u/themmama

I'm wondering if there are any groups for autistic adults in South East Melbourne?

I've been on my healing path for several years now. i have gone beyond regulation and survival. However, now I do not know what my interests are or how to find comunity. Many interests I sustained to survive but somehow they no longer interest me. I find groups good until the small talk starts or I lose interest. Then I leave. support groups trigger me because I have to listen to story after story of trauma. The only one I speak to about that is my therapist and one other person. How do I move forward? How do I find myself, and what does that look like?

I’m trying to understand my own processing profile better and I’m curious whether other 2e adults experience something similar.

I can read and absorb complex material quite easily, and I often have a very strong internal sense of the connections between ideas. But I cannot always retrieve that understanding quickly in spoken conversation. If I am called on unexpectedly or asked to explain something on the spot, I can freeze completely—not because I have no thoughts, but because there are too many interconnected thoughts and no quick route from the whole internal structure to linear speech.

Writing works differently for me, but it takes time.

Before I can begin an essay or substantial piece of writing, I seem to need several days for the ideas to develop and arrange themselves internally. It feels less like constructing an argument step by step and more like waiting for the conceptual shape of the whole piece to emerge. Once it is there, I can make an outline under the rubric headings, put in bullet points for what I want each section to do, and then turn those into paragraphs.

Music is probably the closest analogy. When I compose, I often hear several bars internally before I write anything down. I do not necessarily compose one line, then add another, then decide the harmony. I can hear multiple parts together and write several bars of the score with the parts already there. Academic writing feels similar: I need the structure, relationships, and direction to become coherent in my mind before I can put it into words.

I also have major difficulty with mental arithmetic and automatic retrieval of basic number facts. I have to consciously work through calculations in steps, and if I lose an intermediate result, I have to start again. Stress makes all of this much worse: verbal retrieval disappears, working memory becomes unreliable, and deadlines can make it hard to access what I genuinely know.

I would appreciate hearing from adults who have strong creative or conceptual abilities alongside learning-disability, working-memory, processing-speed, or verbal-retrieval difficulties.

i have been seeing my therapist for several months. I wrote an update about a flashback I had and now I'm scared she is not going to believe me. i'm scared she will think of the whole false memory thing... I don't know what to do. I want to write and tell her to forget it all, but i can't ... btw I am safe and not in crisis but still feeling very scared.

Hi everyone,

I am reaching out as I navigate a transition away from my evangelical Christian background toward the path of a Christian witch. I have read a few books on the subject, but the sheer volume of information out there has left me feeling overwhelmed about where to focus my practice.

The community aspect is vital for me right now because I no longer attend church. I have never felt safe in church environments, yet walking this path in isolation has made the loneliness very difficult. I would love to take some structured classes, join study groups, and connect with other Christian witches or Christo-pagans who share a similar path.

Because of my circumstances and budget, any classes or groups must be completely online and free or low-cost. If you know of any welcoming virtual spaces or affordable courses, please let me know.

I have been a Christian for twenty five years and I no longer know where I fit in church.

Over time, exclusion has cut deep. Legalism has wrapped itself around everything. Love, the thing that is supposed to be central, often feels conditional or distant. I have stayed, tried, served, explained, and justified, but the cost of walking into most churches now is more than I can carry.

In person gatherings are not neutral for me. Big crowds, overlapping conversations, constant noise, and rapid social expectations clash with my hearing and AuDhd and leave me overwhelmed and drained instead of supported. I walk out exhausted and disconnected rather than comforted, and it feels like staying present in those spaces demands more than my nervous system can give.

Because of this, online church has started to feel like the only realistic path forward. I am not talking about simply watching a livestream and calling that community. I want a small group, faces on Zoom, shared conversation, and mutual care. I would love a Zoom based service where we worship together in a way that honours both God and human limits. I still believe in gathering, I just need gathering to be possible for me.

My struggle is that almost every online church I can find, especially in Australia, centres contemporary worship. Bands, screens, lights, and modern songs dominate the landscape. I am not saying those things are wrong, but they are not where my heart lives. Hymns matter to me. Chant matters to me. Liturgy and reverence and that older, steadier kind of worship matter to me, and they help me hold my faith when everything else feels unstable.

Right now, I feel caught between exhaustion and absence. In person evangelical spaces ask me to endure sensory overload and social complexity that my mind and body cannot manage, and they often feel harsh and rule driven on top of that. Online spaces that could work practically for me almost never use the kind of worship that actually feeds my soul. The result is a sense of being lost, loving God but not knowing where to bring that love.

If anyone knows of online churches anywhere that use hymns, chant, or liturgical worship, or Zoom based small groups shaped around that kind of tradition rather than contemporary band culture, I would be grateful for any suggestions. I am not looking for perfection, I am looking for a community and a worship style that do not require me to erase who I am just to belong.

