u/stevenbo

Almost a year ago I was the victim of a major car accident. I was tboned by a large pickup truck running a red light. My car flipped on its side and I had to crawl out of the sunroof with the help of first responders.

Driving, specifically in windy road and the freeway, has become unbearable. Any kind of right turn in a windy road at high speeds makes my body feel like when my car flipped over. When driving on the freeway, it takes a huge mental load to pass a semi or other large automobiles because it’s a giant thing on my right side. I get intrusive thought that they will side swipe me or worse my car will lose control. Sometimes I still get scared when I’m even riding shotgun.

I am constantly taken back to that moment of the incident.

What can I even do? I doubt this is something I can just “get over” or that exposure therapy will help with. This is mostly just a rant. Just did a multi hour drive and needed vent. I can’t live like this

TLDR: A car crash where my car flipped over gave me PTSD. Now I’m an overly defensive and sometimes even slow driver. I used to love to drive, but the effects of this incident have made it difficult.

In mid November last year while I was cruising through town after picking up some groceries I was t-boned by a large pickup truck that ran their red light at an intersection going 40mph. My car, a mid 2000s Jeep Cherokee was hit square in the middle of the right side, flipping over and sliding a little on its side. I was conscious through the whole thing. EMS arrived, broke open the sunroof, and helped me crawl out.

Thankfully I was physically fine save for some cuts of my face and a sore left hand (I landed on it). I say physically, because as a result of all this driving has become extremely stressful.

I used to love to drive and travel. I could wind through curvy mountain roads like nothing. In busy city highways I felt at home. This made traveling to camping spot or to other cities to see friends a breeze. All of that is gone for me now.

Driving seems like a daunting task now. Sometimes I become overly cautious. I can barely stick to the speed limit most of the time. Each little bump on the freeway makes me worry that the car is going to lose control. If I get into a middle or fast lane I get stressed when theres another car on my right side because I imagine the pickup truck t-boning me. Long right curves are the worst. The force on the body when I make these curves takes me right back to the moment when my car flipped.

I try my best to still be a safe and considerate driver for everyone else on the road though. On long freeways when the ptsd anxiety really hits me I’ll stay on the slow lane or hang out behind a big rig just so I can go at their pace. On the curvy mountain roads I get on the turnouts as much as I can to allow others to pass. I was doing this just today and the be of the cars that passed me flipped me off, though I was sticking to the speed limit so they would have been mad anyway.

I’m guessing there’s no way to treat this other than exposure therapy? I’ve thought of trading the car I bought from the insurance settlement (also a Jeep Cherokee, these cars have a high center of gravity) to a car that is lower to the ground. Other than that I’m completely lost of how to navigate this. If anyone here has had something similar please let me know what are you doing to cope. Thank you for reading

Transfer from much more rural part of the state. My usual way of finding off campus rentals on FB Marketplace and Craigslist keeps landing me on less than promising spots.

Some of them are outright shady and don’t even allow kitchen access or studios with appliances missing.

Where is everyone finding their rentals?

For the past 3 years I’ve been living in an old dingy house with an irresponsible dirty roommate. This guy is well into his thirties and I could count the times in my hand he’s pitched in for cleaning. I graduated this spring and have landed a job in another city. I’ve agreed to pass him the lease. I’ve stopped cleaning.

My job had me do trainings which required training in different towns. My past 2 weeks have been traveling. Imagine my shock when I finally return and no amount of cleaning has been done. His dishes stacked and the floors full of dust and grime from no sweeping or mopping.

I give up. He’s taking over the house. He could have easily done some cleaning in the two weeks I was gone. I’ll only clean my own stuff. I move out in a month. I’m spending the extra money on a single apartment instead of rooming again.

I was already set on kicking this guy out, now I’m pissed.

TLDR: Either extremely incompetent or intentionally malicious roommate needlessly disconnected my chest freezer to connect the microwave. Chest freezer is full of meat but luckily everything was still frozen after a day.

Currently deep cleaning the house. I’ve been the only one that cleans the house for the whole time we’ve lived here btw. In our pantry room we have a microwave and a chest freezer sharing an outlet. The chest freezer is on a short extension cord because the stock cord doesn’t reach. The microwave reaches just fine

Yesterday, while I was cleaning the pantry room I disconnected the microwave so that I could move it and the furniture it’s on to clean behind it. JUST NOW, im getting food from the pantry room when I catch a glimpse of the outlet. The extension cord is connected, the other socket is free, but the microwave is on??

