hello! I am 21F, and I just wanted to see what everyone else is hyperfixated on! For me, I only have one that I am very very very interested on (almost my whole life).

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It is Bananas. Yes...bananas. Anything that involves smelling, tasting, looking, etc. About bananas will make me happy. Right now, I am on a hunt for Banana fragrances.

Hello!

A little back story about my name... I was named after my fathers ex-girlfriend. I didn't find out until my senior year of high school. I'm now 21 with very conflicting opinions about my own name. I feel like my name was out of spite and hatred, or even jealousy. My parents have since then been divorced (thank god).

However, I have made a decision to change my own name. The thing is, I absolutely suck at naming things let alone myself.

Personality wise, I love nature. I have a special interest in birds and insects. I also love to housekeep plants. Anything nature themed would be cool.

I am not so much into uniquely spelled names. I am also open to commonly used/popular names. I'm more gender neutral leaning as well but more feminine names would be nice suggestions too!

Thanks in advance for everyone's help!

Hey there. I have very severe hearing loss in both ears. Tinnitus took over ,and over time I lost the ability (mostly) to hear. I currently work in retail, and one of the hardest things to do is tell people I am hard of hearing. Most of the time they laugh and say "Oh me too!" I just smile most of the time and nod. However, recently I have noticed people getting aggressive. Some customers will be noticeably annoyed when I don't respond. One day, I got a customer complaint against me, saying I completely ignored them and was silent for most of the transaction. Mind you, I have a pin on my uniform that states that I am HoH.

Yesterday was the worst. I had a customer who was asking why I wasn't responding and I said,

"Oh sorry, I might not have heard you. I'm hard of hearing, can you repeat it again?"

She rolled her eyes and stated, "You're a little too young to be deaf." She slammed most of her items on my belt and snatched the receipt out of my hand.

With that, the rest of the transaction was silent. She asked for a manager afterwards saying I was using a lame excuse to not want to talk to customers. Luckily, my manager is amazing and told the customer I was in fact HoH and she's not allowed to talk to disregard someone's disabilities, just because she's ignorant.

Work becomes more and more dreadful as days pass and I know my hearing isn't going to get any better. I have been trying to get hearing aids, but money and finding someone is hard especially living in a small rural town.

Just sharing my frustrations. Thanks.

Hey there. About 1 year ago I was diagnosed with POTS and Non-Epileptic Seizures. Life before being diagnosed was extremely hard. I was constantly battling fatigue, fainting, extreme brain fog, etc... After pushing for a diagnosis, I finally found what was wrong and started medications and at home care. However, there are still days where I am nowhere near "normal". This month has been a huge struggle for me. My fatigue came back full blast and it has been hard for me to work. I normally try to push through, but it's difficult without a support system. I reached out to some family, one of the people being my father's wife. We were close at some point so I let her in. She has POTS as well, but her words "not as bad as mine". I talked to her about it and tried to gain some kind of support, especially from someone who has what I have. It went completely downhill...

About a week after our conversation, she stated that I was faking my symptoms and making up everything. Another statement saying that she has POTS and she can work a full 12 hour shift with no issues, and that I am being lazy. (Context being that I told her I took almost a week off of work)...

I had no energy to really care nor make any comebacks. However, that changed when she tried to cut me off from talking to my father and even texting my mom's side of the family about my "lies". It got to the point of harassment and even texting me multiple times a day. These texts were links to Amazon books about Munchausen Sybdrome...

That's not even the cherry on top. My father believed her. That everything I said, and did, was all a lie. My mother's family even questioned me. What is ironic about all of this, is that they were the same people who drove me to the ER MULTIPLE times when I started having seizures and having fainting spells...

I thought it was hard trying to convince a doctor that I was sick, but apparently its harder to convince your own family that you're sick as well...

This whole ordeal is too crazy not to share. I just want to feel like I am not alone on this. Thanks.

Hello. Two days ago, me and my partner had protected sex. We use condoms every time. However, we realized when we were finished, that the tip of the condom had broke. He had already ejaculated, and it was too late. He went to the drug store, and bought Plan B. I did take it, however I track my periods using an app. It said I was currently ovulating/near ovulation. After some digging on Google, I found that Plan B is pretty much ineffective during ovulation. I am completely scared and looking for some answers. Thanks.