I have been a Christian for twenty five years and I no longer know where I fit in church.

Over time, exclusion has cut deep. Legalism has wrapped itself around everything. Love, the thing that is supposed to be central, often feels conditional or distant. I have stayed, tried, served, explained, and justified, but the cost of walking into most churches now is more than I can carry.

In person gatherings are not neutral for me. Big crowds, overlapping conversations, constant noise, and rapid social expectations clash with my hearing and AuDhd and leave me overwhelmed and drained instead of supported. I walk out exhausted and disconnected rather than comforted, and it feels like staying present in those spaces demands more than my nervous system can give.

Because of this, online church has started to feel like the only realistic path forward. I am not talking about simply watching a livestream and calling that community. I want a small group, faces on Zoom, shared conversation, and mutual care. I would love a Zoom based service where we worship together in a way that honours both God and human limits. I still believe in gathering, I just need gathering to be possible for me.

My struggle is that almost every online church I can find, especially in Australia, centres contemporary worship. Bands, screens, lights, and modern songs dominate the landscape. I am not saying those things are wrong, but they are not where my heart lives. Hymns matter to me. Chant matters to me. Liturgy and reverence and that older, steadier kind of worship matter to me, and they help me hold my faith when everything else feels unstable.

Right now, I feel caught between exhaustion and absence. In person evangelical spaces ask me to endure sensory overload and social complexity that my mind and body cannot manage, and they often feel harsh and rule driven on top of that. Online spaces that could work practically for me almost never use the kind of worship that actually feeds my soul. The result is a sense of being lost, loving God but not knowing where to bring that love.

If anyone knows of online churches anywhere that use hymns, chant, or liturgical worship, or Zoom based small groups shaped around that kind of tradition rather than contemporary band culture, I would be grateful for any suggestions. I am not looking for perfection, I am looking for a community and a worship style that do not require me to erase who I am just to belong.

I've just started looking at Discord. However, to access certain channels, I must verify my age. I can't do this because I need to centre my face in the frame. I can get the camera at the right distance, but can't centre my face. I am totally blind and use my iPhone with Discord.

Does anyone have any recomendations for music on the theme of grief and death?

Hello, I've been using this for about a month now. I got it for $1 by telling it I was a student and almost homeless. Now, I have noticed some problems. The daily breefing doesn't always arrive at the time I asked and the last 2 days it won't fetch the weather for me. I have also noticed that someone it give in-accurate info. There's not much about this ai assistant online.

First, please forgive me if ths the wrong sub for these questions and situations. If there are other subs, let me know. I am drastically simplifying my digital life as much as I can. I have been off Facebook for over a month because I am sick of the ads invading my feed and algorithms deciding what content I consume. All I have now is Mastodon, and I'm debating whether I even have that. Unfortunately, due to my situation, most of my support network is online. I'm also studying online and know that eventually I'll need LinkedIn for job hunting and perhaps Facebook again. I'm wondering if there are people like me who want to live without social media but can keep their social network online without it. Do people live a life without algorithms and AI? I got rid of all my AI accounts as well because I have read how bad it is for the environment, and I was becoming addicted to it. I need to go back to reading books and playing music from years past.

Hello all, I've been away from the piano for 6 years, and I really miss it. I got to grade 8 level [AMEB Australia]. Music is still very much a part of my life. I got my Bachelor of Music [voice] in 2022 and now sing as a choral scholar at a church. How do I start again? I can't afford lessons right now. What pieces can I learn, and how do I get my technique back to a good level? Classical rep, please, as that is my main interest.

How do you handle it when several parts are speaking at once, each with different needs, fears, or opinions? When parts want different things, like shutting down, explaining, getting angry, feeling scared, or staying functional, how do you slow things down without ignoring anyone? Do you write it out, talk internally, map it, ask them to take turns, or use another process? What actually helps in the moment when it feels noisy or overwhelming?

How do you handle it when several parts are speaking at once, each with different needs, fears, or opinions? When parts want different things, like shutting down, explaining, getting angry, feeling scared, or staying functional, how do you slow things down without ignoring anyone? Do you write it out, talk internally, map it, ask them to take turns, or use another process? What actually helps in the moment when it feels noisy or overwhelming?

How do you handle it when several parts are speaking at once, each with different needs, fears, or opinions? When parts want different things, like shutting down, explaining, getting angry, feeling scared, or staying functional, how do you slow things down without ignoring anyone? Do you write it out, talk internally, map it, ask them to take turns, or use another process? What actually helps in the moment when it feels noisy or overwhelming?

Can someone please explain what is going on with Perplexity Pro? I have a Pro subscription but keep having to buy extra credits. I’m confused about: How many credits Pro includes Where to track credit usage How to stop Computer being used for every search How to make normal web search the default I can’t afford Max, and Pro becomes unusable when I run out of credits unless I pay more.