u/strawfrry

**My boyfriend (M20) has cancelled on me (F18) 5 times in the past month, which is equal to the amount of days we actually saw each other. For context, he lives 1 minute away and works 5 days a week (usually with Tuesdays and Thursdays off). He used to visit about 8-11 times a month. I don’t mind if he takes days off sometimes, but it’s been over a month since we actually spent both days he had off together. He doesn’t communicate his plans with me well, so even when we do see each other he’s often 1-3 hours late. I see him once every 1-2 weeks now. I had a talk about this with him, and he said that he’d try to spend more time with me and start stopping by after work sometimes (like he used to). But since that (which happened about a week ago) he’s already cancelled twice. Both times I didn’t even know he was cancelling, he just didn’t reach out about it both times after making it seem like we had plans. Often I start to feel crazy as if I made up him hinting towards the plans in the first place. As materialistic as this sounds, he also used to bring me flowers super often (usually 2-3 times a month!) but it’s been since end of may since he brought me any. It’s not really about the flowers, it’s just the change that lines up with this and makes me feel like he doesn’t like me anymore. He also doesn’t really compliment me (I can easily go weeks without one). But he’s also super mature and collected in his life, so maybe I’m asking for too much and i’m just not ready to be with someone who has their life together in that way. He’s my first real relationship, i’m trying to be mature but also not ignore my heart.**

**Here’s an exact copy of our texts on a day he just didn’t further pursue plans. I apologize for my shortness, I knew he was gonna cancel and I wanted to stay calm.**

Him: “Goodmorning honey! I kind of fell asleep while watching a youtube video and my phone died**😭**. I should be able to go over today if that's okay with you? I love you!”

Me: “it just depends what time I end up getting back from my doctors appointment, shouldn't be super late though. I love youuuu❤️❤️❤️”

**I ended up getting home at 3:50, minutes before he got off work so it was kinda perfect. We share locationw through an app that notifies him when i’m home, he sent a notif back to confirm he saw I got home.**

Him: “I hate this store😭”
“Me tired”
“And irritated🫤”

Me: “i’m sorryyyy”

Him: ”Meoooowwee”

**Then he ended up driving 2 hours total to sell pokemon cards to someone, still never bringing up stopping by.**

TLDR: My boyfriend only visits once every 1-2 weeks, regardless of living close, and i’m thinking about leaving the relationship.

My boyfriend (M20) has cancelled on me (F18) 5 times in the past month, which is equal to the amount of days we actually saw each other. For context, he lives 1 minute away and works 5 days a week (usually with Tuesdays and Thursdays off). He used to visit about 8-11 times a month. I don’t mind if he takes days off sometimes, but it’s been over a month since we actually spent both days he had off together. He doesn’t communicate his plans with me well, so even when we do see each other he’s often 1-3 hours late. I see him once every 1-2 weeks now. I had a talk about this with him, and he said that he’d try to spend more time with me and start stopping by after work sometimes (like he used to). But since that (which happened about a week ago) he’s already cancelled twice. Both times I didn’t even know he was cancelling, he just didn’t reach out about it both times after making it seem like we had plans. Often I start to feel crazy as if I made up him hinting towards the plans in the first place. As materialistic as this sounds, he also used to bring me flowers super often (usually 2-3 times a month!) but it’s been since end of may since he brought me any. It’s not really about the flowers, it’s just the change that lines up with this and makes me feel like he doesn’t like me anymore.

**Here’s an exact copy of our texts on a day he just didn’t further pursue plans.

Him: “Goodmorning honey! I kind of fell asleep while watching a youtube video and my phone died😭.I should be able to go over today if that's okay with you? I love you!”
Me: “it just depends what time I end up getting back from my doctors appointment, shouldn't be super late though. I love youuuu❤️❤️❤️”
**I ended up getting home at 3:50, minutes before he got off work so it was perfect. We share location through an app that notifies him when i’m home, he sent a notif back to confirm he saw it.**
Him: “I hate this store😭”
“Me tired”
“And irritated🫤”
Me: “i’m sorryyyy”
**Then he drove 2 hours to sell pokemon cards to someone, still never bringing up stopping by.**

hey everyoneee!! i’m looking for some friends close to my age (16 and up pls)! Im mainly wanting female friends but as long as you’re really only looking for friends, men are fine too. I have basically all social media so just ask, but I like to have some convo first before adding. I really like deep conversations and don’t mind if people vent a bit or anything like that. i’m super chatty but do get busy sometimes during the day, so please be understanding of that! I’m usually super active in the evenings/night though. comment/message with an introduction if you’re interested💕

My interests:
music (all kinds)
paddle boarding
pokemon cards
painting/drawing
pop culture
makeup/fashion