I realize what’s wrong. I check behind the microwave stand and the chest freezer cord is just there not connected to anything. My idiot roommate wanted to use the microwave, so he disconnected the chest freezer cord from the extension cord to connect the microwave. THE MICROWAVE CORD REACHES THE OUTLET JUST FINE. I immediately open my chest freezer to asses the damage. The chest freezer hold various fish and crab (THAT I CAUGHT) and regular meat from the grocery store. Luckily everything was still frozen solid.

Had I not canceled Sat/Sun plans I would have never noticed and all the food I had in there would be ruined.

I’m not sure if it’s extreme incompetence or if this was purposely malicious. Either way tmr morning I’m printing out a notice telling him to vacate the room. He is a sublease under me and every day I’ve regretted choosing him for the room.

TLDR: I’m tired of living in a situation where I am the only person contributing to the house. Me and my roommate’s lifestyles no longer match up and I am going to ask them to move out

I (25M) have been living with my current roommates (both mid 30’s M) for more than I care to continue. I am the master tenant and they are subleases under me (the landlord is aware and ok with this). I am going to ask them to move out and would appreciate anyone’s help in how to have that conversation.

I’m the only one does does any cleaning or maintenance around the house. Too often I’ll spend a Saturday morning cleaning the whole kitchen, then not even 10 minutes later I return to get something and there’s coffee spilled on the counter or floor. Both of them stink of BO constantly. The biggest offender (J) smell seeps out of his room and it is the first thing I am greeted with coming home from work. Often they both use party drugs and I have to listen to their noises throughout the weekend.

Our lifestyles have immensely deviated. I have just graduated college and landed a sweet job in the area. I have a lot of friends locally and have family that visits often. I often find myself not being able to have people over because of the habits and behaviors of my roommates. J is returning for his second degree and is very vocal of wanting the house to be as quiet as possible. Even got sassy about the cleaning being too noisy. The other (E) just works, but when he is home blasts coworker music from his room. He likes to make a mess of our shared bathroom.

I cannot continue to live with these guys. The “lmao quirky college living situation” cope feeling wore off long ago. In our state and county, informal subleases are seen as valid. I plan on being courteous, and going to simply tell them that this isn’t working out and to move out on their own volition, as it would be easier for everyone to avoid going through the legal process. Any help or tips on how to have this conversation would be much appreciated.

I’ve lost two iron files in the past month. I use them to sharpen my gardening and yard tools mainly. With the first one, I figured I left it in my car, which went to the shop to get some work done. I bought a second since I needed a rounded kind anyway to sharpen a curved tool.

Ffw today, and now that one has gone missing too. I remember specifically putting it in my tool box in our house supply room so that it wouldn’t get lost. Then I search every nook and cranny of my car for the first one and it’s nowhere to be found??

Hello everyone. My time at Cal Poly Humboldt is coming close to an end and I will be moving inland for work. I’m thinking of hiking and admiring the most impressive OG redwood stands as a send off from this place.

I’ve grown up and hiked around the Bay Area most of my life, so I was familiar with large and old 2nd growth redwood. I think it is because of this that I never got the “awe inspiring” feeling people that come up to Humboldt get, though I am desperately seeking to feel this.

I’ve visited several along Avenue of the Giants but something about them fell short, I couldn’t tell what it was. 101 headed to Crescent City was a lot better, felt more representative of a functional OG forest. I’ve done the very basic trails in Redwood NP (Trillium Falls, Prairie Creek, Skunk Cabbage), and the non reservation portions of Headwaters Forest Reserve.

Willing to drive anywhere in Humboldt or Del Norte county. Thank you!

Hello everyone. My time at Cal Poly Humboldt is coming close to an end and I will be moving inland for work. I’m thinking of hiking and admiring the most impressive OG redwood stands as a send off from this place.

I’ve visited several along Avenue of the Giants but something about them fell short, I couldn’t tell what it was. 101 headed to Crescent City was a lot better, felt more representative of a functional OG forest. Other than that I’ve done the very basic trails in Redwood NP (Trillium Falls, Prairie Creek, Skunk Cabbage).

Willing to drive anywhere in Humboldt or Del Norte county. Thank you!

Hello all. Going to be moving to the area by the end of this year. I’ve been spoiled by living near the coast most of my life with endless hiking, fishing, hunting, and similar opportunities. I’m completely unfamiliar with the San Joaquin Valley so figured I’d ask on here if there are any outdoorsmen that can let me know how the opportunities are here.

Not asking for honey holes or to burn your spot, just a general layout of what is available nearby is much appreciated

Hello everyone. Was going to move from Humboldt to Shasta County for work, but apparently my employer might want to send me out to Visalia. Really bummed because I’m already so familiar with the NorCal Coast and Sac valley. I’ll be honest I am completely unfamiliar with the area. Figured I’d ask here to see how the area is in terms of hunting and outdoors activities.