u/umekoangel

So for context I'm 32, adoptive parents are late 70s/early 80s. I was adopted around 10 months old. The APs have a son that's about 10 years older than myself and he arguably inherited the worst traits from both of them. I lived with them for about 18 years before moving in with an ultimately extremely abusive partner that I didn't break free from until I was around 29 years old. I've always had a very rocky relationship that ultimately slid off a cliff.

Adoptive dad has always been subtle narcissist, obsessing over public image, extremely sensitive to how people perceived him, etc. he was always weirdly ornery about money (apparently he made 120k+ but acted like we made 30k instead). Adoptive mom was softer of the two and there's been times where I see her genuinely try to have a voice or disagree with him but he ultimately steamrolls over her.

Anyway, the ultimate point of this post is this - financial assistance and/or financial gifts doesn't excuse the years of extreme immaturity, emotional neglect, psychological neglect, etc. Every conversation shouldn't feel like a financial hostage or two lawyers meeting to discuss business.

I'm on ALMOST no contact with them. I'm waiting for something things to come together in my life (within a year) before I fully cut the chord. But I'm so sick of giving the "too long didn't read" version of the stuff I endured (the entire adoptive family was my first severe bully in one way or another, again, the concise version) and then I'm told "well if I gave you expensive gifts I'd be pissed too or think you're ungrateful".

It's not about the fucking money. It's not about them helping me FINANCIALLY ONLY with XYZ. It's about the fact that everyone in the family has the emotional depth of a shallow puddle and years of begging them for therapy (any kind really).

My adoptive father has physically grabbed the side of my abdomen when I didn't have my romantic partner nearby (healthy relationship, not the bad one mentioned earlier in this post). He's said "I was having an attitude problem" when I didn't give my consent to a lengthy and complex legal document (long story).

I'm done, I'm done. At this point I'm like "TICK TOCK GRIM REAPER"

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Hey everyone! I'm relatively new to the streaming world so I figure this would be a good place to ask. Does it make more sense to have a "Scan QR code" for say a link tree with all your socials OR does it make more sense to just list out say an icon of twitter/bluesky/instagram (whatever) with your handle by it?

Just trying to optimize my setup is all. I'm in the gaming community for League of Legends and Sims 4 if that helps anything.

(This is more of a rant than anything else, not seeking medical advice)

So I have 10-15 years working in healthcare (admin, working aside MDs on the floor, etc.).

I also have confirmed dx of MCTD (mixed conntective tissue disease), EDS HM type (ehlers danlos syndrome hypermobility type), 3 bone spurs sitting on top of each other in my neck, annular fissues that cause IMMENSE 10/10 daily pain (yes I am on lyrica and cymbalta, going to bump up rheumatology appointment to bump up my lyrica dose I'm on. I'm also using hydroxychloroquine, waiting for it to really kick in with my MCTD issue).

Whenever I see tiktoks and youtube (featuring real MDs and other clinical care people), actual peer review science studies, it 90% of the time assumes "normal body/acute problem" NOT people with chronic instability similar.

I can appreciate videos of MDs reviewing peer review studies but we are in DESPERATE need of people making studies on OUR body conditions because we slip through the cracks of SO many professionals.

(This is more of a rant than anything else, not seeking medical advice)

So I have 10-15 years working in healthcare (admin, working aside MDs on the floor, etc.).

I also have confirmed dx of MCTD (mixed conntective tissue disease), EDS HM type (ehlers danlos syndrome hypermobility type), 3 bone spurs sitting on top of each other in my neck, annular fissues that cause IMMENSE 10/10 daily pain (yes I am on lyrica and cymbalta, going to bump up rheumatology appointment to bump up my lyrica dose I'm on. I'm also using hydroxychloroquine, waiting for it to really kick in with my MCTD issue).

Whenever I see tiktoks and youtube (featuring real MDs and other clinical care people), actual peer review science studies, it 90% of the time assumes "normal body/acute problem" NOT people with chronic instability similar.

I can appreciate videos of MDs reviewing peer review studies but we are in DESPERATE need of people making studies on OUR body conditions because we slip through the cracks of SO many professionals.