We’ve been together 6 months and he lives a minute away and works 5 days a week, he usually has Tuesdays and Thursdays off. The last month he only visited me 3 times. We typically see each other at least 8 times a month, and it’s been that way consistently through our relationship. He has always been bad about planning and often is hours late, but we still spent time together. I know people will say he’s just extra busy, but nothing extra has changed and I would totally understand if that were just the case. Multiple times recently he’s cancelled on his days off and said he’s studying, but I can see him online or playing games 90% of the day. I was super calm and explained how this made me feel last week, and he seemed to understand and said he would work on communicating better and spending more time with me. But now this is the second time since then he’s canceled on me. This morning he said he was probably gonna come over after work, I had a doctor appointment but told him i’d be back early and I was. Then basically just got no comment from him about seeing me, I waited hours and eventually around 7:00 pm he told me he’s driving an hour out of town to sell some pokemon card bundles to this random guy. I feel so ridiculous for cleaning and getting ready for him, and I even told my family I really believed he would see me this time. Just for him to drive an hour away when he can’t even drive 1 minute to see me. I posted about this at the start and took the advice on starting a conversation about it, but what now?
Update: he called and tried to act all happy and make plans for tomorrow. I don’t even want to see him
Update on the update: guess who’s gonna be late again😀

TL;DR - My boyfriend keeps cancelling on me regardless of a serious chat we had about it.

He lives a minute away and works 5 days a week, he usually has Tuesdays and Thursdays off. The last month he only visited me 3 times. We typically see each other at least 8 times a month, and it’s been that way consistently through our relationship. He has always been bad about planning and often is hours late, but we still spent time together. I know people will say he’s just extra busy, but nothing extra has changed and I would totally understand if that were just the case. Multiple times recently he’s cancelled on his days off and said he’s studying, but I can literally see him online or playing games 90% of the day. I was super calm and explained how this made me feel last week, and he seemed to understand and said he would work on communicating better and spending more time with me. But now this is the second day since then he’s canceled on me. This morning he said he was probably gonna come over after work, I had a doctor appointment but told him i’d be back early and I was. Then basically just got no comment from him about seeing me, I waited hours and eventually around 7:00 pm he told me he’s driving an hour out of town to sell some pokemon card bundles to this random guy. I feel so ridiculous for cleaning and getting ready for him, and I even told my family I really believed he would see me this time. Just for him to drive an hour away when he can’t even drive 1 minute to see me. I posted about this at the start and took the advice on starting a conversation about it, but what now?

hey everyoneee!! I moved to a small town recently and i’m in need of some more friends. Preferably around my age, but no younger than 16. I’m super chatty and would love to meet people who hold good conversation. If you’re interested in being friends you can comment/message (with your age please!)💕

my hobbies: thrifting, listening to music, baking, painting/drawing, paddle boarding, serious conversations, reading, collecting pokemon cards, pinterest, playing games (sometimes)

im not looking for anything other than friends and i wont reply to any weird messages.

I’m bored and just looking for some interesting chats. If you have any dilemmas you think an 18 year old girl can help you solve feel free to share them (shockingly I give okay advice)! I also like answering questions about my life as long as they’re not weird lol. PLS READ: I am NOT responding to random dms asking me stuff!! You can use the comments if you want to talk

I (18F) went in June of last year to have my yearly bloodwork done. My doctors office uses an online app and it never notified me with more results after my first labs came through (which were just my iron levels). The following november I got extremely ill and couldn’t eat/keep food down. I went to my doctor twice from December to February and told him all my symptoms (which lined up exactly to hypothyroidism) but he never looked at any of my bloodwork to figure it out. He just shrugged off my weight loss because I looked “healthier” to him. Last month I did my own research and narrowed it down to thyroid issues, went back in and surely enough my thyroid is extremely off and has been since at least last June. If you’re wondering about your thyroid don’t be scared to take initiative and bring it up! I’m taking Levo now and already noticing an increase in energy.

I’ve been having vivid dreams all night, every night. Before this I would barely remember one dream a night, is that related or just random? Did anybody have any side effects besides the commonly listed stuff I should know about? I feel more energized but just sorta off and I can’t put my finger on it.

hi everyoneee! I’m looking for some people around my age to specifically add on discord, I use all my socials besides discord and it’s so empty on there. more female friends would be great but I know that can be kinda hard to find on here, just nothing weird please! (also I’m fine with showing my face if others do)

we can share discords in dms or comments if you’re interested!

my interests: thrifting, listening to music, painting, collecting pokemon, paddle boarding, hiking, fashion/makeup, baking

We were together for 2 1/2 years, he was the first person I fell in love with, and I was for him too. Things turned for the worst and after months of being lied to we split, this was last August. I suffered months of no contact and was in the worst state I’ve ever been in. I met somebody new last January, but things didn’t go anywhere. My ex reached back out unknowingly closely after, and I finally felt genuinely happy again. He told me that he missed me terribly, was still in love with me and played our old songs as we sobbed together. And then, no contact. This happened once more (I’m a fool, I know) and I confronted him and asked him how he really felt. He told me that he didn’t know, that he basically wasn’t in love with me but didn’t want to let me go. So we went back into no contact. I’ve been trying to move forward and work on myself, for a while I thought I was getting better. I didn’t cry over him anymore and started thinking of him a little less. But recently out of nowhere I’ve started having these extremely vivid dreams of him, and the pain of realizing it isn’t real every morning is so hard on me. It’s been several months of no contact again now, I’m having such a hard time understanding that he’s changed and is not the same person I fell in love with. Will I ever truly not think of him? I’m only 18 and I can’t even imagine falling in love again.

Some background info first: We have been dating 6 months and he lives about a minute away, he also works 5 days a week (what days varies). Recently I’ve only been seeing him once every 1-2 weeks and we also don’t text often/call. For the people who will tell me he’s just busy, I totally understand when he’s busy and I’m truly not overly clingy. But a lot of days he isn’t busy, he doesn’t communicate and often pushes back our plans until they just simply don’t work anymore. I explained how it makes me feel and that sometimes I wish he put more effort into seeing me. I feel like overall his response was a lot of “well that’s just how I am to everybody.” but I wanted to be treated differently as his girlfriend than somehow he has close to no relation to. He did eventually say he understood and would try to plan more effectively, but it just seemed like he doubted himself even saying it. One thing I told him was that I know he loves and cares about me, but sometimes I worry that he doesn’t really like me and like spending time with me. All he really said to that was that he knows what I mean, but he never really gave me any verbal reassurance that he doesn’t feel that way. I’m trying to not be sensitive but I feel vulnerable after opening up and i’m scared that things won’t change. Only time will tell, but does anyone have any thoughts? Advice on how to stay hopeful/positive would be appreciated too!

TLDR: I had a long talk with my boyfriend about his lack of communication, he seemed to be genuine but maybe not fully understanding. I don’t feel fully better after having this discussion, will this feeling ease?

Some background info first: We have been dating 6 months and he lives about a minute away, he also works 5 days a week (what days varies). Recently I’ve only been seeing him once every 1-2 weeks and we also don’t text often/call. For the people who will tell me he’s just busy, I totally understand when he’s busy and I’m truly not overly clingy. But a lot of days he isn’t busy, he doesn’t communicate and often pushes back our plans until they just simply don’t work anymore. I explained how it makes me feel and that sometimes I wish he put more effort into seeing me. I feel like overall his response was a lot of “well that’s just how I am to everybody.” but I wanted to be treated differently as his girlfriend than somehow he has close to no relation to. He did eventually say he understood and would try to plan more effectively, but it just seemed like he doubted himself even saying it. One thing I told him was that I know he loves and cares about me, but sometimes I worry that he doesn’t really like me and like spending time with me. All he really said to that was that he knows what I mean, but he never really gave me any verbal reassurance that he doesn’t feel that way. I’m trying to not be sensitive but I feel vulnerable after opening up and i’m scared that things won’t change. Only time will tell, but does anyone have any thoughts? Advice on how to stay hopeful/positive would be appreciated too!

TLDR: I had a long talk with my boyfriend about his lack of communication, he seemed to be genuine but maybe not fully understanding. I don’t feel fully better after having this discussion, will this feeling ease?

My boyfriend works 5 days a week, and lives 1 minute from my house. He increasingly spends less and less time with me. In May he visited me 8 times that month, this month he’s only seen me 3 times besides an event (this weekend) I went to for his enjoyment. This past Tuesday he had off, but texted that he would rather work on his college work instead of hanging out. Which I totally understood and encouraged, but when Tuesday came he slept in till 1:00 and then sent photos showing me he was working on his pokémon binder instead. I know arguing doesn’t help so I didn’t say anything, but deep down I felt so angry and hurt. I feel terrible because I want to support his hobbies too, but he’s cancelled on me so many times recently and had time for his personal stuff. I kept things short and think he could tell something was off, because it seemed like he tried sending nice texts to smooth things over. I’m feeling so tired of feeling rejected from my boyfriend, he doesn’t even really tell me that i’m pretty or beautiful. When we’re together in person he looks at me like he is genuinely interested in me, and it feels like things are going great. But then it’s back to basically no communication until he decides i’m worth visiting again. I know I should communicate but i’m tired of having to beg for someone to just want to see me.